The Seaforth News, 1958-06-05, Page 6N -E HIRST
'Deur Anne 'Hirst:
I am 18, and:hope to graduate
this month: I have been having.
trouble with my, parents. After
school I do household chores at
home, cleaning, cooking, etc.
Then t like .to go to my girl
friend's house, or to a nearby
confectionery stone, My parents
think this is wrong.
"I get home before 11 but they
have come ' after me severe'
times, and lately have forbidden
me to go out at all. They think
I'll get a bad name! Never in
my life have 1 done things to
be ashamed of, and I• am tired
and sick of this; something had
better happen soon. .
"Also, I am not allowed on
dates, or at any social places
where boys might be ... What
is the answer?
DISCOURAGED"
* Unless your parents are
* oversolicitous, or regard you
* as a 14 -year-old who can't be
* trusted, it is difficult ,to in-
* terpret their attitude. Why
* don't they allow you to meet
* nice boys! It is natural *hat
* they want to know where you
* are, but to shadow your foot-
* steps and drag you home pub-
* hely is humiliating.
* Perhaps because you have
* got yourself in the habit of
* leaving home every night, you
* are in a dull rut. Why not
* encourage your girl friend to
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i, drop in at your house occa-
sionally? It is too bad tliat
* there aren't others of your age'
* to make up a groufi so you
* could have more fun. Until-
* dentally, a nice girl isn't seen
* regularly at corner stores or
* other public • haunts; it does
• her no good. On that, 1 agrte
* with your mother.)
* I wonder whether she would
* care to write me herself? Per-
* haps I could give her a few
* ideas that would brighten your
# pattern of living. You three
* might have a happier life to-
* gether, undisturbed by these
* differences,
Sit down with your mother
* and father and ask them
* frankly why they forbid you to
* date boys, There must be some
* in your neighborhood whose
* families they know? A girl
* 18, about to graduate, should
* surely conduct herself proper-
* ly, and be entertaining, friends.
* in her own home.
Don't be antagonistic in your
* attitude, though I understand
* the temptation; talk quietly,
* and let them see how much
* you want to cooperate. 1 hope
* you will be enjoying yourself
*.soon, and with your parents'
e approval,
"Dear Anne Hirst:
I dated a young man for near-
ly a year, and loved him so much
I finally promised to marry' him
soon. (That, would have been
within a month.) But one night
he didn't behave himself, and
I sent him away without saying
why.
"Shouldn't 1 have explained?
Can I now? We had never had
any quarrels about anything:...
I am so confused (and so lonely)
that I don't know the right thing
to do. What is it?
JACQUELINE"
Nothing,
• The young man knows why
* he was dismissed, If he had
* really loved you he would
* have begged your forgiveness
* and given his word that' you
* could trust him completely.
* Certainly he would not have
* allowed a month to pass with-
* out trying to make amends.. A
* man in love can make ose mis-
e
take, but if he is sincerely
* sorry he never offends again.
* You will not want to believe
e me, but I'm afraid he• would
* have found some excuse in
* avoid marriage . • . I am ,o
g, sorry! It is a devastating shock
* to realize he did not deserve
* your love.
*
Difference between parents
and their daughters disturb a
family's happiness, Anne Hirst
has been able to explain the
generations to each other, and
will try to help. Write her at
Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ontario.
1 Modern Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
Q. My husband and 1 took
some guests for an auto ride re-
cently, and I sat in the front seat
with my husband, our guests in
the rear. 1 have been told (his
was wrong. Was it?
A. Yes. You should have asked
one of your guests to sit in front,
while you sat in the back with
the others.
Q. If one is eating in a res-
taurant where small butter pats
are served in little paper con-
tainers, is it all right to let the
knife rest on the pat when not
in use?
A. Never. The knife, when not
in use. should rest along the up-
per right part of the plate —
and never, of course, with the
handle of the knife resting on
the table.
MY BOUNCY (BUDDY -This' straw -hatted beach ball only has
oyes for 'Pandit Scott -and with good reason. The pointed -on
smile is nothing 1o' tht. real one Candi flashes at the photo-
grapher.. ,
TWIN LOCATED BY PHOTO—In her Salt lake City, Utah, home,
Mrs. Alexandra Wegner holds a photo of her twin sister, Sophie
Sauer, taken in Miami, Fla. The sisters, 28, separated when
Soviet troops marched into their native Poland 13 years ago,
said they would be reunited as soon as they could raise the
money. Sophie, who works as a draftsman to Hialeah, Fla.,
recently learned from an aunt in Warsaw that Alexandra was
living in the States.
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If you are not interested in
Women's Institute work don't
bother to read this column be-
cause it is almost entirely about
the W.I. You see I was at Guelph.
last week lo the Officers' Con-
ference—not as an official dele-
gate but as a newsman, picking
up little bits here -and there to
pass on to you in this column.
Not a full report by any means
— that I leave for the district
director of your own particular
branch. I have no doubt she will
come back with — and be able
to pass on to you — new enthu-
siasm for our wonderful organi-
zation which, to my way of
thinking, has no equal. It isthe
one organization which brings
together urban and 'rural mem-
bers, helping each to under-
stand the problems of the other.
At 'one time the W.I. member-
ship was comprised almost en-
tirely of farm women, centred
around problems .of specific in-
terest :to those living and work-
ing on farms and in farm homes.
Now the picture has changed.
Activities of farm women have
become mote varied and pro-
gressive. in fact many of their
interests are very little different
from those living in urban dis-
tricts W.I. programmes and pro-
ject. have kept pace with the
changing times embracing extra
topics, cultural, educational and
practical. The W.I. helps all
women. rural and urban to be-
come more efficient housewives;
to save time and energy — and
then helps them to put to goad
use the lame that has been saved.
Its motto is still for "home and
Country," not "country" in, the
rurai sen:e but in it, wider ap-
plication — in. Canada, in your
Country and mine.
Every tin,. 1 go to any of these
W.I. affairs I am amazed at 4he
distance many of the delegates
have come — from Renfrew,
Kincardine, Shelburne, North
Bay ... in fact the enthusiasm
of those from a distance often
seems greater than those nearer
to the site of the Convention or.
Conference. Young and old, they
all show an active interest.
And Smart! I'm telling you.
you don't find many dowdy farm
women these days. True; 1 didn't
see any "chemise" costumes —
but that is just another bit of
evidence that WJ, ' members
have a sense of the fitness of
things. There were plenty of
pretty dresses -•- pretty but con-
servative,
It was the first time many of
the members had had a chance
to see and hear our new F.W.I.0
National President, Mrs. Keith
Rand. Easy, charming and com-
pletely unaffected, she spoke to
the members as one woman to
another, understanding their
problems; helping and inspiring
them to greater interest in the
work of the W.I. as a whole:
keeping in mind the theme or
the Conference "The Challenge
of Tomorrow" and emphasizing
the fact that homemaking is
more important than good house-
keeping.
Other speakers and topics dis-
cussed were "Safety in the Home
and on the Farm" by Mr. H. E.
Belman, Bruce County, who said'
that most accidents are the_.re-
sult of carelessness, ignorance
,and indifference to the safety of
others — as, for instance, shoes
and boxes left on stairs for other
people to trip over. Damage and
total casualties, from common
accidents in any one year, said
Mr. Belman, is usually greater
than that suffered from torna-
does and floods. Tractors and
farm machinery were the great-
est 'hazard and the most com-
mon age group in accidents was
among drivers and riders of
from ten to fourteen! Isn't that
staggering?
Reports were also given on
such projects as Auxiliary
Classes for public school chil-
dren; Maternal Care and Infant
Mortality; T.y. and Radio Eval-
uation; Women Around the
World in Picture and. Story, pre-
sented by Mrs. Hugh Summers,
World Vice -President of the
AC.W.W., taken during last
year's Tri-Ennial Conference.
As leaven to lighten what
might have been too much seri-
ous discussion there were excel-
lent solos. But what really
brought the house down was the
Goshen W.I. Orchestra compris-
ed • of four women charmingly
dressed in century -old costumes.
One was a pianist, one an excel-
lent violinist; another played a
guitar while the fourth kept
time on a washboard with tin
patty -pans! Their selections were.
lively old-time musical numbers;
their performance so good they
were called back again and
again.
Now here is something I must
mention. On •display were some
lovely china cups and saucers
meant specially for W.I. enthu-
siasts. Good china, cups a nice
shape, tall enough to keep the
tea hot (how -I hate those, low
flat cups). Design in blue and
gold, tiny gold maple leaves on
a white background; gold han-
dle and edging and the W.I. crest
on the cup and in the centre
of the saucer. The only place.
where they are sold is. Guelph
and they are going like hot cakes.
A nice gift for a special, speaker
or to any W.I. member as a
token gift.,
Now to summarize I want
specially to draw your attention
to One fact. That while W.I. ac-
tivities have as their primary
objective ways and means to.
help farm women yet the topics
discussed are, or should be, of
interest to all women, ruraland.
urban. Adult education, health,
eommoh safety precautions, cut -
Real Book -Worms
Friends of a 'man living in
Indiana the -tight that he was just
anotheit' book collector They
were never Invited to examtue
his collection; so theywere emu -
ed recently 10 learn that wheel
he handed the books civet Lo .r
university they were valued at
rive million dollars,
Booksellers say that despite
the rival attractions of teievtsioq.
radio and films, book collecting
is as popular as ever, although
rare books worth -fortunes are
harder to findthan they were in
Victorian days.
The possessor of a boon which
ne believed to be unique was
annoyed to hear that another
copy 0f the book had turned up
.n a secondhand bou'kshop :0
Paris. He spent 890 to and fruln
Paris, bough', the book Ent $3.000
and threw it into the 'tire .to
that his own ropy might remain
unrivalled'
Machtiabeclu, a librarian and
000kworm of. Florence, lived, ate,
erank and slept among his bootee
fitshouse was the end—crammed
from floor to ceiling with vol-
umes. The only place one could
walk in his house was the nar-
row passage left between the
books. Even the porch and stair -
'ways were crammedttight.
This strange man :always slept
on a bed of books, Be covered
himself with an "eiderdown" of
large, soft -bound volumes.
Seaman's Slang
, Stumps Lawyer
When is a kitchen not a kitch-
en? When it's a galley. Almost
everything on board a ship has
a dfferent name from its equival-
ent ashore. Floors are decks.
heads, and the walls are bulk-
heads. -
Why should this be? Well,
galleys are galleys simply be-
cause that's what they've been
called for centuries. That's why
companionways are staircases,.
and ports are windows. Seamen
are responsible for having hand-
ed down this jargon from an-
other age.
A seaman who appeared as a
witness in court was asked by
a lawyre: "W'tere exactly was
the defendant when you fust saw
him?"
'The :sailor looked blank: "I'm
sorry sir — I don't understand.
What's the defendant?" ,,
With heavy sarcasm the law-
yer asked 'the court to explain
•'the meaning of the term., Then
said: "Now perhaps you can an-
swer my question."
"Oh yes, sir," rejoined the
sailor brightly, "he was on
Monkey Island."
"Monkey Island?"
"Yes, sir, just abaft the bin-
nacle."
"Please be more explicit,"
•snapped the lawyer, beginning to
redden as titters rippled round
the court. -.
"It was over the after end of
the bridge — you know sir —
just on the fore side of the fid-
Iey," explained the sailor — get-
ting his own back with a venge-
ance,
"Order! Order in court!" call-
the usher as soon as he could
control his own laughter.
•A few seamen have sense
enough to take steps to simplify
these nautical terms for the
benefit of the uninitiated. The
west country bargee, for in-
stance, who has to call on his
wife to steer when working
through narrow rivers tapes ex-
tra precautions,
Realizing that "port." "star-
board," and "amidships" mean
nothing to her, he places a buck-
et on one side, a broom on the
other, and the coal shovel from
the bailey in the middle.
"hard -a -bucket!" be calls, and
-the helm is put unhesitatingly
to "hard -a -starboard."
"Hard -a -broom!" and over
goes the helm to "port."
tura] . activities, all are of inter-
est to women everywhere. Re-
member that if you are tempted
to resign from the W.I. because
you no longer live on a farm.
Intermingling of town and coun-
try women is essential to a bet-
ter understanding of both.
"Galley shovel!" Back goes the
helm to "amidships.
There -are good reasons tor at/
et these nautical nicknames.
Why should .men be referred.
to as "hands"? Another little
story in this connection con. Y
cerns the seaman who was on
the, carpet charged for being tate
on wet -eh.
"The• boy. who came down to
the ` mess - deck , to waken the
watch shook' all hands but me,
he stated in self -defence. -
The boy to whom the remark
referred, a no-d'eomer to seafar•
ing promptly :blurted indignant-
ly, "Excuse me. sir - l never
shook hands with anybody!"
• A ship never "moves," she
"gets under way," If she is .not
"under way" she is "lying"
somewhere. Lying at anchor in
a river she is saidto be "in the
stream."
There was an occasion when a
Br4tish' warship paid a "show the
flag" visit to New York. Two off
her crew were enjoying a drink
in a bar on 12th Avenue.
"Hiya boys," was the friend-
ly greeting of a burly American.
"Where's your ship lyin'?"
asked the Yankee.
Casually one replied, "She's
lyin' out in the stream,'
There was a long ominous, sil-
ence.
"Say bud," said the American,
"the .Hudson, River rises the
other side o' the CatskiD Moun-
tains, over 300 miles, from here.,
At Tappan Bay it's five miles
wide. The first successful steam-
boat was operated by Fulton on
this same Hudson River. 150
miles of it is navigable. Even
your Queen Mary can come In
here at any state of the tide. This
river serves the biggest concen••
tration o' shippin' in the world„
Son - is your ship still lyin' its
the stream?"
And she was.
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ISSUE 22 — 1958
FOO ON YOU—Barbara. Barnes;' 11, shows a Mexican rain god
how the people of the area feel about his product. The ugly
little figure, a relic of the Zatopec culture of Western Mexico„,
may be more to blame for locally heavy downpours than what
the weatherman refers to as 'afrontal occlusion.