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The Seaforth News, 1958-12-25, Page 6AN N liowt i"ait i" -Dear Anne Hirst: That article you printedabout a stepmother's troubles rates my gratitude. I could have written it myself, for I've. been in the. writer's shoes for nearly a year —only my shoes hurt even more than hers do. I should have foreseen the problem, because my husband's family informed me about the rules they were using to bring up his five-year- cld son, and said frankly they expected me to follow them. . `The boy was dreadfully spoil- ed, but they seem proud of their system; even when he became so obstinate there was no man- aging him, they never ackrtow.- edged their responsibility From the first I liked the child and thought I had won his affection; nut he has used all the shabby little tricks to defeat my disci- pline, and even boasted about what he got away with. "It is heartbreaking to stand by and see the life and soul of a child twisted into wrong- doing, especially deceit. If these people had his good at heart they would let us alone now, for only that way can I make anything decent of him. "My husband thinks his fam- ily is wonderful, and takes their part. I shudder to think of the consequences if they don't stop their interfering; his father will not look ahead and see the grim picture that I'm afraid awaits him. I love my husband, and I would save him from the re- morse he must surely feel later on. DISCOURAGED" Your husband has taken the Jiffy Sewing I PRINTED PATTERN FOR DOLL 14"-22" er TALL ' \-) 4626 447;44 .f Be a smart giver and sew now! Our new Printed Pattern makes an easy gift for your little one's favorite doll. Pretty ward- robe includes coat and beanie, school dress, sack dress, party frock, petticoat and panties! Printed Pattern 4626: For dolls 14, 16, 18, 20, 22 inches tall. For yardage see pattern. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly S 1 Z E. NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. i * easiest way to win his son', " affection; by spoiling him lie- * avoids unpleasant argument, e but as he grows up the boy will feel only contempt for a ,. parent he can defy. It is you • who are trying to make a little * man of him, teach him obedi- • ence and respect for others, *' I hope you will explain to * your husband that it is he * who will be blamed by his son * when he is old enough to * know what has happened to him and why. Especially must * he stop his family's meddling • in the child's training before * further damage is done. Don't * relax your own efforts, and 1 " feel sure with your husband's "- co-operation the results will * soon appear. * One can, after all, only do * her best, and you are doing * yours against heavy odds. * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: I am nearly 17, and have been dating a boy for about two months. He'd make dates and not show up (and I remember other faults, too, now) but when I was with him I didn't care. "A week ago he said good- night, and that he wouldn't be back. I don't understand why— "Unless because we were just sweethearts and not real friend:. We petted a lot, but now I see we had nothing else in common. l do miss him, but he doesn't even speak to me now. "Two girl friends have told me how to get him back, but you are older than they are, so please advise me. LONELY" * The boy is gone, and let it " be for good. He has taught e you a lesson you ehould have * known— * You carnet hold a boy's in• * terest by petting. Too many other girls try to, but unless * they have other attractions the boy is off to new conquests * Kisses should be saeed for * real friends, not casual ac- quaintances, and when a girl * your age is too ardent it indi- * rates she has nothing else to * offer. * Similar tastes and ideals, * and respect for each other, are * essential to real friendship. * Aim first for these, and don't indulge in petting until you * are old enough to realize its proper place. Almost any at- * tractive lad can give you the * same thrills, but the girl who * only depends on them is * cheapened in the mind of any * smart young man and soon * finds herself alone -and tail- * ed about. * * * Trials of a stepmother double when her husband or his family will not recognize her authority. Anne Hirst understands family differences, and can offer sym- pathy a n d guidance during troubled times. Write to her at OBox 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. CHINESE CUSTOM To denounce is one of the most important duties of the brave new Chinese, Children denounce their parents, em- ployes their bosses. In a village rn Kwangtung Province, travel- ers allege, an old woman gave the remains of her bowl of rice to her cat. One of the neigh- bors came up to her and said: "I saw you give rice to your cat. I have to denounce you to the police because if someone eIse saw you, too, he will not only denounce you but me, too, for not denouncing you " A clever young woman was asked to attend a public function. She was given a place between a bishop and a rabbi. It was her chance to break into high com- pany. and she meant to use it. "I feel as if 1 were a Ieaf be- tween the 01d and New Testa- ments," she said with a giggle. "That page, madam." replied the rabbi, "is usually a blank." AWAITING TRIAL. — Cable company president, Malcolm White, 48, is comforted by his wife after a preliminary court hearing in Monroe, N.Y. White is charged the killing of Alfred Dugan, 52, ex -convict labor organizer. Dugan was fatally shot follow- ing a dispute aver picketing ui White'* plant. PRINCE TO MARRY COMMONER - Asia's biggest marital guessing game ended Nov. 27, when a future bride was named for Japan's Crown Prince Akihito, 25, (shown above with Michiko Shoda, 24). The Prince's bride-to-be was found to be Miss Shoda, a. commoner who was chosen by the Prince over stiff objections. from some members of the Im- perial family. Miss Shoda, daughter of a Tokyo flour com- pany executive, will be the first commoner to reign as Empress of Japan in the 25 centuries of its history. HRO J 1INGER t: etwe t-d.ol: r.e P.1Ct.& k e Real November weather has finally arrived. It's a white world outside with lots of snow swirling past the windows. We could hardly believe it when we woke up this morning. Glad it didn't come last week as we had quite a busy week — if you can call being on the go a buv time. It started with a long- distance call Monday night .. . friends wanting to visit the Royal Winter Fair - could the. - stay overnight and would we go with them to the night per- formance. Well, they came and Partner went but I stayed home. I was just afraid they wouldn't get tickets and I didn't fancy being on my feet all night. But they did manage to get seats — at a price — the only ones avail- able. The other two enjoyed Arthur Godfrey but Partner wasn't too impressed — said he made a better showing on tele- vision. Next morning our friends wanted to do some Christmas shopping so I took them over to Dixie. Why anyone near Guelph should want to shop anywhere else I don't know. •I always think Guelph has plenty to offer at moderate prices — except parking: However, I sup- pose it's a case of distant fields. Thursday I took off on the bus — main reason was to help Dee take the three boys to the Fair. They are all . crazy about animals but it looked like quite an undertaking for Dee alone, and Art couldn't get away in the daytime. We had quite a good time, going here and there, look- ing at whatever we thought the boys would enjoy. They didn't miss a trick. Even Jerry took it all in from the safety of his go- cart. They were thrilled with the horses, cows, sheep, chickens and bunnies, but the big pigs Eddie didn't like at all. When they squealed and grunted he clung to his mother and hid his face. The farm machinery was quite a thrill. The boys "drove" big tractors side by side, just like Grandpa's, said Dave. One time Dave was roaming farther afield and we didn't want Eddie to follow so we put him in one of the manure spreaders. It made a good play -pen until he discovered how to work the paddles, About six o'clock we called a cab and were soon home with three tired hut excited little boys who had plenty to tell Daddy as soon as he open- ed the door. Ah yes, and hero is something else 1 mustn't forget. We were watching a sow with her litter of pigs busily getting their sup- por. Standing next to us was a man and his wife, obviously taking a special interest in the pigs .. why not, they had four hundred at home. Somehow• we got into conversation and al- though they live many miles from here I found that Mrs. 11.— Is a reader of this column, Small world, isn't it? I find it quite a thrill running into someone by accident like that who has been following this column from week to week, be it good or bad. The more readers I know the more impetus it gives me. An'l I hope it is more interesting to those who read to 'find this columnist a real creature of flesh and blood. Perhaps a little too much in the flesh and a little too thin in the blood. But that's the way it goes. Saturday I was taking care ei a, neighbor's house for a few hours while the family went to Melton to meet the lady's mother due to arrive that morning from Yugoslavia. They hadn't seen her since they left Europe eight years ago. It must have given them all a wonderful thrill. After they got back I was all prepared to leave but nothing would do but I must share in the family feast and rejoicing. There were two other friends there as well, So I sat down to a meal Yugoslavian style — homemade noodle soup, roast turkey, cabbage rolls in Baur, kraut, potatoes a n d gravy. Strudel cake, some kind of savoury rolls which contained fried leeks, and a "Welcome H o m e" fruit - flavored cake, SA Y'S SALLIES EYERXYTNIN4 SSODAAS DR HNS • '.A., penicillin sundae, please. I'm catching cold." lopped with a very unusual jelly. And of course there was a speceal brand of imported witte which everyone seemed to enjoy except me. I thought I would as soon take quinine. After helping with the dishee 1 went home and the weary traveller was sent to lie down She is unable to speak a word of English but announced her in- tention of learning — and soon. That shows a good spirit: But; there will also be plenty of other adjustments tor her to make. I noticed she was wearing long - sleeved underwear and wool -felt boots. Considering the difference in living conditions of our two continents we need lots of patience and forbearance in dealing with our new Cana- dians We shouldn't expect them to change overnight and accent our way of living without a struggle — especially when they have reached the point of no return. This woman is exactly the same age as myself but I noticed that while I look older she appears much older in her ways. And that fact alone will make it more difficult for her to adjust. Bride .is Centre Of Tug a War By spending mare than three years travelling thousands • of miles back and forth across the Arctic with a score of note- books, a Canadian professor has invented a new language. It is made up of twenty-four Eskimo dialects which he has cleverly welded together so that Canada's Eskimos, for the first time in their history, may have a common' language—.a kind of Arctic Esperanto which they can learn easily. Why do they need this new language? Because, says the professor, Dr. Giles Le- Fabvre of Montreal University, although civilization is now striding rapidly into Canada's wild northland, , there is still great confusion in trying to teach illiterate Eskimos to read and write. These Eskimos still cling to their age-old soca] customs. The sexes are absolutely equal. Mar - rages are perfectly free and usually regarded as business partnerships. Some men have more than one wife and some intellectual women possess more than one husband. There is little or no sentiment and kissing is unknown. If a couple cannot live together amicably, they just separate. Even to -day an Eskimo occa- sionally secures his wife by force, not by a playful tap on the head, but by good-natured • fun and in open competition. Clad in her finery, the woman stands in the centre of a ring. Each suitor takes a firm grip on her garment and at a given signal there is a grand tug o'war. The young Eskimo who suc- ceeds in tearing the woman away from his rivals is allowed to carry her off and she be- comes his recognized wife. This is still considered quite a legi- timate way of obtaining a par- tner. After an Eskimo marriage there is no honeymoon; the young couple simple set up their home among their own tribe. In the igloo, In winter, husband and wife usually sleep in one large sleeping bag made of cari- bou skins. The orderly officer was going Isis rounds at breakfast and stopped at one table with the us u al inquiry, "Any com- plaints?" One man jumped to his feet and said: "Yes, sir, this tea tastes of chloride of lime." The office* took the mug, sniffed the contents, then sipped delicately. "Nonsense," he said, "that's carbolic." odern Etiquette by Roberta, Lee Q. is it permissible to cut a croquette with the knife? A. No. The fork is used to break it. Then, with the tines up, use the fork to convey the food to the mouth. R. Should the napkin be used for removing some ,particle of food from the mouth,such as a bone or inedible, portion of meat? A Never. This is done with the fingers and then, of course, the napkin is used for wiping those fingers. Q. Is it proper to wear brace- lets and rings over one's even- ing gloves? A. Bracelets may properly be worn over the gloves — bot never ,the rings. Leave your rings inside the gloves, where - they belong, Q. Should a man, who is ac- companying a woman, take holt of her arm when negotiating a slippery walk or other difficult going? A. A man should neves TAKE a woman's arm, but should, if the circumstances warrant 11,. OFFER her his ann. Q. 1f one bee ueceixed an an- nouncement el a nrcrrfasge, bub wast not invited to either the wedding or reception, is one• supposed to sends at edit?. A. 1Pott usually. It's ups to yesa Sweet Sentiments (7Z/ .Lrzl•nt.at VV ei& Beautify a chair with this set of old-fashioned girls in a frame• of hearts 'n' flowers. Charming. gift; inexpensive. Crochet plus colorful embroi- dery add glamour to a room. Pat- tern 543: transfer, directions for chair back and armrest. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS. (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toron- to, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. A NEW 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book, JUST OUT, has lovely designs to order. embroidery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting. toys. In the. book, a special surprise to maks a little girl happy — a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book. ISSUE 51 - 1958 A GOLDFISH'S LIFE - Right side up, upside down—any way you liik at her, she looks good. The mermaid is Marilyn Taylor, performing in an ` underwater ballet in the above -ground, glassed -in pool of the Marine Grill at Fort Montagu Beach Hotel, Nassau, Bahamas. Nine huge picture windows allow dining 1 if 1 guests and visitors to view the ballet, staged three times a day.