The Seaforth News, 1958-12-04, Page 6NNE HIRST
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"Dear Anne I-Iirst: I am 24
years old, and nearly a year ago
I married my second husband,
39, I am so troubled 1 am afraid
I'm losing my mind!
"He is forever raving about
his first wifee(who divorced him)
and says he realizes now he was
at fault, and if anything hap-
pens to me he will take my little
girl and go back to her. The child
is only four, and he is sweet to
her; she is wild about him, her
own father died soon after her
birth. If 1 decide to leave here
and take her, of course, do you
think she would forgive me?
"My husband criticizes me all
the time. I've always been an
immaculate housekeeper and a
good cook, but if he sees me
sitting down, he says the . piece
is filthy and nags me to get up
and go work I work hard,
Anne Hirst; besides the house
and my little girl to care for,
we have a targe garden and lots
of chickens that are supposed to
stay in their own place, but you
know how animals are. Half the
time I am exhausted just by
the physical activities, but more
by his attitude toward my ef-
forts.
"I know it sounds crazy to you,
but I've come to the point where
believe he actually wants to
work me to death so he can
Marry his first wife. What do
you think? I just live from one
Say to another, and in fear.
WRECKED WIFE"
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° and in this, overwrought state
* you- take his remarks to heart
° ands believe you've found the
o underlying reason for• his nag-
* ging. He may be, however, the
* type of sadist who delights
in mental cruelty and, feels a
* malicious satisfaction in see-
* ing you cringe. Weigh this pos-
° sibility carefully.
o Ask him whether he would
° be happier if you leave him,
° and if he admits it tell, him
you will go. It this happens,
° don't worry about your little
* girl; she will miss. him for a
° while, but at her age she should
" not suffer long.
o If your husband laughs at
o your fears and denies any de-
o sire to end the marriage, re-
o mind him you are doing your
o best—but if he does not show
° more appreciation and kindness
° toward you, it will be you who
° will arrange to leave: That
* startling idea may' give him
* pause. *
YOUNG LOVE WAITS
"Dear Anne Hirst: The girl I
love is 17 and I'm two years
older. We've dated for nearly
two years. We told our parents
we want to get married, and
hers said O.K. as soon as we'd
saved some money; we remind-
ed them that would take over a
year for the sum they name,
"Then' they complained we
Were too young. Her mother de-
manded we date other boys and
girls, and we've done that for
six months but always come hack
together. Now her mother says
it is best we not see each other
at alit
"My parents agree with this,
except they don't forbid our dat-
ing now and then. What do you
think? ANXIOUS FIANCE"
The whole adult world seem
o determined to keep you two
* apart, doesn't it? Since you are
o both under age, there is little
* you can do about it but con-
* sent as gracefully as you can.
* To keep things pleasant, why
* don't you two see other friends
* too? That would show you are
* co-operating, and the girl's
o mother may retract her latest
o pronouncement; if she doesn't,
* maybe your parents will dis-
4, cuss things with her. Keep on
* saving as much as you can, of
° course, then when the day ar-
° rives that they consent you
o won't have to wait.
o Your marriage should start
" with nothing less than the bles-
° sing of both families, so hide
* your resentment. At least they
* approve your marriage some
* day. * ° a
If your marriage is not work-
ing out, write Anne Hirst about
it and ask her opinion. Be frank
and fair, and get the benefit of
her long experience. Address her
at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St.,
New Toronto, Ont.
Have Your Fling
With Confetti
How many pretty brides nave
ever wondered about the origin
of throwing confetti at wed-
dings?
The word is Italian, but when
an Italian uses it he is talking
about those tiny sugared al-
monds which guests are often
given at weddings in Italy.
An early reference to confetti
in England occurred in a maga-
zine of 1860. A London news-
paper mentioned it again in 1895
in reporting that at a wedding
"people attending carried bags
of multi -coloured confetti and
flung it in the happy young
couple's faces as they left the
church."
Forbidding the use of confetti
in a North London churchyard,
one rector described the custom
as "an unfortunate relic of bar-
barism, when the bridegroom
captured the bride by force."
PAPAL TRIBUTE — Etched on a fragiie leaf, this likeness of
Pope John XXIII is the work of Brother Adrian Lewis, .Chris-
tian Brother, who serves as head of the placement bureau at
Manhattav College. Brother Adrian, who has been practicing
his unus:.al artistry for some 45 years, chose a maple leaf.
because its three major paints, symbolize tho triple crowned
papal tiara.
1.1 KILLED, AS JET TANKER CRASHES — Firefighters probe the wreckage of o U.S. Air Force
KC -97 Stratotanker that crashed, into a housing development in, the smaiitown of isle of hope,
Go„ killing all 1.1 persons aboard. The plane plowed through two houses, but miraculously
injured only one civilian. The plane hdd just taken off from Hunter Air Force Base, not far
from Savannah.
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HItONICLES
INGERFARM
eakartdol n.e P. Cleake
Something tells me I had bet-
ter get this column started.
Daughter Just phoned that she,
Art and family- would be here
for dinner tonight. And ['m tell-
ing you when those three boys
arrive it's like an invading army.
Three little girls would probab-
ly be satisfied playing quietly
with dolls or colouring picture
books. But boys .. , they have to
be cowboys or Indians, Wild Bel
Hickock or Zorro. Even Jerry,
the littlest one, has to tag along
and be in on every act They
were all sleeping when Dee
phoned so they'll curve out like
giants refreshed, ready for any-
thing. Oh well, we wouldn't have
it otherwise. Healthy, happy,
normal children are something
to be thankful for.
Now for what's been happen-
ing during the past tveek. Not
too much around home just the
odd ones coming and going. Last
Friday, however, was a very
special event for our local W.I.
A birthday party was given for
a very charming elderly lady by
the name of Mrs, Burke. She
was the first secretary when this
branch was organized forty-four
years ago. At our last annual
meeting we had trouble in find-
ing anyone willing to act as
secretary so this same Mrs.
Burke volunteered to act in that
capacity again — and does en
excellent job. Her age — that
was not definitely given but we
al] know her to be an octogen-
arian — as smart and active as
many women at fifty The rec-
tor, in paying tribute to our
guest of honour said that Mrs.
Burke, like Peter Pan, seemed
to have discovered the secret of
perpetual youth. Col. T. L Ken-
nedy was also present, having
known Mrs. Burke since she was
a young bride. He said thrt
when he received his invitation
to the tea he promi'ed himself
:hat this was one occasion he
wasn't going to miss — in fact
he was determined to be there
to pav his respects to a long
time friend and associate.
And Mrs, Burke? She came
in wearing a erev ski"t and a
pretty pink blouse, white hair
waved around her bright smi'-
ine face, not in the leest fluster-
ed as she took her mace in the
centre of the platform. First of
all best wishes were expressed
officially by W 1. members and
representatives of other blest
organizations with whom Mrs.
Burke had worked. Ther there
where personal greetmir' as eaei
of the fifty-six guests went ten
and kissed or shook hands with
the smiting guest of hnr.nur. The
Queen on her throne could not
bare been mora gracious, charm•
ing or appreciative than was our
little Mre. Burke Of course.
there wet Iso a nresentetinn —
a travelling case' ane half -a -
dozen silver teaspoons. [t wss
a very hanny afternoon for
everyone as Mrs. But ke has been
a leader in the community for
more years' than most of the
people remember: She is still
active and interested in her
church, the WI., Home and
School .. yes, and in politics
loo. From what I have heard
wild horses wouldn't keep Mrs.
Burke from casting her vote.
So that was one occasion when
"flowers were for the living."
And to my thinking that is as it
should be,
Another thing happened at
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that meeting, It was purely per-
sonal but it gave me great plea-
sure and made me realize once
again what a small world we
'ive in. We were having a cup
of tea when a very pleasant,
friendly little woman came up
to me and introduced herself.
She was a newcomer to Erindale
but told me that when they
came to this district het sister
who lives quite a distance away
said "Why, that is where Mrs.
Clarke is living now. You must
be sure to go and see her." Ap-
parently
pparently the sister gets one of
the papers in which this column
is published and she is kind
enough to be interested in what
I write.
So there's my small world —
I never know when I go out if,
or when, I shall meet yet an-
other person who is a reader of
this column,
I imagine my newest acquaint-
ance and I will have much in
common as Inoticed she was
wearing a W.I. membership pin.
We are far apart in years but I
never find that is too much of
a drawback. I don't think it need
be at any time until 1 reach the
stage of living entirely in the
past. Which heaven forbid. The
past 1 treasure. It has modelled
and conditioned me for the pre-
sent, as I imagine it does every-
one. But there is still the future,
brief or prolonged, depending on
what is in store for us. There
are bound to be gray days and
gay days, but on the who:o
don't you often agree with the
theme in "Oklahoma" — "Oh
what a beautiful morning, oh,
what a beautiful day. I have a
wonderful feeling, everything's
going my way!"
1 love that song — it has
beauty, and rhythm and a
down-to-earth philosophy that
can help you along the road
when the going is rough and
hilly. So much better than the
impulse which sometimes makes
us say especially when things
go wrong - "Why does every,
thing have to happen to me?"
How Far Away
The Stars ... g
A casual glance at the stars
in the sky does not suggest an
orderly arrangement of the stars,
and indeed grouping of the stars
into constellations is almost en-
tirely meaningless. This is be-
cause in most cases stars in a
particular constellation are wide-
ly separated in distance from us,
and they only look close together
because they are in more or less
the same direction.
But there is an order superim-
posed on the disorder. I1 one goes
outside on a dark night, a moon-
less one, in a place well away
from lights, one can see at cer-
tain times of the night the Milky
Way. In the northern hemisphere
the MVfilky Way runs from an
area near Orion through Per-
seus, Cassiopeia and Cygnus to
Aquila: and is seen best (in the
perated chauffer or owner look -
much finer sight in the southern
hemisphere where it runs from
Aquila through Scorpius, and
passes through the Southern
Cross and then between Sirius
and Canopus. In the southern
hemisphere it is accompanied by
the Magellanic Clouds.... Many
of the bright stars are distri-
buted near the Millis' Way: and
when it is examined by any tele -
NO SIDEWAYS — This New York
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to the subway Three pedes-
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scope, even a moderate one, the
Milky Way is seen to be much
richer in faint stars than are the
outer parts of the sky, 'xci'nt
for the fact that there are dark
lanes and patches in the Milky
Way where one sees practically
nothing at all. , .
In very ,distant objects it is
usually too difficult to get spectra
of individual stars, which are
too faint: but then the colours
of the stars may be used. The
astronomer makes a "colour iss
minosity array," that is a plot
of colour against absolute mag-
nitude,
vagnitude, and sees that certain stars
of a particular colour must be
stars of a certain kind, and se
have a known Luminosity. At
before, the apparent brightness
and the intrinsic brightness Me
gether give. the distance... The
astronomer photographs a stat
^loud repeatedly. Most of tht
stars Wil/ appear the same oe
every occasion, but a careful
search may reveal several start
perhaps scores—that are vari•
able.
It is,of mime, a Iabosriout
business to estimate the magnii
rude of each variable star 05
each of many plates, in order to
find out the period of the .sev
eral variables; but thelabour it
rewarded by the determination
of the distance of the star cloud
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The chief physicist for the British Petroleum Co. plans to drill a hole 10 miles deep, far out-
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