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The Seaforth News, 1958-06-26, Page 6ANNE I41 R ST 'Dear Anne Hirst: Iam mar- * the wife of a boy you have tied to a man I never loved; and * seen once in seven years. I still long for my old sweet- * Aren't you taking a great heart, When 1 was 15 I was en- * deal for granted? How do you gaged to him. He went into ser- ° know he still cares for you? vice, and on one leave we had °_He may even be married by a silly quarrel (as kids do) and * this time. If you barge in on broke off. About that time I met* him declaring your love, you my present husband, who fell . * might find yourself in a highly in love with me. I liked him, * embarrassing situation. that was all, but my mother * Is your own happiness the thought I should accept him.' * only thing that matters? You Well, the old folks think they * promised to cling to your hus- know everything, so .I did. Al * band for the rest of your life. most at once, we knew it was * What excuse can you give for a mistake. * leaving him now — if you "For seven years I have tried ,* could? I am afraid you are to keep my husband happy, and * seeing .yourself as a martyr, * married to a man whose only * fault is that he hal thorough- * ly spoiled you. (It is not his * fault he could not win your * love.) You have done a fine * job in keeping him contented * though your heart was not * in it, and you deserve credit for your efforts, But you are * still an unhappy woman. * What you need is an .outlet, * for all this affection that lies * unspent within you. How could *' you expect to find it with this * childhood sweetheart? He '" would be a stranger to you * now. * It is unfortunate that you * do not have a child. It would * give you something real to * live for, and sharing the re- * sponsibility would draw you * and your husband closer, give * you a mutual aim in life, If * you cannot bear children, have * you thought of adopting one? * Give up this foolish notion. * Accept your husband as he is * and be grateful for him. Round * out your life through new re- * sponsibillties. Your church. * and a number of other local * groups, are waiting to guide * you toward a richer • life SIZES * through services that you have 10-20 , * not explored. * Your life can be beautiful, * and you can make it so. * * * MOTHER KNOWS BEST "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 15% and I'm in love with a boy whom I've been going with for seven months. We have j'at found out he has a bad reputation, and comes from a family that isn't thought much of, so. Mom wants me to stop seeing him. "She wants me to welcome an- other boy, a nice one whose peo- ple are respected; he's in the Navy and returns in January. Then Mom wants me to date him, and drop the one I care for! What can I do to make her see that is impossible? UNHAPPY" * I not only agree with your * mother, Igo further. Break * up with this boy you like at * once, making any excuse you * please. You are too young to * realize how vital to your so- * cial life is your reputation; * if you keep on dating him you * cannot but share his bad name, * and that might take a long, * long time to live down. * If you let your feeling over- * come your judgment, how do * you know the Navy lad will * want to date you when he * comes home next month? A * well-bred young man with the * right instincts chooses nice * girls, to take out, and if this * one hears of your association * with your present friend he * and his people might pass you * up entirely. * Be smart! * * * Many a wife finds her mar- riage unsatisfactory for a num- ber of reasons, but she remem- bers the vows she made and goes on as best she can. There is a spiritual solace in doing the right thing, and it often brings surprising rewards... . Anne Hirst can help you find them, if you write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. he is. But lately I saw my boy friend accidentally, and I knew he was still the only man for me. Soon we are going home for a visit, and I want to see him and settle things between us. My husband is very devoted and gives me everything I want, but I am floundering now in my own confusion. "Shall I tell my husband? Or must I reconcile myself to spend- ing all my life with a man I cannot love? There are no chil- dren to be considered, and I am only 22. UNHAPPY" ALL WRONG * As soon as you- married, you * say "we" knew it was all * wrong. Your husband does riot * share that opinion; he is hap- * pily married to you and has * no idea that you are not as * satisfied. Yet you would end * your marriage on the slim * hope that you could become Cool For Summer PRINTED 1'ATi i:� 4500 �p With printed directions on each pattern part — this sew- ing just couldn't he easier 1 Make a cool sundress with scoop neck, wide -flaring Skirt. Use the pattern again next season— for a juniper with companion blouse! Printed Pattern 4500: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 takes 37/s. yards 39 -inch fa- bric. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (400) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. BEST FEET FORWARD -The judges had a picnic choosing Miss Aquacircus"' in a contest to select a tiptoe beauty representing a water show. She's Barbaro Rifling, 18, center. Runners-up are Ellen Kpmpman, left, and Barbara Serivalt. SEW WHAT'S NEW?—Shades of the old 10.20-30 molodramo, Bertha the Sewing Machine Giril' It's not Bertha—it's-screen star Joanne Woodward. ,Youve heard about the dress she ran up for her big night—the tone when she won an Oscar. Well, an Atlanta, Ga., museum wanted, it for their wardrobe collection. Joanne gave them a lady -like "Nixl" saying '9 spent nearly $100 for the material, designed the dress and worked on it for three weeks. Why, I'm almost as proud of the dress as I am of the Oscar!" HROf ICI,ES 1NGERFARM Gwen.doli,rs.e P. Cie„ t ke One thing visitors like about our house is that we have a dif- ferent view from each window. That is because the house is situated right in the curve of a crescent. It does make it more attractive. Just by walking from one room to another we have a change of scenery. From my 'workroom window this is what I see: A group of small trees— ash—nothing' very special as trees go but too nice to cut down. Beyond the trees, lawn, and then the vegetable garden with a few rows of bulbs and perennials heeled in waiting for Joy to remove them. Back of the garden small shrubs of lilac in between more ash trees and a few poplars. And hopping around. over everything are the birds— robins, kill -deer, warblers and the inevitable starlings and spar- rows. Beyond our property the view is not so pleasing. A large lot, that was once a lovely garden, in the. middle of which there used to be a very attractive home. A few weeks ago a wreck- ing crew moved in and reduced the nine-year-old house to rub- ble. The site is reserved for a gas station. Beyond the vacant lot runs the Dundas Highway close enough to be convenient; far enough away that the traf- fic does not bother us. At the far side of the highway an ap- ple orchard. But at the moment what interests me most is our own garden—peas, beans, car- rots, beets coming along in great form. Also sunflowers. By the time the sunflowers arein bloom we won't see much of the vacant lot—but we hope to see a lot more birds. - So that is the outlook from one window — trees, plant and bird life with fast moving traf- fic in the distance. An inter- mingling of the old and the new —nature at its best and yr' close to one of the main arteries of Ontario, accommodating mo- torists, otorists, buses, and trucks of all kinds. Milk tanks trucking mirk from the farms to the city; cat- tle trucks transporting livestock —for which the farmer hopes he will get enoughreturns' to pay for the cost of raising and feed-. ing the animals; cement mixing tanks going—who knows where —to pour cement for the base- ments of more new homes or maybe the abuttments of a bridge? So much to see — so many people coining and going, none knowing the business of the other. Even more remote in contact than "ships that pass in the night and greet each other in passing," So many types of liv- ing involved in all that I see from my workroom window. Al- most staggering when you think of it, isn't it? We, too, have our busy days. Last Wednesday we went to a farm at Horning's Mills, just for the day. It was wonderfully clear weather and the view from the Caledon Hills was grand. But oh dear, just one more road where trees are being slaug- htered. Maybe it is necessary— I don't know. Road work' was in progress—curves being straight- ened, hills reduced. I suppose if we didn't see the stumps we wouldn't miss the trees. It's knowing that hurts. We were somewhat disappoint- ed with our trip—wind so strong there was no pleasure in being out. Partner was away with our farmer -friend to the back of the farm digging post -holes but we women -folk stayed pretty close to the warmth and comfort of the ofd kitchen stove. Later in the week I looked in at two 'separate rummage sales. I love a rummage sale—it is just like a surprise packet—you never know what you'll find. I always head straight for the odd- ments table. And what did I get? I'll tell you. A small Wedge- wood jug, a little handpainted fancy dish, a Spode vase and an out -of -print book of prose. Fifty cents was the total cost! The Wedgewood piece has a sligLt chip which can be patched if I ever get around to it. The Spode vase is pure white and looks grand with a huge bouquet of purple lilac. Now I ask you what more could one get for such a small outlay. However, I have been dis- carding as well as collecting. The parents of the young couple I told you about last week who were burnt out came along one day with a pick-up truck ni filled it to capacity with odds and ends from our basement. Beds, two good, spring -filled mattressesthat we had brought along with us from the farm hoping that someone, sometime, would be glad to have them. So we are happy that they will be put to good use as the young people are rebuilding their house and were short of beds. Friends had certainly been good to them —a dining -room suite, complete set of dishes, clothing for the family—all were donated plus , a collection of about five hun- dred dollars in cash. In time of need it is quite evident there is still plenty of kindness left in our poor old mixed-up world. Well, I guess it is time to hunt something fbr our mid-day meal, And I do mean hunt! Ten for dinner last night has left the frig' looking a little sad. Me too, —like the morning after. Our grandsons are quite a going con- cern when they all get together, -bless their wee souls. 'Make it Thursday, Abdul-l'm getting married on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday!' King -Size Build -Up Good For Music? One afternoon recently, a tall, obviously tired -but -happy young man arrived at the RCA Victor studios on East 24th Street in New York to hear the tapes 'of a piano concert he had played at Carnegie Hall the night be- fore. As the majestically crash- ing chords of the Tehaikovsky Piano. Concerto in B -flat minor beat upon his ears, he tensed and grimaced. "Listen here — now," he said earnestly. "I made sucha mistake here." Clutching his bushy, blond head; he rocked back and forth in anguish. The miracle was that Van Cliburn was -able to think at all, let alone accurately recall bloop- ers he made the night before. He had come to the studios straight 1 r o m' the Waldorf-Astoria, . where Mayor Robert F. Wagner had given him a luncheon, and before that he had ridden up Lower Broadway in the first ticker -tape parade ever accord- ed a musician. The next night he would play in Philadelphia, and later in the week he would meet the President al the White House, play before diplomats and gov- ernment officials in Washington, and dine at the Russian Embas- sy. On Sunday, by making his first post -Moscow television ap- pearance on Steve AIlen's pro- gram, he would repay an old debt, for Allen's music director, Skitch Henderson, lead spotted CIiburn's talent back in 1955 and twice put him on Steve's "To- night"' show. During the week to come,. he would play again in New York to another sold -out house at Carnegie Hall, and he would make his first phonograph records, for RCA Victor. Faced with both the recession and the usual seasonal classical slump, dealers pinned high hopes on the first release, the Tchailcovsky concerto, For Cliburn, the summer promised little letup. He will perform in the U.S. and abroad, and everywhere he goes the pat- tern will be the . same. As a symbol of U.S. culture and good will, he will have to keep the charm turned on. Fortunately for him, this is only doing what comes naturally. As a pianist, he will be expected to play like a Rachmaninof and Horowitz rolled into one. This will be tougher, for he is, after all, only 23 year old. Seldom again, however, will Cliburn have to endure a strain. quite like the one he went through at his Carnegie Hall ap- pearance, when he undertook to re-create the performance which had won him the prize in Mos- cow and made him the talk of the Russian people. In place of the Moscow Philharmonic, he had behind him the Symphony of the Air, but the man who con- ducted was the same — Kiril P. Kondrashin, the colorful Soviet . maestro whom Van had said re- peatedly had been "like a daddy to me." Although Kondrashin, a youthful looking 44, seemed more like an elder brother, there was no denying his devoted and sensitive accompaniment. Ciiburn was nervous through- out the Tchaikovsky concerto which opened the program — more so, Kondrashin said later, than he had seemed in Mos- cow. But in the Rachmaninoff Concerto No. 3 which followed, the maestro noted, "he was in- spired as before." The audience, preponderantly non -m u s i c a 1, must have agreed, for at ti 1 it gave Cliburn a Ghee n? s! „ - ing ovation. Van Cliburn is a remaeicrthle, even extraordinary ,young wari- est. His manner is assured, and he possesses:. a brilliant 4'-4r- .pique in the old-fashioned ro- mantic style. He still needs, however, to look more deeply "into theheart and soul of the music he plays, and'to,learn that a "big tone" is not produced by pounding the keys. Despite the obvious danger; of over-exposure to Cliburn eum- self, most musicians are con- vinced that the Cliburn case, king-size build-up and all, will be good for music if otherout- standing young talents get a bet- ter break — from the. pressthe public, and the managers who book them. Certainly Kondra- shin was impressed at CIiburn's reception. "When I go home," he said, "I'll tell them all about it. — how you love music and how you love' Van, not only becsnse he is a very good musician but because he is is a very goon and warm voting man." — ' From NEWSWEEIC. Made In One Day .;o The better the day, the better the deed! It will be a good day, when you do a whole doily. Each takes only a day tot doh Pattern 717: crochet directions for doilies: oval 8 x 13' inches(. round and square each 9t -int ,doilies in No. 50 cotton.. Send THIRTY*FIVE: GENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety)) for this pattern to Laura Whee1e r, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print, plainly PAT TERN NUMBER, yaw itli16111 and ADDRESS. As a bonus,. TWO com• plete 'patterns are printed right in our LAURA WHE'ELER, Needle- craft Book. Dozens of other de- signs you'll want b order — easy, fascinating handwork for yourself, your home, gifts, ba- zaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today 1 ISSUE 25 — 1958 UNPOPULAR MOTHER -Residents of Jalapa,' Mexico, raised a storm of angry protest when this statue was erected in the village's square as a tribute to mothers. it has been branded "indecent" and "an insult to Mexican motherhood". Architect Sergio Besnier, from whose drawings the statue was made by sculptor Jora`1. Ruiz, says the figure represents "the happinesu a mother feels in playing with her child". The status may be happy, but the people who sce it atom!.