Loading...
HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1953-05-28, Page 645)(74 a4eSefrootOt "SALADA" TEA & COI FEE, ANNE PST A * Pa op* eoundoecrt, "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 24, and for five years I've been going w ith a boy wiith whom I went to school. I care for him terrib- ly—but he never commits him- self, though he implies I'm his only feminine interest! He never makes a date ahead; he travels a great deal, and does write when he is due home, "This is why he has not met a man, 11 years older than I am, who has fallen in love with me. This man treats me beautifully, makes me feel important. He is talented and cultured, and pros- perous. li I knew I stand no chance to marry the boy I care for, I am pretty sure I could fall in love again, for the man is attractive and we are compati- ble. Though we've gone to- gether now and then for only three months, he has asked me to marry him. My family know who his people are; they admire him, and encourage his visits. "How can I put the boy I love to the test? I've got to know— but I don't want to seem to for- ward, LOVE OR HABIT? * I am not convinced you care * "terribly" for the boy you've * gone with for five years, or the * very idea of failing in love * with another man would not • occur to you. Evidently you * leave not gone with another * boy all this time, and this one • has become a habit. * Your situation today is the • result of rating yourself so * cheaply. You should have " handled your beau very dif- * ferently. He has come to see a you when he pleased, instead * of according you the custo- * many formality. of making a * date; for all you know, he may * have been seeing other girls, * too. You allowed him to be so * high-handed because you loved * him, and were afraid you'd ° lose him. No wonder he has * taken advantage of that! * Next time he rings your o bell, tell him you are sorry but a you have another engage- s ment, Repeat this a few times, Jiffy! See Diagram 4747 SIZES 2--10- 44 tai: it tar you'. Check than diagram—dew parts to cut, fit, sew: This pretty play 'n' party dr:s:, is elasticized at the neckline so ctaulihter can wear the sleeves up or down. And she'll love that gay embroidery. Pattern 4747: Children's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, le, Size 6 dress 21/4 yards 35 -inch; panties ?a yard, rart- broidrr,y' hans:fur included. This Wier), easy to use, sjm- ple to sr':' is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY-FIVE• CENTS (35S) in coins (stamps cannot be acc'epted.j for this pattern. Print plainly SI''/Ai, NAME, ADDRESS, S' 'L E NUiLIIIER. Send order to Box 1, 123 .liligh- tecnth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSCtS 22 — 1053 * and he will reveal where you * stand with him. 1 think he o would be a poor risk as a bus- * band, for he would continue * to make his own rules and ex- * pact you to abide by them. * However, I doubt that my t' opinion will carry weight. * You may not mean as much * to him as you hope, and he will * not ask you to be even elf- * gaged, * If so, continue seeing the * older man by all means. He * seems sincerely in love; he * knows how to behave toward * a young woman. Marriage * with him could be successful. * ° o AN APPRECIATION' "Dear Anne Hirst: Over two years ago, I wrote your about get- ting married without telling our families. "You advised against this se- crecy, and explained why. We talked things over, and decided to wait till things straightened out for us both. Both our families needed the contributions we made from our salaries. "How happy I am we took your advice! We are going to be married next month, and thanks to you, I shall have the church wedding I've always dreamed of. It was hard to wait, but it was worth it , .. I'm ashamed not to have thanked you before, but I certainly do now, and so does my fiance. MARGE" I rejoice with you and con- * gratulate you on your good * sense and patience, * Appreciation is ahvays heart- * warming no matter when it comes. Thank you for yours. Boys take a girl at her own valuation. Even in these casual days, nice young men admire a girl who keeps them on their so- cial toes ... Anne Hirst is here to guide young and older readers toward a richer life. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Out. Modern Etiquette Q.—How and when does the bridegroom give his fee to the minister who performs the west- ing ceremony? A. The bridegroom sir uld give the money or cheque (en- closed in an envelope! to his hest man, who gives it to the minis- ter after the ceremony, and, of course, privately. Q.—Is it considered proper for a woman to adjust her make-up at the table alter dining in a public restaurant? A.—This was formerly frown- ed upon; but society has now re- lented enough to condone the re- pairs most women deem neces- sary to finer lips and shiny noses after eating. Q. -1s it necesary fora young woman to rise when being in- troduced to the mother et a girl friend? A.—Most certainly; 1'. remain seated wuuid be exceedingly ill- bred, Q.—When Irienus, who nave moved into a new home, invite you to an "open house," are you obligated to bring a gift? A.—No; this is merely an in- vitation to visit these friends and see their new home, If, however, you are giving a "house-warm- ing" in their honor, then, of course, you are expected to give a gift. Q,—Should a mama ever hand his coat to a woman for her to assist him in putting it on? A.—Only if he. is rheumatic or very feeble. Otherwise, he should be capable of getting into his coat without the woman's rials tan ce. Q,-1 should like to have my mother serve ae my matron -of - honour at my wedding. Is this all right? A, --Yes. And the bridegroom is privileged to choose his father as his best man, too, Q.—What should a woman do when calling unexpectedly on a friend, if she finds that her friend is ready to go out? A.—She may say, "I see you are ready to go out; I won't keep you.' However, if her friend in- sists that she stay awhile, It is all right for her to remain, but not longer than ten or fifteen minutes, Follow The Map—A new device to make long distance driving easier is this circular road map which fits onto the steering wheel. On display at the Technical Fair in Hanover, Germany, the neap is the first of a set, now in preparation, that will cover all of Germany. • c—..arupia naw e�•� SL' ! HRONICLES Gmser dolt - P Ctaxk¢ Last week over ee0 women baked extra pies, c a k es and cookies for their families to feed on, and then the 800 loosened their pincurls, pressed their prettiest dresses, and, by train, bus or car, headed for the O.A.C. in Guelph. It was the occasion of the Fifth Women's Institute Officers' Conference for Ontario Delegates came from points as far as distant as the borders of Manitoba, Quebec and the United States, and from the northerly district sof Cochrane, It was a two-day affair so there were many from distant points who stayed in residence at the College from Wednesday night to Saturday morning, Now for some of the highlights. Dr. J. D. MacLachlan, president of the O.A.C. welcomed the dele- gates and outlined the work and opportunities of the students coming from farms. Two inter- esting — and interested — visit- ors throughout time session were the Reverend Mother Mary Ali- cia and Sister Marie Adele, so- cial welfare workers from the Dominca Republic, B.W.I., tour- ing Canada for time purpose of studying rural, social and edu- cational work in this country. Mother 1,5 a m' y Alicia told the Conference that two years ago. a Women's League had been or- ganized in Dominica patterned after the W. I. in Canada The need for social work in that country- was shown to be very great, and so, as a practical ges- ture of goodwill, a collection Wo-' taken up at the Conference, amounting to $211. which was given to and gratefully received by, the two Donminca Welfare Workers. The official delegates from the various W. I. branches were the conveners of Home Economics and Health and the conveners of Resolutions, so the addresses throughout the Conference were slanted towards those subjects There were many excellent ad- dresses. Dr. Mackinnon Phillips, Minister of Health, spoke on the "Health of Ontario," outlining the progress that had already • been made for .the care of psy- chiatric cases and the project already underway to provide hospital care and treatment for mentally retarded children. An- other. speaker, Mr. McVit.tie, In- spector for Auxiliary Classes for the Guelph. district, outlined a plan to help pupils in rural sellouts who need special train- ing, the same as the special course's already available in ur- ban centres, Anyone interested, and no doubt there will be many, can obtain full information from their own local Inspector of Schools. A panel discussion on Health was most interesting. Those par- ticipating were Elizabeth C11'ant Robertson, Dr, Gordon Bates, Director, Health League of Can- ada, and Dr, W. E. Blatt, psy- chiatrist, The main purpose of time discussion was to promote better understanding of the im- portance of good eating habits, particularly in regard to chil- dren. Resolutions, as a topic for dis- cussion, could be uninteresting. At the Guelph Conference it was far from being that. Byrne Hope Sanders, well-known to the public as one -tine editor of "Chateliane" gave an inspiring a d dr es s, emphasizing the strength and effectiveness of resolutions, if properly used. These two paints were proved beyond question by the next speaker — Mrs. W. O. Walton, president of the Canadian Con- sumers' association. Said Mrs Walton — "Never vote for a resolution unless you are pre- pared to back it up .. always send supporting data with the resolution ., . . Make rt sound and convincing , .. and send the resolution not only to the Gov- ern.aent but to the Opposition Mrs. Walton reported that the CCA had been working on a resolution which came from the W.I. to have sizes for children's clothes standardized, a plan on which the manufacturers are now working. Progress was also reported on a request for screw - tops for jam jars and for the'dis- continuance of red and white wrappers for bacon. The Hon. Dana Porter assured the delegates that sending reso- lutions to the Government was not waste of time, that most legislation was the direct result of resolutions from various groups. Referring to the brief on edible oils, this resolution, said 2.Ir. Porter, was so reasonable and constructive that it could he accepted practically in its entire- ty. It showed members of other industries that the dairy industry is basic to agriculture and if it fails other industries will suffer. There you have the highlights of the Conference. If your Branch of the W.I. sent delegates they will bring you a full report. But I suppose not all, branches were represented, Even at that it was a full house. Every seat in the hall and gallery was taken and a loud speaker system in- stalled in the basement to take care of the overflow, It was" an enthusiastic a u di e n c 0: the weather was perfect and so was the Conference . , . and I haven't heard of any ill effects to the families left at home. Love At First Sight - t s All Nonsense a I know 1 lay myself open to the risk of being allot at dawn or being battered tel death by umbrellas when I say that court- ing couples have not the re- motest idea of what love really means. I say that real love does not even begin to grow until after marriage. Nor do I believe that there is any truth in love at first sight. It is absolutely impossible. Noth- ing could be more ridiculous than the belief that two people, meet- ing for the first time, can fall in love. They may not speak the same language. One might adore bebop and the other Heehaw; one Wright find heaven in a ballroom and the other on a mountain top; one might love children and the other hate the sight of them. Love at first sight? Poppycock! Before you start throwing things at me, consider the mat- ter sensibly: What first attracted you to your present boy friend? Perhaps he was tall and tanned; or he had wavy hair and blue eyes; or the smoked a pipe; or he danced welt You had a thrill each time he spoke to you; your heart began to do queer. things. You smiled brightly and put yourself out to charm him, He fell for your smile and your shape, and dated you for the following week. You may have thought your- self in love, but you weren't. Wou were just attracted physically. You were afraid, because you thought him so good-looking, that you would not be able to hold him against competition. So every time you met, you were on your best behaviour. You dressed as attractively as you could afford. You went out of your way to please him and to agree with him. You let him think he was marvellous, At the same time, perhaps, he was doing exactly the same thing. He was afraid some other man would take you from him, so he was charming every time you ]net. In cases like this it often hap- pens that odd habits suddenly pop out which you don't like. So he may find your bright chat- ter a little boring, so he kisses you. And you both think the world is wonderful, and "ain't love grand?" Then you have a row and part. For a day or so you are miser- able, Then another wavy-haired, tanned young man appears on the scene and the same thine happens over again. And once more you believe you are in love. Or perhaps that first row comes after you are married, and you are not able to shake it off. The next thing you know you are in the divorce court. Re- member, all the thousands of people who go through the div- orce courts every year. once felt just as you do, and were ,lust Be certain that they were in love. I ant not being cynical. t know that only a fraction of marriages break up. But I want to show that real love, undying love, only comes after marriage, when there is rte need to put on an act to hold your man, when troubles come and have to be faced. That is the testing time of love. Could it Have .happened?? Have you ever seen two mid- dle-aged people walking or sit- ting together, not speaking, but quite happy in mutual silence? Could that have happened when you were courting? No. you would be frantically thinking of what to say next, in case he thought you were a bore, The bonds of love cannot be forced in the hothouse air of courtship. They are forged by years of close association, by facing adversity together, and because of memories shared, and by the exercise of tolerance and common sense. Love is a mixture of the phy- sical, mental, and spiritual be- tween two people, and that mix- ture cannot be achieved before marriage. Nature generally arranges that as the fierce flame of passion die down, true affection begins to take its place, and eventually supersedes it, until both per- sons become halves of one whole told know, quite seriously, that they couldn't live without each other. Are you a stenographer? Have an inferiority complex when it comes to your boss? Take cour- age in this: clerks and stenog- raphers read more books than anybody else. Business execu- tives read the fewest, LOGY, LISTLESS, OUT OF LOVE WITH LIFE?' Thou wake up your liver bile jump out of bed rarity' to go Life not worth living? It may be the liver' It's a fact] If your liver bile is not Bowing freely your food may not digest . , . gad bloats up your stomach `.r., . you feel con- stipated and all the fun and eju'kle go out of life, 'have when you need mild, geatl° Carters Little Liver Ville, You see Carters help stimulate your liver bile till once again it is pouring out at a rate drip to two pinta a day into your digestive tract. This should ex you right up, make you feel that happy days are hero again. 90 don't stay sunk, got Carters Little Inver Pala Alwnva lav* them on band Oldest Active Steamer — Oldest active locomotive in Canadian National service, engine 674, vintage 1899, has been tagged to do the actual hauling of the railway's museum train. Built by the Grand Trunk at its Point .St. Charles shops in Montreal, this Mogul was recently doing workhouse chores pulling way Freights out of Montreal. Engineers manning this old-timer have been handed train orders giving them "historic right over all trains." Spring rings New, Attractive Stockings BY EDNA MILES THE fashion influence of this Coronation Year has made itself felt, particularly in pretty accessories. In hosiery, it has pro- duced a spring shade in gossamer sheer stockings called "pageantry." Other shades bow to the Coronation, too. These range from a glowing sun tone that blends with toast, and caramel colors through crown taupe for gray, violet and the muted blues. Crest beige is for light browns and greens, jewel blond for medium blues, variations of green and flame reds and majesty tan puss a rose -tinted hue for pastel colors and white, In the interests of a slender anile, there are many tapered heel treatments this spring. One treatment is the outline heel with dark seam, Another is a slender black heel and foot with a shadow outline, There's also a heel within a heel. A new stocking has been developed especially for time life of the housewife. It's meant to reduce the high cost of hosiery. With patented built-in garter block at the top of the seam that allows gartering -in directly on the seam, this stocking will now shift even with bending and stretching. Better still, it has rum - resistant properties that reduce runs and snags to a minimum. F-� BleyoHng is a hazard to Isostery as a rule. But this girl WOas's laboratory -tested stockings that are run and snag -resistant, ,They come to proportionate lengths for various sixes. For the Coronation Tear there are these new stockings in a shade called "pageantry." Gossamer , sheerness is com- bined with a new color tone for x fashionable spring look.