The Seaforth News, 1958-08-07, Page 81 ANNE H!'IRSTJ
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"Dear Anne Hirst:,
I am a widow in my 40's. For
ten months I have been dating
a widower the same age. He
is a perfect gentleman, a'won-
derful father to his married
children, and everybody 'who
knows him respects him. But
though I love him deeply (and
he knows 'it) he has, never. said
in so many words that he cares
for me. He is always here when.
I want him, he takes me any-
where Yin in the mood to go,
and..I suppose I've been fooling
myself in thinking he returns
my affection.
"Now he thinks he is in love
with another woman. who has
moved here lately! I understand
he is even planning to marry. her
some time. I still see him but I
have no peace, fearing I may
really lose him.
"Shall I let him go? Or .keep
praying he will come to love me?
Maybe he does and doesn't know
it? STILL HOPING.
It is riot only teen-agers who
* show their cards too soon.
* Many a woman like you, lone-
* some and loving, offers her
* heart before she is sure it is
* welcome. Undoubtedly, the
* man has been taking you for
* granted; he found in your a
* sympathetic contemporary -al-
* ways ready to listen and un-
* derstand, and did not believe
* that your affection obligated
* him, Apparently you did not
* stir his emotions, either, only
* now and then he was grateful
* —but how empty is gratitude
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+ to a love -starved woman! f
do sympathize.
* If you have heard thathe
• intends i to marry this new
• friend, he has not been keep-
-- _ ing his plans.seeret. What can
* you do but ,let him go?
+ If, however, you do not date
* him again he may wonder why
* and (unless he has committed
* himself) he may suddenly
*',realize he misses you more
* than he dreamed; that you
* havebecome an essential part
* of his contentment.. You will .
* not be in doubt long.
* It is a chance, of course, but
* I think you will agree it is -
* more dignified' than continu-
* ing t0 receive a man to whom
* you are playing 'second fiddle.
* * *
"'Dear Anne Hirst:
I was married four months
ago, and; after a grand. honey-
moon I was completely happy.
But now my husband has lost
his position through drinking,
and he won't look for work—
"And I find I am pregnant,
"We are living with my
mother, who isvery kind to
him. But I am shocked and dis-
heartened (and physically miser-
able) and I don't know what to
do. TROUBLED.
You must indeed be sick
with apprehension. How your
man has let you down!
* Unless he is ill physically or
* mentally, he had better start
to be responsible. Your mo-
* ther is. tempted, I am sure,
* to suggest he go to his parents'
* home until he straightens him-
* self out in more ways than one.
+ When that happens, you two
* can start all over again, and
* I hope you will.
* This may seem harsh treat-
* ment for a brand new husband,
* but to me it seems that any
* other course is futile. I am so
* sorry! * * *
If a rival appears on the scene,
sometimes it is smart to with-
draw and leave the field to her.
Anne Hirst is a safe confidante
in such situations, and her sym-
pathy and wisdom can guide you
through. Write her at Box 1,
123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto,
Ontario.
Fallen Red Star
Edouard (Edik) Streltsov was
a Russian version of Frank Mer-
riwell. A handsome lad, he
didn't smoke, he didn't drink,
and his wizardry on the All-Star
soccer team made him a nation-
al idol.
The trouble began, said Kom
somolskaya Pravda, Moscow's
Communist youth -league news-
paper, when Edik's. "patrons"
became too enthusiastic. They
pampered the "amateur" athlete
with a fancy car and a new
apartment. They fed him vodka
and cigarettes, let him loaf on
his job, and infected him with
"the star disease."
The paper chonicled the "rev-
olting acts" in the rake's pro-
gress. He (1) repeatedly got
drunk, (2) beat up a factory
worker and a policeman, (3)
broke into a house and smashed
up the kitchen, (4) deserted his
wife and baby, (5) assaulted a
passer-by on the Moscow sub-
way, (6) raped a girl during a
party in his honor at a country
villa.
For most of these peccadilloes,
influential fans kept getting
Edik reprieved But the rape
was too much. Last month, Edik,
now 21, was off the All -Stars
and in jail. It happened just
before the June World Cup
matches in Stockholm, where
Russia lost out in the quarter.
finals.
Czechoslovakia's Communists
also were complaining about
"bourgeois attitudes" toward
sports, specifically "nationalistic
outbursts" in games with the
U.S.S.R. When a Czech hockey
player collided with. a Russian
in a game last spring, one paper
complained, the Czech derisively
made a sign of the cross over
the unconscious Russian.
'FRIDAY' TAKES A. BRIDE - Jack Webb, better known to TV
viewers as Sergeant Friday, and his bride, Jackie Loughery, a
former Miss U.S.A., smile happily at their wedding reception
n Hollywood. It was Webb's third marriage, and the second
for Miss Loughery.
Painting With Rags—
Mrs. Sue Rutledge can: really cut a rug. A retired nurse, whose
husband is a traveling freight agent for the Rock Island Railroad,
she turned to rug making as a pastime—and because- rugs were
the most badly needed item in the Rutledge home. A thorough-
going person, she enrolled in a•course^in making hand -hooked rugs,
before starting off on her own. - Mrs. Rutledge calls her, hobby
"painting with rags,"- for' the reason that she dyes all the wool
material that goes .into her rugs. The wool scraps she cuts into
very fine strips -3/32 of an inch—in order. -to get all the shadings
in. A peach, for instance; will have as many as 8 to 10 shades
of color. The strips are hooked in the pattern stamped burlap,
or monk's cloth material and the loops of wool are !mulled through
about 1/2 -inch high. All the loops must be even to give a needle--
point
eedle-point effect. Her rugs have been widely exhibited and all of them
have. won blue ribbons. '
Mrs. Rutledge with prize rug. Garland of fruits on ivory ground.
HItONICLES
1NGERPAIIM
6v¢+.W.oline D. Ctoak¢
Every day last week • Partner
was away from home working
at the haying ... workinghard
but enjoying it. Probably he
would have enjoyed it even more
had there beenmore hay to cut.
With so much dry weather the
hay was terribly short and of
poor quality. Hardly worth cut-
ting, really, yet it had to be
done, if for no other reason than
to get rid of the weeds and give
the second crop of hay a chance
to grow.
We had just one wet day last
week and of course that was the
very day I had arranged` to visit
a friend in Toronto. But I went
lust the same, Caught an early
bus and arrived in Forest Hill
before nine o'clock. Thanks to
the,subway. For my money that
subway is the grandest thing.
When the east -west line is con-
structed I; can't see why anyone
would want to drive to the city
at all.
Speaking of cars, it is a good
thing we have a mechanic in
the family. Here was I driving
around quite happily thinking
our car was in good running
order until one day when Bob
nad occasion to drive it. Almost
at once he said—"There's some-
thing wrong here—I think you
need a valve job. Haven't you
noticed it beingi a littlehard to
start?" True, I had, but I always
thought it was probably my fault,
that more than likely I had
flooded it. Anyway Bob took the•
car. down to Milton and at the
garage he found it needed not
one but four new valves. I
haven't had the bill yet!
I am telling you this because
t. think that if a person driving
a car knows little or nothing
about the mechanism of the thing
it is important that he—or more
especially she—should have a
service man who can be relied un
to check over the essential parts
every time the car is in the
garage for minor repairs. And
who is better qualified than a
dealer for whatever make of car
you happen to drive? That is
why Bob looked after the car for
me as he was able to take it to
the man who had serviced it
ever sinceit came off the as-
sembly line. The repair bill may
be costly but I look at it this.
way: A person cannot afford to
drive a car at all unless he,
she, can also afford to keep it
in good repair before it breaks
down on the road. Even that is
no guarantee against accidents
but it is at least a guard against
negligence.
Now let me tell you about that
unexpected view we had from
our bedroom window last week—
the window, incidentally, faces
the road. Well, first of all we
noticed a lot of extra activity at
the house across the way. All
the family carrying things and
running back and forth.from the
house to the garage — .after the -
car had been backed out on to
the driveway. It wasn't long be-
fore one of the children came
over and excitedly told us what
was going on, A Yugoslavian ,
celebration, no less. And their
way of celebrating was to have
a feast 'of barbecued lamb. Nut
just a leg of lamb but a whole
lam, as there were nineteen
coming for the feast
Stones were laid or, the garage
floor on which a charcoal fire
was soon burning hotly. Then
the 45 -pound lamb was tied and
skewered to an electric spit
which had been hired or borrow-
ed. The lamb was salted, and
spiced and basted every little
while with fat, Yugoslavian
smoked bacon' It took five and
a half . hours to barbecue the
lam. We were given a piece of
it next day and it was good.
Before the company arrived I
was invited over to watch the
proceedings, in which; of course,
I was naturally quite interested.
Highly spiced, oil -cooked food
is not generally to our liking. It
seems indigestible to us but most
people from central Europe and
the Balkan ,States seem to thrive
on it and manage to keep free
from stomach ulcers Anyway,
ike it or not, it itneresting to
sample the various dishes and
know something about their
native foods and drinks. • How-
ever, there are times when we
have to tread warily for fear of
giving offence. Native wines are
always on hand and are a nor-
mal part of their hospitality.
Refusal to take a drink is some-
times misunderstood. However,
now we have got to know each
other better wine is no longer
brought out every time. we step
inside a person's house` Not that
we have anything against their
wine or when they drink — it is
as much a native custom as tea
and coffee is to us. We just
happen to prefer our tea and
coffee, especially in the middle
of the day, and that's all there
is to it.
Well, summer has come at last
—88 degrees yesterday and 92
right now. Bob and family have
gone north. Dee and Art are very
much at home waiting for pos-
sible tenants for their upper
duplex. As for us we havedis-
covered how to keep the house .
reasonably cool and are quite
content to stay home and enjoy
it.
ISSUE 30 — 1958
Should Doctors
Use Hypnosis?
While the American Medical
Association's governing body
ctrl! officially frowns on the use
of hypnosis as an "entertainment
stunt," it agreed unanimously
,ast month that "general practi-
tioners, medical specialists, and
dentists might find hypnosis val-
uable 'as a therapeutic adjunct."
"Active participation in high-.
ievel research," it added,..''is..to
be encouraged."
This stand could be attributed
at least partly, to the work of
one man: Dr. Milton 3. Merrier
of . Beverly 'Bills, Calif„ an anes-
thesia specialist who for several
months has-been using hypnosis
to kill pain during surgery. Last
week Dr. Marmer described for
the first time the use of medical
nypnosis for major operations
inside the Heart. Such operations,
possible with the new heart-lung
machines which take over the
job of pumping blood while /the
heart is open, still have 'their
dangers: Because normal • circu-
lations is stopped, the patient
may suffer permanent brain da
mage. One way to prevent such
an emergency, Dr, Marmer the-
orized, is
he-orized,is to "awaken" a hypno-
tized patient while he is in a
heart-lung machine.
Dr. Marmer tried the tech-
nique on two teen-age patients,
both born with heart defects.
One was a 13 -year-old boy, who
under hypnosis was successfully
operated on with complete ab-
sence of pain." The second . pa-
tient, a 14 -year-old girl was
hypnotized .on the morning of
the operation, and was also given
a smallamount of an anesthetic
in the operating room. When she
was in the heart-lung machine,
Dr.' Marmer asked her to open
her eyes. "She did this imme-
diately," he related, "and then
she moved her head to indicate
that she could hear me." The
girl then slept through the rest
of the operation. "Is everything
OK?" she asked on awakening.
It was.
Hypnosis, Dr. Marmer con-
cluded is particular.y applicable
to children between the ages of
1 and 14, becaus e of their
"heightened powers of imagina-
tion."
Modern Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
Q. Are silver crumbscrapers.
still In good use?
A. Yes, if the tablecloth is of
plain damask. But they are not
too practical on lace or embroid-
ery. One may fold a napkin to
the thickness of a pot -holder for
this purpose.
Q. Is it really considered good
manners to use the handkerchief
while at the dinner table?
A. "Good manners" really do
not enter this situation so much
as "necessity". When one abso-
lutely has to -use a handkerchief,
one should try to do so as In-
conspicuously and quietly as pos-
sible. -
Q.. Who goes f5rrst down the
aisle of a motion picture theater,
the man or the woman?
A. The woman precedes. And
unless she is with her husband,
fiance . or someone she knows
real well, she should turn to him
and ask, "Is this all right?" This
gives him a chance = should he
be near or farsighted, to suggest
a seat that is closer or farther
away.
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