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Family
It's all over now. The Christ-
mas tree stripped of its trim-
mings; the gay glass ornaments
carefully wrapped and put
away; strings of coloured lights,
bereft of illumination, packed
in their proper boxes. And the
needle -dropping tree thrown
' on the woodpile or, in some
cases, out with the garbage.
Poor little tree , .. such a short
while ago we joyously brought
you into the house; decked your
green branches with glittering
baubles and then further en-
hanced the glitter by tiny elec-
tric lights. You were very love-
ly, little tree, and served a good
purpose so I hope you are not
feeling too badly because your
period of brightness was so
brief. Yours was a short life but
a gay one. In every home you
were the symbol of goodwill
and laughter. But now, with the
New Year we must discard you
as we pick up again the threads
of ordinary, everyday life, car-
rying with us happy memories.
of family gatherings, stacks of
greeting cards and perennial
letters.
At Ginger Farm our letters.
and cards included greetings
from readers of this column I
love to get your messages of
cheer and encouragement. Writ-
ing this column would be a
lonesome sort of job were it not
for you, my readers. So keep
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your letters coming. friends. I
love them, everyone. But during
a special season like this, I hope
you will forgive me if I reply
through this column. Answering
a lot of letters at one time
seems to be more than I can
manage.
"Glencoe Reader" advises me
to feed our cats a little flaxseed.
Thank you for the tip "Glencoe"
— it sounds like a good one.
"Kenora" — you will know
by now our little grandson is
greatly improved. There were
no cat -naps for him over Christ-
mas. Sleep in the daytime? Not
he — he might miss something!
Thank you for all your kind
inquiries and good wishes. We
hope you will be feeling much
better during the coming year.
'Writer" — that was a grand °
letter. I have a feeling you 'have
what it takes' and I am sure you
always make a success of what-
ever you set out to do — writ-
ing or anything else. I don't
think YOU need much advice
from me. Once you are properly
settled you should do well. I,
too, subscribed to Donald
French's magazine and found it
very helpful,
"Mrs, F . , " So you are going
to drive the family car. That
seems like an excellent idea,
especially it you make that visit
you mention. Start driving now
before you get any older and
you will learn that much easier,
"Irish" — your letter was
most interesting. Your music,
the old family home, and your
cats and dogs, seem to provide
you with a full and satisfying
life. I am sure you never know
what it is to be bored. Why
should you? Living as we all
do, in the most interesting and
progressive period history has
ever known, I cannot see wry
anyone, at any time, should suf-
fer from boredom. I am sure
that your talents, your active
mind and hands, help you to
forget to some extent, the pain
you suffer with those aching
joints.
"Illinois" — your letter and
greetings were very welcome.
It was nice to hear from you
again. Later on I will reply
more fully. At the moment I
am particularly busy. David ex-
pects to go to hospital again
soon. This time for the removal
of tonsils and adenoids.
The foregoing will, I hope,
take care of replies to letters
for the time being. But in ad-
dition to the letters I would
also like to thank those who
remembered us with greeting
cards. It was so nice to get
them and to know we have so
many unseen friends. But I
wonder v: hat happened to aur
friend the mysterious "Mr. X".
I was certainly looking for a
card with his classic signature!
Among our family letters was
an "aerogramme" from Part-
ner's brother in Australia. tie
was not expecting his sons home
for Christmas as they were both
in New Guinea. Last year when
we heard from him the oldest
boy had just returned after two
years in the Antarctic, These
Clarke; seem to get around,
don't they? Hnw strange to
spend Christmas in a country
like Australia with the thermo-
meter around 100 degrees I
must ask them how they cele-
brate.
Would you like a good sug-
gestion for the New Year? That
is if you have a lot of un -named
and undated photographs as we
had. One night I got out the
whole collection and then sorted
them and put them into enve-
lopes labelled according to la-
milies, with each photograph
named and dated separately.
HE'LL BE A GOOD SPORT—Marquis Grimaldi, left, pretender
to the throne of Monaco, says he may send "the usurper,"
Prince Rainier III, his congratulations when the prince marries
Grace Kelly. Grimaldi, shown above in the tavern he owns
in Ightham, England, says his grandfather spent most of the
fortune establishing the line of descent, which he says has
been recognized by England's College of Arms. But the Mar-
quis, who's known as "George," says it would take too much
money to press the claim for the throne. Shown with him are
his wife, the Marquise, known as "Kay", and an unidentified
customer.
IT'S A BOY — It's hard to believe, but three-year-old Zbnigniew
Skalinski is a boy, despite the curly locksand the doll. But easy
to believe is his happiness at arriving here from Poland,
This idea calve to me while I
was doing some historical re-
search and found families with
stacks of photos whom no one
could identify. Quite suddenly
I realized the same thing could
apply in our family once Part-
ner and I were gone beyond re-
call. And so I got busy. It takes
only a little while. Try it your-
selves, and, if I'm not mistaken,
you will get quite a lot of fun
and enjoyment out of doing the
job,
HRONICLES
GFLGINGERFARM
e eeepa +d nLtne D Ctea!ka
"Dear Anne Hirst! Practical-
ly every letter in your column
is from wives complaining about
husbands. You know so,aetimes
the shoe is on the other foot.
I've been married for 10 years
(a wartime marriage) and I
knew almost immediately it
shouldn't have happened. I tried
to make the best of it, though
being a good and, I believe, at-
tentive husband, thinking it
might ev:ntualIy work out. But
I've about reached the end cf
my rope."It's been nothing but fault-
finding, nagging. humiliation
and constant grumbling. I know
I've never really loved her, but
now I've reached t_hc' stage
where I can't bear the sight of
her. My family and even her
people have never interfered,
bet now they all say the same
think, 'Ilow much can y
take?'
"I've left her now, and if site
doesn't divorce me, I intend ter
do it. I could- never st'tnd liv-
ing with her again! Cer:tenly
there must be some h'3,it mega
left for me in this world.
"I hope you print this, Anne
Hirst, and perhaps it will show
some wives that they, too, may
be in the wrong before their
husbands gat to the stare f am
in TOI'l fP"
GUILTY WIVES
* Perhaps you recall hew
* many times I suggest that a
* complaining w if e examine
* herself as though she were
* somebody else and ask, "Can
* 1 be at fault?" There are
* women who, swept awn. by
s emotion or delibcretelp luring
* a man into matrimony, ap
° preach the future with the
e idea, "Web, I11 change all
* that," and proceed to nag
* their man into a state of col-
* lapse, usually over nonessen
* tials, from the clothes he wears
to the way he holds a fork
* Having attained the dignity
* of marriage, a wire like this
' reveals her mean nature and
* demands a state of perfection
* existing in no living male.
" She ends fault with all he
* says and does, she grumbles
* because he doesn't melee more
* money or doesn't cater to her
" whims as he used to; any ex-
* cuse is sufficient to prove her
* superiority and her dissatis-
faction with the , mate she
* chose.
* Most wives (and you and 1
* know so many) have only one
* aim in marriage — to make
* their man happier at home
* than anywhere else. He is the
* center of their thoughts and
* plans; they . study his habits
* and indulge his moods; the
* household routine is governed'
* by his wishes. Their patience
* with his peculiarities is infin-
ite, and their reward is his un-
* swerving loyalty and .a grati-
ISSUE. g — 1956
* tude for all her loving kind-
* nese that lasts as long as he
* lives.
* You showed more patience
t` than many a man would; for
* 10 years you did your best.
* this, plus the fact that even
* your wife's family are sorry
* for you, is proof enough *hat
e escape is the only answer. A
* man can stand so much; when
* the point is reached, living
" with the woman is actually
* living in a hell of her de-
* signing.
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A LAD IMPOSES
"Dear Anne Hirst; Two of us
girls live together, and we have
a nice group of 'friends. A young
man I've known for a long time
has the habit of inviting himself
to. dinner at the last moment,
taking his welcome for granted. •
I don't like the habit.
"He is really a bore: He never
helps wiith the dishes, just sits
and listens to the radio, He
hasn't talon me out for a long
while, But he is the son of a
friend of my family, and I don't
dare be rude. Have you any
ideas? SUSAN"
This boy, like yourself,
' is living away from his people
* and he turns to the, one link
* he knows for companionship.
* Many a lad is as thoughtless,
* not realizing he makes a
* nuisance of himself .and ac-
* cepting hospitality without re-
* turning it.
* There is a limit, however,
* to such imposition.
* Next time he appears sud-
* denly, tell him that you and
* your girl friend have a double
* date tonight, or you're tired
* and going to bed early; Or
x, you're having dinner Out and
* going on to a movie, and would
* he like to ocme along?
When you write home
* again, tell your mother how
* things stand. If he is as super-
' sensitive as some boys and
gives his family the idea you
• are not being nice to him,
* your people will know the
Getting Married
At Long Distance
Although his ' dark-haired,
slim bride-to-be was 5000 miles
away in South. America, a
wealthy young London business-
man . recently went to a Lon-
don social club as a bachelor
and returned several hours
later — a married man.
Soft lights shone in a private
room at the club, a small orches-
tra played wedding music. The
bridegroom's parents toasted the
bride and bridegroom in cham-
pagne. The smiling Froom was
showered with congratulations
from relatives and friends as
they raised their wine glasses
to a portrait of the bride which
hung on the wall.
While all this was happening
in London, the bride was sign
ing documents in South America
which made the couple man and
wife by proxy.
And while the bridegroom
slept in his bachelor flat that
night with her portrait by his
bedside, his bride was beginning
her long journey by air to Hol-
land. More than thirty hours
after their wedding, the couple
met in Amsterdam for the first
time as newlyweds and spent a
joyful — and official honey-
moon.
That couple web knew that
love laughs at distance. Scores of
other couples who have, through
force of circumstances, married
by proxy can testify that the
temporary separation only made
their hearts fonder.
An excited and happy twenty-
year -old girl living in South -
East London received a cable
one spring day a few years ago
informing her that she had just
been married in Semarang, Java.
about 9,000 miles away.
It was sent by her Dutch
bridegroom immediately after
he had gone through the wed-
ding ceremony — with a mar-
ried woman at his side!
Olive and Johannes had fallen
in love when they met in Lon-
don two years previously, but
his business had tied him to
Java since then.
Their courtship flourished by
post,
* true circumstances.
Marriage failure is never the
fault of one alone. If you are
unhappy, question yourself as to
the cause, for the cure may lie
in your own hands, Anne Hirst
will help you know yourself, if
you write her at Box 1, 123
Eighteenth St, New Toronto
At is was impossible for him
to get back to London for the
wedding, the pair agreed that it
would be more .convenient for
Olive if she travelled out to
Java as a married woman.
Their marriage -by -proxy was
carried out under Dutch law
following the signing by the
bride of documents which were
sent to the Consulate in London,
She had also received the wed-
ding ring by post; and the news
that a lovelybungalow home
was ready for her in Java,
When, a month after the
proxy wedding, she reached
Samarang, she and her husband
went through the marriage
ceremony at the English church
there. Then they had their
honeymdon.
During the two world wars
there were a number of instan-
ces of proxymarriages for men
at the front. The German Gov-
ernment in 1940 passed a law
enabling soldiers on active serv-
ice to wed their sweethearts at
home by making a formal de-
claration to their commanding
officers.
At home the bride registered
the marriage officially within
two months of the declaration
— even if her bridegroom had
been killed in the meantime.
A pretty girl serving in the
A.T.S. was married by trans-
atlantic telephone over a 5,000
mile hook-up to an ex -service-
man in Pocatello. Idaho, in 1946.
The bridegroom, who was
two"ty-three, sat during the
ceremony with his family in
their home at Pocatello The
bride, who was nineteen, and
her family were the guests of
the landlord of a village inn.
Said a witness as the ton:
"We waited an hour and then
the call came through Prone time
States. The bride sprang to the
'phone and said: Fs that your,
George?' Reception was clean.
"Then the bride heard the
voice of the magistrate conduct-
ing the brief ceremony in the
United States. The bride ans-
wered her name and then, is an,
atmosphere of great excitemeffl
we heard her mance the re-
sponse, I will.'
"The parents of bride and
bridegroom exchanged greet-
ings over the line before the
nine -minute call ended, Then
we all drank to the future hap-
piness of bride and bridegroom."
Lawyers stated that this un-
usual wedding was quite valid
in both countries, although
there has never been a test case
in the British courts on the
point.
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Combine 1 tbs. soft butter or margarine, % c. thick jam,
1 tbs, lemon juice and, if desired, 1/a c. broken nutmeats
and divide between 6 greased individual baking dishes.
Mix and sift twice, then sift into abowl, l % c. once -sifted
pastry flour (or 11/3c. once -sifted all-purpose flour), 3 tsps.
Magic Baking Powder, % tsp. salt, tsp. grated nut-
meg and % c. fine granulated sugar. Cut in finely 5 tbs.
chilled shortening. Combine 1 well -beaten
egg, 34 c. milk and % tsp. vanilla. Make
a well in dry ingredients and add liquids;
mix lightly. Two-thirds fill prepared dishes
with batter. Bake in a moderately hot
oven, 375°, about 20 minutes. Turn out
and serve hot with sauce or cream. Yield
—6 servings.
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FILMING APPEAL — Singer Mario
Lanza and four-year-old Mary
Blankenship get acquainted in
Hollywood before filming the
1956 Easter Seal motion pic-
ture appeal to help crippled chil-
dren. The two will star in the
filrn, to be shown throughout
the country during the Easter
Seal campaign, March 10 to
April 10.
ROCK 'N' ROLL IN RUSSIA - These youngsters in Leningrad
enjoy a ride on a rocking pig. It's Russia's counterpart of the
rocking horse, so popular with children in the West. Pigs or
horses, the idea is to have fun, no matter which side of the (rots
Curtain you happen to be rocking on.