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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-07-17, Page 8ANNE 141IRST votor. ram* apuousehrt "Dear Anne Hirst: I am , moved to comment on that letter printed '> recently where a young wife criticizes her mother-in.ilaw so sharply. If she will permit a few suggestions, the life of their whole family might be more. congenial. You heard only her side of it, and I thought your advice was one- sided and unfair to the older woman who never wrote you at all. "Too : many brides start mar- ried life with a preconceived re- sentment toward their mothers- in-law. Maybe this one deliber- ately ignores the other's opinion. If it were her own mother, she. would listen dutifully and then do as she likes, which is natural. Why make an issue of it? Things would certainly be more har- monious if she were asconsider- ate of her husband's mother as she is of her own. And if she loves her husband, wouldn't she naturally have respect for the woman who bore and trained him? "I am a mother-in-law. My only son married a lovely girl who, too, is an only child, and if there is any discord in the whole family I don't know about it. My daughter-in-law listens politely to my opinions; if she doesn't agree we .discuss things calmly and intelligently. I love her as if she were really the daughter I always longed for, and I honestly believe she loves ine as a friend, too. "This is because neither of us .eternally wear our feeling on our sleeves, or complain about the other. We regularly call up, And visit often. She has been in the family now for four years, and never have there been cross words or hurt feelings. She knows how 1 love them and their baby, and she seems to be mak- ing a concsious effort to be the kind of daughter-in-law she will want, some day when her little son marries. She is, as you guess, far more mature than her age. "Mrs. Bride, if you are through learning, then you ARE through! HONORED IN-LAW" * ' In every in-law problem f there are undoubtedly faults * on both sides, and I try to S stress the need for mutual re- * spect, tolerance and never- * failing courtesy. The letter you refer to was far too long to print, and other charges against her husband's mother she resented because they were $ affecting her baby's routine t and health; in that I agreed. 4I explained her mother-in- law's attitude was the natural One for such an older woman, !' hoping It would make the wife Week's Sew -Thrifty PRINTED PATTERN 4609 SIZES 10-18 1 '17-441.0. 4444 Just two main pattern parts plus facings — what could be easier to sew than this Printed Pattern! C. e know this summer dress couldn't be more flattering —those shin lines are pure magic for your figure! Printed Pattern 4609: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Size 16 requires 31 yards 35 -inch. Printed .directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (500) (stamps cannot he accepted; use pOstal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS and STYLE NUMBER. Send o,f!er to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eightenth Street, New To:.:nto, Ont. * more understanding and pa- * tient. The facts in your letter will further soften her, I hope. * Your daughter-in-law is for- * tunate in finding a true friend * in you, and I congratulate you * both for your restraint and loyalty. Thank you so much. * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: I am up against a grave prob- lem. I have loved a girl nearly 16, for nearly a year, and Ikno'e she loves me though I'm' two' years older. Lately . I wrote her and said I thought that we should not continue our friendship. This 'is why: "She is a good Christian, and i aro not. I just got out of the state training school, and I'm so afraid I'd be bad for her that I haven't seen 'her since. "I shall be going into the Marines soon, and we had. planned to marry when I got out. Shall I stay away from her; or try and make up? JIM" * This girl, with her parents, * are the ones to decide whether * she should continue the friend- * ship. To straighten things out * properly, I think you should * call on her parents immediate- * ly and ask whether they will * allow you to keep on seeing * her. Be sure to tell .them Of * your marriage plans. * It pays to be honest. 1 ex- * pect that your approaching * them openly and frankly will * impress them with your in- * tegrity and good intentions.. * * * Why expect your new mother- in-law will be hard to get along with? Think of her as the first woman who loved your husband, who gave years to making him the wonderful per- son he is. Then, naturally you will respect her, and use pati. ence and restraint in any dif- ferences that arise . . . Anne Hirst has helped many a young wife to appreciate her husband's mother. If this problem is yours, too, write her about it at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont, Maybe You Have "Weatheritis" Watch that change in the wee. they, When a spell of settled weather breaks suddenly, your nerves may suffer, causing care- less driving or forgetfulness when crossing the road. These observations emerge from the detailed accident stu- dies of a Hungarian professor, Dr. Laszlo Horvath. Examining the barometer's lire and fall in relation to 12,- 000- road, rail and industrial accidents, he found ' a sudden weather change was a contribu- tory cause in nearly a third of them. The majority of these accidents occurred within four hours of the weather break. In contrast, there washardly an accident during a settled period, Dr, Horvath suggests that re- dio warnings should be issued advising people to watch their step whenever a sharp weather change is predicted. You can, of course, yell "wolf" too often. But many people, as British insurance experts recog- nize, yield to nervous tantrums and take quite foolish risks in- volving tragic mishaps when suffering from "weatheritis," due to the breaking up of a prolonged good or bad spell. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED—Five years ago, in a Trieste DP camp, Anna Chernovolsky vow- ed to look as beautiful as the elegant British and Canadian women who gave her food and clothing. She has made the grade. After four years in Can- ada, the 18 -year-old' Yugoslav beauty wasone of 11 girls chosen from 350 aspirants in Toronto to model in fashion shows at the Canadian Na- tional Exhibition in August. LESSONS TO BE LEARNED — Top Presidential Aide Sherman Adams confers with White House .Press. Secretary James Hagerty. In Washington. as Adams prepares to testify before. a House subcommittee on regulatory. agencies. The former governor of New Hampshire fast became a center of controversy con- cerning alleged gifts to him by Boston industrialist Bernard Goldfine, including a $700 vicuna' overcoat and a $2,400 rug. - Adams admitted calling federal agencies when Goldfine's in- ' dustrial enterprises were under investigation' but denied that his friend got any preferential treatment. Commented Adams, "I think (here are some lessons we all learn—no matter how far along we get." r> ,Fin//rv.4✓ HRQNICLES ING�ERFARelinz P. ¢a This week I' give you another view from our windows — this time from the kitchen and din- ingroom, both having the same View but from . a slightly differ- ent angle. Quite close to the back door there is a small copse of white ash trees, anywhere from three to twelve feet in height— a nice touch of green to look at from the kitchen window. From the north-west window beyond the trees there is a big expanse of open lawn and in the middle of it the gym swings that we bought for our grandsons. But don't ever think the swings are idle when the boys are not here. Far from it. I neverknow what I am going to see from our din- ingroom and kitchen windows. During school hours the pre- schoolers have their fun, Charles a little English boy, comes ped- dling over on his "bike". A bright, independent little fellow. He plays for awhile and then comes in to visit. Jill, two doors down, come along nearly every morning with her mother close- ly followed by Julie and her mother. Julie is just at the tod- dling age. Usually the swing los- sion, winds up . with the three mothers having a talk fest, in which Partner often joins as he is often around in the garden, hoeing, watering or mowing. In the afternoon there is more. noise and a lot more activity as the older children come rushing over after school, shouting and laughing, and taking turns on. the swings or, climbing, like monkeys over the framework. Sometimes the mothers come looking for the children, usually, I suspect, to make sure they are not getting into mischief. By that time we are having a cup of tea and one or other of the. mothers come in to join us. Also around four o'clock there isa daily procession of children — four girls and two boys, taking a short cut home from school across our property. It has be- come a daily ritual for me to wave from the window and six little hands to wave back. Beyond the lawn and the swings there isthe line fence and either side of it trees, wild shrubs .., and .rabbits! The rab- bits are cute from a' distance, hopping from. one green spot to another, but not nearly so cute when they get into our garden and nibble off our mums and sprouting shrubs. One of our neighbours has killed off a few but extermination will be diffi- cult as there are overgrown va- cant lots the other side of the line fence, where the rabbits no doubt have their burrows. Well, isn't it awful? Here we are in the middle of June and no summer yet. The nights are cold :and we are glad et a fire in the evening, June — the month o1 roses! But where are the roses? We have had -some nice especially showers —asp y on Friday, y, the 13th, the day of our annual congregational garden party! It usually draws a large crowd but there were very few People when I was there. Too bad after so much work and planning. But that's the way things happen. No matter how badly rain is needed it is bound to come at the wrong time for some people. The weath- erman can't please everyone. The cool weather is all right for what Partner is trying to do just now — neighbours say, he is making a copy of the Great Wall of China. Actually Partner has been •re-laying weeper tile alongside the driveway—it takes the run-off from the eaves - troughing. The, original tile was too near the surface and got smashed. To do a satisfactory job Partner had to raise the level of the ground for which a low, retaining wall along the drive- way was necessary. We have been bringing home stone -in the trunk of the car for .the job — stone that has been churned out of the ground by bulldozers on a construction job nearby. Some- one asked if I helped get the stone. "Oh yes," answered Part- ner, "my 'wife drives the car and points out the big ones.• for me to carry over!" That's about the size of it. Funny, the way things. happen. Quite by accident we also have stone here that came from Gin- ger Farm. We were visiting along Burnhamthorpe Road cast week where a patio was being torn up. "Could you use some of that stone?" asked friend Jim. Part- , er laughed. "Didn't it belong to mein. the first place? Isn't that the stone I gave you when we were' on the farm?" It was, so: naturally we had to bring some home with us. It now has a very special value. We also have a fern thathas quite a " history. About twelve: years ago one of our farm neigh- bours sold out. They gave a huge fern to the new owners. Four" years later the property was sold again. This time the fern was given to me. Itgrew and flourished until Mitchie-White took to sleeping on top of .it and smothered it. The fronds died but the root survived. Just lately the fern has been in trouble again - so pot-bound it would not hold moisture. I' thought some of the root could be cut off but was afraid to try it. I took it to a florist. He divided it, cut off a lot of the tuberous jelly roots, and re -potted it, So now I have two ferns - one to keep and one to pass on to the friend who gave me the fern in the first place. The stones and the fern— two instances of bread on the waters. = 4 Great Dance, Star Had Fiat Feet .Brithin's first ballerina, Alicia Markova, is to dance The Dying Swan in the blitzed ruins of Coventry Cathedral on July 20th as part of a music and bal- let show to raise funds for the new ;-cathedral For years 'millions of ballet 'lovers .have marvelled at the beauty of her slender feet and the curiously lovely, sideward bend +of, her ankles. But how many whohave seen her danc- ing as lightly and elusively as a mootibeam (as one critic, de- scribed it) know that she had fallen arches, flat feet and was knock-kneed when she was a tiny girl? A specialist suggested she should take up "fancy danc- ing" to .strengthen her limbs. The ballet' exercises were ef- fective and, before long her teachers realized, that a miracle child was attending their danc- ing class. After three months Marko'a — whose real name is Alice Marks — found that she could do all sorts of things that the other dancers found beyond them. She decided to make bal- let her 'career. It's difficult to believe that London -born IVIarkova will be forty-eight in December for in appearance she seems ageless. She does not mind the world knowing her age. "A ballerina is like old cheese and good wine — she gets better as she gets older," she says. Makova's height is only 5 ft. 21 in. Anton Dolin, her partner tor years, has said that "her dancing arms and• handsare the most beautiful of all time," add- ing, "only . Spessiva, of all the great dancers I have seen, had feet comparable to Markova's." Shyest King Bachelor King Baudouin of Belgium, who will be twenty- eight on. September 7th this year, remains one of the shyest. monarchs in the -world, a Brus- sels correspondent states. This bespectacled young man has ne- ver been very fond of parties. or social functions. He is very serious-minded and a. keen schols ar, reading books'' voraciously. One summer afternoon Avhen he was in his teens he disap- peared into the woods with a book in his hand. Hours passed. The dinner gong went and the Royal Family sat down at table without him. Not until coffee time did he turn up, rather dis- hevelled and out of breath. -"I've been reading Balzac and quite forgot the time," he said. Scientific magazines 'from the United States fascinate him. Every day he reads a bundle of Belgian and foreign newspapers. He prefers Mozart and Mendels- sohn to jazz. King Baudouin became heir to the throne at the early age of three when his mountain -climb- ing grandfather, King Albert, plunged to his death from a cliff near Namur. Before be was five his mother, the beloved Queen Astrid, was killed while motoring with King Leopold in Switzerland. It was believed that he would choose his bride at a 'ball for 6,500 guests in his Brussels pal- ace last April, but after he' had danced with three of the eligible Princesses present the shy young King bowed courteously to each and left the ball before mid-, night. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. Just what is the correct way to eat an olive? Does one put the whole olive into the mouth at once, or does one take only small bites out of it while holding it in the fingers? A. A very small stuffed olive may be put into the mouth whole. A larger stuffed one should be eaten in two bites A plain olive is held in the fingers and pieces bitten off around, the stone. Q. Is It proper for a woman to say "Thank you" to a strange. man who steps Aside to allow her, to enter an elevator 'or bus? A. You are never'overdoing politeness when you say, "Thank you:" Q. When a man is accompany- ing his wife and another woman to some social function,: which woman does he assist first with her wraps? A. 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ISSUE 28 1958 THE POWER OF ,SUGGESTION-Audi'Stein is a gal who can't help giving her impression of a pro^ -sting by Sandre Ben- gaminson called "Reborn". The w" vas on display at a Greenwich Village outdoor art shop_