HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-05-15, Page 6Tumbling Walls
n Tokyo
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Going out to buy carrots for
dinner used to be an ordinary
chore. How often, in America, I
would run to the carrier grocery,
snatch' up a bunch, and return
home, undiverted from my
thoughts, and so : impartial to
the trek that, stopping to re
member, I could scarcely recall
having gone. Except that the
carrots lay like jackstraws in
the sink, waiting to be picked
up and scraped. '
Since we have lived in Tokyo
such short treks have become '
the most essential moments of
my days.
Stepping from our small yard•
into the alley -street, I am sur-
rounded by walls and fences
which line the narrow way.
Some are formidable concrete
or stone; some are thin wooden
slats and others heavy, hand-
some pieces of wood. When I
t eel shut out by the walls 1
think of Frost's "Good fences
make good neighbors." Or I
translate them into symbols; the
thick walls are the language
which even after eight menthe!,
is still an enigma to me; the
thin slats whimsically half hide
the gentle beauty which one
must learn to feel more than
to see; the handsome wooden
pieces are the substance of gen-
erations of tradition and beliefs.
Sometimes I imagine that I,
like those delicate tea roses
which have scaled one great
concrete wall and bloom exqui-
sitely along the top, can through
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ISSUE I9 — 1958
Smiles and compassion and pa-
tience, scale or break through
my three walls.
But my short treks are filled'
with encounters with people'
and they open delightful doors
through the walls. If Mrs. K...
passes me on her way hone
from market (carrying vegeta-
bles in, small three -sided bags
made of newspapers) we, ex-
change quick, shy bows. Since
she canhot speak English, nor I
Japanese, we may never have a
full, neighborly conversation.
Still there is a quality in our
self-conscious bowing which 1
cherish -a mutual consent to be
respectfully curiousabout each
other.
It is similar with the goldfish
seller, the fishmonger, or the
wife of the Shinto priest. I am
as much a novelty to- them as
they are to me, and each time
we bow we cement this com-
mon bond. But it is the children
I meet on my walks who make
many of the walks tumble down.
I am usually greeted at our
gate by two intensities who are
not yet learning to count in
school (ichi, nichi, san, she; go)
but spend their hours hanging
on our gate or ,peering at me
through the fence. The clippety-
slock-siock of their getas has
become part of the atmosphere
for me. They are bursting
proud of their English and hail
me with a hopscotch of "hullo";
and when I smile "Hello, how
are you?" they giggle and clasp
each other and dart ahead of me
down the alley, writes Nancy
Nelson in The Christian Science
Monitor.
We pass through groups of
children playing dodge ball,
bat -ball, roller skating. On
some-' days their eager eyes in-
vite me to play with them,
Someone misses a ball, and I
catch and toss it back. "Sank.
you," he calls, blushing at his
own daring to speak English,
and then warming my heart
when he echoes my "You're
welcome," or "That's okay,"
Some days I am ignored along
with the other adults who pass
by. And on some terrible days
I am silently stared at for my
whole long walk down the
street, Then I try to stare at
myself too and see how strange
I must look to them. I imagine
them looking at a picture book
and, finding an American, point-
ing and commenting to a school
friend, "We have one on our
street, just like that."
I cherish most those two boys
who rose beside me down the
alley one day testing English
phrases from their schoolbooks.
I was pushing the baby carriage
and they pulled up beside me
on their bicycles, "What time
Is it?" the taller one asked.
I shook my head, "I don't
know." The boy was disappoint-
ed in me; it was not the time
he wanted, but talk. "I am a
boy," his friend said in meas-
ured rhythm. Finally I under..
stood. "Yes, and I am a girl.
This is a boy too, a baby boy,"
and I pointed into the carriage.
They grinned, Their English
textbook was coming alive. "I
go down street," the tall one
went on. "You go down the
street," I reminded him, "on a
bicycle," and my friend laugh-
ed.
But the other boy was trou-
bled. I sensed he was searching
for a word, mentally going over
lists of vocabulary. Finally he
burst out, "I am a boy; baby is
boy. You are not girl; you are
a mother."
He laughed, and his friend
cuffed his shoulder, laughing.
Then as abruptly as they had
come they nodded "good -by
mother," and peddled off.
Q. Our high school class is
going to have a dance, and sever-
e' of us fellows would like to
know Whether we should ask our
dates what kind of flowers they
want to wear on their dresses.
Can you answer this for us?
A. The best plan is to ask your
girls what color dresses they will
wear, then you choose flowers to
harmonize,
PLAYING BY EAR — This tiny violin and bow set is for real.
It was made by Mrs, Harriet Babcock Neil, 68 She and many
other older people showed the products of their unusual talents
at a hobby showfor older persons. A visitor to the show plays
himself a cheerful little earful with the elfin instrument.
_BEAT GENERATION — These tigers are really dragging on
arrival in Dallas, from the Brookfield Zoo in Chicago. The '
Siberian animals, worth $4,000, turned out to be both males
— much to the disappointment of Daces zoo officials — and
seem destinedto spend bachelor lives in their new home.
HItONICLES
1NGERFARM
G.m�mu� a ctas�
I imaginea lot of mothers --
and maybe a few grandmothers
too, including myself—were not
too pleased with the weather
during the Easter holidays. Wet
weather and children at home is
not a happy combination. We
volunteered to have David here
to help him recuperate after the
measles. We thought fresh air
and sunshine as well as the
change would do him good the
swings were ready and waiting
to encourage outdoor exercise.
But as you know it was cold, wet
and windy. But now, with the
Easter vacation over the weather
is grand so we are going to keep
Dave for a few days longer.
Daughter has no objection as the
other two little fellows are still
croupy and restless at night.
David is no trouble at all ex-
cept for his meals. What is the
matter with children nowadays?
By the time I have tried to get
a meal into Dave I feel too frus-
trated for words. We never had
that sort of trouble with•our two
children. I gave them what I
thought they should have and
that was that. Anything that was
left came up for thenext meal.
Dave doesn't care whether he
eats or not—preferably not.
However, I am hoping he will
improve as I got him some chem-
ical food --a vitamin and miner-
al tonic. I had it as a child, so
did our daughter, and now here
is our grandson having the same
tonic. I imagine it must be good
since it has been on the market
all these years.
Before David arrived I got in
half a day at the National Home
Show in Toronto, Actually I
wasn't too anxious to go but once
there I found it paid off. There
are various extras we still need
around here and at the Hone
Show I was able to compare one
make with another, bring back a
report to Partner and after that
we decided on the best type for
our purpose. Not only that but I
was able to get particulars about
a few installations that were
here when we took over the
house, the mechanics of which
we had never, properly under-
stood. Now that we do under-
stand it will simplify the neces-
sary cleaning and care tremend-
ously.
And then in my wanderings I
found myself right on the spot
when C.B.C. was getting ready
to televise "Open House"—one
of my favourite TV programmes.
It took over two hours to set up
the cameras and other equip-
ment in the Model House before
it went on the air. Fred Davis
was very busy conferring with
technicians and those taking part
in the programme, including
Frank Moritsugu, that genial
Japanese artist in home decorat-
ing who is also managing editor
of Canadian Homes and Gardens.
I had an opportunity to asic his
advice on a tittle home problem
which wasn't quite in his line.
Since he wasn't sure of the an-
swers he promised to have a
member of his staff send me the
required information. This was
done and told me exactly what I
wanted to know.
:,Of course Anna Cameron was
on the set, looking very charm
:ng in a tailored grey suit and a
pink, close -fitting flowered hat.
After the broadcast I had a, few
words with Anna. And you know
1 felt as if I knew her so well it
seemed almost strange to think
that she shouldn't know me! 1
found her just as natural and
friendly as one would expect
from her broadcasts,
At that same time, a short d s-,
tance from the Model House the
stage was being set for Front
Page Challenge that same eve-
ning. I was tempted to stay and
then decided I might just as
well get home in good time and
see it on television at home.
Partner was surprised toe see me
back so soon but I had seen
about everything, found out a lot
about a number of things — all
in a matter of hours. You can
accomplish so much more if
you start out with definite ideas
about things you want to know
about. Wandering around aim-
lessly can be very tiring and not
too rewarding.
One thing amused me. I was
having a light lunch at the cafe-
teria. Sitting at the next table
were two very fashionably dress-
ed ladies—one of them loaded
with diamond rings and double
chins. She turned to her com-
panion and said — "Don't they
have a bar around here at all?"
The poor dears, wasn't it a shame
they had to miss their cocktails?
Well, so much for that — now
on with the work. Dave to go out.
Ditto needs feeding, one of the
kittens needs an eye-wash—one
eye gets stuck up and won't
open. The sunshine is lovely .
robins, orioles and song -spar-
rows warbling with joy. Frogs
are singing, grass is greening, in
fact spring is busting out all
over. Partner is outside cleaning
windows, Dave with him. Daugh-
ter just phoned to say the little •
boy with whom Dave generally
plays has chicken -pox. Poor
mothers, what a time they have
nursing their children through
first one contagious disease and
then another.
'Bye I can smell my roast
-- maybe I forgot to turn the
heat down!
Obey the traffic signs — they
are placed there for your safety.
AN NE 14MST
ST
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am a
woman 19, and have been .mac-
ried four years. We have two
lovely children -whom. I rove
dearly. I. was very young to.
get married, but I didn't know
what love was,,—
'But now I think I am in love,
and with my husband's brother!
He is not married; he likes
me, I expect, just as a sister-in-
law.
"My husband is building us a
lovely home, and gets us every-
thing we want. He doesn't know
about his brother, of course
Once my husband said that if
anything• like this happened, he
would not let Ane have the chil-
dren!
"Shall I stay with the husband
I don't love — or teII his brother
how T feel? Help me, please!
MRS. C. D."
}IOW CAN YOU?
* If you want to toss brothers
e at each other's throats, break
* up your home, and lose these
* children of yours, tell your
* husband, but first go to your
room and see what the future
* holds.
" Where is your conscience?
You have an indulgent hus-
band, you are about to move
+' into a finer home, your chit-
* dren look to you to be a model
mother. (How could you go
* on without them?) Your
* brother-ih-law would probab-
* ly be so horrified by »your
* news that he would clear out
* fast, and that would be that.
4' Your husband's faith in you
* would be destroyed, and for
* the rest of his life he would
* despise you.
" Put yourself in his piece.
* What would he do without
* you, how bring up the children
" — and where would you go?
*° Disgraced in your husband's
* eyes, scorned by his brother,
* bereft of your children, what
* place `on earth is left for you
* to hide?
* It is sometimes hard for a
* woman who married so young
* to stay to the course. She has
* lost the first thrills of mar-
* riage. She sees her husband
* as a stodgy, hard- working
* man, and forgets he Is the
* provider of all the good things
* in this life she has without
* even asking.
* You wrote me under stress.
* You think you have found r0-
* mance, but what you feel is
* sinful and destructive. Empty
* your heart of such wicked
* notions, and be thankful there
* is still time to be the good
* wife you intended to be when
* you took your marriage vows.
* Go back to your church and
* pray for the strength to thrust
* this infatuation out of your
* heart, Count your blessings —
* and resolve from now on to
* keep your husband so content-
* ed that he' will never guess
* how close you came to de-
* serting all those you promised
* to cherish.
* * * '♦
BOY INTIMIDATES HER
"Dear Anne Hirst: Once you
wrote that boys take their social
cues from the girls they date.
One boy I dated just -twice
surely must have gone With•tho
wrong girls. He said things with
double meaning, and trying to
be pleasant, 1 just laughed at
them...
"I soon sent him off — and
now he threatens to tell stories
about me! Unfortunately, he
knows a lot of the other students
at school. How can I stop him?
FRIGHTENED'5
* This young man needs a
threat from one in authority.
* Tell your father or your
* brother the truth; if there,
* is no male member in your
* family, tell your mother. She
* will know how to silence this
" vulgar creature.
* Either he is tee. Ignorant of
* such 'a denunciation' and the
* lawful punishment he 1acee,
* or toospiteful -to care. In any
* event, it will be out of your
* hands.
*
* ..
If the day should come: when.
you think real romance awaits
outside your front door, picture
the devastation you would rcauee
if you yield. Write. Anne Hired
fast, and ask her for help. She
will give it. Address her at Bos
1, 123 Eighteenth St„ New Tor
nnto, Ont.
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FOR MIDNIGHT DIPS—Something ;new in bathing suits are these two from the spring collection"
of Parisian designer Pierre Cardin. They are intended for romantic midnight bathing parties
on the Mediterranean coast or anywhere else ,.that smart women gather. Model at right wears
the new "combination" creation in elasticized sculptured nylon in cream and gold with match-
ing turbaiT,. Golden satin fashions the broad straps and edges the ankle -length pants. Suit at
left is in the same elasticized nylon in a rich shade of orange glinting with gold thread.