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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-04-03, Page 6ANNE 14IRST Pc 1_ t z f"a�fi 172-124the , - 4 F 5 B► 1 2. Bp 1 2 Cr, 1 2 "Dear Anne Hirst:, We have set, a summer date for our wedding;, but develop- ments of the last few months make me really •uneasy. >7;yvo friends have divorced their hus- bands and another is ' unhappy, `Theyare wonderful girls, af- fectionate and sensible, and their. husbands seemed above the aver- age. I don't know what happen- ed, but their marriage only last- ed two years! It makes one ponder. "Can you give me some rules on how to make my husband - to -be contented, and keep him thinking I am the only girl in the world?" * Marriage success depends so * much on background, tempera- * ment and the will to com- * promise that this is really a big * order; a few fundamental hints * can be cut to size by smart * fiancees, however, and fitted * to their problems. * One of the leading causes * for divorce in this country is * opposing opinions on haw to * spend the family income. The * time to discuss this is before * marriage, If your fiance has * not talked frankly about his * income and the living stand- * and it permits, you two had * better get down to brass tacks * and make up a budget. True, * you will revise it after mar- * riage puts it to the test, but * you should start with one, * no matter how simple. * If you do not know what * problems your fiance faces in * his business, inform yourself * now. A man likes to discuss * his daily triumph and failures * when he gets home, and his wife is the one to applaud or * sympathize. She is his part- * nor, and should be his favorite • audience, so he will not be * tempted to search elsewhere * for understanding. * Never make dates for going * out or entertaining without * consulting him. Your home is * his home, too, you know. Wel- * come his friends whether you * want to or not, and make a * real effort to win their admire - • tion and their confidence. He * relies on them, so they must * be worth knowing. * In the intimacy of marriage * it is easy to let your manners * down. Never omit "please" * and "thank you". Compliments, f' and a little judicious flattery brighten the daily routine and * maintain his wellbeing and yours, too. Learn to be a good tit housekeeper, of course, but don't make that your initial * ambition; being a good com- * panion is every bit as import- * ant, Keep up with what's * going on beyond your neigh- * borhood, so you won't confine Easy Filet Design • ere xc, 704 ��f (:.._ n 61 , OseIrtA V Y I eP3 'L See how fast roses grow in easy filet -crochet. Spend pleas- ant evenings making these. Crochet an heirloom - worthy spread, a cloth, dresser set, or scarf. Pattern '704 has easy -to - follow chart, directions for 8 - inch square in No. 50 cotton. Send TIiIIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER your NAME and AD. DRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns are printed right in our LAURA WHEELER Needlecraft Book. Dozens of other designs you'll want to order — easy fascinating handwork for your- self, your home, gifts, bazaar Items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! * your conversation to the cost * of living and why the laundry * man didn't come today. * Being more than nice to his * family is a MUST. When rills- * understandings arise (and they * will) it is comforting to know * they are open-minded. Be as * considerate of his mother as * hope he will be of yours, and * make sure she knows that * your one aimis tokeep her * son well and happy. * Keep him as proud of you * as he is today. See that your * appearance is immaculate and * dainty. Maintain your personal * integrity and sportsmanship— * and learn to hold your temper. * FirmIy refuse to show jealousy, * no matter what doubts appear. * Trust him completely, and let * him know it; a man usually * measures up to his wife's * opinion of him. * Nor will you ever descend * to nagging—and remember if * you mention a subject twice, * a man is apt to call it that. * No disagreement should ever * last overnight. Not one of * them is worth it. * It is realistic to approach * marriage with some trepida- * tion. I wish I had more space * today, but these hints will * suggest others and keep you * on the right track. Moreover, * if you practice them daily your * husband will stay on his polite * toes, too, Fit your principles * to the man; and keep -a Might * hold on your sense of humor. * Good luck to a smart girl. * * * A couple in love should re- member that the Golden Rule works out in marriage, and the will to follow it becomes a habit. If trouble comes, write to Anne Hirst; you can be sure of her sympathy and help. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. Silent Finland The Finland of centuries past, and centuries to come, needs no re-creation in the mind. It lies there, before the eyes, yesterday, today, seemingly forever. Its silence and its solitariness, too, seem to spring from etern- ity. There are tens of miles of forest, lake and moorland, un- broken by a single house; there is here a dimly -tracked road, there a scarcely -worn path. Where fields have been culti- vated they are not neatly rim- med with hedges and fences to break the limitless landscape, but divided only by ditches which the eye barely notes. Roads, paths, ditches alI disap- pear in a vast sea of whiteness once winter conies and snow be- gins to fall. In summer the still- ness is undisturbed by whir of train or tractor; in winter it deepened by the snow that blots out sound as well as mark of footfall, It is a stillness other than a mere absence of sound; it bas its own quality, as positive as that of sound, and it gives to every note that breaks it a qual- ity to which the noisier West has become deafened. The Fin- nish language, so rich and var- ied in expression, has its great- est wealth in words which de- scribe minute variations of sound which any but the Finns would fail to hear. When the wind soughs in the pine trees, it is humista. When the wind soughs in the birch trees, it is kohista. Neither verb can be used in the place of the other. The birds of Finland seem, too, to share this heightened human sensitivity to every ca- dence. The notes of a piano, softly played in a lonely coun- try house, will draw them round the windows to sing in concert. The landscape is made of a surprising mixture of monotony and variety. The forests, the lakes and the desolate moor- lands roll on for hours and miles, yet their monotony grows all the time more impressive. There are few of the small, fleeting and delicious vistas of England which disappear before the inward eye has had time to photograph them. Instead the scene repeats itself, impresses itself with increasing intensity, and binds its spell ail the time more firmly. — From "Green Gold and Granite," by Wendy Hall. SALLY'S SACUES "The refrigerator isn't caul- ingyou much trouble -I hope." Favorites In The Oscar Derby— Best Actress Best Actor Deborah Kerr Alec Guinness Best Supporting Acrtess and Actor Diane Varsl Red Buttons HRONICIJE5 IthNGERFARM ewe .d,olire P. Ctrl ,e Can you smell it . see it . sense it ... that first touch of spring? Oh yes, I know it is actually a• long way off — there Is still snow on the ground and we may yet have blizzards, ice - storms and heaven knows' what — but not, we hope, anything like they are experiencing in Newfoundland at this moment. Here there is a certain some- thing in the air that precedes the coming of spring. There is a difference in the early morn- ing sun -rays; in the way the birds fly; in the colour of the willow branches. What's more you may even see crows flying. We have seen two and yesterday a cock -pheasant came running across our back lawn. Above alt haven't you noticed a lifting of your own spirits? Isn't it won- derful what, even the thought of spring can do to a person? We begin to think of gardens, seed catalogues, baby chicks and wee lambs. Oh yes, and house- cleaning — that, I suppose is inevitable. But not, I hope, while it is still wet and slushy outside. Instead, maybe we can wonder - belatedly — where all those leisure winter hours have gone! Or didn't you have any? Some people just don't have any spare tim, or having it lack the energy to make use of it, which may result from a number of rea- sons. Yesterday, for instance, I had a letter in which the writer said — "I feel so disgusted when I look back over the winter months and realize how little I have to show for it. I have tried to knit and sew but can't seem tc do much, not even reading, except for glancing at the papers. Everything seems too much effort and I just lie and think of all the things I want to do and can't" I wonder how many people share her feelings. That letter worried me because of its depressed attitude. The writer is a clever woman, artis- tic, capable, loves good music, and can make a home out of al- most nothing. She and her hus- band live on a fifty -acre farm and because they don't keep any help, her time is probably pretty well taken up with house- hold duties. It isn't like her to just "sit and think of all.. the things she would like to do an can't." Incidentally they don't have a television' set. When a person feels that way it is time to look for a reason— possibly consult a' doctor: A doctor will know if there is any- thing physically wrong but I always think the person herself is a better judge of what to do to occupy her mind — and that sometimes depends upon what she does with her hands. Crea- tive work is usually the best — and it can take so many forms— painting, pottery, piecing quilts or just ordinary sewing and knit- ting. A grandmother is never at a loss to know what she shall sew or knit! And when the hands are active the mind has less time to worry about physical aches and pains..,Last week I went to see an old lady of 84 who had fallen and broken her left wrist. She was wearing her third cast with just her fingers free. And what do you suppose she was doing? Piecing a quilt - top, no less! "Oh, I'm slow," she admitted, "but I've plenty of time and I get there — and the work is keeping my lingers ex- ercised." She certainly wasn't worrying about the things she couldn't do but was determined to do as much as she was able. On the other side of the scales we have women, particularly farm women, who push them- selves beyond endurance and be- come over -tired and nervy as a result. Housecleaning — every nook and cranny .must be gone over. Every bit of woodwork washed and some of it painted. Floors varnished and waxed. Pictures and ornaments cleaned and polished. Every housewife knows the story. But sometimes I wonder . do we own our possessions or do they own us? 'Taking care of plants and'knick-knacks takes time. In fact as the years go by these things become a time -con ' suming worry,,, either to the owner, or, if she becomes sink to those who have charge of her. Do we really value these things so much? If so, why? I am ask- mg myself that as well as you. Among my collection is a piece of wood, brought back from Egypt by an aunt long before 1 was born. It is supposed to be from the Mount of Olives. A tiny Irish lustre jug previously owned by a grandmother I never even knew and odds and ends of ornaments, painted or can, - ed, brought are-ed,''brought back from Switzer- land by Partner's father. Well, I am now creating a treasure of more practical value and malting use of my TV thne. Crocheted bedspreads for twin beds! Each wheel pattern takes about twenty minutes to do and there will be 540 wheels in each spread. Now you figure that one out - I have been afraid to try! I have done 220. As I say it is my TV work — I couldn't be at peace with my conscience if I were to watch TV with idle hands. I made a spread last year - by utilizing the same time. Heir- looms for my children as they Nall last forever they., are so strong. Beauty Routine For Busy Hands Our hands become so occupied with household tasks at times that we give them little Oppor- tunity to take care of themselves. If yours have been guilty of disappearing behind your back or under the table on social oc- casions lately, console yourself with the thought that even a busy pair of hands may become attractive in a week's time if you follow a simple hand -beauty routine. Begin and end your day by massaging them with a lotion or a cream. Follow the same proce- dure before and after each task that is particularly hard on your hands. If they are rough and red, cover them with a face cream and a pair of loose cotton mitts for a few nights. 'Use a commercial softener if the water in your locality is hard, and protect your hands further by wearing rubber or neoprene gloves for cleaning, dishwashing and laundry work. Keep a pair of warm gloves handy in the kitchen and slip them on each time you venture out inti the cold, even if it is only for a few minutes. Use of cream, lotion and gloves will benefit your nails as well as your hands. If your nails break easily because they are brittle, increase your orange juice intake and drink one envelope of color- less gelatin dissolved in water daily. Give your nails a protec- tive coat of lacquer, either clear or colored. To make your mani- cure last longer, add a film of lacquer or a topcoat daily. Your cuticle will take care of itself if you press it back from the tip of the nail toward the base each time you dry your hands. If the cuticle is hard, soak your hands in soapy water and then press lightly around the nail base with a cotton -tip- ped stick in cuticle remover. Damp hands chap easily so al- ways dry them thoroughly. Of the 457,715 children born in Canada last year, 6,974 were still -born. Of the live - born, 9,065 died in the first 4 weeks al life. It is not difficult to under- stand why Canada ranks only 10th among nations in infant mortality. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. Is it considered proper to repeat a person's name when yois are acknowledging an introduc- tion? A. This is not only proper, but practical too. Many persons fail to remember the names Of peo- ple to whom they are introduced. Repeating the name, as, "How de you do, Mr. Garrison," helps to imprint the name in one's me- mory. Q. Is fit proper to ask ties guest -of -honor at our dinner table to say grace before the meal? A. Only if your guest is a clergyman.Otherwise grace should be spoken by the host on, in his absence, by the hostess. Q. Should a woman walk on a short distance, or should sho wait wtih her escort while he pays the taxi fare? A. She should wait with her escort. Q. What is the proper length of time for a young woman to wear mourning for her father!_ A. This is entirely up to her. The custom of wearing mourning is not so strict as it formerly' was. Many people do not con- sider it necessary at all. Week's Sew -Thrifty PRINTED PAT ERN Q?1 t ,4114 44 4 Quick, whip up these sun 'n' fun separates in a jiffy — daugh- ter will live in, play in, love them. Make several versions of smock, shorts, pedal pushers le no -iron cotton, denim, seersuckei with our easy Printed Pattern. Printed Pattern 4707: Child's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8. Size 6 smock and shorts take 12 yards 36 -inch. Printed directions on each pat tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postai note for safety) for this pattern Please print plainly SIZE NAME, ADDRESS, STYLI NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS. Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Neo Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 13 — 1958 HOI NEWS?—Some dressed-for•the-cold Eskimos crowd around a linotype machine in he composing room of the Fairbanks (Alaska) News -Miner to watch foreman Irl Todd ply his trade. It was the first linotype: that the fascinated Eskimos of Barto, , P,Ics:.o, h..d even seen.