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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-03-20, Page 6ANNE M-FpRST. "Dear Anne Hirst: I need sane and safe advice end I need it now. My husband $a good in almost every way, but he is insanely jealous and silways has been. He has no feason for it; he is t h e first nd only man lever cared for. still love him with all my heart.. Ie won't believe it. "My family have always been closer than most, and if I call 'pp Mamma or my sister he litrifles up and down the room ke an angry child. "We have been married eight Lears, and have a dear little girl. ast year we had expensive medical bills, and I've taken a part time job evenings to help us get out of debt. My husband Nays 2 go to work to mkt other teen! That is nonsense. After ;ending days cleaning a six - room house and looking after iitL if -Size Step -/n ;•';“NTED PATTERN 4524 ' SIZES 14h-2414 x14779 5 Young, graceful! The sheath Silhouette is so flattering to half - sizers — makes you look so nar- fow through the middle. Choose aille, crepe, wool for this sew - easy Printed Pattern. Printed Pattern 4524: Half - Sizes 14%, 16%, 18%, 20%, 22%, 24%. Size 16t takes 3'4 yards 39 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (40c) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. SPACE VOLUNTEER—Sue Evans, a professional harpist known in private life as Mrs. Robert Slivers, wants to be the first woman to orbit the earth. Sue said that she had written lo Dr. James R. Killian Jr., science adviser to the President, about her space ambitions. For her qualifications she said she was very small, 51" and 102 pounds. the baby, I'd like nothing more than to stay home With -,my family at night. I can't' help` it if there are men in my I don't know half ,of them and don't care to. My husband's. accusations are, getting me down. I never cheat- ed on him before we married even when he was in the war. My love for him and the child- ren and my religious faith, would never permit me to be interest- ed in another man if I wanted to, which I don't. "I could not bear to leave him, but neither can I bear his in- sinuations much longer. He swears he loves me. If that is true, wouldn't he trust me? I'd do anything to have a quiet, happy family life. Help if you can, please. WROUGHT -UP WIFE" * There are husbands who feel * so inferior to their wives that * they are jealous of every other * person she knows; they must * have daily proof that they * come first in her affections, * her thoughts and her plans. * Jealousy cannot always be en- * tirely overcome, but it can bg * modified by a wife's increas-. * ed attentions, her subtle flat- * tery, and by seeking the man's * advice on even trivial matters. * He has to be shown that his * home is his castle where he * reigns alone. * Your husbands attitude is * one of the most trying to * handle. When he is home, give * him all the attention you can spare from your little girl. * Employ all your tact. Don't, * for instance, mention your sis- * ter at all unless you must, and * tell your mother you will call * her daytimes .Remind your * husband that you cannot ig- * nore old friends and you do * not intend to. You may even * have to threaten to leave. * He must understand that * the strain of his jealousy is * keeping you so unhappy that *you cannot be an affectionate * mate nor an adequate mother * so long as he subjects you to it. * Some husbands have been * impressed by this reasoning, * and overcome their jealous * fears to a considerable degree. * I hope yours will. CHANGE PARTNERS "Dear Anne Hirst: My best friend and I are both 1.7, and eight months ago we met two boys and have been dating them ever since. I think I am in love, and my friend thinks she is, too; we are very close, and tell each other every- thing. "Last week the boys came to us and said they wanted to change girls! Is this awkward, or isn't it? Shall we try it out, or should we be insulted at the Idea? "Would it be disloyal to our special boy if we accepted this crazy idea? We are awfully con- fused.' * Neither of you is engaged * to her boy friend, so there's * no reason you shouldn't ac- * cept the plan if you want to. * It might be fun, at that. Ot * course, these boys talked it * over before they spoke of * changing dates. * Should either of you regret * it, that can be handled when * the crisis arrives. You girls are * such good friends that I am * sure you only wish happiness * for each other. Take it on, and * see What happens, * * * A jealous husband is one of the most miserable of men. -Use patience and tact and never cease your attentions ... Anne Hirst's sympathy and wisdom can be of service, if you write her at Box 1, 1g3 Eightenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. When a woman's husband is a "junior," should she also use this affix in her correspondence? A. Yes, certainly. Q. Should each guest seat him- self at the dinner table as soon as he arrives there? A. No; until the hostess seats herself, everyone should stand quietly at his place. Q. When the coffee or tea Is very hot, is it proper to use the spoon to sip it? A. No; the spoon is for stir- ring only, and when that is done, the spoon is placed in the sau- cer and remains there. One can only wait until the beverage is sufficiently cool for comfortable drinking. Q. When someone whom you have just met says, "I am glad to have met you," isn't a smile in reply sufficient? A. This would seem to have a condescending air about it. It is much better toaccompany that smile with a pleasant "thank; you." • 'SPACEMAN'S' FORMER MARRIAGE REVEALED Mr. and Mrs. Luraas of Troy, N.Y.; look over a bank statement concerning payments made to Mrs. Luraas for the support of her daughter, Heidi. Mrs. Luraas was formerly married to Donald Farrell, the New York airman who recentlyspentseven days in a space cabin. Their marriage was annulled in April, 1954, al- though Mrs. Farrell was pregnant. She claims that Farrell is $2,000 behind in support payments for Heidi, but all she wants from him is his consent for her present husband to adopt the girl. Lir HRONICLES 7GINGERFARM c,..a..aou..e o.ciont4 We are still in the deep freeze — definitely. At this moment -it is 10 below zero and there isn't a window we can see out of properly. That is because storm windows were not considered necessary over the plate glass. Which is quite true except in very severe weather. There is a part of each window that is not completely frosted. Through it we can see our neighbours hav- ing trouble starting their cars. The little girl next door left home a short while ago and then stood for ten minutes on a cold, draughty corner waiting for the school bus. The wind is howl- ing around the house making weird noises but inside the house we are warm and comfortable. It did occur to us this morning to wonder how much oil the fur- nace got away with during the night as we didn't set the there mostat back at all. Partner has a fire roaring away on the hearth right now and it looks and feels very cheery. So long as the rough weather doesn't outlast our food supplies we shall be all right. Snow, so far, hasn't been any problem. The white stuff from our one and only snowstorm is still lying around but no more has been added to it. When I hear the wind I keep remembering what it would be like on the farm. No matter what we did we could never keep the old house warm in a windstorm — partly because we were al- ways afraid of fire. There were 22 lengths of straight smoke - pipe and 4 elbows running from the furnace to the chimney up- stairs. Taking them down and cleaning them was quite a job but for safety's sake it had to be done twice during the winter. What a change there has been in heating systems over the years. In pioneer days wood was the only fuel — pine stumps burnt on the open hearth after tree had been felled. Then came the pot-bellied parlor heaters and the two -hole box -stoves that could be used for cooking as well as heating, split wood be- ing used as fuel. From it we progressed to cookstoves — to soft coal and coke, and finally to hard coal. And then there were oil stoves that would sometimes flare up and smoke the_ house out. In most homes there was also a one -burner "Fairy lamp" lit for a while to take the chill out of upstairs bedrooms but taken away as soon as the chil- dren were warm and cosy in their beds under layers of patchwork quilts — after having undressed it front of the kitchen, fire. Elec- tricheaters couldn't be used be- cause in most homes there was no electricity. By day children were dressed warmly with heavy underwear, and oversocks and gum -rubbers on their feet. They ,had to walk to school anywhere from half a mile to two miles. But at least they were on the move. As I watched our little neighbour -girl waiting at the corner in the biting wind I won- dered which generation of chll- dren were the better taken care of. Coming back to heating again. Wood for heating purposes is a thing of the past in most of cen- tral Ontario — except for fire- places. Instead, think of wide choice we now have in heating our homes. With coal — soft, hard or blower type. Heat can then be distributed through the house by forced aIr, hot-water pipes or radiant heat under the floors. Instead of coal we can have fuel oil or natural gas to run the furnaces, controlling it thermostatically by the turn of a dial in the hall. It is all very wonderful but I doubt if we really appreciate our modern heating systems — except when the power gives up the ghost. Then we feel hard done by and cry to high heaven and wonder why the hydro com- mission doesn't look after things better! There used to be another type of fuel in common use out west when we lived there. I was re- minded of this the other night on TV when a man was told to "get a good fire going with buf- falo chips". Partner and I won- , dered how many people would know what he meant. We knew, because where we lived there was a good supply of "cow -piles". Cow -chips I would have you know were sun -baked dung that could be picked up fromthe pas- ture. Many is the time I went out after supper, carrying a sack and picked up our fuel supply for the next day. ,It was bone- dry, light in weight, and entirely odorless. But what a fire it would make! Many 'a fine batch of homemade bread came from an oven heated by, cow -chips in the stove. We wouldn't want to back to, old-time heating — or plumbing — but I do hope stories of the past will be handed down through the ages lest modern liv- ing be taken too much for grant- ed. I was going to say "easy liv- ing"— but is it? The more con- venienes we have the harder it is to deal with adverse conditions unexpectedly. A car stalls ina snowdrift; the driver getsout, Often hatless and without rub- bers. His wife or girl friend sits shivering in the car, scantily clothed and on her feet spike - heeled pumps. Weatherwise we always hope for the best buts we never seem to prepare for the worst. Tomorrow I'm supposed to at- tend a meeting. I shall not be among those present. I'm a fair- Weather traveller) WANTED VARIETY An appilcant for a job handed in testimonials he had obtained from three clergymen. The employer quickly thumbed through the letters. "We don't work here on Sun- days," he, remarked. "Haven't you a reference from someone who secs you, on week -days?" The New French Youth — A Straight -Laced Generation By TOM A. CULLEN NEA Staff Correspondent Paris NEA - Is French youth laxer in its morals than its elders? Is there more im- morality in France today than before the war? A recent' survey of people, aged 18 to, 30, came up with this shocker:' French youth today is far more moral than its elders. On the whole, the young peo- ple interviewed, were straight- laced, some even puritanical, in their attitudes towards free love, marriage and fidelity. Surprisingly, nearly half (47 per cent) of ,those interviewed have already settled down in marriage, the majority of these being occupied with raising families. The eight million persons be- tween the ages of 18'and '30 in France today are the vanguard of a revolution that is as pro- found in its .implications as that of 1879. They are rejuvenating France. In 1970 France will be the youngest nation in Europe, its present rate of population growth exceeding that of all its neighbors, Before the war it was known as a "dying nation" where deaths actually exceeded births. What will be the impact of this new generation on French life? It is a generation to whom Hitler is just a name, the Nazi occupation and the resistance merely dim memories. Its idols are the doe -eyed Brigitte Bardot and 22 -year-old novelist Francoise Sagan, whose proneness for fast cars and smash-ups ("It's exhiliratiing to miss death by inches") has made her the female James Dean. What does this new genera- tion want? Where is it going? Here are some of the answers supplied to L'Express in its sur- vey: Are you happy? Eighty-five per cent claim to be happy; and of 'these, 24 per cent to be very happy. Women are happier than men; married persons happier than single. Is love important? Forty-eight per cent declared it very im- IDOL SAGAN: Fast cars made her a female James Dean. portant, while another 32 per cent found it rather important Typical reply: "Love? Oh boy! It's as important as life itself. And then, it's the only luxury we can afford these days." Trial marriage, however, is frowned upon, particularly by working class and rural youth. "It sabo- tages marriage," is a typical re- sponse. Does fidelity seem essential? Nine out of ten (91 per cent) find it essential. Says a resigned husband: "With four kids, one is no longer a teen-ager; the fire dies down," What is France's No. 1 prob- lem? Algeria, 28 per cent; to find a stable government, 24 per cent; the stability of the. franc, 15 per cent. What is good in France, what bad? About all that youth can find to praise are the postal ser- vice, French railways and per- sonal freedom. Rated asbad are politics (96 per cent), the gov- ernment, economics and housing. "What's wrong?" echoes a shop -keeper. "Everything There is no authority, only an- archy. We need a strong man in the government." Replies a school teacher: "The 'history of France is glorious, its countryside is beautiful, its food is good and its wine, Everything else stinks, starting at the top. How about a Socialist society? Nearly half don't know; 24 per- cent favor Socialism, 28 per cent are against it. Would they sacrifice their lives fah 'something? Forty-two per cent give a flat No, . while 17 per cent don't know. Of the re- maining 41 per . cent, ` only one in four is willing to risk his lite for his country. Heroics are out: "If heroes exist, they are more likely to be firemen than soldiers," says a worker, while a clerk finds that, "Heroes are those who sut- ler in silence the stupidity of others," Conclusions: French youth is selfish, materialist -minded, and concerned almost solely`With the pursuit of personal happiness IDOL BARDOT: Infidelity is out, but Brigitte is in. but probably no more so than American, Russian or British youth. Its politics, as wen as its morals, are conservative; but it is inclined to be pessimistic con- cerning its on-cerningits influence on French affairs (52 per cent of those polled feel themselves to be at the mercy of events, instead of shaping them). It is probably ne worse nor better than pre- ceding generations. TEDDY BEAR SAVES OWNER'S LIFE A large teddy bear which she had just been given saved the life of two-year-old Erika Muller in Essex. She dropped the bear from a fourth floor window and while looking down to see where it had gone, Erika tumbled out and landed — on the bear. She suffered a few bruises and scratches. WINK CAUSED RETRIAL Catching a juror winking at e woman witness at a trial in Syd- ney, Australia, a District Judge immediately apprehended the culprit and ordered a new trial The offending juror explained: "I caught the lady's eye, and my mother taught me it was polite to acknowledge a greeting." Half -Yard Apron So thrifty! Each of these pretty aprons takes only one-half yard) Use scraps for pocket. Make the gay designs for hostess, shower gifts. Pattern 628: transfers, tissue pattern for making three half - Aprons. Medium size only. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. Asa bonus, TWO complete patterns are printed right, in our LAURA WHEELER' Needlecraft Book. Dozens of other designs you'll want td order easy' fas- cinating handwork for yourself, your home, gifts, dbazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this boot: today) ISSUE 11 — 1958