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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-01-30, Page 6w,. HIRST] "'Clear Anne Hirst: Do other girls keep on waiting. 10 marry a boy,,, to whohn'they're , • engaged while lie just makes'one excuse after another on naming the day? I've never heard of such a trick, but maybe they are just ashamed to admit it . . .. I've been going with this soldier* for two years, and every time the gets home he says it's better to wait, or that next time it will., lie O.K. — always letting me down. I really believe he loves me; he writes twice a week and. sends me nice gifts, and when he's on furlough we date every alight. "He's a handsome guy, and all the girls give him the eye, but he never takes a second glance. I am 18, but I've been going with boys four years and now I am ready to get married. Ile is 22, and I know for sure he is the only man I want for my husband. I do trust him to be loyal, but why does he shy at marriage? "I am dreaming: on, planning our future, but underneath I am really scared. I know he is in love (he shows it) but we both keep our wits . . Now he is due home next month and again my hopes run high—yet Buy Bluebirds! WASH. SON• firoa VGl fant e, MIA& Cheor up kitchen chores with these gay songbirds—a different motif for each day. Easy in cross-stitch plus embroidery. Shower the bride with gay "show" towels. Pattern 842: transfer of 7 motifs about 5% x 7 inches, colour suggestions, Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAM E and ADDRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns a r e printed right in our 1957 Laura Wheeler Needle- craft Book. Dozens of other de- signs you'll want to order—easy fascinating handwork for your- self, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! I'm afraid it will be the same old 'story. What can I do? BARBARA". + You do not mention how d' your parents feel about thin * lad's procrastination. If they. * approve your _marrying him, * tell him when he arrives that * they are waiting to announce * the engagement and the wed- * ding day. If you have neither * parents nor guardian, then he * brave and say now is the time * to set the day, or else. * If you have not started what * we oldsters call your hope - * chest, start it now, and have • * something tangible to show * him. The exhibit will either + delight him or shock him, and " you will feel better tnfodi * you will feel better to find out * which it is to be. Usually I * would not suggest the idea, * but you have been, so patient • that you deserve to know * where your future lies. Many * a lad is so content with being * engaged that he does not * realize how postponing the * marriage hurts the girl's pride * as well as her heart. '° It is not fair. 3 think you * are justified in approaching * him, and I hope with you that * he arranges an early wedding. * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: I have recently become en- gaged to a young man who is the most charming person I've ever known, but I have just found out he drinks more than he should. Shall I go ahead with our plans to marry in February? "He actually seems proud that he seldom shows the effects of his drinking. He enjoys even- ings in taverns with the friends 11a meets there. Well, I don't want them for mine. "Do you think I could make him see things my way after we get married? UNDECIDED" " Too many broken - hearted wives have made this mistake. If a man does not stop drink- `° ing before he marries, he is not likely to reform afterward. If this man enjoys his question- • able friends now, he will con- * tinue to later; but then you would be living with him, and * have to accept them, too. What ' ' kind of life . is that for a * gentlewoman like you? • If he will not give up drink- '' ing for your sake, he is not for you. I know you believe * you can never love anyone * else, but life, even lived alone, is happier than life spent with - a drinking husband. Sometimes an engaged young man needs prodding. If your fiance puts off marriage, take your courage in hand and pre- sent the issue . . Anne Hirst understands, and is on your side. Write her at Box 1, 123 18th Street, New Toronto, Ontario. SALLY'S SALLIES "I put two different addresses on it. It they're not at one, they're at the other." BIKINI BEAUTY — Soaking up the sunshine, shapely British actress Anne Heywood adds a touch of Bikini beauty to the scenery near London, England. The lovely lass is under con- tract to the J. Arthur Rank movie -making orgunization. ON THE ROAD TO RECOVERY—Comedian Red Skelton, re- cuperating from a cardio -asthmatic attack, is joined by his wife at St. Jdlan's Hospital, Santa Monica. as Red looks at the many get well cords he has received. HRONICLES i1NGERFARMt There have been a few oc- casions in our lives when, had we reacted differently, we might have been the victims of a racket. Glib salesmen, as you probably know, often come around and offer you wonderful bargains on anything from books and linoleum to dairy mineral rations. Once, years ago, we did buy an encyclo- pedia. It wasn't too bad for gen- eral information except that the views expressed were entirely American, and from an histori- cal point of view that didn't go down too well. Well, last week I just about saw red. As you may know—if you follow this column, my sis- ter died just recently, and what I got in the mail yesterday made me feel that there must sprely be a racket to capitalize on al- most everything, even on one's personal sorrow and bereave- ment. This was none other than a copy of my sister's obituary that appeared in the Peterbor- ough Examiner and was mount- ed between two sheets of plastic and offered as "a permanent re- cord" for the price of one dol- lar. An order form was en- closed for additional copies. There was also a cover letter in falsely sympathetic and semi- religious wording which, how- ever, did not forget to mention that one dollar for each copy of the obituary was required. And all this, if you please, was sent from. Memphis, U.S.A. The more I thought of it the less I liked it. But then. I began to wonder if I were unduly sensitive so I thought I would phone the Bet- ter Business Bureau and get their opinion. Was it a racket or Vasn't it? I soon got my an- swer — in the affirmative. I was advised that since no return postage was enclosed I was un- der no obligation to return the thing—just to hold it for awhile and await results. Afterwards it could be destroyed if I so de- sired. The Bureau was familiar with this racket but said they were powerless to prevent it; that it was entirely tip to the Federal Postal Authorities to stop unsolicited appeals coming through the mail. So that's that. What annoyed me so much was the feeling of uncertainty it aroused. .Here was this obituary, well worded and sympathetically written, . just as it was submitted by local reporters to the Peterborough paper, and the plastic covers would undoubtedly preserve it indefinitely. Wouldn't it be only natural to send a dollar and krep it? Wouldn't it appear cal- ' Ions not to do so? But then 3 bagan to reason things out. Af- t :r all it was only a clipping tram a paper; 3 could get as many copies as 1 liked from the Peterborough paper -and cover them with plastic . myself if I wanted to. That was a practical way of looking,' at it but, what really decided me against tak- ing "advantage" of the offer was, the 'false tone of sympathy in the letter, which concluded. "We extend sincere sympathy in your loss. May the grace .of our Heavenly Father be with you and comfort you in your time of sorrow." Sympathy—at a dollar• a copy! No thank you. Sympathy from friends I am glad to ac- cepl. A card, which came to me from the W.I. branch of w I am a life member was also greatly appreciated. But sym- pathy with a commercial flavour is nothing more or less than im- pertinence to my way of think- ing; an infringement on person- al feelings during a time of stress and sorrow. No doubt other people have been approached in this same way. The Better Business Bu- reau says it is a matter that can be dealt with only by the postal authorities. *dThen for goodness sake, why don't they stop it? Why should ordinary Canadian citizens be subjected to this sort of indignity? Sure- ly in a time of bereavement re- latives are entitled to a certain amount of privacy and respect. Of course there are dozens of other rackets ready to trap the unwary but to me this is the worst I have come across. I might add, that in this, as with. other unsolicited material, the Better Business Bureau is al- ways ready, to advise. They are continually bringing to light ways and means by which the public is victimized. It is hard to be absolutely sure when we are dealing with honest people. A peddler may be an honest man, unemployed and trying to make a living. If so he needs references. There are too many men taking pictures of children and charging more than they are worth. Or repair men giv- ing you absolute assurance they can fix your T.V. Don't ever let your set out of the house ex- cept to a reputable repair man. There is one or more in every district if you take the trouble to inquire. Generally they are far toe busy to solicit custom. You go to them. Well, I am hoping this col- umn may be read at a few W.I. meetings where it will 'do the most good. ,Generally speaking :farm folk are so honest and straight -forward themselves it doesn't occur to them to doubt the other fellow. But you know, it takes all kinds to make a world. Better be safe than sorry: Madness Pays Off In Television "Frankenstein" with Boris Kar - toff was playing a late show in Grand Rapids last week; "The Son of Frankenstein" was in. Buffalo and Indianapolis. In At- lanta it was "Dracula" with Bela Lugosi; in Tacoma, "The Son of • Dracula," From coast to coast, s. the midnight . air was filled with everything from "Dead Man's Eyes" and "Weird Woman" to "Night Monster." All together they added up to one new fact' of television life — horror is hot. Perhaps the most remarkable. thing about the trend was that it had not happened before., he' movies, after all, have -long found horror films cheap, profitable fare; radio had its "Light Out," "Suspense," and "Dr. Fu Man- chu." -But. since 1952, when the TV version of "Lights -Out" fell victim to the bouncy "I' Love Lucy," horror for horror's sake had raised no hackles on TV ratings. Last season, television execu- tives awoke when ,they noted that a New York showing of the old. movie "King Kong" was watched in an estimated 90 per cent of the TV homes — an all- time record. Screen Gems, the proud possessor of TV rights for old Universal -International films, suddenly realized that among their 600 movies there were doz- ens that fell into the mad- scien- tist, zombi, weird -story category. Hurriedly, they selected 52 of the very goriest, wrapped them into a package called "Shock," and began peddling them for showing this fall. "Shock" went on the air in October with big publicity cern- paths in five leading markets. (Preview parties were held in abandoned TV studios, with masked waiters serving buckets of "blood"; models in fright wigs delivered shrunken heads and "Do -It -Yourself Nightmare Kits" to newspaper offices.) By last week "Shock" was playing to ceiling -high ratings in 90 cities. In Berkeley, Calif., "Dracula" had inspired a demonstration by 1,200 white -sheeted students. In Philadelphia, 100 fan clubs had sprung up for Roland, the 'an- nouncer, who, with ghoulish make-up and props introduced the films. Threats that the shows might, be "investigated" by the National Association of Radio and Tele- vision Broadcasters, the National Association for Better Radio and TV. and various civic groups drew from the producers defen- sive protests that the horror films were strictly for. laughs. Psy- chologists got into the act with sober analyses of the appeal of this horror fare. According to motivational researcher Ernest Ditchter's dicta, the Frankenstein monster represents "the power of the Creator," the Invisible Man represents "the power of omnipotence," King Kong "the polder of brutishness," and Dracula "the p Aver of resume. tion" Whatever subconscious, needs it may be anwsering last week: horror T\t seemed to be a pro- gram staple. Screen Gems waa already wrapping up 52 more scare films for a second "Shock" Package, and had signed a con- tract to deliver a 39 -part series to, ABC called "Tales of Franken- stein." In the planning stages: A new series based on "The In- visible Man," Madame Tussaud's. waxworks, and France's macabre Grand Guignol theater. - From NEWSWEEK. ISSUE 4 — 1958 Half -Size Duo )RINTED PATTERN Mix -match fashions — an e.. eelient way to increase your wardrobe. Classic blouse and 6 - gore skirt are designed for shorter, fuller figures—easy sem Printed Pattern 4712: 11.1 Sizes 14%, 16%, 18%, 20%, 221, 24%. 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The trouble started when the couple attempted to resist • an enforced eviction from their home which will be demolished to make way for ,a road.