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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-08-14, Page 6ANN€ HOST "Dear Anne 'Hirai: We all know the adage that the only perfect man is a woman's first husband. I never thought it. could happen to me! Six. years $tg'b, at 52, I married a woman ne: years younger. For the first env we were so happy that I owlishly dreamed it was a per- Aot marriage. But in the past ve years I have almost lost my health (and part of my income) and ever since she has had to spend some of her own money (she has plenty) my wife has plagued me with stories about her first husband. How wonder- ful he, was, how much more he did for her than I can, etc. It is getting me down. "I know I've disappointed her. Though I have some investments and plenty of insurance, I can- not provide for her as I had expected. I feel I am a burden, and had better get out. I'm sure she doesn't love me at all now, but I still care for her; perhaps I'm just sorry for her because she is making us both so un- happy. "Do you think I should divorce her? Or what? I am very de- pressed and uncertain. MISERABLE" DESPERATE MAN e During these years when you .' most need security and domes- ,* tie peace, you are depressed * by ill health and the knowl- edge that as a provider • you are inadequate. You have be- e come the victim of a nagging * woman who descends to a cruel trick to keep you under her •thumb. You live in tur- moil, and I am not surprised e that you want to walk out. 1' Divorce is, naturally, your ie first thought; but divorce is not easy to obtain, and costly * besides. A reliable lawyer can * advise you whether you have * grounds. * What of your wife? Would * she rather you leave, or stay? * She is disappointed s n h e r * marriage; she thought she 9wouid be taken care of for the 9 rest of her life. Instead, she * must spend part of her own * income, and she resents it. She * m a y be deliberately driving # you to desperation so you 4 will go; on the other hand, she * may be one of those women * who finds satisfaction in be- ' rating you, and would be even more unhappy living alone. t' When you feel up to it, aak * her; say that hes continuous 9' taunting is making you so miss- * erable you would be glad to * leave. I think she will tell the truth. From all you write. It !' does seem she has little af- Inspiring Picture 757 'zee' ty ,c4u :dw�r, Embroider this beautiful pic- ture for your own hone—or for ac thoughtful gift—inspiring. A picture to be cherished. Pat- tern 757: transfer directions for picture, 11x19 inches; color sug- gestions. Done in simple stitch- ery that Groes quickly. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use. postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1. 123 E!ghteenth Street, New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, and your NAME and ADDRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns :.re printed right in our LAURA WHEELER Needlecraft Book, D tens of other designs yrou'll w: tit to order—easy fax rinatlnr handwork for yourself, your e- me, gifts, bazaar items. ,Semi 25 cents for your copy. of this ''ook today! fection for you; yet one would * think that, remembering your * first year together, she could '9' find, some tenderness in her * heart for a sick man who has * done the best he could. * Wouldn't you have 'a better * life with a congenial family? * You have some income left, * and that might be arranged. * Put her to the test, though; * settle the future, and end this * wearing anxiety. * * * BEREFT MOTHER GRIEVES "Dear Anne Hirst: I am a mo- ther whose son was killed acci- dentally .while serving in Ger- many. It happened sever a.1 months ago, and I still cannot believe it is true: "He was one of two boys, and both had been such a comfort to me. The other one, praise the Lord, is safely home. "I have tried to show some interest in people and in ideas, hut there is still that dread- ful emptiness to live .with. I cannot find any routine that helps. Can you? LONESOME" Why don't' you visit the r nearest Red Cross center and * see where they can use you? * Or a veterans' hospital? e Sick boys need companion- * ship, and there are many ways * to give it. Talk with your * minister, too; perhaps boys * from your own church are hos- * pitalized and would doltbly * appreciate your attention, * There is no solace like that * which comes from helping * others. Clieer•ing up some * other mother's son will comfort * you more than you think — e and rejoice that your other * boy is home again. You are * more fortunate than some mo- * thers I know. * * * Marriage is for better or for worse. If 'you are disappointed in your husband, remember your vows and try to keep them. Then whatever happens, you need not reproach yourself . . In time of indecision, write to Anne Hirst at Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth Si., New Toronto, Ont. Haunted By A Persistent Dream Some people are haunted by persistent dreams all through. their Iives. These dreams are sometimes pleasant, sometimes extremely eerie. One distinguished man troub- led by a persistent dream is Pro- fessor Frank Debenham who, as a geologist, accompanied Captain Scott on his last fatal expedition to the South Pole. Consistently, throughout the intervening forty-six years, the Professor has continued to en- counter Scott and his compan- ions in his dreams, not as vic- tims of the relentless icefields, but as still -living characters. It seems, from his vivid recollec- tions of these dream encounters, that he bumps into Dr, Wilson • and Captain Oates in Piccadilly Circus! The encounter, though so often experienced, is inevitably an eerie one. For the Professor al- ways seems to be saying, "I thought you were dead," as he faces his old companions again. But they deny they are dead. Perhaps one reason for these extraordinary dreams lies in the belief that the Professor and everyone else taking part in the Expedition thought that Scott was invincible; nothing seemed strong enough to daunt or destroy such a man. ISSUE, 31 — 1958 WITCH'S SPECIAL A sour - faced, oddly dressed woman was poking among the brooms at a hardware store when a salesman asked if he could help her. "Nothing here is worth buy- ing," she snapped. "Flimsy, cheap straw,poor handle, shoddy material," Seizing the zroom in question she shook it under his nose and said angrily: Not like the brooms they used to make. Give the floor a good sweep and they'd fall apart. What's it good for?" "Well," said the salesman, after a pause, "you will find that it flies wonaerfully." SALLY'S SALLIES "My darling's not worried,' Mother. He just put all its money iu my came," ALTHEA WINS SECOND. STRAIGHT — Althea Gibson of New York's Harlem, holds the Wimbledon trophy she won by defeat- ing Britain's Angela Mortimer, 8-6, 6-2. Miss Gibson thus re- peated her victory in the famous British tournament last year, ewer.d.oltne P. C1.8„ ke How different fields and gar- dens look now from what they did a week ago — all because we had a good soaking rain and some real warm weather. Re- member those days — 90 in the shade and plenty of humidity with it. Just what growing things needed. But not what I needed. Anyone who wants it can have my share of hot weather. Part- ner was away haying all the' week and didn't feel the heat as long as he was out in the open. He has cut over fifty . acres of hay and was really happy doing it. All the goy of farming but little of its responsibility. Of course there ware a few aching muscles but a good night's rest found him ready for work next day. Saturdays he stays home to get his. own work done. An acre of lawn can't be left to look af- ter !tself Unfortunately he has a lazy wife — insofar as lawn mowing is concerned. I used to push the old hand mower around but these power mowers scare me to death. One type runs away with you, the other type means work. Guess I'll stay with any knitting, which, at the moment, happens to be a cardigan sweat- er for Partner. I started it just over two weeks ago and I hope to finish it tonight. I am glad I got down to knit- ting again because often, at the end of the summer, I feel I have wasted so much spare time. Dur- ing the summer, no matter how hot the weather, you naturally get done what you have to do but, unless you have an objec- tive, or some kind of pick-up work, scare time is liable to get wasted. Who was it said—"Show me what a person does with his spare time and I'I1 tell you what kind of a person he is." Might be as well to remember it especially with Christmas less than six months away. Perhaps if we make up our minds to it we could put our present spare time to good advantage and thus help to lessen that ma-' rush we all seem to get into during the month of December. Here's hop- ing I can practice what I preach! There was quite a lot of ex- citement around here a few nights ago. We were listening to the late news when over and above the sound of the TV came a loud explosion. Then fire sirens started screaming and cars rush- ed along the road to the scene of the fire. From our porch we could see flames leaping high into the air in the Port Credit area. Later we heard the explo- sion was at one of the oil refin- eries. We expected there would be other explosions but fortun- ately the fire was prevented from spreading. Next morning we had a man here fixing a screen door. "I suppose you saw and heard the fire last night?" I remarked. "No," he answered, "I didn't know a thing about it until 1 got to work this morning." I looked at him incredulously —"But didn't you say you lived in Port' Credit?" "Yes, but it take's more 'than a fire to wake me once I get to sleep," Ye gods, imagine being able to sleep like that! Well, I mustn't forget one very nice thing that happened last week. Several readers of this column came to calla .. and how pleased I was to see them, They were strangers to me but appar- ently through this column they felt I was not a stranger to them. That is what I like to hear. I like to know that people realise that in many ways we share the same problems: We all experi- ence ups and downs, some in one way, some in another. Most of us know the joy of living and being loved. We raise our fami- lies and they in turn have fam- ilies of their own. Yet, however much families increase, directly or indirectly, there is always enough love for them all. Most of us, too, experience sorrow by the loss of one or more of those who have shared our lives. Late or soon it is as inevitable as the sparks fly up- ward. There is shack, and then adjustment as we remember how our lives have been enriched by knowing and loving, if only for a brief period in time, those whom we have lost. If it canbe said that those we have loved are ever lost. I hardly think it. We have so many memories to carry along with us, and, as the years go by, it is usually only the happy memories that sur- vive. So, when I occasionally nieet readers of this column, those are the things I find we share in common. Those, and some of the things that belong to the lighter side of life. The funny things that often happen on a farm; the places and people we have both known; the eats, dogs and horses we have loved and lost- and those that still survive. Like Ditto. She came and made her - sell known to our visitors but they didn't need to be introduced , they knew all about her and the wild drive I had when I took her to the "vet." It is really awfully- easy to get acquainted with people — that is if both parties are ready to go the second mile. Many in- terests create a common bond. AU we need is sympathy, under- standing and an awareness of e11 that goes on around us "The Colonel's lady and Judy O'Grady are sisters under their skin," Laughter To Order Who laughs more — men or women? The 'men win. They make and listen to more jokes than women. Women :usually prefer to smile. Some rarely in- dulge in hearty laughter because they say it encourages wrinkles. And 'wrinkles, as every woman knows, are not a laughing mat- ter. Some folk can't laugh, Years ago there was great rivalry be- tween a group of comedians ap- pearing at a famous theatre on Broadway, New York. The pro- prietor cashed in on their popu- larity by exhibiting on the stage at every performance an earn- . tive woman nicknamed "Sober Sue," offering $1000 to anyone who could make her laugh just once. Bachcomedian accepted the challenge, confident that his wisecracks would make her shake with laughter. But "Sober Sue" never even smiled. She re- mained as solemn as an owl, for fourteen weeks. Only 'after she had left, hav- ing awing appeared before record houses, was the truth revealed. "Sober Sue" was physically in- capable of laughter. Her facial muscles had been paralysed for twenty years. Eight years ago, an elderly man was arrested for laughing too loudly in a Los Angeles cafe, where he was said, to have dis- •turbed the peace. His laugh was described in evidence as being "somewhere between a howl like that of a hyena and the braying of a jack- ass," but a judge finally ruled that laughter was not a public offence and dismissed 'the case. One of the mightiest laughs on. record was heard in Britain dur- ing the Handel Festival of 1859' when, in honour of Queen Vic- toria, who was present, the audi- ence joined with the chorus in singing the National Anthem. The conductor wanted to in- troduce this by a roll on the big drum and, failing to make the drummer hear what he said, tried to convey the message by imitating the roll with his voice, at the same time beating an imaginary drum with his baton. "This so amused the chorus and orchestra," said a man who was present, "that they all roar- ed with laughter.. And the sight and sound of 5,000 people laugh- ing so tickled the 27,000 in the audience that they also began laughing. "I had never heard 32,000 peo- ple laugh simultaneously before, It was a kind of chaotic shriek, not human in the least, but worth hearing for once." Q. If 'a man is sitting down ht some public place and a strange woman stops and addresses a question to bins, is it necessary for him to else? A. If he wishes to show any degree of good manners, he will rise. Weeks Sew -thrifty_ PRINTED PATTERN 1.5 4 4620 SIZES T4-48 Y l f Sew two pretty versions of this graceful dress. 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SMALL FRY SENTINELS—Trying to match their little strides to the precise pacing of o sr. ry, four unidentified chillren march before the Tomb of the Unknown Soldiers in Arlington Notional Cemetery. The tots ran off when the lensman tried to get their names.