Loading...
HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-05-01, Page 8A. ANW�, I+IRST "Dear Anne Hirst: My husband and I. were mar- ried six'years ago, and we never did get along well. We were always .quarreling, though we were very dear to each other. Our children are three and five. now; I am only 22, and my hus- band 24. We separated a few times, and twd years ago I nought a divorce. The children were given to me, and not long afterward my husband entered a mental hospital. "Now he has been dischargd, and is living, with his parents. We see each other regularly. To me he seems perfectly all right, and he is certainly •a changed man (He is so helpful with the children, something he never was before). We have fallen in love all over again, and he wants Its to remarry. We have talked very frankly about it, and agree we were both too young and stubborn to get along—and be- sides, he was sick then. Young Play -Set HUNTED PATTERN SIZES 4863 2-3 11144, Printed Pattern that's easy Sewing for mother — makes a darling play -outfit for daugh- ter! See the "grownup" styling of the shirt -top (plenty of room for active wear); shorts and pedal pushers to match or con- trast, Printed Pattern 4863: Chil- dren's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8. Size 6 shirt 1V8 yards 35 -inch; shorts, 1 yard. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (50¢) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 17 — 1958 "His parents are terribly shocked at the idea, and my own family make frightening predic- tions. "Isn't this really our own af- fair, Anne Hirst? I would not think of living with him if I were not convinced, he has en- tirely recovered. Please give us your opinion. MRS. F." CONSULT HTS DOCTOR • Your letter was quite too * long to print, but from its con- * tents I. find myself on your * side. With all their good in- * tentions, neither his parents * nor yours can judge your hus- * band's condition as his wife * can. You are eager to take * him back. To make doubly * sure he is able to assume * family' responsibilities, how- * ever, I urge you both to con- * stilt the doctor who committed * him to the sanatorium. * Such institutions are usually * overcrowded, I am informed, * and it could' happen that * your husband was released be- * fore he was sufficiently cured * to make a success of remar- * riage. His doctor, through ex- * tensive examinations and an- * alysis, will have an opinion * that should be safe to follow. * His conclusion may corrobor- * ate your own, or he may advise * waiting for a longer period and * further consultations. * For everybody's sake, I hope * with you that remariage is not * far off. hf you are advised to * wait, wait patiently and with * faith, knowing it is always * wiser to accept a professional * opinion on such a momentous * question. * * * OLD FRIEND IMPOSES "Dear Anne Hirst: We two girls live together, and we have lots of friends. A young man from my home town has the habit of inviting himself for dinner at the last moment, tak- ing his welcome for granted. I don't like it. "He is a complete bore. He never offers to help with the dishes, just sits and listens to the radio. He hasn't taken me out anywhere for months. But he is the son of a friend of my family, and I must not be rude. "Have you any ideas? WONDERING" * Like yourself, this lad is * living away from his people * and he naturally turns to the * one link he knows for com- * panionship. Many a boy is * as thoughtless, not realizing he * is making a nuisance of him- * self .and accepting hospitality * without returning it. * There is a limit to such im- * position. • Next time he appears with- * out warning, tell him that you * and your girl friend have a * double date tonight—or you're * tired and going to bed early; * or you're having dinner out * and going to a movie, and * would he like to come along? * When you write home again, * tell your mother how things * stand. If he is as supersensi- * tive as some, and gives his * family the idea you are not * being friendly, your people * will have been informed of the * true circumstances. * * x In any crisis, write to Anne Ilirst about your situation and ask her opinion. If she cannot advise you herself, she will recommend a source that can. Address her at Box 1, 123 - 18th St., New Toronto, Ont. � K< A FAT PART — Shelley Winters, glamor -girl in many film has gained 25 pounds on purpose. And she's glad, glad, glad. The poundage is called for in her role in "The Diary of Ann Frank" which she considers a top acting opportunity. Photos show the old Shelley, left, and the new. PRINCESS CHARMING — Once again the affairs of Princess Mar- garet, shown posing for a new official photo, have England in an uproar. Her Prince Charming, Capt. Peter Townsend, seem- ed about to resume what Britdns called "an impossible suit" for Margaret's hand. Townsend denied he had any such inten- tions but romance -minded housewives in the tight little island were staring dreamily at his picture in the papers and mur- muring how sad it all was. • HRONICLES iNGERFARM Gv¢'.olvn.eP. Cte.eke Some farm folk, when they reach the age of retirement, keep a few acres of the old farm site, remodel the old house or build a new one. It sounds like an ideal solution, doesn't it .. . among old friends and neighbors, familiar surroundings, and, since they are able to choose the best location on a hundred acres, there would be trees and possib- ly a lovely view. There the re- tiring couple would look foward to a leisurely, quiet life for as many years as might be left to them. Last week I visited at just such a home—at least it was intended to be just such a home —now occupied by a widowed mother and her daughter. I don't know what the original acreage had been—perhaps a hundred, maybe two hundred acres—partly bush and partly unworkable land as it bordered a ravine, at the bottom of which flowed a winding stream. A blind road separates the property from still more bush—a beautiful stand of hardwood. The widaw had retained the century - old stone house and about twenty- five acres of land. It is as pic- turesque a spot as one could wish for—quiet and secluded with only one other house in view. Shading the house are lovely old oaks, elms and ever- greens. And yet the place is not more than ten minutes drive from a main highway. Now here is -what happened. A few years ago the property across the road, including the bush, was sold. It lay idle for awhile but today there are bull- dozers and earth movers at work. Trees are being ruthless- ly destroyed. They have to be because this is to be a new sub- division! The widow's property is a little farther down the road. A year ago she sold a few extra acres to a man whom she thought wanted it as a site for his country home. Perhaps he 'did, if so he has changed his mind as the acreage is to be included in the subdivision—or so it is rumored. Honestly these days a home in the country ends up by being little more than .a dream. Sub- divisions, commercial enterprises and highways are like the tent- acles of a huge octopus from which it seems impossible to es- cape. Of course there must be growth and development but why, of why must it be at the SAWS SA:LIES 'Now that Spring's here, we can resume our person-to-per- son broadcasts.", expense of rural scenery/ Bare fields would serve the purpose equally well. Part of the troufle lies in the real estate transactions. Often a farmer has no idea to whom he is selling or for what purpose. The purchaser conceals his e identity by having the work done for him through brokers and lawyers. No one can tell how long any given district will remain a rural area. Years ago five miles from urban centres and you were in the country. Now you have to go much far- ther. That might be all right too except that too far from one city brings you to the outskirts of another! Oh well, there is always outer space—for a few years anyway. And now I must report an in- crease in our family. Ditto pre- sented us with four little kittens. (There are two now.) She left her usual sleeping quarters in the basement and chose an. old box for her confinement. No sooner were the kittens born than she started bringing them upstairs so Partner put a barri- cade at the foot to discourage her. The kittens are both tortoiseshell like their mother.' Our grand- sons were here yesterday and were shown the kittens. It was the first time they had seen baby kittens of any kind. Dave couldn't understand why they wouldn't open their eyes. So far I have managed to keep the news quiet around here. We don't want all the youngsters beating a path to our basement door. Seeing the kittens will be a privilege by invitation only. Well, this is the big day — election day for Canada's 24th Parliament. And a beautiful day it is - a contradiction to it being a bad time of year to hate an election. We were busy this morning taking some of the neighbours to vote. We don't know their politics — that is their business. We just wanted to make it convenient for young mothers with children to get to the polling booth. How glad we'll be when it's over. Sometimes an election is the cause of a rift between friends. One such case came to our attention. Two good neigh- bours, one Liberal, one Conser- vative, each working hard for his own party, and kidding each other all the time. And then one al them over -stepped the boundary line of political ethics, more as a joke than anything else. But the other fellow was furious. We are hoping, with the election over, and gardening in full swing, differences will be forgotten over the garden fence. Modern Etiquette . by Roberta Lce Q. Should one leave the spoon in the sherbet glass when one has finished eating this dessert? -- A. No; place the spoon in the saucer. Q. Is it proper for parents to include their children in intro- ductions? A. Most certainly. And they should teach their children at an early age how to make friend- ly acknowledgments to these in- troductions. Q. Do you think a wife should join her husband in "greeting his guests when ,he is entertaining some men at. a stag party in their home? A. No. The wife should remain behind the scenes and be as inconspicuous as possible 'dur- ing the entire evening. Q. If on a reducing diet, and you are served apple pie at a luncheon, is it all right to eat only the apples and leave the crust -or would this be discour- teous to my hostess? A. This is quite all right, and a thoughtful hostess will not questionit. Star Boarder: In' Sault St. Ma- rie, Ont., jailers kept a special eye on new Convict (for rob- bery) Arthur Lariviere, who, as "The Great Adano" Once won bookings with a circus as a re- sult of a stunt escape from the Sault Ste. Marie jail. Fewer than 12•. per cent of America's people; now live on farms. ' Decorating An Old House An old house offers a family more space than they'd ever find in a modern bungalow. And even if the windows are oddly shaped, ceilings too high and the place abounds with nooks and crannies, careful choice of de- corating colours can work mir- acles, according to Wilfred Sin= clair, colour consultant. Here are some of his sugges- tions for creating optical illu- sions with paint: In a less -than -perfect room, decide which is the best wall and make that the centre of interest. Paint it in a contrast- ing colour, favour It with an in- teresting table or picture and group the furniture so that the attention of everyone in the room is centred on its best fea- ture. If the fireplace is ugly and you wish it were less conspicu- ous, onspicuous, paint it the same colour as the wall. Ilse a sealer coater (such as is used. ,on' new plaster or wallboard) so the lime in the mortar won't bleed into the paint. Then use paint in a flat or semi -gloss finish just the same as on the wall. If the ceiling is too high, "pull it down" by painting it in a darker tone of the wall colour. For a room cut up with dark trim around windows and doors, Mr. Sinclair strongly advises making the trim the same colour as the walls. "The room will seem much more spacious," he claims, "since each time you put a line in the room you decrease its size " Give the woodwork a rub with sandpaper first, clean it with mineral spirits of turpentine and give it a base coat of sealer coater to prevent the stain com- ing through ,the paint. If win- dows are poorly proportioned,. they'll be less conspicuous if their frames match the walls. "If you wish to leave the woodwork dark, choose a 'good- neighbour colour' for the walls," Mr. Sinclair suggests. The stain of the wood should blend with the wall colour rather than con- trast with it. If the brown wood has a yellowing cast, it is best with beige or coffee tones on the walls If it's on the reddish side, it needs a wall colour with a rosy undertone. A long narrow room will look wider with a darker • colour ors the wall at each of. the narrow ends. Remember that dark shades tend to draw walls ins light colours push them out. "But keep dark colours off win- dow in dow walls" Mr. Sinclair warns. "You don't want a bright spot of light surrounded by darkness. It's hard on the eyes!" Many old houses were built with wainscotting half way up the walls, especially in dining rooms. Sometimes this can be removed, but if not, it should be painted the same colour as the upper wall. A contrasting colour is much too overwhelming. With a few tricks like these and a paintbrush as her magic wand, a homemaker can push back one wall, draw another in and make, the worst eyesores in her old house fade into their surroundings. No decorat- ing project is so challenging — or so rewarding! Easy Crochet • it One straight piece for skirt. Little shaping needed for bodice. Petal stitch and chain loops — easy crochet. Thrifty — size 4 takes 6 balls of cotton. Pattern 637: crochet directions, child's sizes 2, 4, $ years included in pattern. Send. •THIRTY- FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 129 Eighteenth St., New 'Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAM and ADDRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns are printed right in our LAURA WHEELER Needle- craft Book. Dozens of other de- signs you'll want to order—easy fascinating handwork for your- self, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today/ JAILED — Cheryl Crane, 14, daughter of actress Lana Turner and restaurateur Stephen Crane, is resting her head on her father's, shoulder at the police station, where she was booked on a suspicion of murder zharge. Cheryl plunged an eight -inch carving knife into the'sternach of Johnny Stompanato, her mother's recent steady escort, when he quarreled violently with Miss Turner and threatened her with bodily holrn.