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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-01-23, Page 6s. ANN[ I41RST "Dear Anne Hirst:' I should be the happiest girl in the world,because the finest man. I know wants to marry me. But I am miserable I haue kept him waiting over a year now, and it is because my mother would have to live with us. She is not only physically handicapped she is a spoiled and jealous woman . who dreads the thought of my loving anyone else, She never liked any beau I had, and when this one pro- posed she raved for days.. Called me selfish and ungrateful, and one night she threatened sui- cide! My fiance is 30 (I am 25) and he is a quiet, polished gentle- man whom everybody admires. he has been patience itself with my mother's unpredictable moods, but nothing he does can please her. I wonder why he still wants to marry me, and the prospect really frightens me. I cannot trust her to be even decent to him. "Last week I decided to break my engagement and set him free to find some girl who wasn't so encumbered. He would not hear of it. He insists we will manage somehow, and he asks Trousseau Linens &o!! reion.a VY 6tl 0t . .Linens for the bride-to-be and 'the bride of yester-year. Done in cross-stitch — so popular today. Crocheted edging. Pattern 825: transfer of motif 8x23 inches, two motifs 73x16; crochet directions for an edging let Inch wide. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this • pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly the PATTERN NTJMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns are printed right in our 1958 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. Dozens of other designs you'11 want to order—easy fas- cinating handwork for yourself, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of • this book today! ISSUE 3 1958 me to marry him even earlier than we plane_ •l. But is it fair to expose him . tomy mother's biting sarcasms and silly whims? I: value your opinion, so please let site have it. AFRAID TO MARRY" TAKE THE CHANCE * Your fiance is not a lovesick '` adolescent. He is mature 4' enough to see a your mother as * she is, yet he is so eager to ' marry you that he is un- * afraid. Why not take the * chance? He would not insist * if he had any doubt the three * of you could live agreeably * together, * I suggest you tell your * mother you have set your * wedding date. Such stubborn ' ' characters often reconcile * themselves unexpectedly to r. the inevitable. Self-centered * though she is, I expect you Y' will find- her submitting wit? * more grace than you knew sht. * had. * Include in your living ar- • rangements a pleasant room * for her, with her own furni- ** ture, books and radio. Whee * you get settled, invite her friends to drop in often, and * try to find other interests for * her to cultivate. After awhile, * perhaps you can find a private * family nearby who will give * her the little care she needs; * many people are glad to add * to their income in this fashion. * Neither of these suggestions * is ideal, of course, yet how * .else can you .marry at all? * Your fiance has waited long • enough for a home of his own, *° and he does not want that to " be your mother's house. So * go along with the idea, and ,, take it for granted that things • will work out as he believes. • His stabilizing influence will soon be felt in your new home, and you will probably 0 find that the troubles you an- ' ticipate will not materialize. * *. IGNORES COURTESIES "Dear Anne Hirst: My husband and I often go out with other couples, and the other men joke with their wives, help them with their coats, and sometimes hold hands. My hus- band doesn't do these things and I am so afraid others will think he doesn't love me; I know hs does because he is wonderful in every other way. "Am I wrong in asking him to? He thinks so, but asks me to get your opinion. We've been married four years, and have two children. There isn't any other worry on my mind. ETHEL" Of course, your husband is not compelled to use these • little courtesies he does not * practice, You might tell him, though, that if he would you * would be so proud of him, and • even happier than you are. * You want your friends to see * how attentive he is, because * you like to show him off. • Such little attentions are 1 ' easily acquired, and soon be- ' come a part of one's habits. • Your husband pleases you in e all other ways, and I expect * he will shake his head, corn- * plain how foolish women are, • and do just what you want * him to. * #. 9 Inviting an older relative to share your home is never a wel- come idea, yet the emotional adjustments which intelligent people can make can prevent anticipated discord. Anne Hirst's practical ideas will be useful. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. ALL IN TfIE FAMILY—Most popular family on TV belongs to Danny Thomas, star of his own comedy series. Danny's TV family, above, includes his wife Kathy, left, played by Marjorie Lord; Rusty, played by Rusty Hamer; Terry, right, portrayed by Sherry Jackson and Linda (Angela Cartwright), newest and youngest member of the family. GRAND SMILES—Tamra "Tammy" Leah Marinhugh, 5, left, and Alan Dean Walter, 41/2, flash the smiles that paid off for Them to the tune of one -grand each. They're amo g 10 U.S, children selected as having the most winning smiles in a national smile contest. Each of the winners will receive a $1,000 savings bond andother prizes. The National Press. Photographers Association' picked the 10 from a total of 207,390 photographs submitted. Duni err. zeS • HRONICLES •• 1NGER ARI► Gv�e & tr e p. Cla> k.¢ This, I thought, would be an easy column to write, Christmas and liew Year's both being over,. for me as well as for you. NOW It would be easy, straight -for- ward writing with plenty to write about too. In that I was right — there is plenty to write about — too much intact and it alI adds up to a mixture of joy and sadness, calm and activi- ty. Unexpected — but so it is. Two days before Christmas I received word that my sister K&thleen had had a severe stroke and was in a coma. My nephew Klemi promised to keep me in- formed of any change but until .,that happened he said there was no point in my going to see her. To that I agreed as any other arrangement would have spoilt Christmas for three .families. But you can well imagine how little my heart was in it when It came to last minute prepara- tions. However, I went ahead. Put our 23 pound turkey in a slow oven Christmas Eve; pack- ed up all the mysterious parcels and then went to bed with one ear open for The telephone. Christmas morning I phoned Klemi; there was still no change. About two o'clock Bob, Joy and little Ross collected Partner and me, the turkey straight from the oven; the parcels; and then we all went to Daughter's for Christ- mas dinner. My worries were temporarily forgotten as I help- ed with the dinner and watch- ed our grandsons at play. Four little boys ranging in age from three months to four years. They had a wonderful time, noisy and excited but as good as gold. The dinner was perfect even my share of it — that is to say the, turkey and plum pudding. 01 course I was afraid both would be a failure! Then came presents off the tree and as usual Santa Claus had been good to every- body. We all seemed to get 'just what we wanted" — except Dee. We gave her a mixette and so did Art. We left for home early in the evening but instead of going straight home Bob took us all around the residential streets off the Kingsway to see the Christmas decorations. They were wonderful; we had never seen anything like them before. What we liked best were the simpler decorations thrown onto relief by well -place floodlights , . , they were really lovely. Early next morning came a call from Klemi , . my sister had passed away just before midnight on Christmas Day, Many years ago our mother hail also died on Christmas Day. It brought it all back very vividly. Friday morning I went by train to Peterborough and helped Klemi through the tryingordeal SALLY'S SALLIES "I knew 3'd find it for you oven if I ` had to search all year!" of meeting his many friends, In the few months they had been in Peterborough Kathleen had written many times of the friend- liness that had been shown them. I found she had not ex- aggerated one bit. Thepeople were wonderful. We were invit- ed out for every meal, friends were always on hand to offer transportation and their wives took over at the house the day of the funeral and prepared 'a lovely lunch for those who came from a distance — from Toronto and Oshawa. Arthur came along with Partner and daughter for • the euneral and 3 came back with them knowing Klemi would be well looked after by the friends with whom he was stay- ing. Out of it all, amid the sense of sorrow and loss, we were very conscious of the warmth and friendliness shown to Klemi friendliness which was also extended to me, a stranger. It means so much, especially to an only son whose only home com- panionship had been that of his mother. But Klemi stood up to it remarkably well. He is a pro- fessional violinist and on Christ- mas Day he had three engage- ments to play at Church ser- vices, all of which he fulfilled. Whether it was the environment or not he didn't know but he said that all that day he was conscious cf a strange peace and felt that all would be well. It was. Neither he nor I have any regrets that his mother passed away as she did. She had been a loving and devoted mother, al. ways active although very frail. We could not wish for her to linger and perhaps be a helpless invalid for years. The day she was buried was the same day she and Klemi were to have come here for the week -end. You just never know. SO that was our Christmas. The happiness of a family gathering with our children and grand - Modern Etiquette b,,5 itoberta. 'Lee Q. After "going steady" with a boy for a year, we parted. Is it necessary that I return a watch that he gave to me for Christ- mas? A. Since this was not an en- gagement gift, it is not necessary to return it. Q. What is the correct way to address a letter to a friend • whose husband has recently passed away? .i,'A. The same as always—"Mrs'; Frank .W. Harrison." Q. I have been asked to pour the tea, at an afternoon affair. Am I also supposed to put in the sugar, cream or lemon? A. This is not generally done, anymore. The person pours the tea then hands the cup to the guest ' who helps' himself to sugar, cream, or lemon. Q. My husband passed away:, more than two years , ago. Now my friends tell me I should not be wearing my wedding ring anymore. Are they correct? A. Decidedly not. A widow may wear her wedding ring for Iife — or until she marries again. Q. Just what is proper when eating a chicken leg? Is it all right, after cutting oft most of the meat, to pick up the bone in the fingers in order to chew off the rest of the meat? A. At most dinner tables, the only proper way is to manage as best you can with your knife and fork. Picking up the bones is condoned at picnics, and in children but back of it the anxie- ty,nd uncertainty of my sister's illness. Now I am the only one left of our immediate family. Father, mother, two sisters and three brothers, all are gone. it leaves one with a strange sense of loneliness. Now our main in- terest in family life is by foIlow- ing the growth and development of the younger ones — David, Edward, Ross and Gerald. Be- cause of them we do not antici- pate many dull moments. We ..look forward to a New Year but doubt if it can be as eventful as the old in which we sold the farm, established a new home, welcomed a new grandson last February, another in . October and had such a mixed-up Christ- mas. Tomorrow is Bob's birth- day — and that will conclude an eventful family year. certain restaurants where such a practice is encoueaged as a feature of the house. Q. When writing a letter to an acquaintance who calls you "Mra, Bridges," how do you sign the letter? A. As "Mary' Bridges." Wardrobe Wonder, PRINTED PATTERN With Printed directions on each pattern part—sewing could not be easier! 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