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The Seaforth News, 1956-07-26, Page 6"Dear Anne Hirst: I am a very disturbed woman. Nine years ago I married very young, and not because I was in love. I was lonely, all of my girl friends were getting married and I de- cided it was time for me. I chose my husband as I'd have selected a new hat. I was too young to know any better. "1 stayed married and had two babies, thinking (as so many people say) that I'd learn to love him. I didn't. He is not repulsive to me, he is kind and loving, and we do have a good family life with fun together and two dar- ling children, But I feel my life is being wasted; my heart still longs for a man I could love passionately. I see married cou- ples so happy together, but my husband seems like a dear rela- tive. "This is my only reason for wanting to leave him. Often I feel it is really wrong to us both to stay on without the thrilling love I'd read about. I am so con- fused, I'm almost sick. Aren't I missing something really essen- tial? 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In the midst of * your confusion, I must remind * you that you promised to * honor and cherish the man * you married; your role is fixed, your duty clear—to be the * best possible wife to the hus- * band who loves you, and a * good mother to the children * who look to you both for gni- * dance and emotional security. * Think first; What would * happen if you went your own s: way? Left your husband, took * his children with you, and 4' started the search for love? * Where would you turn to find * it? What a terrifying chance * to take, particularly with two * young children! * Now, at least you are spared * the painful disillusion which * sometimes follows love. * Though your present life * seems empty to you, it is really * rich in the devotion of a good * man and the companionship of your children. The thrills of • loving do indeed diminish * with the passing of years. But * after passion departs, a cou- * ple find the true meaning of * a deep love with a compan- * ionship in which each aims to * keep the other happy, and to- * gether raise a family—often the highest recompense of all. I wish that the great love * you miss had come to you. But * remember that many a cou- * ple who appear to be happily * married have missed the fur- * lest litre—because after pas- '` sion is gone, they find they * have nothing to hold them to- * gether down through the years, * Compared with them, you are * a fortunate woman indeed. * Count your many blessings, * and look forward to an even * richer life in the maturing of * your children. DON'T TELL "Dear Anne Hirst: I am so worried! My closest friend is engaged to marry a young man very soon, and the other evening I saw him in a night club with a girl whom everybody knows is no good. From what I over- heard, they go there regularly. "Shall I tell my girl friend? She is naive and trusting, and terribly in love, I should hate to see her hurt, Aren't I being dis- loyal if I don't warn her: LOYAL" • I understand how respell- * Bible you feel, but I hope you • will keep out of it. The bearer of bad news, * however good her intentions, * is never welcome and seldom " believed. Your friend may tell * you she appreciates your mo- * tive, but in her heart she will * wish you had kept quiet. * Besides, if her young man ,. is as guilty as you suspect, the * story will reach her ears. But * don't you be the one to spread * it If you are disappointed in life, don't envy those more fortunate; compare yourself with those who have Jess to be thankful for. Anne Hirst's understanding and ideas can help you find a richer life than you think you have. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. SWAPPING FRIENDSHIP — Friendship is the most valuable com- modity exchanged at the "Swap Tent" at the first Senior Girl Scout Roundup. Some 6,000 Girl Scouts and leaders are partici- pating. Gilds Heinselma.n, left, from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, trades a BrazilianGirt Scout trefoil for a model auto offered by Becky 'Odell. MAIDEN VOYAGE: Aerial photograph shows the new 22,000 -ton Cunard liner Carinthia as she arrived in Montreal harbor recently on her maiden voyage to Canada. Third of four sister vessels specially designed for the Collodion service, the Carinthia received the most vociferous wel- come accorded a new liner in the Port of Montreal since before the Second World War. As Carinthia steamed into the harbor in brilliant sunshine, tugs, fire boats and other vessels in port saluted her with long blasts on their whistles, Carinthia is commanded by veteran Cunard master, Capt. Andrew MacKellar, R.D., R.N.R. ONICLES FARM ewzadottn.e P. C to,r.t2 Many times in this column I have expressed regret that we are in danger of being hemmed in by highways and the exten- ded boundaries of our nearby town. I have said we like rural life and the quiet of the country. All that was, and is, perfectly true. But now I find there are degrees of quietness and more than ono kind of rural life. W. have friends in Duf- ferin county who were injured in 0 car accident last year. Of course we have been writing back and forth but that is not like seeing one another. So last Tuesday I drove up to the Shelburne district, stayed over- night and came back next day. It was a lovely drive through the Caledon hills --except that I Was too busy watching the road to look around at the scenery The farm where I was visit- ing is situated only a few miles from a spot that is supposed to be the highest point in Ontario. The scenery was beautiful. And the air -1 just cannot describe how wonderful the air felt. Our friends live about two miles back from the highway. They have the hydro and tele- phone and there are neighbours just across the road so they ate not exactly isolated. The us- ual farm activities were going on while I was there -cows to milk, pigs and poultry to feed, places to fix up ready for hay- ing. A truck came in to pick up eggs and cream. Electricians were doing a repair job—some- body coming and going most of the time. Then came night. I knew our friends were used to going to bed early and I was tired after driving, so we wore all in bed by ten o'clock. And then 1 lay awake—listening just list- ening. And do you know there wasn't a thing to listen to—no trains in the distance, no whistles, no cars or trucks on the road, no wind blowing. not even a dog barking, I never "heard" so much "nothingness" in all my life. It was uncanny. And then after about an hour I heard a low rumble, away orf in the distance, so far away I couldn't recognise the sound. Gradually it got louder and I knew it was a plane. Sometime later the wind .go up; the rain came pelting down and there was distant thunder. With something to listen to 1 finally went to sleep. Soon after day- break I was awake once more. Again that weird stillness. I thought at least the hens would be cackling. But they weren't —or it they were I didn't hear them. Still more extraordinary —there wasn't a single bird singing from the tree tops. When I came down to break- fast I couldn't help commenting on the quietness. "Quiet. yes— but the quietness is just heaven to me," said Mrs.----. Well, everyone to their taste. As I said before we like the peace of the country—but I don't like it that quiet! By the next night I was home and in my own bed. For a second night I ]ay awake quite awhile, This time I was listen- ing to the rumble of the trains, the whistle as the approached various crossings; the comfort- ing. homey sound of cars as they travelled up and down the highway; dog answering dog, each from his own backyard; a night -flying planes going in and out of Melton, tail lights blink- ing. And at daybreak—birds on the wing; birds chirping and singing— sparrows, starlings, robins, thrushes and orioles— joyously greeting the new day. I thought how wonderful if it could stay this way for ever— rural living but with all the comforting sounds of lite going on around us. Each farm family a complete unit in itself but sharing common interests and all within easy reach of one another. Plenty of trees, birds and a few rabbits and ground- hogs . . . and mosquitoes. But definitely. Even in Dufferin there were mosquitoes. If only I were less allergic to them. Instead a1 getting used to them my resistance to the pesky things seems to be getting lessand less. Gardening is completely out so far as I am concerned, In fact I have reached the stage when I feel like saying—anyone can have my share of the sum- mer. I'll take the spring, winter and fall. The foregoing was written before the awful storm struck many parts of Ontario on Sun- day. It was bad here but we didn't get the worst of it by a long way. Power was off for three hours, branches ripped from trees but no serious dam- age that I know of. Our "moun- tain" gives us good protection. Just before the storm cars were racing along the highway, no doubt homeward bound. We didn't have any company but we didn't feel too happy know- ing that Dee and family were planning to visit Art's brother at Midland. And that dreadful tragedy near Lake Simcoe. It seems to me long week -ends are now a nightmare instead of a time for relaxation and pleas- ure. If only more people were content to stay at home, In- stead one might almost think they were bent on mass suicide. There is so much in life to do and to enjoy; so many people who need help, comfort and sympathy. It seems too bad we should throw away chances of being of service to our fellow- men just by our own foolhard- iness. KIPLING REVISED If you can smile when things go wrong And say it doesn't matter. If you can laugh off cares and woe And trouble makes you fatter, If you can keep a cheerful face, When all around are blue, Then have your head examined, Bud, There's something wrong with you, For one thing I've arrived at, There are no ands and buts, A guy that's grinning all the time Must be completely nuts. UNTIMELY NAP In Milwaukee, 54 - year- old Walter .Estes broke into a bar, leaving the rear window open for a getaway, took $864 from the storeroom, paused for a nip, was found next morning fast asleep on the barroom floor. Easy to Make! 520 (iy snit aWalt EASY to build your own wooden lawn or patio chairst You'll have the fun of doing— save money too! Woodcraft Pattern 520: Sim- ple directions for making lawn, porch, or patio chairs. Actual - size paper pattern pieces are in- eh<ded, with easy -t0 -follow num- ber guide. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you — two won- derful patterns for yourself, your home — printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft book for 1955! Dozens of other new designs to order — crochet, knitting, embroidery, iron -ons, novelties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW — withh gift patterns printed in its ISSUE 30 — 1956 O -_ POOL - For a cool office, .it's a pool office. The steering committee of the National 5 c'm- m. tg Pool Institute demonstrates the theory, and the boss doesn't have to keep his shirt on, either As mid -90 degree temperatures roasted local residents, Jere Gottschalk, kit, Dan Baldwin and Phyllis Ryon, pooled efforts for convention fun,