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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-08-21, Page 6ANNE HI MAST "Dear. Anne Hirst: I" married a widower: seven years ago, and though, he •is 21 years older 1 am still very much in love. The only drawback to our harmony is this: "His three children are all settled now, and every one of them is sweet to me and visits us often, except one son. He and his wife politely ask us to call, but every time they are invited here they have en excuse. This distresses me,. and I am uncertain. how to take it, "Shall I keep on seeing them, or stay away? My husband is very considerate, and tells me to do as I please, My friends all advise me not to go there again. What do you say? Marian." Keep Trying * I think you should continue * to visit this son whether he * and his wife return your calls * or not, As his father's wife, * it is your duty to set the ex- * ample of courtesy, and treat all * the children alike. Your bus- * band, I expect, loves them * equally, and though he is fair * enough to leave the decision * to you I am sure he would be * disappointed if you did not ac- * company him on his visits. It * would mean he would go les * often, and I know -you would * not want to be responsible for * that. * Whatever their reasons to * decline your invitations,. show * yourself gracious enough to * overlook their rudeness. When * you do go, use all your eharm * to make them like you. Be * particularly cordial to the * wife; ask her to lunch and * matinee occasionally, and try * your best to wig her as a * friend. Whether you succeed or * not, you will have done your * part to maintain the family * harmony and your husband * will appreciate it. * If you have not invited all * the children to family dinners * since you married, try tae * idea. Should the son decline, * don't let it get you down. * Again, you have tried. * The advice your friends gave * is neither wise nor kind. Out * of your own happiness you can # afford to be generous. Young * as you are, it is a fine tribute y that the other children are so * friendly. Console yourself with !I' that, and be grateful. * *• Two -Timing Beau "Dear Anne Hirst: Over two years ago I met !hie boy, and I've been in love ever Star In Crochet £,V1 Place a star on your table! it's lacy pineapple and shell -stitch .design is an effective background for flowers, fruit. Elegant centerpiece or rV cover. Pattern 619: crochet di- rections for 211/2 -inch doily in No. 30 cotton and a smaller doily. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS, tstanmps cannot be accepted, use postal note'' for safety) tor this ;pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St„ New To - :ionto, Ont: Print. plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME end ADDRI9BS. 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There is no * substitute for honesty * Tell him you are sorry, but * you can't go with a boy you * cannot believe in. i * * When a girl marries a widower, it is her duty to use grace and tact in dealing with his children. It may take all the insight and finesse she can command, but the resulting harmony is worth it. In any time of indecision, consult Anne Hirst, addressing her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. Foul Habit "Blasphemy," Inez Robb com- plained in her syndicated United Features column, "has become a part of the American way - .. We Americans curse as casually as we breathe." Citing some prolantity she had heard the day befc.J both from a New York taxi driver and from the guests at a fashionable party, columnist Robb indignant- ly added: "Blasphemy is a foul habit that degrades us and re - fleets on our country. We ought to take the pledge and cut it cut." Mrs. Robb writes from .the vantage point of a skilled and sensitive reporter who has pounded enough beats to know bad language when she hears it. In 3;1 years as a newswoman, she has covered everything from high society (as society editor of The New York Daily News) to World War II (as a correspond- ent in Africa and Europe for the International News Service). She considers her anti -swearing cru- sade even more important than her previous campaigns against gum -chewing and women wear- ing slacks. "I have a terrible Irish tem- per," she said, "but I have never cursed anyone." Could Mrs. Robb think of any .circumstances that might allow blasphemy? "I can think of one situation," she said, "in which swearing was appropriate. It was when Cordell Hull cursed out those two Jap- anese envoys. It takes a Pearl Harbor to justify swearing." —From Newsweek. Modern Etiquette * . by Roberta Lee Q. Is it proper to address the envelope of a letter to a person without using the titles, "Mr., Mrs., or Miss"? A. Never. Q. Is it a matter of etiquette for a new father to give out cigars and candy to his friends? A. There are no rules of eti- quette regarding this. It's just an old widespread Canadian cus- tom. Q. Some of my girl friends, who have become engaged re- cently, have given their fiances engagement presents. Is this a new custom - and proper? A. This is neither a new cus- tom nor necessary. Of course, there is nothing improper about it, if the girl wishes to do so. Q. Is it proper for a girl to light a man's cigarette for him? A. Yes, if she has just lighted her own and her match is still burning or her lighter is avail- able. Otherwise, he should al- ways light his own, Q. Is it proper, when setting the dinner table, to put the but. ,. ter on one plate and pass it around, or to put it on indivi- dual bread-and-butter plates? A. This is more a, question of conveniencethan propriety. Us- ually, it is more convenient to serve the butter on individual plates than to have your guests • pass it around. Q. During a recent bereave- ment, we received flowers with a card reading, "Sympathy from your neighbors." Hoyt, can we acknowledge this? A. You can ask one of your neighbors who contributed, then thank each one individually for his thoughtfulness. SELF-PORTRAIT Displaying her artistic style, Princess Dorothy de Poliolo sits before two of her paintings in Rome, .Italy. Princess Dorothy, 19, who was born in Chicago; calls her style "surrealistic -mediumistic." She uses herself as a model, with the aid of a mirror. ONICLLN k' ERFARYI t-►mmd.olitze P. Claxlt,e Rain saved our garden. Yes, In spite of rabbits and the pre- vious dry spell we now have quite a good garden. Not awful- ly big but sufficiently prolific to keep our three families sup- , plied and a few of our neigh- bours too. We don't usually- have much luck with green peas but this year we have had plenty. The flower graden, too, is much better than I ever,. thought it would be. Lots of bloom but un- fortunately bare spots here and there where plants succumbed to the drought or were tramped downby dogs and cats. We have had our share of aphids and other insects. Not knowing what would get where I made an al- most daily habit of examining the small leaves and shoots on shrubs and trees. At different times I found buggy thingson the Honeylocust; green lice on the flowering crab'and ahpids on the rambler rose. They all got the same treatment, including the nasturtiums — spray from a can that is equally good for des- troying insects inside or out. If done at the right time one spraying on growing things seems sufficient. Our experience with cherries was not so good. Neighbours away on a trip to Europe told ns to help ourselves to their garden fruit. There are four cherry trees, old but quite pro- ductive. The fruit was ready for picking. Last Tuesday we got six baskets.. - that is. Dee. Art and Johnny. Wednesday I went back and got one basket for ourselves. Joy intended com- ing for a picking but it got hot so she didntt bother. Saturday 1 went over for raspberries, and do you know,. 1 couldn't be- lieve my eyes. There wasn't a cherry left! Nothing on the trees but leaves and cherry nits. Birds are far better pickers than people. And of course with no one in the house and no close- by neighbours, the robins: star- lings, and even crows, were un- molested. I know, becauseon my last picking, at least twenty birds, including two (.rows. Pew up from the trees when I first approached. There are about four acres of rough, scrubby land on this property with a good cropof poison ivy Our friends were trying to do a clean-up ioh this spring and Mrs. . . got a ter- rible dose of poison ,ivv through pulling at the roots. She had to go to a skin specialist and the infection almost caused eancel- Iation of their trip to Europe, What the treatment was I .don't know but the' doctor' got it clear- ed up in four or five weeks so they got away after all. Since then.I have come across a sug- gestien for killing 'Olson ivy recommended' by the Depart- ment of Agriculture. I pass the information along for those who may be interested. "A new chemical called A.T.A.'(Amino Triazole) is now considered the most effectivemeans of ;destroy- ing poison ivy. This chemical, applied when the plants are in full leaf at the rate of 4 table - spoons to a gallon of water, gives satisfactory results. When treating small areas an ordin- ary knap-sack sprayer may be used to thoroughly wet the plants with the solution." Partner is thrpugh haying for awhile so last Friday we took time off and went to Horning's `• Mills for the day. It was quite a trip. For a ten -mile stretch be- tween Caledon and Orangeville, road work was in progress with all the usual heavy road ma- chinery. We didn't get much chance to admire the scenery on that trip. But where can you get away from construction work? It is the same story on Highway 25, and again on the Dundee. All very inconvenient but very necessary and the roads will be just grand when they are finished. In the meantime there are always alternate roads to find and explore. Well, here is one for the hook, To native-born Canadians it won't mean anything — as yet - but it will frighten Old Coun- try -folk who are fond of gar- dening. This information comes to me from„ an English -born friend living in Kincardine: She end her husband have a lovely garden. Imagine her amazement about two years ago to find a family of "earwigs." What are earwigs? Well, I'll tell you. The common earwig is a nasty little brownish insect, in appearance something between a large ant and a grasshopper, with six legs, a pair of antennas and tiny, for- ceps at the end of its body Ear- wigs can secrete themselves in any cavity to the very centre of flowers, fruits and vegetables, on which they live. They are most destructive insects and are found all over Europe. Mexico, Central America and Australia. They eongreaate under bark of trees, especially in woodpiles. Earwigs got their name be- cause they have been known to burrow into the human ear of persons sleeving in the open. But they are chiefly dreaded because of their destructive habits in gardens and orchards. So, if you meet any unknown insects of this type get busy with insecticide. This is the first time I have heard of their being in Canada. If they have really taken up residence here then we've got to get rid of them.. We have enough native insects as it is; we certainly don't want to encourage imported varieties. Faults Women -Find Hardest . To Dear Writing recently in a medical journal, a British doctor listed, meanness, childishness and jeal- ousy as the faults a woman finds hardest to bear in her spouse But the ways in which a man can irritate a wife or even a girl friend are legion. An American woman, whose home •is in Michigan, won a di- vorce recently because her hus- band slept at meals. He wolfed down his food and, beittre sne had finished herself, pushed his plate on. one side, then down went his head on ,the tablecloth and" in a few seconds he we%. dozing peacefully, even snoring. What really annoyed a resi- dent of Chicago was her' bus - band's mania for watching tele- vision for every moment of the time he spent at home. He al- ways turned on the set the in- stant he entered the house and would never switch off. The thing so grated her nerves that she took her complaint to court. The judge, sympathizing with her, sentenced her husband to stay away from h.rme for 30 days. In' that period," he calcu- lated, the much harassed wife could enjoy some real respite from TV! Strange though the cause o! friction may be, some men, not always the younger sort, become utterly desperate after a broken engagement or tiff with their lady love and -sometimes resort to violent action. Such measures are never justified, whichever way you look at them Too often they end in tragedy. A young apprentice draughts- man in Adelaide became en- gaged to a pretty young shop girl, Odette. She worked at a big store which sold firearms. Nine days ' after their engage- ment fell through, he appeared on the customer's side of her counter and asked her to help him to select a weapon. Alarmed, rhe refused. "Whatever do you want a gun for? Don't be so silly," she said. But, his mind resolved, he went to another assistant, was given a selection of weapons,. andchose a gun. Then he re- appeared before Odette's counter and, to her horror, raised the rifle and pointed the muzzle at his own chest so that it wavered over the area of his heart. Then, looking at her with faraway," lovelorn eyes, he pulled the trigger. As Odette screamed shrilly, he pitched to the floor. Everyone in the shop rushed tc give help, After receiving first-aid, he was driven to hospital. Luckily for him, his aim had been bad. The SEAT WRIGGLED TO LIFE To say that Kusumbu, a Swa- hili hunter, was the most shock- ed man in all Africa recently, is a masterpiece of understatement. Tired after a long day's hike through. the Rhodesian.. bush, Kusumbu sat down fora rest on what he took to be a stone. Sud- denly the "stone" wriggled un- der him and up popped the head of a 15 -ft. python. It was sev- eral yards away before, the Afri can's feet touched ground again, but luckily the snake was just. as startled by the Swahili's yell and hurriedly slithered away. 'Why, oh why, does nobody talfe the trouble to cover me up?„ bullet penetrate`it nothing vital and he was soon discharged. But, having proved his readi- ness to kill himself because of broken ' heart, was he now to regain the object of his affec- tions? No. His wild demonstra- tion of childishness merely filled Odette withgreater misgiving, She was more than ever de- termined;not to marry him. This shooting gambit can also work the otherway, as a 28 - year -old Itailian farmer, Raffaele il'Alessandro, learned to his mor- tal cost. Four, years ago he gave his fiancee, Maria, a revolver with the words, "If 1 ever break my promise to marry you, shoot me." A short time ago he called on' her, and in a voles: trembling with apologies, said, "I'm sorry, I cannot marry you '• An hour later he was found aead Maria is now charged: with his murder. • Q. How can 1 overcome the difficulty of threading the sew- ing machine needle? A. 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WANTS JUSTICE Wearing a 10 -pound .padlock chain around her neck, Angeline Cliett, 19, of Wafter, Tex., yawns and rubs her feet after a long day at, the U.S. Capitol: She tried un- successfully to see .President ,Eisenhower in an attempt to win back ownership of half of her mother's 703 -acre ranch. Miss Cliett mailed the padlock key to the President and vowed not to remove the chain "until 1 get justice."