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FATHER OF THREE
'Dear Anne Hirst:
I am 28, and for three years
have been a lonely widower. My
tluee.children are aged four to,
nine." Recently I met a girl of
16, and we have fallen in love.
Her parents are objecting strong-
ly, and S ant not surprised they
think her too young to under-
stand what love means, and too
inexperienced to take on the
responsibilities of my house and
the children. But aren't there
exceptions to rules? This girl
is as mature as others I've known
who were 21; she is exceptional-
ly well-balanced, and I tell you
honestly that this conclusion is
not wishful thinking.
"I have explained to them ail
that any housekeeper (a friend
of my former wife) has taken
entire charge of the children and
housekeeping for two years. The
girl I love would have no re-
sponsibilities unless she wants
them, and as her husband I
would cherish and protect her.
My reputation is solid, and I am
well off.
"What can I do to convince
these nice people that their
daughter would be happy with
me? ONE LONELY MAN"
BE FAIR
A 16 -year-old in love is
Takes Little Time
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* usually most concerned with
* the joyous prospect of wife-'
* hood, and apt to regard. other
* attending responsibilities light -
(.1y. Yet if this girl you love is
* as mature as you believe, it is
* not likely she would be con-
* tent to leave the entire care
* of your children to your house-
* keeper; she would feel it part
* of her duty as their stepmother
• to assume some responsibili-
* ties. You say she already
* knows the children, and they
* all seem to feel a mutual al-
* fection. (I wish I could have
* printed all your letter.)
* One way to prove to her
* parents that you are sincere is
* to promise to wait until they
* can give their full consent. (In
* your state, she cannot marry
* without it for two years.)
* Whileyou hope they will allow
* you, to pursue the courtship,
* if they prefer you will not see
* her for at least another year.
* During that time she would be
* free to mingle again with
• friends her age, and learn the
* quality of her affection for
* you. The waiting would prove,
* too, whether what you feel is
* really enduring or merely the
* infatuation that a man, your
* age could readily feel for a
* young girl. (After all, you met
* her "recently..")
* I believe such a proposal
* would be. unexpected by her
* parents, and impress them with
* your integrity. It cannot help
s'but recommend you as a just
* roan, anxious above all for
* their daughter's happiness.
* Why not suggest it, and see
* how they react?
* * *
AWKWARD SITUATION
"Dear Anne Hirst:
I am nearly 17, and in love
with a young man four years
older. Lately he has been dat-
ing another girl more often,
though, and recently he gave her
a diamond. But he tells me he
isn't going to marry her!
"I've known him for two years ,
and we have had so much fun
together. I hear he is always
fussing with her .. yet he tells
my friends he loves me, but all
he has told me is that he is
'fond of me'. I am very confused.
"Since she is wearing his ring,
I guess I'm crazy to ask your
opinion—but what is it?
WONDERING"
* When a girl wears a diamond
* it is taken for granted she is
* engaged to the boy who gave
* it. If he dates anyone else,
* everyone feels he is double-
* crossing his fiancee and it re-
* fleets no credit on him nor on
* the girl he dates; she appears
* to be so anxious for a beau
* that she will go out with any-
▪ one who asks her.
* This girl evidently expects
* to marry the boy, so why don't
* you realize what unpleasant
* gossip you are inviting? I do
* not think you would he flat-
* tered to know what his friends
* (perhaps yours, too) are say-
* ing. He wants to eat his cake
* and have it; but so long as his
• engagement is accepted, he
* owes his complete loyalty to
* the girl he proposed to.
• Better not see him at all.
h
E.
Readers of this column are in-
vited to bring their problems to
Anne Hirst. Her common sense,
her years of experience and her
warm sympathy have helped
thousands of troubled people to
better lives. Write her freely,
addressing her at Box 1, 123
Eighteenth Street, New Toronto,
Ontario.
fHE SEA OF MATRIMONY—Allowing neither time nor tide to
interfere with their marriage plans, Ulisse Milan and Teresa
Greguoldo (centre, holding hands) were wed in a floating
ceremony by Father Don Bellini at Robigo, Italy. Thousands
of acres in the area were inundated by a disastrous flood of
the Adriatic Sea and Po River.
TOGETHER AGAIN—Ethel Merman, left, and Ginger Rogers, who
started in show business together about 28 years ago, team
up here to help the victims of hemophilia. The stars give it
their all in a duet at a fund-raising party of the Hemophilia
Foundation.
H ONICLE
INGEr.;
eswen.doUr'.e P. Clea ,e
Don't ever under -estimate the
power Of a bab$tl You thought
I was going to say "woman"
didn't you? Well, a woman is
something to be reckoned with
too — but the power of a woman
is as nothing compared with the
power of a baby. One small.
infant can throw a monkey
wrench as effectively as a plum-
ber. I am finding that out more
and more. Prow now on when
I make any plans I shall quali-
fy them by saying — "Unless a
baby, either male or female, shall
interfere with my plans". Events,
past, present and future, bear
me out.
I have already told you about
having grandson Eddie here for
just over a month; how wa
postponed so many things "un-
til after Eddie had gone home".
After Eddie, bless his mischiev-
ous little soul, finally went
home, we felt free to come and
go as we pleased. We could
say yes or no to any invitation
— and as you know, I went to
the W.I° Convention. The follow-
ing Wednesday I had promised
to be at our local branch meet-
ing to hear the delegate give
her report. But that's where the
first baby interruption came in.
A neighbour received a sudden
emergency call to a Toronto hos-
pital ... would T look after her
baby until she returned. Well,
her mission was greater than
mine so I baby-sat until four
o'clock. I took a quick run down
to the Hall afterwards and heard
.the last five minutes of the dele-
gate's report and, also presented
my apologies.
That same right Joy phoned
— would I look after Ross while
she was at rhe hairdresser's.
Without a second thought 1
agreed. Afterwards I remember-
ed I had promised to take acme
ladies. to a church meeting --
, W.A. — next day. It was 1
luncheon meeting and I expected
to be back by three so Partner
thought he could fill in for tr./
hour. He did! Luckily I wasn't
late In fact f came in a litl;a
ahead of time. Partite/ was we)
ing the floor with Ross and hid
been for fifteen minutes. If he
sat down or stopped walkine
Rous raised his voice. I took ober
• and for an hour the little rascal
was a perfect lamb, played ou
the floor as contented as could
be. When he seemed tired I rut.'
him in his cot and off he went
to sleep. I think the real trouble
was that Ross doesn't see too
much of his father acid so isn't
used to being handled by a man.
However Partner survived and
I'm glad I went to that meetntj
because the timing was a little
unusual. •
Instead of meeting at two
o'clock the members agreed to
meet at noon, each taking her
own lunch, the hostess providing
tea and coffee By this means
the meeting closed at two -thirty
and the members were able'' to
get home before there was `much'
' heavy traffic and while it was
still light. I thought it was an
excellent idea to pass along —
one that might appeal to the W.I.
as farmers' wives are always
anxious to get home before chore
time, Too often women stay away
from meetings because they are
afraid of getting home late.
And now back to more baby
entanglements, Partner has had
a suitcase packed for two weeks
ready for a visit to Horning's
Mills. The situation is this: Our
friend -s up north are prospective
grandparents. A. soon as the ex-
pected baby arrives the proud
father is taking Partner up nortb
to stay with grandfather and on
the return trip bringing grandma
back to look after his other two
children until after the mother
and new baby have returned
from the hospital. I hope I've
made that clear! However, the
baby was two weeks late in
arriving so three families were
definitely on edge, none being
able to make any 'definite plans
to do anything or go anywhere.
So I repeat — never under -esti-
mate the power of a baby —
born or unborn.
Tonight Bob and Joy have
gone to the Royal Winter Fair.
They would have taken us along
too but . , , well, somebody had
to stay home and baby-sit. Our
turn will come later. If the
w e at h e r remains favourable
Partner and I hope to have a
day at the Fair before he goes
north. Incidentally that little trip
has been postponed for a few
days so grandma can stay longer
after the baby gets home.
Speaking of farms last Friday
Partner and I paid a visit to
Ginger Farm. At least we went
passed it and noticed great earth-
moving machines were at work.
It was too muddy to drive in
but from what we could see it
won't be too long before Ginger
Farm as we know it will cease
to exist The buildings are still
there but after awhile they will
be completely dwarfed by a 27 -
foot grade that is creeping closer
day by day However, next year
Modern
Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
Q. If for some reason social
or business a family has had
its name legally changed, how
should friends and acquaintances
be informed of this?
A. The quickest and simplest
way is to mail out formal an-
nouncements: "Mr. and Mrs.
John Stoningham announce that
by permission of the court they
and their children have taken
the family 'name of Stone."
Q. Is it proper to name the see-
and son "junior" for his father,.
or is this title always supposed
to be conferred on the oldest "son?
A. The "junior" in a family
need nbt be the first son.
Q. Is it necessary that all the
inen star!' at a dinner table until
all the women' have been seated?
A. Yes.
Q. When signing her name to
a business letter, must an un-
married woman use "Miss" in
front of her name?'
A. Yes; but the "Miss" should
be enclosed in parentheses, as,
(Miss) Patricia S. Moore A mar-
ried woman should abide by this
rule, too,
Q. Should a girl discard her
engagement ring when her fiance
(lies?
A. She may wear it for so long
as she likes. This may be for all
her life, or it may be that in time
she will fall in love with some-
one else and replace it with an-
other ring.
Q: When a man brings a guest
to his home and presents him
to his wife, does she make use of
the customary acknowledgement,
"How do you do"?
A. In this instance, it is better
if the wife shows a little more
cordiality and adds, "I am very
glad to see you," or some such
similar expression,
we shall have, a little bit of
Ginger Farm at Halfway House
— from the spring -flowering
bulbs that we brought along with
us: But oh dear, there's a big
gap between now and spring,
isn't there?
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HER WEDDING DAY— Cecile Dionne, 23, and her husband„
Phillipe Langlois, 26, are shown leaving the church after their
marriage ceremony in Corbeil, Ontario. The town is not far
from where the happy bride and her four sisters were born.
WORLD'S SAFEST AUTOMOBILE -The Rev. Alfred Juliano, Roman Catholic priest and student of
fine arts at Yale University, sits at thewheelof his "Aurora", a car he designed himself,
Father Juliano cals it the "world's safest automobile". It features a front-end air scoop instead
of a grill, a laminated glass body and floor and a tinted ,:transparent roof. The dream -car
created a great stir in New York, after taking almost 10 hours to snake the run from Bran-
ford, Conn., normally a two-hour trip. A clogged fuel 'line contributed to 15 'breakdowns on
the way: