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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1956-06-14, Page 6ST r n� • Faftlay a 4d1t7t. "Dear Anne Hirst: Fifteen years ago I married a man that I adored. I still love him, but I'm wondering how much long- er I can stand working as hard as I do. We have three chil- dren, and when we bought our home four years ago, I took a position to help out, and my husband promised to do the heavy housework. Well, he hasn't. I wash floors and win- dows, do all the laundry, and even during housecleaning, I have no one to aid me. I hate to say so, but I'm afraid he is just plain lazy. "I love our home, and I wouldn't mind the work if he appreciated it; but he has never said a kind word or even taken me out for an evening's enter- tainment. I work nine hours a day, prepare supper, help the children with their homework and get them to bed, and it is often 10 o'clock before I start my cleaning. I'm afraid I ane wearing out, "One reason is, I have no time for my friends, and they always refreshed me. Now they seldom come, say I'm too busy to sit down and talk. Besides, my hus- band is the moody type (often sullen) and they've implied they feel unwelcome, It seems to me that he and I ran out of con- versation a long while ago. "My husband doesn't trust me, and I can't understand why. Even when I've taken the chil Set of Seven ani.da as Cfv-kd i5 LOVING. AND GIVING 857 Brighten i,iI,htu un.•I, with these gay two f,"Vet. 111rI' r11et'- ^lbs to etnbt ides a r•!"'„ri tum for each day of the weal.' set or st•(,•a different embroiti ery transfer; inehulr(l in Vattern 857. Nuel. ele.iait about tt s 1, awl a half iw•b,•s, ld„ 1 f"r ;sifts, haw, ears! Sethi 'i'wii is - tstnow,. co Mit be are,ygel', nw• pSIZII Lute Yor sal'e'yt, for this pat 1P1.11 Io Laura SS'lo•(•1_r, 123 EfgbteeuIIs it., "t %r '1'uroutu; rim, Print pllists 'L':1'1%'1.1L\ BEI1, )•oar N.Velle and a1)D1tESS. (tui gift to pot -- two wonder- ful 'i teras for your el1', your home — prirded in tow Laura Wheeler Needkrraft book for 10:90! Dozens of °tin r new designs to order erorbe', I.niitiug, stn• brof(iery, irouon., novelties. Send 20 (eats for vita' ("MS of 1111:4 boot, NOW - with gift patterns primed In 0: dren to church, he has to know whom I talked to, etc, He says. I'm attractive to men, but I've never tried to find outs I'd like to enjoy my husband, but he won't let me. "Is there anything I can do with this man of mine? He is only 39, strong and able, but never loving nor helpful. I'd get more attention if I were his housekeeper! WEARING OUT" * Your husband needs a * shock to wake him up to what * is going on in his household. * Why don't you tell him that * unless he shares the chores he * promised, and provides some * occasional recreation, you will * give up your position? That * would be 'bad news for you * both; though he will com- * plain loudly at your decision, * the children's expenses will increase as they grow and * with less money coming in, * the. brunt of the economic * burden would still be yours. * From what you say, you * cannot burn the candle at * both ends much longer; some- * thing will have to give way. You are not strong, you are * underweight, and you are * thoroughly dissatisfied, living * without appreciation in the * monotonous treadmill of your * routine, Most men would be * proud of a wife who manages * the home and the children * and holds down a job, too. * You cannot change his tem- * peratnent entirely, but a kind * word now and then and • regular evenings out would * quiet your nerves nad revive e. your spirits. You would be " even a better wife and mother, *-too, How little your man * knows aobut women! • I hope you will not have " to give up your position, but if nothing else will move hint, * why not make the threat and * act? (If you will leave this • page on his chair tonight, he * may see himself as others see * him and be moved to justice " and even kindness, * WANTS HIM BACK Dear Anne Hirst: -- Two months ago my husband left me and our two children, because he listened when sonic evil- minded people told him things were not true, I have seen him several time's ;ince, and even written, -but he refuses even to hear my explanation. "We were married • seven years ago. and I thought we had faith in each other that nothing. could affect. I love him till, but I cannot understand his closing his ears to me now. 1 have never dune anything %vices, and even if I'd have been tempted, I wouldn't have }tad time. "linty eats 0 (van who ::a}'s he love;: you bre so tu1,101'n' EDITH" Why don't t-ou ask some mutual Iiir•id your husband • trec-ts to talk to hinr? hT_ all decency, he can hardly refuse to listen 'to the plea of -a titan * of women who is (ewe to you both; it would ,nark hien as unjuet, • and prejudice every- ( , one againet him: How can he po<e as a gentleman and a ▪ Christian if lie refuses your • plea for 'reconciliation? 1''nr the sake of the elid- e dren, he should at hetet be * be fair, and co-operate in re- °` ncwing 111e. family life to- * getlier. z' * Kindness restores one's spirit and leavens the burden of the day. Anne llirst's sympathy will lift your spirits, and her coun- sel is safe to follow. Write her at 13ux 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. SHIP-SHAPE—Three beauties strike a nautical pose in Paris, France, before leaving for the "Miss Universe" contest, to be held in Italy, The girls, are .Monica Lorraine, Miss Czechoslovakia; haft; Kristin Hjelkrem, Miss Norway, centre; and Ruby Legrand, from Paris, NEW TWIST IN ART — A very real Parisian femme puzzles over a very abstract statue of a nude in Paris, France. The statue, which could pass as "Miss Pretzel of 1956," is one of the exhibits at the 40th annual Decoration Artists' show. eliTIONIeLES pvsssd.nit.-.e D CLa rb x 11 Let's see now — where do we start this week? Precious little farm activity to report — a veal calf gone out and a dropped calf brought in. Thunderstorms, power breaks, rain and still more rain. Ditches and creeks running over the culverts and the ther- mometer finally climbing into the seventies. That, too, pre- sents a problem. Too hot with furnace going; too damp to tet it out. Oh, well, let's forget the weather, there are plenty of other things to write about. In fact, I almost need a newspaper to myself. Last week was just one thing atter another. Until Wednesday I wa; quietly enjoy- ing myself with David. No, that isn't quite r i g h t either. You couldn't en,iov yourself QUIET- LY • - not with David around. However, we were prepared to keep him for a week or two. Then came a wire ... "could I attend WI, Conference at Guel- ph, spacial delivery letter to fol- low?" Actually there was no r' e r,n why I shouldn't. Joy would be quite willing to look after Dave if I took him down to Oakville. I phoned her and that is what we decided. "But the best laid plans of mice and men ." It just so happened I couldn't get away so Joy had to come and get Dave. Then my special delivery letter had the wrong initial and was delivered five miles up country. I went after that but had to take to the ditch to get in and out of our place. A truck had broken down right at the en- trance to our farm. After sup- per I intended getting myself, my ' house and Partner's supplies in order, ready for the next two days. And then the power went off! Now I ask you, what extra job: tan ane do in a big house with only candles to work by? It was hopeless so we went to bed and got up early next morn- ing. But the gremlins were still at work. Stockings developed a run as I put them on. One strand of a double string of pearls broke in my hand and when I was fin- ally on 01,31 way 1 found I had for'tutten my !;loves. However, 1 eventually got to ttoa r•r,nlereuc•(e, and only ten rein:dee 1(11". Now 1 am not 1!oi('11 le give you a detailed Ore omit - • W.I. branches will Vol. a full 1*•port from their dele- t!av; ;,o I will just stink to my :mote :tem. 'Sher 11 was the audicnee , . , r,v'•( See rural worncn, young, old awl midrlle-111ted -- and you r,ot'1 tr•11 irorn their faces they Wein enjoying themselves; that they were gen 0inely interested ie the business of the clay; busily jetting down dotes so they could take back a full report to their fellow members. And what an orderly audience. An occasional late -comer, of course, or some - ono leaving early to catch a bus, but never the continual coming and going that we sometimes find at other meetings, and which is ao distracting. There were the officers and directorate who were taking part in the program — friendly, cap- able, gracious women, anxious from their vast store of experi- ence to pass on their knowledge to all who were ready to accept it. Miss Helen McKercher, Direc- tor of Extension Services — successor to the former Miss Anna P. Lewis, almost immedi- ately won a place for herself in the hearts of the- delegates, Mrs. Gordon MacPhatter, soon to va- cate the office as F.W.X,O. presi- dent, was her usual charming and unpretentious self. Before the conference ended Padre Young stood beside Mrs. Mac- Phatter on the platform, his arm around her shoulders, and led the audience in singing with genuine affection, "Let me call you sweetheart." Indeed, Mrs. MacPhatter, with her simplicity and charm, has endeared Her- self to almost every member of the W.I. with whom she has come in contact, and has done much to promote unity and understand- ing. To know Mrs. MacPhatter is to love her. Mrs. H. E. Houck, Brampton, delegate to the United Nations, in a wonderful address, made us feel we really had a stake in the affairs of the United Nations. Mrs. J, R. Futcher, a past pres- ident, in her review of "Offi- cers' Conferences, Past Present and Future," gave us a pretty good idea of the tremendous planning that is necessary for this annual event. It must cer- tainly be a great satisfaction to Mrs, Futcher to know her ef- forts in promoting this new ven- ture have been so successful and so well appreciated. There were also officials from the Provincial government whose addresses were well received, es- pecially as they were brief, as well as being informal and en- lightening. And there was Dr. Margaret Nix, from McGill University, who gave us well-balanced doses of sense and nonsense. But even the nonsense had sense, if you know what I mean. An excel- lent shot in the arm for those who were developing a slight weariness. Finally there was entertain- ment — recitations, vocal duets and wonderful singing by the Junior Farmers' Choir from On- tario County, Yes, it was a most successful and enjoyable conference. And now another treat is in store for us. Mrs. Alice Berry, president of the ACWW, is visiting vari- ous parts of Ontario in June, Who wouldn't be a W.I. mem- ber; Real -Estate's The real estate salesmen have an Interesting life. No two days ere alike. Salo in a Saturday Eve ming Post cartoon shows the realty salesman addressing the husband and wire in his office. "1 do have something for 510,000. Would you like to dile out and see if It is still standing?" Then there was the realtor who tools a prospect (yet to see one of those Inexpensive ,+((w homes, the kind that are compounded of match -Woke, glue and putty. The prospect stood In One rOOnl, the salesman hi the other. The lat- ter whispered. "Able to hear me?" "Not very well." "Or see me?" "No" The realtor'smiled. "Boy, olt boy, but thent's walls for you," Style in Furniture In every age experimentation and invention inspire people to evolve new things. These new things are tried and tested for their worth; some are discarded while others are improved and perfected. Those which endure are bridges connecting civiliza- tions, countries and families. Since the printing press was invented and sketches as v0eil as specifications could clarify the record, each generation has been studying history from many angles. One of the most fascinating studies is the his- tory of furniture. It can easily become a hobby and an avoca- tion, and an absorbing one at that. The journeymen of old who traveled from country to coun- try carried with them the knowledge of their craft. New standards of living were evolv- ing which inspired them to de- velop new materials and new methods of fabrication. These men developed the furniture - which is a record of people as they lived from the Renaissance to the present. The same law of economics guiding us today, that of supply and demand, is reflected in the furniture which has lived to be reproduced. Our inheritance from this rich past is more important than actual styles and individual pieces of furniutre. We are challenged by the chapter we are contributing to. Will it seem as rich to pos- terity as what we have inherit- ed? A good reproduction can be worth more than a bad antique. To be well informed in true and fine reproductions, it is neces- sary to know the pieces which may be copied with integrity, as these, if made well, will be worth buying and living with even if fashion changes. They give a room a sense of honesty and charm, Not all reproductions are au- thentic. Certain liberties are taken and these are called adaptations. The quality of the adapatation and the reason for the change should guide the purchaser. Because inlays are costly both as to workmanship and mater- ials, a manufacturer may elmin- ate them but retain the fine proportions, the over-all silhou- ette and detail. Or a manufac- turer may find that the center section of a drop-leaf table is too narrow for comfort and use, and widen it. If the desk part of a slant top is too high for a good desk chair, that section may be lowered. If period details are mixed badly or if the detail of one period is used on a piece never made dining that period, Oe if the deails are correct but the proportion, workmanship and finish are poor — then the adaptation is an unwise selec- tion. . Interest in fashion and style is just as evident in our own time as in the past, and there Is much argument as to the dividing line between the two. An old book on ceramics, pub- lished in 1880, makes a sound pronouncement: "Style is a snood or influence which is sus- tained, developed and disturbed by fashion. Fashion is a social and commercial fact — social because it arouses desire to be like one's fellows; commercial because there are profits to be made from this desire." From "Furniture for Your Home." by Gladys Miller. Ingenuity We've all heard about the drunk who staggered into the lnuudramat and, after glimpsing the sudsy bub- bles being thrown up at the glass, exolahns, "'s lousy television show 1f you ask me." But lotus Yammer, of Green- wich, Conner lent, observed an el- derly lady sitting with her back against the extractor machine in. a local launderette. She was calm- ly rending n book while the madam vibrated against her body. For Years site bad a knelt ailment that didn't respond to treatment until one day vieiting the laundry she had rested it against the extractor. Tbat tons the cure. Every day she came in for more treatment. And Royce Fields, of London, Ohio, insists that the woman who came to his home to demonstrate a new 500011m cleaner was so stout that every stooping operation brought grunts and groans. "The reason I took this job," she explained, "Is because I'lu redue- Ing nand I hate exercise. This way serves a double purpose. I lose weight and I get paid for it. Not only sloes Ephraim Penwell, of Eledrtt, New York, spend every winter week -end skating, but It's possible that this eighty-year-old enthusiast holds some kind of it record. Ile still uses the skates that were hand -forged by his own grandfather! Wonder -Tomer! SIZES 12-20 4841 30-42 t', , EASY! EASY! See the diagram —you can make this stunning new topper in s -o- little time; Have it in lightweight woolen, pastel linen, or pique - to star above your summer fashions. Notice its graceful "go -everywhere" styling$ jaunty collar, new square pockets. Pattern 4841: Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20; 30, 32, 34, 36, 38, 40, 42. Size 16 takes 2 and one-eighth yards 54 -inch. This pattern easy to use, simple to sew, is tested for fit. Has com- plete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety), for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. 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