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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1958-01-09, Page 6ANN€ 14H?ST "Dear Anne Hirst: I am the only child of my wid- owed mother, and I am 17. Four months ago she married again. My stepfather has two young- stern and they run riot and get their own way in everything, but. he has forbidden me to go out with boyfriends as I have done since I was 16. My mether let me have two dates without his permission, and when I got home he administered physical punish- ment] Now I am refusing all dates, and I haven't spoken to him since. "My own father' and 1 were real pals, and when he was alive I was a high-school honor stud- ent. Now I can't take any in- terest in studying at all. As you can guess, I am miserable; and I can see only one answer— "Last summer I met a nice boy. He wants me to run away and marry him. I'm afraid 1 would, except I am sure my step- father would find a way to bring me back ... I don't know which way to turn, but I know I can't stand living like this. Please guide me. YOUNG READER" • Your mother is your natural guardian, and she should not * permit her new husband to lay * down the law to you. His pun- * ishing you was presumptuous, * and you have the right to feel * outraged, * It is your mother's responsi- Wardr • be Wonder PRINTED PATTERN 4605 10-18 tl Make a versatile new ward- robe from this Printed Pat- tern. Vary the neckline from mandarin collar to low squared beauty; sleeves in three ver- sions. Easy to sew, joy to wear —pure flattery for your figure. Printed Pattern 4605: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Size 16 requires 3sfe yards 39 -inch. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, your NAME, ADDRESS and STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Bo:. 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 1 — 1958 * bility to see that nu are hap- py in your home life, yet I can. *° understand that the hesitates '' to raise any issue so soon. after * her marriage. She should ini- * press upon her new husband * that she hasalways regulated 4' your social life and she cannot permit him to criticize; it. To do her justice, I am sure * .she has no idea of the lengths * to which you have been driv- • en. Tell her frankly. Once 4' she realizes the crisis you face; 4' she will find courage to in- * sist that from now on she be * the sole arbiter of your be haviour. Settle this issue now, * before it breeds further bad * feeling all around, * Bunning away from trouble * neversolves anything, par- * titularly in marriage. You * perhaps do not know that in • your state you cannot marry * anybody without your mother's s consent for another year, and * I doubtshe would give that; * for one thing, it would reflect * upon her. * Besides, how dare you com- mit your future to a young man * you hardly know? Look for * ward to marrying someone * you love later on, when the * marriage can be solemnized * with proper dignity, * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: I am in love with one of my teachers . He is married and has a baby, but I know he loves me. He lets me do little errands for him ,and never scolds me for low marks as he does the others. I am 15, and most of the kids call me teacher's pet. "I'm afraid to tell my mother, she'd only laugh. I have tried dating boys I used to know but I always think of him, so I don't have a good time. I don't know what to dol WORRIED MARIE" a You are looking for i rouble. * For the next few years your reputation and your social * standing will depend on the * good will al your fellow stud- * ents and their parents. Don't * risk alienating them now. * If you have read this column * as long as you say, you know * I deplore any girl thinking * twice about a married man, When she is as young as you, the chance of her emotions •% running away with her are * multiplied and she is at the mercy of the man concerned. ' 11 this one is encouraging you ` to the 'degree you describe, he * shows a shocking lack d char- * aster; and if you allow this * to continue, you risk the * friendship of your classmates, * Who are really laughinf at • you. Stop it! * Concentrate on your studies, A if only to show all of them * how mature you are. Date nice * boys you know, and get back * with them and girls your age. s Be one of the crowd again, * since this is the quickost way 't to obliterate the unfortunate • impression others now have of * you. * is * Teen-agers are encouraged to confide their troubles to Anne Hirst. She is on their side when she honestly can be, and has gu i d ed • thousands of them through adolescent pitfalls. Write your problems to Anne Hirst, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. SMOOTH WORK "What sort of a person .is Mrs. Foster, Colonel?" asked a lady of -her dinner partner. "Oh, you know," replied the Colonel, "the sort of person who calls a table -napkin a serviette." "But I always call it a servi- ette," said the lady. "Then," said the Colonel, blandly, "you know exactly the kind of person she is." MATCHED SET—Having a little trouble with their can -can slips, Jennifer and Antoinette Penzabene have passers-by seeing *pots before their eyes. A playful breeze uncovered the red and white polka dot style that each of the sisters favors. • MEMORIES OF HOME -Frances Walker of Sydney, Australia, employe of the Aus.ralian Chancery in Washington, examines a snow kangaroo built by her co-workers after nearly a foot of snow struck the nation's capital. NICL INGERPAR? Gnaol,�o«dxIce 1t doesn't seem passible but it actually is .. . time to once again wish all the readers of this column a very Happy Christmas. I do hope. the fact of Christmas coming 'in the middle of the week will not make it impossible for sons and daugh- ters living away from home to get back for Yuletide celebra- tions. For what would Christmas be without a family? Greeting cards, presents, festive fare, par- ties and fun are just the Christ- mas trimmings; the outward ex- pression of a deep abiding love that is the basis of all happy family gatherings, None of us is perfect; we may irritate each other upon occasion but it makes little difference to our affec- tions, does it? We love, and are loved, not for any of our odd little ways but in spite of them. Uncle Bill may be a terrific one to argue and Cousin Emma too fussy for words, but bless their hearts, we know they are as loyal and kind as anyone could be. If you have an Uncle Bill or a cousin Emma in your family I am sure you will agree. Christ- , mas wouldn't be the same with- out them, would it? Christmas, most of us think, has become altogether too com- mercial. That, unfortunately, is true. Especially- for children. There is too much' Santa Claus and too little attention given to the Christ -child's birth. And yet, however little we recognize it, the Christian influence is still there. Can you 'imagine living in a country where the •miracle of the Saviour's birth is no longer recognized? It would be a very pointless existence, wouldn't it at any time, but more especially at Christmas. And do you )snowy. I always) think the farm is a grand place to be at Christmas. The story of the Nativity has a special significance for those who tend the cattle in the stall." Remember Nina Moore Jamie- asen's lovely lines. — 'With fork and pail and stable broom, as evening shadows fall, In common tasks I tend for Him the cattle in the stall." I wonder — when ,you think of Christmas, do you just think of this very Christmas we are now celebrating? I don't. I think. of all the Christmases that led up to it -'that made this pres-. nt Christmas possible. I look back to Christmases in England; to holly, mistletoe and paper chain decorations; to homemade' gifts and stockings well ,padded with oranges, nuts and "sweets". To a golden brown chicken (the mostwe could afford) Christmas • plum pudding, enveloped by tiny blue flames, dancing upwards to the sprig of holly at the top 01 the pudding. Iremernber lying in bed the night before Christ- mas, litening :to the waites'. and the carol singersgoing from street to street .' and the church' bells ringing their spe- cial message . . "Joy to the world, the Lord is come; Let< earth receive her King." In that way, with music and song, the birthday of the Christ -Child was ushered in before we, as chil- dren, became excited with the fantasy of Santa Claus — of "Father Christmas" as we called him in England. And then I think of our first Christmas en the prairie. Mail was delayed, The thought of Christmas without a word from home was hard to face, And then, on the twenty-fourth, the letters came. Partner phoned me from the village . . . there was a money order from home — what should he do with it? "Coal , bring home some coal - let us be warm for Christmas!" He brought the coal and some balloons for the baby. We hung them from a string above her cot. It was a wonderful Christ- mas. We forgot about the last season's crop failure and we could not foresee the ones to come. We were happy, warm and optimistic. Three years later came our first Christmas in Ontario — at Ginger Farm. It was - a happy day — two children now, But the next day, sadness. A cable from Pngland — my mother had ' passed away on Christmas \Day — which was also her wed- ding anniversary. For years after that, for me Christmas was al- ways a mixture of sorrow and gladness. Another year I specially re- member ... the children were asleep, a stocking hanging, at the head of each bed. About ten o'clock I 'heard Dee crying pltlful, heartbreaking sobs. I rushed upstairs — "What is it, pet . . why are you crying? Have you gota pain?" Between sobs came the answer — "Santa Claus' hasn't put anything in my *tacking!" (remember it was only ten o'clock). And now that same little girl, who thought Santa had forgotten her, has stockings to fill for her own three children. And Bob and hi' wife will have their first Tragedies Caused By 4eallousy The gay, fastidiously dressed husband living in a Hamburg luxury flat with his somewhat dowdy 'wife couldhardly con- ceal his delight when she an- nounced, nnounced, at ` tea -time; "I shan't be back tonight, Herman, so don't wait up for me. !Mother's not well, so I'll stay the night with her." She waved him goodby and within minutes he was on the phone, fixing up a drinking spree with .an office pal and two at-- 1 tractive frauleins. They arrived at his flat later that evening end for nearly three-quartersof an hour the four made merry -dancing, sip- ping wine, kissing and laughing —until the wife suddenly stepped out of a .cupboard, her face red with jealous fury. "I've overheard everything," she shouted, swiping the as- tounded husband . with a stick after driving out the others. "I've suspected you for a long time and felt sure I'd catch you by inventing that story 'about visiting my mother." Most of the great lovers of history have been very jealous, including the French author, Vic- tor Hugo. He loved ` beautiful Juliette Douret so much that at one time he jealously refused to let her walk through the streets of Paris alone. When a woman gives way to jealousy, sparks usually fly. A jealous woman once inter- rupted a wedding cermony by accusing the bride of "stealing" her man. She then tore off the bride's yell, -ripped her wedding dress and blacked both her eyes,. Jealous husbands have been known to go to elaborate lengths. to spy on their wives. On his seventh wedding anniversary a man bought a cap, spectacles and moustache and started a little amateur detective work on his wife, it was revealed in a divorce case. He followed her frrom her place of employment' to a cafe Christmas with a baby in the house. A wonderful thrill. And so the years go by and we measure time by what hap- pened at Christmas time, ten, or twenty years ago, which makes, Christtnas a cUinulative occasion. Looking back we treasure the joys, while time mercifully dims the sorrows. This, I am sure, is. a common experience: And so once again let me finish this column with best wishes to you all and "God Bless us, everyone." • where he saw her with a man. The judge commented that the husband had "an ultra-suspieioyl mind". "People say that jealousyis the greatest symbol of love, but they are wrong. Jealousy shows. a selfish spirit and shows doubt and ` uncertainty. Perfect lost* is never' petty. It rises ahoy* little doubts and relies upon heist as its greatest asset." Jiffy -Slippers lYL1 d.AWt.4 VO4.0229.4 Easy!/ Easy! Just TWO main pattern parts to cut out, stitch up, Make 2 pairs of. pretty TV slippers in jiffy time! Use scraps — add colorful embroidery. 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