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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-10-23, Page 6141RST'tot "Dear Anne Hirst; I confess that my worst fault is an in- clination to be jealous, I tell myself how wrong it is, but You know how little remarks stick in your mind. Telling you about it will help .. My hus- band works where there are a lot of women. He often talks about how much fun they all have, and I am beginning to wonder whether he does, too. ,He claims he never flirts, but you know how a man loves- to be noticed, and a clever woman can always flatter him into hav- ing an affair, "—And what can a wife do who has three small children, a lot of housework, and no time to fix herself up? Working girls can spend money on themselves, but the provident housewife just can't justify spending money for pretty clothes. "When we are with people my husband is the original life -of - the -party, but he doesn't exert himself to make fun for us here at home. . , .Please advise me, I need some straight talk from someone like you, WORRIED WIFE" YOUR, CHANCE o Jealousy between wives and * business girls has existed ever o since girls began to earn their ° own living, and it will con- * tinue so long as wives envy ° girls their pretty clothes and ° their "freedom," and suspect ° their husbands of philander- * ing. Yet where is the wife who ° hasn't the first chance to keep * her man contented at home? o As you say, it isn't difficult ° for a clever woman to flatter ° a man. I wonder whether you ° have applied this psychology„ ° to your husband? If he is the o Iife of the party, it is because * he enjoys the applause of the * crowd. Why don't you supply * applause at home? o Why not take time out to * flatter the man yourself? ° Build him up as the lord of * his manor. Don't let a day ° pass that you do not say (or * imply) how proud you are of * him, how the children loots ° forward to his coming home? * Dwell on his attractive man- * Hers, his appearance, and ° show him that you are still ° attractive, too. instead of de- * crying your lack of money, * take 20 minutes out to freshen * up for his arrival, put on a * welcoming smile, and make ' him glad he married you. ° You will object you haven't time for such nonsense, but ° with a Iittle planning you can ' lighten his mood and set the ' tone of the evening ahead. Favorite Cape * The fact that your husband * speaks of the fun they have * in the office indicates, to my * mind, how lightly he takes it. * If he were on the lookout for * a flirtation, he would avoid * the subject, not reveal it. In- * stead of doubting him, be a ° trusting' wife; your best se- * curity is to take it for granted * he is entirely loyal. Many a * suspicious wife has sent her * man to extra -marital affairs * by sowing the seeds in his '' mind, * Caring for small children ° and a house is an exhausting ° and often a dull job. But it * is part of a wife's responsi- * bility to create the atmos- * phere of the home: if you will * keep yours pleasant, even gay, * you will find your husband * more the man who courted * you. I -don't know of any attl- * tude that brings richer awards. * Chin up; You can do it. * * A MEAN MAN "Dear Anne Hirst: My husband draws a veteran's disability compensation, but he is making one awful mistake, He doesn't know what he owes our five children. As each one reaches high school he nags them into getting a job, and three of them have already left home. I am desolated. "I can't do anything with him. He won't give me money or anything beyond barest needs. I never can go anywhere, and one of my youngsters has never seen a movie! My 16 -Year-old has just left for service, my youngest is six. "What can I do? MRS. F.11." * Your husband is a short- * sighted man to deny his chit- * dren the education that would ° fit them to hold profitable po- * sitions later on. To snatch * them out of grammar school * and force them to go to work * is cheating them out of the * fuller life that most parents * want to provide, * Perhaps you could not prove * that he does support his fam- * ily, but there are other essen- * tials to decent living than shel- * ter and food. HIs failure to * provide those has driven some * of your children away from * home. I know how you dread ° the future of the younger ones. ° Consult the legal authorities * and tell them your story. It * is likely that one of their staff * can explain to your husband * his responsibilities toward his * children. Since his income is * adequate, you say, there seems * no excuse to deprive the * youngsters of their rights, and * make your life happier. 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Send 25 cents for your copy .of this .book today! SHADi( LADY — Well protected against the windand the sun, thl* masked miss pauses during work at an air base at Tainan, Formosa. Formosan girls be- lieve that a lighter complexion givens them a better chance far marriage, THE CAMERA WORKED .- Caught in a dramatic close-up et the United Nations, N.Y., is Soviet Foreign Secretary Andre Gromyko. He asked the photographer if his camera was in good working order. When told yes, he said, "Well, then, you should give It a rest." rim,,.,. ',/s-xes, . 6ver.dolir.e P. Cle,rl .e Along the back of the vege table garden we have a row of huge sunflowers. From some stalks the golden heads are al- most touching the ground be- cause of their great weight. But that doesn't hinder the birds at all. Bluejays at this moment are clinging upsidedown to the heads in their determination to get at the succulent seeds. We don't mind; that's why we grew the sunflowers, just to attract the birds, Flowers and birds are both cheery to look at. Here come three more bluejays, Lovely birds in spite of their unlovely cry. We have seen quite a lot of robins lately too. I wonder why? Ah, here comes a yellow -bellied sap -sucker and, I thin]:, a kill- deer, all pecking away and fight- ing for position at the same six or seven sunflowers, the only ones on which the seed is ripe. The starlings don't seen to be interested. And do you know, we hardly have any sparrows here at all. Canaries, orioles, cedar waxwings and the birds previously mentioned, but very few sparrows. At the farm they were flitting around by the hun- dreds. I can't say we regret their absence. I like the song sparrow, chipping sparrow and the little white -throated birds, but house sparrows , . . the only time I am glad to see them isin win- ter, their persistent chirping fol- lowing a sudden thaw is always welcome. Well, this has been more or less a week of "catching up" — catching up on a little rest, a few letters, a bit of visiting, Partner mowing the lawn and the usual household chores that go to make our days what they are. On the farm we never knew what it was to be bored — and we don't yet. We keep busy in. much the same way but to a lesser degree, As you have prob- ably guessed when we get a lit - tie homesick for farm life we pay a visit to one or other of our friends who still live on a farm. There Partner is always ready to pitch in and help with whatever work is in progress. For that reason he always throws a pair of overalls and high rub- ber boots into the back of the car. No sense in wanting to help with the work unless you're equipped for the job. Well, the scene has changed a bit — or maybe I should say its. scope has widened. Back of the birds and the sunflowers an earthmover is at work, digging a basement for yet another gas station along the Dundas High- way. It is a two -acre parcel of land running back to the border- line of our property. When we first came it was the site of a lovely house and a beautiful garden. The owners sold out to an oil company, so the pres- ent activity is the natural result. We regretted the demolition of the house and garden but since they are gone we now find it fun to watch present proceed- ings, In fact there IS plenty go - frig on all around us, North and south gas mains are being in- stalled; a little to the west water pipes for the village of Ermdale are being laid. And none too soon. So many wells went dry this summer. People had to get their water from a spring a mile away. No doubt scarcity of wa- ter has previously frightened away any would-be industries that might have wanted to settle here. Now, with water installa- tion in the near future practi- cally a certainty, I am wonder- ing what will happen next. Will picti(.,esque little Erindale dis- appear as such, as so many other villages have done before it? Already the Woodlands subdi- vision has replaced the lovely stand of birch, maple and Oak that had been there for years. True, trees have been left stand- ing here and there wherever possible but there Isn't much room for trees when houses are built close together. To the east of us — that is between here and Cooksville, a large chain store is to . be built. Near the neW hospital plans are underway for the construction of a Medical Centre. And so it goes — development everywhere, On our quiet little crescent, and the next road over, there are a number of vacant lots. We won- der how long before contractors move in and build still more houses. It can't be too soon. Houses and gardens are better than weed -infested vacant lots. Sometimes we wonder why weed inspectors are ever appointed. Township weed inspectors visit almost every occupied farm, in- sisting that weeds be cut a or sprayed. But let a farm be sold —to a speculator or to the De- partment of Highways and what happens? Fields are left idle; weeds grow and seed—seed that is carried by wind, weather and birds to cultivated areas, Surely the Department of Agriculture could bring pressure to bear in the right quarters to make land- owners responsible for keeping their properties free of noxious weeds. If they go scot free why harass the farmer for the weeds he has been unable to control, No farmer likes weeds on his land but there is a limit to what he can do, especially with help that is often incompetent. Sauce for the goose should be sauce for the gander too. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. When a man is invited to be the guest of a woman at a ban- quet or similar affair, is it proper for him to bring her a corsage? A. Only if the affair is to be a formal one, and he knows she is wearing an evening dress. Q. When attaching a. card to a wedding gift, is it necessary to write the .bride's name on the envelope? A, Although It is not neces- sary, it is all right to do so. Obey the traffic signs — they are placed there for YOUR F Reit] Lfe---NOT TV Cr Moves "One of us," Link Williams had said, "will go out feet First. Is The two men met face to face under a hot sun on a dusty road in eastern Oregon's Pox Valley, a cattle land of stunted juniper and sagebrush with the Blue Mountains above it, Link Wil- liams, a tall, lean 47, carried a rifle and two six-shooters. The other man was his brother-in- law, Bobby Sproul, a short, rug- ged 44. Sproul carried a rifle. trio, and a Luger. It was 9 o'clock in the morning—otherwise the grim scene could have come straight out of "High Noon." Behind that morning's meet- ing lay a family feud that had smoldered for about fifteen years, Williams and Sproul had re- quired their adjoining ranches from Link's father, Link's 3,000 acres were somewhat smaller than Bobby's acreage and par- tially surrounded by it. Link re- sented that. Link, a bachelor, had served in World War II, and Bobby, married. to .Link's sister, had not, Link resented that, too. He called Bobby "yellow." Bob- by resented that. What brought matters to a head between them was the ques- tion of Cummings Creek Road, a dirt' track that ran across Link's 'property but connected parts of Bobby's holdings. It was convenient for Bobby to use it. Link said he couldn't. To make his point clear, he threw a bar- rier of boulders and logs across the road, a short way from the fence 'that divided their ranches. That was last June. A few days later, the two men happened to encounter each other. "Link," said Bobby, "I'm coming in there next Saturday and clear off those rocks." "If you do," said Link, "be there with a Winchester." And that was when he added:"One of us will go out feet first." One did. On Saturday morning, June 21, Link was waiting at the bar- ricade. With him was a brother, Dolly Williams, who had come along hoping to smooth things over, Dolly looked at Link's rifle and at the two pistols tucked into his belt. What,, he asked, was Link going to do? "When Bobby Sproul comes through that gate," said Link, "I'll show you." Bobby Sproul drove up in his car from his own side. He got out with the Luger in a holster dangling around his neck. The holster was cut away at both ends so he could shoot without drawing. When he saw Link's rifle pointed at him, he reached back into the car and brought out a rifle of his own. Then he walked through the gate. Link kept his rifle raised as Bobby walked steadily toward him. Bobby's rifle was lowered. As the two men drew close to- gether, Dolly Williams endeav- ored to get them into conversa- tion. The conversation was short. Bobby said he was going to clear the road. "If you do," said Link, "I'll kill you." He moved toward Bobby, rifle levelled. Bobby slowly hacked away. What happened next never did become completely clear. Bobby claimed afterward that he saw "a wild animal look" in Link's face and felt something. Whatever, Bobby ducked side- ways, dropped his rifle, and started firing the Luger at his brother-in-law. Eight bullets went into Link's body. One knocked the rifle from Link's hand, But he didn't fall imme- diately. He tried to reach down for one of his pistols that had dropped into the dust. Bobby kicked it into the weeds. Link pitched forward, dead. Bobby Sproul was put on trial for first-degree murder, last month, in the marble -trimmed Grant County Courthouse, one of the few modern buildings in the onetime gold -rush boom town of Canyon City. Bobby claimed self-defense, that he fired only after being fired at. The state claimed that it had been a duel, that self-defense was not . involved. During the trial evidence was brought out that showed one shot had been fired from Link's rifle, but whether he shot first, no one could tell. The jury deliberated for less than two hours Its unanimous first -ballot verdict: Not guilty. The first to rush to Sproul's arms was his wife, Violet, the sister of the man he had killed. Other sisters followed with their embraces, Even Dolly Williams, who had testified for the state, - threw an arm around Sproul's shoulders and remarked to Vio- let: "Yon got hobbles on him, so he can't kick up his heels?" After that, Bobby Sproul was back on his ranch with "a lot of chores to do" after three months in jail. On the Williams property, the stone barricade still stood. Sproul had no im- mediate plans for its removal— he would have a new owner to deal with: The ranch on which Link Williams had led His lonely, embittered life, and where he met his death, is up for auction next month. Woman trying on mink coat to sales girl: "If my husband doesn't like it, will you promise to refuse to take it back?" Jumper -Dress PRINTED PATTERN Jumper with companion blouse — or figure -flattering dress! You'll love the versatility of this PRINTED Pattern. Note its smart double-breasted effect; easy - fitting 6 -gore skirt. Printed Pattern 4346: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 jumper 2% yards 54 -inch nap; blouse 1?s yards 39 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (50e) (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly the SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS and STYLE NUMBER, Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 42 — 190 CHECKING VIOLATIONS — A new "pay as you go" form for parking violators, complete with "courtesy check" attached, .s examined by, St, Louis Police Sgt. John Bauer. The violator fills in the name of his bank, mails the check for $2,and saves himself a trip to the police station.