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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1956-05-03, Page 6ass N .. 141411P 40 0 a# Co-tua4 "Dear Anne Hirst: For the past year I've been going with a girl I think so much of that we have talked of marrying. However, I am getting fed up. We have had so many quarrels about my ex - girl friend and her former boy friend! I've steggested we forget all about them. I've done every- thing to avoid such unpleasant- ness. I've taken the blame and apologized when I knew I was- n't wrong. "Now she says it is possible there is another fellow! After a hot argument, I told her she could do as she pleased, I had had enough. She tried to lead around for my apology, but I did not offer it. "How much is a guy supposed to take to prove he loves a girl? I know as a rule a girl won't admit she is wrong, and I do love her, But is it my place to apologize now? RICH" DON'T GROVEL * Two people in love usually * are on their best behavior. * They present their most at- ▪ tractive selves, and conscious- ' ly or not they suggest the • comfortable person they would * be to live with day after day. * They flatter each other, they * smooth over differences of * opinion, they are agreeable to * the nth degree, striving to • make the best possible im- * pression. If they did not, how * many friendships would cul- * urinate in marriage? " Both sexes, however, some- * times take a different tack. * Many a girl, like this one you * are fond of, 'delights in argil- * ments which will (she thinks) ▪ rebound to her credit. She Separates with a smooth coor- dinated look - smart fashion any season! This twosome is a cinch to sew; classic blouse in threesleeve versions — favorite full -circle skirt below. Ideal for cottons in gay plaid, check, print! Pattern 4533. Misses Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20; 30, 32, 34, 36, 38, 40, 42. Size 16 blouse takes lee yards 35 -inch fabric; skirt 4 yards. This pattern easy to use. sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated i nstruc- tions. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot he accepted -- use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Send your order ' to Anne Adams Patterns, 123 Eighteenth Street; New Toronto, Ont. cannot resist arousing your * jealousy, and, not content with * quibbling over former, friends, * she sugests there is still an - * other lad you must watch out * for! She gets a kick out of * such scenes, your apologies * make her feel superior—and * that to her is infinitely more * pleasurable than the rapturous * romantic attachments many * young couples enjoy. * You did well to walk out. " What a prospect for marriage! * Can you picture such debates * going on year after year? Un- * less there is faith on bath * sides, there is no foundation * for a good married life. * Let her simmer down, Dur- * ing your absence, she may * realize how cheap her tactics * have been, and if she does, you * will get a hurried call to * please come back. Then you * can put your foot down and * tell her you are having no * more silly arguments. * No self-respecting young * man will continue playing the * doormat to such shabby ca- * pricy Let her alone, and if * you do not hear from her, it * is, I think you will agree, a * good riddance. * * * LANDLORD TROUBLE "Dear Anne Hirst: The letter you printed about the landlord who made such trouble gives me courage to ask for your ad- vice in a similar situation. My little boy, 8, constantly is being abused by the man who owns our house and lives next door. "Everything that happens in the neighbourhood he blames on our boy. Once he even struck him! His own children (four) are using foul words; they have even lied against our son. I've been patient but now 1 can take no more. "His friends s t r i de through our property, dropping litter and getting intoxicated in our back yard. Do I have to take more of such goings-on? The trouble is, there isn't another place available in the neighbour- hood which is convenient to the school and to my husband's bus- iness, "FURIOUS." * In these days of scarce ac- * comodations, it is a toss-up * whether children or parents * suffer more from unpleasant * neighbours. A day of reckon- * ing must come, and then abu- * sive own e r s will find the " tables turned. * The next time this owner * causes trouble, call in the law " to settle with him. So long " as you pay your rent and he * cannot p r o v e his charges * against your boy, it is not * likely he can turn you out. * You have my sympathy. * * * I If your courtship days are clouded by disputes, take time out to reflect. Anne Hirst can help you see clearly, and de- termine whether petty differ- ences are important or not . Write her at Box 1, 123 Eels - tenth St„ New Toronto, Ont, GRIMM ItF.TOINEP. Prompted by n desire to help his club, John Phillips. the Chic- ago Cub statistician, took a whirl at scouting one summer. He heard about a wonderful young pitcher and hurried out to take a look. The prospect proved to be even greater than anticipated. Phillips phoned the then Cub manager. Charlie Grimm, in frantic haste "Charlie," he .,aid r eitrelly, "I've landed the greate t young pitcher in the land He struck out every man who came to bat — twenty-seven in a row! Nobody even got a foul until two were out in the ninth. The pitcher is right here with rue. What shall I do'r•' Back came Grimm': voice. "Sign up the guy who got the foul. We're looking for hit- ters." PRINCE AND HIS PRINCESS — ,Prince Rainier 111 and his bride, Grace Kelly, wave from a balcony of the palace in Monaco sifter they were united in a civil marriage ceremony. DISTINCTIVE DESIGNS IN CANADIAN -MADE FELT were a feature of the year-end fashion show by students of the School of Fashion of the Ryerson Institute of Technology, Toronto. Three of the 51 skirts seen are shown above.. Their designers are, left to right: Johne Root, Cambellford, Ont.; Carol Wolfe, Saskatoon, Sask.; and Gunta Mateas, of Toronto. Lincoln Had Marriage Troubles Too Almost a century ago, Abra- ham Lincoln and Mary Todd were married, in Springfield, Il- linois, and their marriage prov- ed to be one of the most un- fortunate unions in the history of the United States. The only comment that Lin- coln ever made in writing about his marriage, was a postscript that he added to a business let- ter, written a week after the event. The letter was written to Samuel Marshal, and it is now in the possession of the Chicago Historical Society. In it, Lincoln says "There is no news here ex- cept my marriage, which to me is a matter of profound wonder." William H• Herndon was Lin- coln's law partner for a fifth of a century, and Herndon knew Lincoln better than any other man ever knew him; and Hern- don said, "If Lincoln ever had a happy day in twenty years, I never knew of it." And Herndon thought that Lincoln's marriage had a lot to do with his sad- ness. I once spent three years writ- ing a biography of Lincoln, and while I was writing it, I believe I made as careful study of the home life of the Lincoln family as it is possible for anyone to make. I carefully examined and re-examined every shred of evi- dence that is in existence; and I came to the reluctant and pain- ful conclusion that the greatest tragedy in. Abraham Lincoln's life was his marriage, Shortly after he and Mary Todd were engaged, Lincoln be- gan to realize that they were exact opposites, in every way, and that they could never be happy. They were the exact op- posites in temperament, in tastes, in training and desires, writes Dale Carnegie in The Police Ga- zette. For example, Mary Todd had attended a snobbish finishing school in Kentucky; she spoke French with a Parisian accent; and was one of the best -educated women in Illinois. But Lincoln had attended a total of less than twelve months in his entire life. She was extremely proud of her family. Her grandfathers and great - grandfathers and great - uncles had been generals and governors, and one had been Sec- retary of the Navy. But Lincoln had no pride what- ever in his family tree. He said that only one of his relatives had ever visited him while he lived in Springfield, and that one was accused of stealing a jew's harp before he got out of town. Mary Todd was deeply inter- ested in dress and show and os- tentation. But Lincoln took no interest whatever in his appear- ance. In fact, he would some- times walk down the street with one trouser leg on the outside of his boot and the other trouser leg stuffed in the inside of his boot. Mary had been taught that good table manners were almost a sacred rite; but Lincoln • had been reared in a log cabin with a dirt floor, and he stuck his 'own knife into the butter plate :and did a score of things that shock- , ed Mary and drove her wild. She was proud and haughty; He was humble and democratic, She was intensely jealous; and created a scene of he merely lookedat another woman. Shortly after they were en- gaged, Lincoln wrote her a letter saying that he didn't love her sufficiently to marry her, He gave this letter to his friend, Joshua Speed, and asked Speed to give it to Mary Todd. Speed tore up the letter, threw it in the fire and told Lincoln to go and see Mary Todd himself, He did, and when he told her that he didn't want to marry her, she started to cry. Lincoln could never stand seeing a woman cry; so he took her in his arms, kissed her, said he was sorry. The wedding day was set for January 1, 1841. The wedding cake was baked, the guests were assembled, the preacher was there, but Lincoln didn't appear. Why? Well, Mary Todd's sister afterwards explained it by say- ing that Lincoln went crazy. And her husband added: "Yes, crazy as a loon." The fact is that he did become ill — dangerously ill in body and ill in mind, and he sank into a spell of melan- choly so deep and so terrible that it almost unbalanced his reason. His friends found him at day- light, mumbling incoherent sen- tences. He said he didn't want to live. He wrote a poem on sui- cide and had it published in one of the Springfield papers, and his friends took his knife away from him, to keep him from kill- ing himself. ISSUE 13 — 195e Lincoln then wrote the most pitiful letter of his life. It was written to his law partner who was then in Congress. This is the letter: - p�gHRON �lGERjr 43:S .4 V Cteetteee The Easter season has come and gone and whatever the weather before and after no one could possibly have asked for a better Easter Sunday. Sun shin- ing all day and reasonably warm for the first of April. Easter is such a happy occa- sion, especially as its promise of spiritual rebirth coincides with nature's awakening to new life once again. Special church services, Easter flowers and lovely choral music in churches, and by radio and television, all contribute so much. Everything cheerful and full of promise. If we don't feel a lift in our hearts we must indeed be dull and un- receptive. No doubt Old Coun- try people will agree with me that at Easter our thoughts are apt to drift homewards more than at any other time of the year. Not necessarily with re- gret but rather in grateful re- membrance. It makes us happpy to recall the lovely shaded country lanes, banke yellow - dotted with primroses and the air sweet -scented from the shy violets in woods and lanes. No wonder Robert Browning wrote —"Oh, to be in England now that April's here!" If one had the time, the opportunity and the money, wouldn't it be won- derful to fly over to the Old Country just to see the prim- roses and violets in bloom once again? However,' if that isn't possible we at least have our memories. The philosophy that "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" applies to more than hu- man relations. It applies equal- ly well to places and things that have brought us happiness in days gone by. And yet even as we remember the past, consciously or unconsciously, we are build- ing up new memories to treas- ure in the days to come, for the present will eventually become the past as we move day by day into the future. One of my more recent me- mories is shopping with grand- son Dave! - By special request I went to Toronto to help.,Deughter with a day's shopping: pave had to lie taken along loo ; as he need- ed to be fitted foe* 'shoes and a few other things.. Believe me, we had a most interesting and energetic day. Dave was really quite good but of course stay- ing very long in one place was not to be expected. However, we coped with that by having at harness on our young man. So while Mummy shopped for drapes and shirts, Grandma took charge of Dave, who was constantly finding new worlds to explore—the world of mov- ing staircases, elevators to ride in and toys that might be seen but not touched. When we came to anything that moved Dave had one request—"I go too!" which meant that Grandma followed, When our shopping was done—it lasted four hours —we went over he his Dad's office—and that was an unex- pected thrill. Needless to say Dave dropped off to sleep in the street -ear coming home, and stayed asleep while being trans- ported from street -car to strol- ler and from the stroller to his crib. The little man had had quite a clay. But oh dear, what a bitter cold wind we had to contend with. I was really glad to be back home and out of the weather. On Good Friday, although it was a miserable day, the fam- ily drove out here—with Dave none the worse for wear. They had stopped at Oakville on the way up intending to visit Bob and Joy but changed their :minds when they found the street where they Iive practical- ly impassable—mud and ruts almost axle deep due to storm 'sewer operations. It has been "I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were ' equally distributed to the whole human family, there would not be one cheerful face on earth, Whether I shall ever be any bet- ter, I cannot tell. I awfully fooe bode that I shall not. To ye,e iq� as I am is impossible. I Aist.e. die or be better it seeniketeo4 me." For almost two years.' er" that, Lincoln had nothing'wYrat- ever to do with Mary Todd. Then a self-appointed matchmaker in Springfield b r o u g h t them to- gether again, b e h in d closed doors, and Mary Todd told Lin- coln it was his duty to marry her. And he did. While I was out in Illinois, writing that book about Lincoln, I went to see Uncle Jimmy Miles, a farmer who lives near Spring- field. One of his uncles was Herndon, Lincoln's law partner; and one of his aunts ran a board- ing house where Mr. and Mrs. Lincoln came to live shortly after they were married. Uncle Jimmy Miles told me that he had often heard his aunt, tell this story: One morning, Mr. and Mrs. Lin- coln were having breakfast with the rest of the boarders, and Lincoln said something that dis- pleased his wife; so she picked up a cup of hot coffee and dash- ed it into his face, and she did it in the presence of the other boarders. Lincoln didn't answer her• He didn't scold her. He said nothing while the landlady brought a - wet cloth and wiped off his face and clothes. But let us not judge Mrs. Lin- coln too harshly. She finally went insane; and perhaps much earlier her mind was being affected by insanity. One of the most beautiful things I know about Abraham Lincoln is the fact that he en- dured his unhappy home life for twenty-three years without bit- terness, without resentment and without saying a word about it to anyone. He endured it with Christ -like forgiveness, and with a patience that was almost div- ine. like that for weeks. Even though Bob manages to struggler in and out with his car it eared be very good for the motor,.. Saturday, before they could get out to come up here Bob had to jack up the car and put stoner down in the ruts. Just one et the joys of suburban life! Looks as if horse -and -buggy condi- tions are sometimes with us yet —but without the horse and buggy to help us out, The motor traffic over the week -end must have been tee* rifle. We noticed it in rather a peculiar way on this road. One time in particular I was work- ing in the kitchen. Of course the doors and windows were closed, and yet although we ars, quite a piece in from the road I soon became conscious of a steady, incessant rumbling—due to atmospheric conditions and traffic on the road, What will it be when Highway 401 gone through! Saturday night we had unex- pected callers. About nine o'clock our good watch -dog wee making a great to-do. Therm wasn't a car in sight but amid the bedlam we heard a knock at the door. A middle-aged cou- ple claimed to have come ell the Hamilton bus and were looking for a family—of whore we had never heard—but who apparently lived about 5 miles south-east of here. The story may have been true but It sounded a little suspicious. Par- tner suggested they go back to the gas station and call a taxi. They were certainly taking chances — by walking on a strange road an a dark night— and in dark clothes—and by walking up to a farm house without, knowing what doge were around. And if I had been alone—and without a dog—I wouldn't have been too happy when this strange couple ap- peared on our doorstep, Sunday we had more unexpected villein. A PROBLEM A new employee signed hie name "A. Liar". "Wouldn't it be better if you spelled out your first name?°' suggested the clerk, "Not much," replied the be- ginner. "My first name is Adam" BEGINNER -SIMPLE to ere. chet this lovely new doily 984 your home! It's all done in k jiffy in your favorite pine- apple design! Pattern 738: Crocheted doilly 19 -inches in mercerized croeho3 and knitting cotton; smaller one to match.'So-o easy; so pretty! Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted — use postal note for safety) • Sett this pattern. Send your order to Lard, Wheeler Patterns, 183 Mee- teenth Street, New Toronto, Ont. CIMINO LOST CHORD—Looks easy when Gene Autry strums it. Thos appealing picture of two boys engrossed in their first tentative attempts of guitar chords, won first prize of $250 in the 1955 National Photography Contest sponsored by the American Music Conference. -