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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1956-04-26, Page 61411RST "flier Anne Hirst ; For a number of years my husband"'e has'. been a steady drinker; it has caused me a great deal of trouble, and even despair, When I've asked him about quitting or joining Alcoholics Anony- mous, he laughs as if it were a big joke 1 The longest time he ever quit was about a month, and then he would be miserable and make the miserable, too. For years he would have an affair every so oaten and stay away from home. "He does work, and I con- sider him intelligent, but he doesn't seem to WANT to do right. What can I do that I haven't done? If he doesn't straighten up, I believe I will have to leave for good. Any help you could give me would be greatly appreciated. MRS. T. M." WHAT CHANCE? * The trained minds of brit- * tient specialists have con- * sidered this grave condition * for years; their opinion seems * to be that unless the victim * wants to stop drinking, there * is little hope that he will. In * any applied treatment he * must BELIEVE that he `can * be cured, and collaborate * with his physician or advisor * with all his physical- and * spiritual strength. * Your husband's efforts have * not lasted more than a month * at a time, I give a layman's Young Charmers TWO pretty parte to this sum- mer fashion - a cool sunclrees, n cute overblouse to add in °'separates' effect' Prize-win- ning combination fpr the little miss; with a grownup styling she'll love: Sow -easy; you'll want to mak,: ;:!oral mix- snatch sets: Pattern 41351 Children's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, 10. Size 6 dress. 2 4 yards 35-incii: overblouse. ?s yard. This pattern easy to -use. sim- ple to sew, is tested for lit. Has completed illustrated instruc- tions. Send THIRTY-FIVE - CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted -- use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send your order to Anne Adams Patterns, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ont. :'•opinion based on observation * le he, had persisted a little • longer (exercising his will * power and faith from day to * day) he might have joined the * throngs who have endured the * suffering that sometimes ac- * companies total abstinence, * and come through without * even the desire to take a * drink. Can he find the moral * stamina to try once more? * You could bear being as mis- * erable as he, if you felt that * final victory might be his. * Before you think of leav- * ing, ask him if he will make * this . effort for your sake; * without your understanding * and spiritual support, it seems * doubtful he will overcome * the habit. Surely if you are * willing to stand by, he should * accept the challenge. Why not * talk it over with your family * phyisician and see what hope he holds? * It boils down to the ques- * tion of how you can make * your husband want to live * without alcohol. When . he * learns that you will not stay * with him through repeated * periods of alcoholic inconti- * nence, he should recognize e the gravity of his situation, * take his final chance to be * the man he can be, and save e his marriage, too. * * A WORTHLESS MALE "Dear Anne Hirst ; After five years of living with a drunken husband, who also gambled, got in trouble with the law, and was cruel to my little son and me, I have left. "But I still am not convinced I did the right thing. We are taught there is good in us all. Am I deserting a weakling when he needs me? Will it drive him faster down the wrong road? I am so confused I appeal to you, whose work I honor, to set me straight. MARY" I urge you to stop septi • - * mentalizing, and face the * facts of your marriage as *. your letter revealed them. • Your husband is irrespons- * ible. dishonest, brutal. He * made it necessary for you to e move from one little place to * another, while he continued • his drinking and various of- * fences that humiliated you so * much. He has had all the * chances he deserved, Living with such a creature can e bring only ntieery to a per- * son like you, and later to * e our little eon. * Go through with thin div- - ogee. You have etweeeded in e making an honest living for * yourself and your child; • you e have found some meaenre of " peace. Keep it that way, Anne Hired does not pretend to be a psyebiatrist. Iter down- to-earth guidance and knowl- edge are based on years of oh - servation, experience and tip- ! plied reading. Everyone who writes her gill understand her wise counsel and common sense, I and she is always kind. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. MERRY MENAGERIE "Now. don't get impatient — we've got a search party out for' the honey,,, Self -iced PIC neve' O`N gradually beat in 1 c, lightly -packed brown sugar and spread over cake; sprinkle with 34 c. chopped walnuts. Bake in rather slow oven, 325°, 14 to 134 hours; cover, lightly with brown paper for last half hour. eseesessesseseseeeseeeeteeeesseeseeeseesseseesq Always Dependable Sift 3 times, 2L e. once -sifted pastry flour (or 2 c. onee- sifted all-purpose flour), 24j tsp. Magic Baking Powder, lee tsp. salt, 1% tsps. cinnamon, % tsp. each of ground cloves, ginger, allspice, nutmeg and mace; mix in % c. seedless raisins and 3 c, chopped walnuts. Cream ;1 n butter or margarine and blend in 1 ee c. lightly -packed brown sugar; heat in 3 well -beaten egg yolks and % tsp. vanilla. Add dry ingredients to creamed mixture alternately with ee c. milk; spread batter in greased 9" square pan lined in the bottom with greased paper. Beat stiff, ,nmri not dry, 3 egg whites and a few grains salt; THE C4 SE OF THE ABSENT -BODIED PROFESSOR The teacher's not even in school, but these physics students carry on under his instruction of Manchester College. A student supervisor, Virgil Huber, right, keeps order and illustrates the lectures of Dr. Charles S. Morris as they... . come over the two-way intercom installed by his students between his bedroom and the classroom. Prof. Morris is con- fined to his bed by a heart attack. But he delivers his lectures over the intercom and conducts class discussions just, as if he were in the physsics room, Modern Etiquette... By Robert Lee Q. ,lust what is proper when meeting on the street, for the man or the woman to speak first? A. Formerly. it was always "the lath" whu spoke iirat. But today, if they are geed friends, there ie nothing at all wrong with the man speaking first. 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A, Yes; send a brief note of thanks to everyone who has sent flowers or personal let- ters. * * * Q, Does it matter in which direction serving dishes are passed around the dinner table? A. It is most practical to pass these dishes towards the right, or counter -clockwise. • * * Q. Is it proper t0 state on the invitation the length of time the guests are expected to stay at a wedding reception? A. The hours are never stipu- lated on reception invitations. Guests are expected to leave as soon as possible following the departure of the bride and bridegroom, Q. When a• ttending a large dinner is it necessary to wait until all the other guests have been served before one begins to eat? A. No; one should not be re- quired to wait until one's food has cooled, if there are a great number of guests to be served. * * * Q. Is it proper to address the envelope of a letter to a man without using the titles "Mr., Miss, or Mrs.?" A. Never. * * * Q. Ono of my neighbors per- sists in stopping in at my house frequently while I'm in the midst of my !housework. Would it be rude of me to continue working while 'talking with her? A. Not at all. This might even serve as the "gentle hint" your neighbor evidently needs. * * * Q. What amount should be given as a fee to a clergyman for a house christening? A. This, like the fee for wed- ding, is determined by the means of the parents. * * Q. Is it proper for a married woman to send a gift in her name only to a bride, especially If the bride is not known by her husband? A. Never-; her husband's name should always be includ- ed. Q. How soon after receiving an invitation to a large dinner party should one send one's ac- ceptance or regret? A. Immediately. Nothing is more inconsiderate or ill-bred than to keep a hostess waiting for a reply, since she must•have the time to invite substitute guests. On The Job Running up to a policeman, a middle-aged man shouted, "Of- ficer, Officer, somebody just stole my car—but I got the 'li- cense number." .. a HRONICLES 4176L, INGERIA101. Oeser.dolirhe O Cleeeka It is such a bright, sunny morning it just makes you feel glad to be alive. And yet it is cold ten above by our two thermometers so 'we still feel as if we are definitely in the grip of winter. But it doesn't seem to matter — it can't last too much longer. The birds keen' it and so do the trees and shrubs. The willow branches are getting a yellowish colour and the clogwoods a little red- der every day. Crows are fly- ing, not just one now and then, but by twos and threes they are leaving the woods exploring the fields and coming closer to the buildings. Watching nature's reawakening just before the spring is beautiful and inspir- ing. It is so big, so very big, that all out' man-made plans seem small and insignificant by com- parison. Each generation has its span and is gone but the natural forces of nature go on, century after century, changing only as the seasons change. Even now, as our thoughts turn to spring, we look' around and see more snow than we have had all winter. Actually, there hasn't been a day this winter when our lane has really beer, blocked. So different from conditions existing in other parts of the, Continent. And we don't have to go many miles from home either to notice the difference. Last Thursday a friend and I went to Guelph to visit a convalescing patient, The weather was just grand when we left here but ten miles from home it was another story — snowflurries swirling across the fields and along the highway. We wondered what we were heading into but we went on our way. And then, coming back, we found good weather again as soon as we crossed the invisible boundary. ISSUE 17 1959 I was also in Toronto last week — on the only other good day that we had. My time was taken up with business mat- ters until two -thirty and then I was free to visit with Daugh- ter and David. Dave, I am glad to say, was full of life and mischief, very different from the little boy we knew a couple of months ago. Children are up and down so quickly. We get so worried about them and then first thing you know they are back to normal. Too bad. older people haven't the same bounce( I wish that particularly just now because so many of our friends have been seriously ill this winter. Maybe when the buds are swelling, birds sing- ing and spring flowers peeking up through the soil, everyone will feel better.. I sincerely hope so anyway. I expect all farm folk who take a genuine interest in farming as a way of living -- and and in conservation and re- forestation — will learn with regret of the deMh of Louie Bromfield in Ohs at the age of fifty-nine. He bad been such an active man all his life, and had contributed so much to ag- riculture in both a practical and literary way, that one imagined him to be considerably• older than he was. Not everyone agreed with his viewpoints but there is little doubt that any- one who -could arouse interest to the point of controversy cer- tainly contributed a great deal to agriculture. Well, there doesn't seem to be any let-up in the rabies scare. It seems a downright shame so many dogs and cats are being needlessly destroyed. It just proves that the owners had little real affection for their pets. Either that or they didn't want the bother of looking af- ter them or the expense of hav- ing them treated. In homes where there is probably only one dog, or possibly a cat, and immunity 'from the disease so easy to procure, it seems like wanton destruction of animal life. however if that is the at- titude of the owners perhaps the trusting little creatures are better off dead than alive. I wish the problem could be as easily dealt with on a farm or that an overall charge would cover all the cats and dogs. Af- ter all, in districts where a free clinic has not been established, inoculation should at least be cheaper by the dozen! Then of course there is the problem of catching the -cats. With home- grown pets that's easy but when two stray cats come along and take up residence, as they have done here, it is like trying to catch a bird by putting salt on its tail. However, according to Dr. McKinnon Phillips, there is no need to get into a panic over the situation. Up to the present time there have been only fif- ty-two known cases of rabic( animals in the entire province. He advises that the necessary precautions be taken but says rc the wholesale destruction of household pets is entirely un- warranted. I am beginning he wonder whether our cats and dogs know that something un- usual is in the wind. I never knew them to be so full of life and energy. Rusty and Robbie are chasing around after each other all the morning but the cats devote their energy to eat- ing and sleeping, both of which they are doing to excess. Speak- ing of eating — I must •fly otherwise Partner will come In to find a bare table instead of dinner waiting for him. A man will put up with many thinge but dinner -time is dinner -time. And that's that, SHALLOW REMARK r� One afternoon Lefty Gomel turned around and saw Joe 1:11• Maggio playing an excessive') ,hallow centerfield. With Rudy York coming up, Gomez blanch ed and waved DiMag back. At ter the game, he asked Soe wiul he had moved in so close. "I'm supposed to make people forget Tris Speaker," DiMag ss i with a grin. "If you play in for guys lila YOrk, you'll make them fors• Gomez," retorted Lefty, LUSCIOUS' HONEY BUN RING - Quick to make with the new Active Dry Yeast O Hot goodies come puffin' from your oven in quick time with new Fleischmann's Active Dry Yeast! No more spoiled cakes of yeast! No more last-minute trips — this new form of Tleischmann's Yeast keeps in your cup- board! Order a month's supply. oft • Scald 34 c. anilk, IA c.,grattulated sugar, 1% tsps. salt and % c. shortening; cool t0 lukewarm. MeanWhile; Measure into a large' bowl % c. lukewarm water, 1 tsp. granulated sugar; stir until sug- ar is dissolved. Sprinkle with 1 envelope Fieischmann's Active Dry Yeast. Let stand 10 mins., THEN stir well. •° Add cooled milk mixture and stir in 1 well -beaten egg and 1 tsp. grated lemon rind. Stir is 2 c. once -sifted bread flour; .bear un- til.smooth. Work in 2 c, (about) once -sifted bread flour. Knead on lightly -floured board until smooth • nd clastic. Place in greased bowl and grease top of HONEY -BUN RING dough. Cover and set in warm place, free from draught. Let rise until doubled in bulk. Punch down dough andxoll.out into an oblong about 9' wide and 24" long; loosen ilougli. Combine c. lightly -packed brown sugar and % c. liquid honey; spread over dough and,sprinkie with 34 c: broken walnuts. Beginning at a long side, loosely roll up like a jelly roll. Lift carefully into a greased S/°' tube pan and join ends of dough to form a ring. Brush top with melted butter. Cover and let rise until doubled in bulk. Bake in moderately hot oven, 375°, 45-50 minutes. Brush top with honey and sprinkle with chopped walnuts.