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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-10-30, Page 61 ST Faimu:. (ter.. sdot "Dear Anne Hirst: You have. printed sd many letters about in-laws living with "their chil- dren that l've decided to damp- en your shoulder with my tears, too. My husband and I are near- ing 50. For nine years my fa- ther lived with us, and -soon af- ter his passing my husband's mother came. My married sister and brother have refused to have anyone with them, and I do know that some professional advisors say you don't have to— "But if cannot afford to pay for them elsewhere, what else can you do? "My mother-in-law doesn't' like to be alone, so we don't get out very often. (Even if we could pay her expenses else- where I could not bring myself to do it, she'd be too lonely and hurt.) Often I drive her to visit her few friends, or bring them here for the evening. I don't mind because in my own home our grandfather lived with us for years, and though it did cramp our style as youngsters we were taught to take it in our stride. Our children have been brought up to show respect and affection, so there's no trouble there. "One problem: My husband is an outgoing person with lots of friends, and I know he gets tired of sitting hone night after night, but he won't go anywhere without me. What's your an- swer? HAPPY ANYWAY" PRIVACY VANISHES " The presence of an older person day after day does rob • one of privacy, and curtails * a couple's social life. Also, • some aged persons grow care- " less, querulous or selfish; one " needs understanding and pa- * tienee to keep them contented * and maintain the entire house- * hold on an even keel. Yet• * what rewarding discipline it * is, espeeia'.ly for tate growing • * ehileren • * When you.. and I were • ynune. there were few mar- * ried • ecetpl.ae who - would have * allowed their .parents to Iive anywhere but with them. Bus- * band and 'vife stared a sense * of duty. a family pride. and a * compeeelen that made any " other idea revolting. * A gracious woman like * yourself has obliging- friends and neighbors who I am sure * (with yoL r brother and sis- • ter too) would be glad to sit • with your husband's mother * occoeionally so you and he * could get out together. The * old lady herself, I expect, will welcome a new audience with * whom to talk over old times. Your letter is a revelation of Jiffy -Knit Afghan 696 perl fr.e.,VV64. Easy pick-up work! Strips . kbitted separately. Start now— Lnish afghan before winter. Economical beauty! Use left- over wool, works up fast. Solid, lacy blocks alternate in 4 -inch strips. Pattern G96: knitted af- ghan directions. Send THIiRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accented, use i:ostal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1. 123 Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT - 'f ERN NUMBER, your NAME erd ADDRESS. A NEW 1959 Laura Wheeler A'eedlecraft Book, JUST OUT, b„s lovely designs to order: em- broidery, crochet, knit ti n g, weaving, quilting, toys. In the kook, a special surprise to make a little girl happy — a cut-out poll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book. * Christian kindness, and de- * serves thoughtful reading by • young couples today, * TEEN-AGE DATING "Dear Anne Hirst: In our group, going steady is the. thing. I've been dating my friend for seven months. Recently one of his friends began seeing nut casually, and now I'm not sure which I like, better! "My steady beau is a hand- some rascal and could get any girl he wanted. Now when he sees me talking with his friend he looks so hurt that I feel gull- ty. "Shall I stop seeing the other boy and go beak to him? UNHAPPY" * To give one boy all your * dates is not socially economi- *-cal, as I've repeatedly remind- * ed young readers. If he should * get interested in another girl * who would be around to take * you places? And who can pre- * dict the loyalty of one lad * when a new girl with new * charms comes along? They • will, you know. • Dating other boys stimu- * lates your "steady's" interest, * it keeps him on his toes; and. * to realize that his girl attracts * other boys is inclined to :take * him value her all the more. * These years are the years * to make lots of ;friends and be • impartial in your attitude to- * wards them all. So you will * learn more about the sex in * general and be able to com- • pare one with the others — * which is, of course, the safest * preparation in choosing a bus- * band. * One of the sharpest tragedies of old age is to find one's self unneeded or. unwelcome. Don't let this happen in your fancily. Grandparents live again in their children's lives, and deserve the affectionate tribute they have earned ... Let Anne Hirst ad- vise you in any family problem. Write her at Box 1 ., 123 Eigh- teenth Sf., New Toronto, Ont. Giant Ospreys Rue The Island Along the sandy beaches the giant ospreys build their tower- it.g nests. All summer long and far into the fall they wheel in slow circles around those huge bone -white nests, lined with eel - grass, buttressed with sea drift, When the giant ospreys come, the eagles forsake their nests, . The real owners of the island are the giant ospreys, which flock there every year, arriving with the regularity of clockwork, descending a f t e r their long voyage from the Amazon on March 21 and de- parting on September 21. They build their nests on the tops of decaying trees or on tree stumps on the open beach: and those high twisted pyramidal nests, seen in the sea fog, are things to wonder at. They have the look of fierce primitive habita- tions, all spikes and thorns and gruesome protuberances; in the summer they gleam white and all the horror is taken from them. But in the evening again the nests resemble crowns of thorns. And this is as it should be. The birds are fierce, majestical. They have wing spans of sax feet and thrusting talons which can claw the skin off a man, and in nesting time they will defend their young ferociously. The young are covered in silvery -white down. The ad have white heads and wings of a bluish -bronze; and they wave their wings in a slow deliberate motion, at once graceful and cuggestive of immense reserves of primitive strength Evert their eggs are awesome, as large as ostrich eggs and speckled blood red. Their eyes are fiery yellow, To see the giant osprey plum• meting down from the sky is to see a bolt of Welsh -bronze lightning. All nature seems to stand still when this untame- able hawk descends. But some- times he will rise and gambol serenely in the air, dinning and diving in the sheer enjoyment 51 his power — at such time, sailors think of the corrin; storms, for they know his inno- cent play is only a preliminary exercise of power in the face of the storm. .The ospreys aro lords of all the land they sur- vey. Below them the gentle quail and woodcock play out their little lives like insects, —From "The Island,' by Robert Payne. Q. Must a woman cheek her coat outside a restaurant ernitg room, or may she wear it to her table end drape it over the back of her chair? A. Th;s i; optional; sRe tory do as she wishes. CHILDREN STILL LOVE HIM — -A bronze statue of Hans Christian Andersen with an open fairy-tale book offers an irresistible combination to a small boy in Central Park, The "pages" aro opened to the story of "The Ugly Ducklings," a tale In which itis said, author Andersen saw himself as the main character. INGER Gwenctolin.e P. Cte vlce Generally speaking, few of us value what we have until we stand in fear of losing it. At least, that is how I felt part of last week when I had a bad session with my eyes, one in particular. I couldn't read, or look at anything steadily and I couldn't stand the light. Ths eye, whether open or surt, was so painful I could hardly stand it. And of course I couldn't drive —which was just too bad as we had planned going to Milton Fair. We also had two -and -a - half -year-old Eddie here for a visit and in addition I was half- way through making a batch of apple jelly. So, of course, I was thinking why did it have to be my eyes giving trouble— why, why, why? But when they are all right I take fair to aver- age eyesight for granted and think little about It. Don't we all? Anyway, Dee and Art came along and took Partner and Eddie to the Fair. I was glad to see them go. All I wanted was to be left alone — with the blinds drawn. Then I remem- bered some cortisone ointment the doctor had prescribed for similar eye trouble over a year ago. I found it and used it- with good results. Inside a couple of hours the pain was relieved and I could see well enough that I was able to finish off sixteen jars of apple jelly. And it set like a charm. About nine o'clock the family returned, having stopped at Joy and Bob's for supper. Dee wanted to take Eddie home with her but I wouldn't have it. He is so little trouble that with Partner's help I was sure I could manage. Last week Partner built a lovely big play pen for Eddie and the dog, which has helped a lot. It is constructed of snow - fence and iron posts, over fifty feet long. They both love it... and so do I because although they tear around like mad I know neither of them can get out. Eddie has his toys and a pile of gravel stones which he busily shovels from truck to wagon and back again Taffy has his ball, an old shoe and a rubber bone and occasionally runs off with some of Eddies. toys. I can watch proceedings from three windows and so far there hasn't been any trouble. Of course Ditto joins in the fun. No fence could ever keep that cat in or Out, Dee hadn't been to Milton Fair for about six years and sh couldn't believe hoes much it nad grown and improved. The weather wasn't too favourable; the grounds muddy but still the attendance was good. The little fellows had a wonderful time with so many animals to look at, some they might even touch and pet. Dave, of course, was in his glory, hiving pony rides on a real live pony. I always think there is more fun for small children at a local fair than there is at the Exhibition or the Royal. And, of course, grandparents always like to show off their grandchildren to their friends and neighbours. Heavenly days, it doesn't seem any time since we were taking Dee and Bob to Milton Fair — back in the days when we drove down in a horse and buggy. Even then it was always tractors and machinery that Bob wanted to see. He wasn't the least bit interested in the cattle, and isn't yet. But Deo — you could hardly get her away from them. Five o'clock came all too soon and then we had to head for home because there were al- ways the chores and the milk- ing to do. And we were always a little uneasy in case the cows might break fences and get out of bounds during our absence. I believe it did happen a time or two. Cattle seem to have an uncanny instinct for knowing when they're not being watched. And now Milton Fair still carries on, year after year, bigger and better than ever. And that applies to a lot of other local fairs, too. If the turnstiles could talk what a story they would tell. They could tell of the children of years gone by, now grown to manhood and womanhood, who still make the fair an occasion for an outing— taking their children with thent, And as time goes by their grandchildren, and in some cases even their great-grand- children. Yes, the local fair as a wonderful institution. May it never grow less. It has changed, of course, just as everything has changed. More and better entries; pure bred cattle in abundance; fewer l•orses but plenty of high- powered machinery. In the women's section there is every evidence that the farm is stilt the place to find good cooking, delectable pickles and preserves and many kinds of knitting and fine sewing. As for the Junior Farmers and 4-21 Clubs — one marvels at what they can do. Quite obviously not all our fine young farm boys and girls drift to the city — not with so much encouragement to stay on the farm. And why shouldn't they stay? Farming, like the old gray mare, ain't what is used to be. Gone are the days when you took the family to the fair in the old horse and buggy. FLAMING YOUTH "No, dearie, girls aren't what they were in 1945. Some of us are five years. older." 'Please don't give me a neat over the wheels, the riding is too bumpy Modem Eli i vette .. by Roberta Lee Q. Iiow does a married wo- Dean's manner of signing her 'name to a formal letter differ• from her signing of a hotel register? A. In a formal letter, she- signs her name "Helen R. Thomas," and then either below this sig- nature or in the lower lefthand corner of the page adds in parentheses (Mrs. John H. Thomas). When she is register- ing at a hotel, she signs her name only as "Mrs. John H. Thomas." Q. Is it ever proper to use the knife for cutting the salad when dining? A. If you can manage it easily, use just your fork. However, there are times when lettuce can be too tough for your fork and, in that case, it is quite all right to call upon your knife. Q. Is it proper to say "Yes?" instead of "Hello," when answer- ing the telephone? A. Although "Hello" is the more widely accepted manner of answering the telephone, there's nothing wrong with saying • "Yes?" The most important thing - is a pleasant, friendly voice. Q. Wlien a man is living In a strange town and Is marrying a girl who lives in that town, whom should he ask to he his ushers? A. He may first ask any of his friends in his own home- town, if he thinks they will make the trip — or choose from the bride's circle of friends. Q. When serving a fruit juice as a first course at the table, where should this glass be placed? A. On the place plate — not with the water glass, Q. When a girl is introducing the man to whom she is engaged, should she speak of him as her fiance? A. Yes. Q. Would It be all right for a bride to have both a matron and maid of honor at her wedding? A. 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