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The Seaforth News, 1957-12-05, Page 6NNE #FIRST ipuls Family Cou49vse.eiai- "Dear Anne Hirst: I cannot. understand these modern .Lou- pies who mistake passion for love and dash into marriage' with the mutual reservation; 'If it doesn't, work out, .we'll a divorce.', How can they expect it to succeed unless each under- stands that marriage is for the rest of their lives? Nothing less can prime them for the many troubles that lie ahead, nor de- velop the character to stick to- gether as long as they both shall live. "Twenty-seven years ago my husband and I married, I was 17 and he 18. We had both been raised by parents who instilled the premise that marriage was made to last. We had about every trouble a couple can have: our first home burned down just after our baby came, and we didn't salvage a thing. The next year our second baby was born, and died, Then an incurable disease attacked the other. "Yet my husband and I were happy. We did everything to- gether. Each night he came straight home, so happy to be there, STAYED CLOSE "We have had our differences, of ecurse, but we never let them last overnight. Never a day paged that we did not tell each other of our love, and when- ever things seemed too dreadful to bear, that was the burning .dame we warmed our hearts by. Always Welcome 6f, Zaww ike4 Warat woman can have too mails" aprons? Each of these three — so pretty and practical —can be made of small rem- nants, Pattean 758: directions and pattern pieces for three aprons, transfer of embroidery motifs. Each takes less than one yard. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1. 123 Eighteenth St.. New Tor- onto, Ont, Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift to our readers—printed right in our 1957 Laura Wheeler Needle- eraft Book. Dozens of other de- signs you'll want to order—easy :fascinating handwork for your- self. your home, gifts, bazaar iter,;. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today: "Now we have four children, three happily married and the boy in service: "Most marriages could be as fine as ours if both kept their love :alive and worked together fox each other's` happiness. God always helps those who help themselves. Of course we -got down -hearted now and then, but a touch of the hand or a quick smile lifted us out, I never for- got to praise him for his patience and his kindness, and when I grew afraid of tomorrow he al- ways comforted me. "The point that I'm trying to make is that we took it for granted that we belonged to- gether as long as we live, I would not want to go on alone for a single day, yet I know that. if anything happened to him I would carry on as he would expect me to. "Your column is and has been, every week, the high spot of my newspaper; I never miss it. You cannot know how your cheering words to other readers have brought me courage and renewed my faith. Bless you al- ways.—A HAPPY WIFE" * So often this column reflects * grief, selfishness and despair " that I know my Leaders will. * get a lift from your fine let- * ter. You and your husband * have had more troubles for * successive years than most * couples could handle or would * even try to. But you had such * faith in each other, such un- * derstanding love and such * high ideals that you took all " the discouragements in your * stride and found they only * welded you closertogether in your mutual acceptance of the ' cows you made. I wish every bride would clip your letter today and * make it her rule to live by. * She would find new strength * to minimize the troubles that * inevitably come to us all, and * only count her blessings as * you and your husband have • done down through the years. • You both deserve the love- ' ly life you have together. You " worked for it. I salute you. * * 2'P TO TIIE BOY "Dear Anne Hirst: I ant not sett 16, but I feel a lot older. I or.; in love with a boy in our school, but he doesn't know I'm ::lies. Ile goes steady with an- other girl, and I have come to the point where I despise her! "I'd do anything in the world to rate a date with hint. How van I?—BPSOItEN-HEARTED" Put yourself in this girl's place. How would you feel if * another girl set her cap for "'him? Wouldn't you wonder ' why she doesn't get a boy friend of her own? Are you so unpopular that you would * try to break up a couple who * are going steady? You would * get yourself talked about and * laughed at, and you would * deserve it. * A nice girl doesn't ask a boy to take her out, or even * call. You could, though, give * a party at home and invite * him—but you must invite his * girl friend, too. • As you grow up you will * discover that this is still a * man's world. We women must * wait until men are attracted * to us before we make a move. * Take it easy, put this con- " quest out of your mind, and • a keep busy with other friends, * * * If you have survived the troubles that attack most marriages, write Anne Hirst how you did, and encourage other readers to try your pre- scription. Your letters will be published as this space per- mits ... Address Anne Hirst at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. SHIPMATES — Night-club comedian Don Rickles, left, and actor Burt Lancaster seem pleased about the whole thing, Rickles has been making a success of his art by insulting well-known per- sonalities. Lancaster liked the treatment Rickles gave him so well he hired him to play the part of a Navy quartermaster, In, his forthcoming submarine film, "Run Silent, Run Deep." IN THE GRAND TRADITION — Anne Golding, 21, months old, carries on in the hallowed tradition of show business at a baby show in London, England. The brave lass shuts her eyes and toddles through the embarrassing moment while thedisaster evokes sympathetic laughter -from some of the mothers present. j • =,e r i ., 3 t dolin.e R. Cla,tike Here is a piece of information which I consider is worthwhile passing along. We had some call- ers a few nights ago and the lady apologized for the appear- ance of her hands. In places they looked grimey and rough; in. other places the skin was tender and red, like new skin after a burn has healed. She said she had had an awful time with them for the last month, blisters forming and then weeping. "Sut what caused it?" I asked. "Detergents," she answered, "apparently I ani allergic to de- tergents. The doctor told me to keep my hands out of water. That, as you know, is easier said than done. And these days how can anyone wash without deter- gents anyway?" Well, I told her of two washing powders on the market which I knew were not detergents. One she knew of, the other, a naptha product she hadn't heard of. The poor clear looked awful, having lost so much sleep because of the constant irritation in her hands. , Two days later Partner and I were visiting at a farm home where the daughter of the house — a young married woman — was in ` misery with ,inflamed eyes and a blotchy face. She had consulted a doctor who sent her to a skin specialist. The specialist said he was almost certain her condition was due to an allergy to whatever detergent she was using in her automatic washer. Ile said a lot of trouble could be avoided if women would first mix the detergent with cold water before adding it to the hot. I guess most of us have had the experience of coughing and sneezing after sprinkling deter- gent powder into our .washing machine. No harm is done in the majority of cases but evidently there are people who are more senstitive to whatever it is that escapes into the air from the powder. Could it be that, be- cause of keen competition, every, detergent manufacturers is now producing a progressively stronger detergent in an attempt to outdo other °competitors h the same field? In any case it is something to think about — and guard against. Years ago, when we lived out west, I had similar trouble with my hands, due to the strong alkali water to which. I was unaccustomed. For weeks I had to work in rubber gloves to give my hands a chance to heal, Out west the trouble was called "salt rheum" — a form of eczema' which'I had never even heard of before. Quite apart f rom domestic problems what a world we live int It's a wonder our poor old brains don't become completely addled with all the changes that are, or will betaking place. An increase in pensions for the aged and the blind. Few pensioners will complain about that. Our only worry is how the govern- ment is going to meet its obli- gations. Thenthere's the hospi- tal plan. Although it is badly needed it looks like a tremendous financial burden for the govern- ment - and the people at large. It definitely isn't something we'll be for nothing. How could it be? One thing I can't understand . - why should a married couple without depen- dents have to pay just as high a rate as younger couples with a growing family? The Federal government also has pians for giving farmers a new deal; increasing price sup- ports; putting agriculture on a level nearer to that of industry. Here's hoping it can do it, but . well, seeing is believing! I am afraid as far as the future of farming is concerned I am still in the "doubting Thomas" class. However, some farmers strike it lucky regardless. I was at an auction sale yesterday on a farm that had been sold for a fabulous sum to a millionaire industrialist. That farmer will never need to worry from a per- sonal angle whether price sup- port goes up or not. On the other hand money isn't everything. Several years ago I was speaking to a hard-working farmer whose land had been expropriated by the Department of Highways. 1 asked him — "After all these years of hard work how does it feel to be rich?" "Rich", he replied, "what good is money or leisure if you haven't the health to enjoy it?" A few months later the poor fellow took a stroke from which he has only partially recovered. Bed- ridden, his only consolation must be that he can afford to be looked after properly. Then again, sometimes these land deals take an ironic twist. One man, out looking for just an ordinary farm found one he liked. But his wife talked him A ROSE 15 AROSE, ETC. — But PI rose by any other nose, would never smell to sweet. This close-up of Jimmy Durante utilizing the powers of his famous proboscis to the utmost has won an award for the pho- tographer, Ray Fisher, in a Popular Photography maga- zine contest. Modern Et• iquette by Roberta Lee Q. Do you thin!( it's improper for one woman to ask another whether site made the dress she is wearing? A. Unless you happen to know Lor certain that this woman does make some of her clothes, it would be better to avoid this kind of question. It could be con- strued by some sensitive souls as a hint toward "amateur work- manship," Q. When a friend phoned re- cently to ask if it would be all right for her and her husband to call on us a certain Sunday afternoon, .I was forced to tell her we would not be at (tome at that time. Should I,call her back now and set a definite time for them to come to visit us? A. This would surely be a courteous thing to do. Q. Is a member of the bereaved family expected to receive out of the deal because the,house was so big and dark. A few months ago -that same farm sold for '$220,0001 Wives, beware! t Farmers never know these days what land will be worth tomor- row. We must take a run down to see what's doing — whether the house will be demolished or not? We took a gamble — only time and the Department of Highways will prove whether, in the final outcome, we lost or won. Or rather, whether by hanging 00 we could have made more. Actually, as things- stand, we have nothing whatever to grumble about. Does it matter anyway — with a couple of Sput- niks circling around in outer space? friends who are making calls et condolence? A. Usually a close friend or relative receives these person. Of course, in the case of an in- timate friend, the family ..may wish to'see hiin — this being left, however, Kto the decision of the family, as no one should intrude at such a time. HERALD - Marvin fields Jr., e victim of cerebral palsy since birth, is the 1958 Herald of the U,pited Cerebral Palsy Associa- tion's Golden Deed Crusade, Five-year-old Marvin is pictur- ed as he was introduced to delegates at the organization's' eighth annual convention. ISSUE 48 1957 The New Fall Loafs If yon want the smart new Look this fall, select Anne Adams Printed Pattern 4854, choose theseason's favored knitted fabric -jersey—and make it in a red—in the shade most becoming to you. The combination„ you can be confident, is perfect. And you, yourself, can achieve all .this perfection. You can enjoy the new rounded hipline, the flattering figure -molded bodice when you use the Anne Ad'ams Printed Pattern, It's easy to read as you go, read`. as you sew. Instructions are printed right on each pattern piece. If you use a ribbed knit or the jersey as shown here, by all means line the entire skirt and mid- riff with a lightweight Pelton which gives shape to smart lines without weight or bulkiness. This non -woven interfacing is spe- cially made to go with "stretch" fabrics since it can be counted Oh to give a soft effect. It's: as easy or easier to handle than the jersey itself. Not shown here, but included in Pattern 4854, is a figure -hugging jacket so you will have an ensemble that will win compliments wherever you go.. Printed Pattern 4854 comes in Misses' Sies .10, 12, 14, 16 and 18. Size 16 requires 21/4 yards of 54 -inch fabric for the dress; 13/4 yards for the jacket. Just send FIFTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted—use postal note for safety) -for Printed Pattern 4854. Send order 145 ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont!