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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-03-27, Page 8ANNE 14IRST .yam Family ���. "Dear Anne Hirst: Over two years ago I met a girl and we've been going steady , ever since.'"At first she did not love me, 'but in time She grew to care very much. Btit. Ikept stalling marriage — because my widowed mother was against it. (lite girl was .always talking marriage and making plans, and 1 did not know how I was hurt - int; her.) I should add that I am 10 years older, but we got alc:tg wonderfully; we've never had an argument, only a few intitor differences. "f got., engaged at Christmas. My mother was very much up- set. whichresulted in my feel- the that way too, so I made n0 !n.hsellate plans. 1 was even oul Lo my fiance. .antime she grew more and t.eora confused. We had 3 good ilk, and she said she wasn't aurc she wanted to go through wit!t 11. I pleaded, and even set tadding date. She ttsked for Dm "At 1 now she has decided not i.r.rry mel She c';aims. her bdecreased some titne before, ut she had felt obliged.: She pay.. there's noother man, and that :.he is fond. of me, but 'that's sot enough for marriage'. "I know now how much I do Love her. I am trying desperate- ly to get her back, promising anything. But her mind seems to be made up. "Do you think in time she will come to love me again? Or is there no hope? I certainly need your advice. HURT" MOTHER Vs. FIANCE * Why should the girl want * to marry a lukewarm lover * who has vacillated 'lime and * again between his two loyal- * ties? She took you at your * word, and planned her wed- * ding with all the faith in the * world. Even after she accept- * ed you, you did not set the date. That must have been * the last straw. * Now that she will have none * of you, . you suddenly admit * that she is essential to your * happiness. You are so des- * perate you will "promise any- * thing". Why would she be- * lieve you? * You are a little late, my * friend. * Since you ask, however, * there are two courses open: * Let her alone, and give her * time to find out whether you ,i are necessary to her happiness, * Or, put on an active campaign. Chair Set Or Scarf A handsome set for modern or traditional homes. Simple filet crochet with K -stitch sets off the deer design. Pattern 598: crochet direc- tions, chart for chair back 12112 x16 inches, armrest 6x8 — in No. 50 cotton. Make scarf ends, too. Send T IIIITY-FIVE CENTS ,(statnps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto. Ont Print plainly the PATTERN NUMBER and your NAME and ADDRESS. As a bonus. TWO complete patterns are printed right in our LAURA WHEELER Needle- craft Book. Dozens of other de- signs you'll want to order - easy fascinating handwork for yourself, your home, gifts, ba- zaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! ISSUE 12 — 1958 * Don't let a day pass, without * some word, a . call, a note, a * box of flowers. Maybe she * will be touched, maybe not. * Your motherbinds you with * the traditional silver cord, and * you have been weak. enough * t0 let her pull the strings. She * believes her world will . end. * on the day you take a wife. * (Even now, will you be strong * enough to live your own life?) * "Too late" are sorrowful * words. PF you have lost the' * girl, it is because she was play- * ing second fiddle and finally * woke up. That was not good * enough. So she declared her * love had cooled, and so saved * her pride. Perhaps she really * has stopped loving you, per- * haps not, Only she knows. * My opinion is of no use. It * is hers that matters. * * i, LITTLE GIRL COMPLAINS "Dear Anne Hirst: I am nearly 14, and 1 am so mad with my mother I can hard- ly bear to speak to her. There is a boy my age who wants to take me out, but she won't hear of it, so he takes out other girls! "I have to go to bed at 9 o'clock even if girl friends are here. I've been embarrassed so often that now I won't see them . "I don't want to go with just anybody; I just want a steady boy friend. All my friends have them, and I'm beginning to hate them. I can't talk with Mom about it. I don't know what words to say, but it's a relief to write to you. Will you help me? MAD AND MISERABLE" * Your mother knows you * better than anyone else, and * has gapd reasons for her rules, * In my opinion, she is right. * You will be smart to obey * them amiably, and with no * argument. * When a girl your age goes * with only one boy she usually * looks ridiculous. She is likely * to let her emotions run away * with her, and to think her * dates are the most important * events in her life . That isn't * the way to become a smart, * interesting and att r active * young woman whom, in a few * years, the nicest boys will want * to date. * I know that your bed -time hour embarrasses you. If the * mothers .of your friends are careful, • as c , the day may * come when they wish they had * been ... Takemy word for * it, and when you are a few * years older you will be grate- * ful for these rules that you * resent today. * Then you will smile at this * childish rebellion. * * * No self-respecting girl will marry a Mama's boy if she knows it. If you are in love, cherish your sweetheart. Otherwise, you do not deserve her . Anne Hirst will give her best thought to your problem. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. FRESH START Exactly thirty minutes after Hollywood song writer Buddy Cole's divorce decree became final he remarried - the same woman. To puzzled reporters he ex- plained: "We wanted to start all over again with a 'clean slate'." Their previous marriage lasted two years. GRACIE'S RETIRING With the last script of the Burns and Allen television show before her, Gracie Allen dreams of the day this spring when she will retire from show business. Gracie started her act with husband George Burns in 1924. BEST SLOGAN -Displaying her work and the medal it won for her, Donna Antonette poses proudly after triumphing in the New York Police' Athletic .League annual 'Brotherhood Poster Contest. Donna' we's awarded the medal for she best slogan at World Brotherhood Headquarters. HRONICLES 1NGERFARMertztolin.e P. One a our former farni`neigh- bours phoned me the other day and said — "You should be glad you are not on the farm right now - you would never have got out of your lane for the drifts. And, because of the wind, it has been so cold around here that Mary, (another neighbour) has even been borrowing blan- kets!" We can believe it. We oen ws'1 remember what drifting snow could' do to our long lane at •. Ginger Farm. And we know how iinpossible it was to heat the house with a high wind blowing. We certainly do feel thankful we are living in a more sheltered area. But now the pattern of our family life has taken a strange twist. Ever since they have been married Bob and Joy have been living at Oakville — just ten miles from here. Sometimes Bob was working at Oakville, some- times at Cooksville, wherever he happened to be needed most. Now he won't be working at either plant — but at Milton, only a short distance from Ginger Farm, and for a different company. Friends are now think- ang we shall regret having left the district. That is not so, but we are glad Bob is moving back, that will give us a better oppor- tunity of keeping in touch with the old familiar places, of which we have many fond memories. At Oakville we had no interest other than to visit Bob and Joy. At Milton we can watch the progress of Highway 401 and see just what happens to the oid farm. It will be wonderful for us and Bob will enjoy being back at his old haunts and with his friends and schoolmates. Strangely enough he starts his new job on his son's first birth- day. There has also been excitement in daughter's family. Jerry, at 41 months, has cut his first tooth! They were all here on Saturday and I'm telling you the dust flies when Dave and Eddie start charging around. Dave was feeling quite proud — he had been to the dentist for the first time and was lthrilled. Well, so much for our own little affairs — important to us but not of world-shaking signi- ficance. But there was an item of news last week that may be important to all of us at some time or other, directly or indi- rectly. A4td thank goodness it had nothing Lo do with atom bombs, guided missiles or other weapons capable of destroying mankind. Nos- this was just the opposite — a serum that may save the lives of millions of people. I am referring to the anti -clot serum to be used in cases of brain haemorrhage or thrombosis. Used as an injec- tion it goes. to work immediately, dissolves the blood clot and gives the patient a good chance to recover. It is a wonderful piece of news; reassuring to the thou- sands of people 'suffering from high blood pressure — which, incidentally includes myself. Of course we have to remember that in some cases an unfor- tunate person may be streillaost quite suddenly and be beyond help before a doctor can even be called. The serum cannot restore life, but if 'I interpret its uses, correctly it can save lives if a doctor reaches a Pa- tient before it is too late. What an age we live in. On the one hand destructive forces building up almost everywhere; on the other hand medical science continually making dis- coveries to relieve suffering and prolong life. Discoveries that pertain to animal as well as human life. Years ago if a cow got milk -fever there was little chance of her recovery. Now the "vet" comes along, gives Bossie a shot of penicillin and before you know it she's up on herr feet again. The same goes for a calf with "the scours". In years gone by many a poor little calf died if home remedies failed to bring about a cure. Now there are anti -biotics for this and that and a calf has little option ex- cept to grow and thrive. Thank goodness, in the case of a male, he doesn't know that he may later appear as veal cutlets on somebody's dinner table. The female has a better time. She is often allowed to mature and produce her off -spring year after year. She may know the joys of motherhood by having her calf stay with her. On the other hand she may never see her baby as the calf may be taken away. from her directly it is born and fed by hand. At Ginger Farm it was sometimes done one way, sometimes the other, depending upon .how badly we needed the extra milk. It was always a great grief to me when Bossie wens not allowed to keep her self. And the poor little calf — serer to feel the caressing mother -tongue licking her head and ears. How I wish - as it once must have been — farming followed only nature's laws .. . cows raising their own calves, Modern Young Man. Most Unromantic Where did you propose to your wife? It's one chance in four that you 'were sitting in a car when you poppedthe question. At least, .that i(' what Dr. Paul Popenoe thinks following a study of over 1,000 marriage proposals. The modern young man is most. unromantic. In the olden days, he would fall on his knee, look rapturously into. his .girl's eyes and implore her to be his bride, Today, according to Dr. Popen- oe, he wanders window-shopping with her and while they stare ae furniture in a showroom window he is as likely as not to say. "How's about you and me fixing up a little love nest?" Dr. Popenoe, as head of the Los Angeles Institute of Family Relations, studied 1,181 marriage proposals and found that 25 per cent were made in motor cars while the couple were parked somewhere. Proposals made in the girl's , home came close to motor car proposals with a total of 23 per cent, while proposals on the street, in restaurants, parks and in other public places accounted for 20 per cent of the total. Holiday time is not quite so dangerous for the bachelor as some people believe for only 13 per cent of the proposals ana- lysed by Dr. Popenoe were made while on holiday. Parties, dinners and dances may be places where romantic • attachments are made but cer- tainly they are not conducive to marital ties, for only 10 per cent of all marriage proposals were made at such events. Did you send your proposal by wire or letter? If you did you fall into a class by yourself for the modern male is too bash- ful to write or wire -only 6 per cent of the total proposed in this way. The odd -man -out who proposes while descending by parachute or while prodding a lion in e cage is a rarity, for only 3 per cent of the total number of pro- posals analysed were unusual, like the couple who met recently and went roller skating. The young man, holding the girl's hand and rapturously looking into her eyes, gave her an en- gagement ring as they skated. To cap that, they were married as they skated around an arena with a parson on rollers skating alongside them. A PIONEER PHYSICIST James Clerk -Maxwell, Scot- tish h physicist who died in 1879, was the first professor of experi- mental physics at Cambridge. SMLY'S SAWS 'That will especially delight Aad, and Mother, too!!' foals running with the mares; hens roaming the orchard, each with a clutch of chicks; ewes with their lambs and a sow with i a dozen piglets. It can't be, of course, farming is now a busi- ness — and I am a sentimental idealist when it comes to country living. So I' guess it is just as well we are no longer actively engaged in farming. The com- mercial side of it never did ap- peal to me. It we bad farmed my way wewould certainly have gone broke! Modern '_Etiquette . . by Roberta Lee Q. if friends stave called at the home of parents of a new- born childand have brought it ,a gift, is it necessary for the mother to write a note of thanks to these friends in addition to the thanks she has already ex- pressed verbally? - A. Certainly this ; is not out of place, and it does indicate a sincere appreciation of the friends' thoughtfulness. Q. Is it correct to write a note wishing a girl .happiness after you have read the announce'- ment of her engagement in the . newspaper? A. Yes; a brief, but sincere. note is in very good. taste. Q. Some of soy friends, when they catch my eye in church, smile and bow, or wave 'their hands at me, even though the service is going on. Is this prop- er? A. Ordinarily, in church, yea may smile at a friend— but never actually bow. To wave the hand is exceedingly wrong. Q. In what way should a di- vorced woman distinguish her- self from the second Mrs. James L. Gardner? A. By prefixing her maiden. name to her former husband's surname, as, "Mrs. Helen Sel- lers Gardner." Sew -Simple PRINTED PATTERN A jiffy Printed Pattern. Hall;. Sizers — look so smart in this bright, breezy style. Sew -easy —no side opening Just unbut- ton shoulders, slip it, on quicld Cut to fit the shorter, fuller fi- gure. Printed Pattern 4523: Half Sizes 141/2, 161/2, 181, 20112, 22'& 241/2. Size 161/2 requires 451 yards 35 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (400 (stamps cannot be accepted.; use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print pl SIZE, NAME and ADDRES and STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAM , Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Ne'c Toronto, Ont. ONE FOR ALL—Celebrating their first birthday, the Wendeborn triplets are, a tittle she„ rt table manners but happy anyway as they feast on a cake in their Dallas home. L -''t to i:c ' are Darlene, Marlene and Charlene.