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`Dear Anne Hirst: I am writ-
Mg to ask you to tell . nee how
to get rid of an ardent, persis-
tent suitor whom I do not love
and never will
"During our three-year friend-
ship we have had frequent din-
ner, dancingand theater dates.
I knew we had little else in
common, and I grew bored.
Finally I told him flatly there
was no use in seeing me again
and he was badly hurt. Notes,
flowers and gifts flowed in, ask-
ing for another chance. .
"Then he moved to another
city, and that relieved me—but
soon letters came almost' every
day. He has made quite a bit
of money, and reminded me
that he could give me every-
thing I wanted. His letters
touched me, but they made me
feel guilty because he was so
miserable.
"Ile still would not retire
from my life and let me alone.
He told a friend of mine that
he was sure I would love him
some day, and he was content
to wait. This is still his attitude.
WORRIED GIRL"
` When this young man re-
" fused to believe his cause was
* lost, you might have ended it
* by saying you would not see
* him anywhere, at any time,
* and wouldappreciate his for-
* getting he ever knew you.
* You probably felt too sorry
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* for him to do that, but ac-
tually
; you were too weak to
* turn him down.
* Now be firm, but final. A
short note saying you will re-
* fuse to accept any further let-
* ters should be sufficient. If he
* telephones you long-distance,
* refuse, to tak e the call. Should
* he still persist, have a male
* relative write him demand-
* ing that he cease • annoying
* you.
'' Many a girl would be flat-
* tered• by such devotion, but
all this has become really
* obnoxious, besides which you
* feel responsible for his con-
* tinued. passion. If he had been
more sensitive he would have
* realized his pursuit was un-
* welcome, and retired from
* the scene.
* Such a determined court-
" ship is not unheard of, but it
* must be ended if only because
* your privacy is being invaded,
* and the sense of guilt is being
* imposed on the wrong person.
* * *
UNDEPENDABLE BEAU
"Dear Anne Hirst: For the
past nine months I've been go-
ing with a boy who breaks
about one date in three. I like
him too much to risk offending
him, but T am getting fed up
with these goings on. My family
do not like him at all, and even
my friends have asked me why
I put up with him.
"Is' there any tactful way to
show him how annoyed I am?
MARIE"
* Any young man who breaks
* a date without notice or rea-
* son lacks a sense of social
* responsibility, and shows little
* respect for the girl who per-
* mits such neglect.
* This beau of yours has hgd
* more chances than he de-
* serves, and he will continue
* to take them so long as you
* allow him to. You had better
• tell hint frankly that a date
* means a promise to you, and
* if he breaks one more, you
* will not be seeing him again.
* Most boys learn the social
* rules at home, or from the
* first girls they date. This one
* must be told what is due you,
* and be convinced that you
* will accept nothing less. You
* may lose him, but you will
* get over it. You are already
* losing the respect of your
* friends. ' Is anybody worth
* that? * e
Anne Hirst's column pre-
sents surprising and unusual
problems, as well as heart-
rending situations. If unhappy
situations arise in your Life,
ask her how to handle them.
Address Anne Ilirst at Box 1,
123 Eighteenth St., New Tor-
onto, Ont.
Modern Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
Q. Is it all right to eat crisp
breakfast bacon with the fingers?
A. No; with the fork,
Q. Is it all right for a woman
to introduce her husband's moth-
er to her good friends as, "This
is my mother-in-law"?
A. It would be better to say,
"This is Bob's mother."
Q. Is it considered proper at a
christening to clothe the baby 3n
soft pink or blue?
A. Everything the baby wears
at a christening should be white.
Q. How and when should a
bridegroom offer his fee to the
clergyman who performs the
ceremony?
A. He entrusts an envelope
containing the fee to his best
man, who tenders it to the clergy-
man after the ceremony.
FIRST MEETING—Two of the nation's most distinguished citizens,
Frank Lloyd Wright, left, and Carl Sandburg, stop for a chat
after appearing tx.gether on a television program, It was the
first time that world-famous 'architect Wright, and 'equally
famed poet Sn !burg had ever met, They discussed, ap-
propriately enough, Chicago ,architecture.
POSTER FAMILY—All polio victims, Mrs. Helen Solomon and
her children, from left, twins Lindy and Sandy, 6, and Joe, 9,
have been named the U.S. March of Dimes Poster Family for
1958. Mrs. Solomon and the three children all contracted the
dread disease during a single week in July, 1953, and have
been fighting the effects ever since.
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INGE
It's a sad, sad story. One day
the flower beds were full of
colour and bloom. The next , , .
leaves and flowers alike wilted
by a killing frost, except for the
hardy varieties. So much loveli-
ness entirely obliterated by the
sudden chill breath of winter.
The same applies to the trees.
Already most of the trees around
here are naked — shivering as
if the months ahead appalled
them,
It was certainly a very sudden
change in the weather, and one
which we didn't exactly appre-
ciate. Also, almost coincident,
with winter weather came the
switch back to standard time.
Did you get an extra hour's
sleep? We didn't. Force of habit
was too strong. We turned the
clocks back all right but got up
as usual by daylight saving time.
However, we go to bed on good
old standard time so I imagine
in a few days we shall be pretty
well adjusted. Anyway, I hadn't
better get started on that topic
again, I said my two ce'.cs'
worth last week. Since then I
notice the Federation cf Agri-
culture has started vol Ing a pro=
test. More power try them. .
Well, this is a 'very quiet house
we are living in right now. Last
Friday nig/et our wee Eddie went
back to his own home. We had
had him for exactly a month.
When his father came for him
ire didn't know him and for a
good half-hour wouldn't go to
him at all. Eventually he cane
to the conclusion that he was
all right and in the end went
off with him quite happily al-
though with a backward glance
all the way to the car, not quite
able to figure out why grandma
wasn't coming too. Today we all
went into see the new baby.
His mother's description was
very accurate — he DOES look
like a little Indian . black
hair, fat red cheeks and a broad
nose, Cute though, and a very
good baby. Eddie was quite
ready to come away with us
when eve left but Dave wouldn't
hear of it. He wanted both his
brothers left at home. And so
another family milestone has
passed. Now maybe things wilt
run along quietly for a bit .
until the next upheaval, before
which I hope we get time to
catch our breath. Personally 1
like Iny excitement in small'
doses, especially with Christmas
only a matte; of weeks away.
In the meantime Partner is
literally keeping the home fires
burning with odds and ends that
accumulate in every house, One
of our neighbours had a small
tree that came crashing down
on his garden. He does not have
a fireplace so Partner was given
the wood ;for taking it away.
Of course, he still has his web -
saw and a one-man crosscut —
relics of the farm — so he le
well equipped to deal with just
such an. emergency. He also has
large clippers and pruning shears
with which he has been busy all
fall— thinning and clearing out
brush along the line fence, tying
the bigger twigs into small
bundles. I laughed a few nights
ago as he came into the living
room with one of these small
bundles to light the fire. Memory
took me back more years than
I care to tell. Back to England.
n:e P. Ci.a t,ls,e
where a man used to trundle his
push -barrow along the streets
selling "faggots" at a penny a
bundle. You won't even find the
word in modern dictionaries but
Old Country people will know
what I mean. To the 'initiated
I should explain that "faggots"
are bundles of wood suitable for
kindling. Some pictures of Joan
of Arc show the foot of the stake
surrounded by faggots. Some-
times it is rough, split wood;
sometimes twigs and small
branches tied into bundles. Qn
country estates whenever trees
are felled for fuel or /umber,
the cottagers were allowed the
"privilege" of taking the tops
and small branches. If there
was more thar, they needed for
their own requirements the wood
used to be done up in faggots
and sola. I wonder if that custom
still holds good. Probably not
as farm labourers now get a
lving-wage and are possibly not
as anxious to salvage waste prod-
ucts for a mere pittance.
Frugality on the whole is dying
a slow death. We often think
that on Tuesdays. That is gar-
bage day and at every 'driveway ,
there are cans, cartons and
bundles of papers. A tot of it
burnable — in summer by means
of an incinerator; in winter in
an open fireplace, thus cutting
down the fuel bill. It really does.
We have to turn down the ther-
mostat when we have a fire go-
ing — or be roasted out. After
all why throw away what can
be used for our pleasure and
comfort with a minimum of
effort? On a cold, raw night is
anything more cheerful than a
blazing fire on an open hearth
— on a farm or in an urban
home? On the farm a fire en
the hearth in the evening saved
us the necessity of starting the
furnace. Keeping a small fire in
a coal furnace is quite a chore.
An oil furnace is easier to oper-
ate but it has one definite dis-
advantage. If anything goes
wrong it takes a repair man to
fix it. Partner says if the old
Twin Doubled For
Bride With Jitters
Everybody in the packed vil-
lage church thought how lovely
the slender, fair-hairedbride
looked in her expensive "wed-
ding dress of white satin and
gold thread as she stood with
her 'dignified bridegroom before
the priest who was to marry
them.
With the bridegroom was his
somewhat nervous- looking best
man. All went well until the
moment came when he had to
pass the $300 wedding, ring to
the bridegroom.
Then there was a. gasp of dis-
may as those nearest saw him
drop' it bn to the stone floor and
watched it roll out of sight.
The embarrassed best man
made a dive to get it and
failed. The bride's father went
down on his knees to join in the
hunt. Even the priest felt obliged
to assist, for the ring had van-
ished into a dark recess at the
back of the organ.
With the flustered bridegroom
directing operations, the men
shifted the organ and began
rummaging amid. the dust and
cobwebs at the back of it.
People sitting in church tried
hard to suppress their laughter
when they saw the hurriedly
summoned sexton turn up, arm-
ed with a long pole to `reinforce
the ring -hunters.
Nearly twenty minutes elapsed
before it came to light. The sex -
.ton held it up triumphantly. It
was dirty and cobwebby and had
to be carefully wiped hefore the
perspiring groom finally put it
on his bride's slim finer.
That happened in Bavaria but
wedding day nerves have fre-
quently been the cause of awk-
ward moments at marriage cer-
emonies all over the world.
In France they tell the extra-
ordinary story of a pretty young
girl who fell in love with 'a de-
bonair army officer. As her wed-
ding day approached, the girl,
Germaine, became more and
more excited and nervous, de-
claring that she was beginning
to feel that the ceremony would
be too much for her and she
could never eo through with it.
On the wedding morning she
was more nervous than ever.
`3fhat was to be done? At this
critical stage Germaine's equal-
ly pretty twin sister had a
brainwave. Why should she not
act as her sister's deputy? They
were so much alike that the
possibility of the deception be-
ing detected was remote.
And so it happened. Wearing
Germaine's lovely wedding gown
and veil, the sister came trium-
phantly through the ceremony.
Neither the bridegroom nor
anybody else except the girls
and their parents knew what
had happened. On her sister's
return from the church, Ger-
maine took her place,,
A year or two later a calmer
and happier Germaine went
through another wedding cere-
mony with her adoring husband
at her request. And he so far
has never learned the truth.
During a wedding at Istachat-
ta, in the United States, the min-
ister was astonished to see a
snake wriggling down the aisle.
He threw a hymn book at it and
then the verger came along to
remove the intruder. which was
later returned to a pet shop
from which it had escaped.
Every ' bride hopes that no
serious hitch will occur on her
wedding day, but many bride-
grooms have experienced the
agony of discovering too late
that they, or the best man, have
forgotten or lost the ring with -
coal furnace went out he knew
how to light it. If the oil furnace
goes out it takes a mechanic to
get it going again. That has hap-
pened here only once, a few
weeks after we came.'
out which the ceremony 'could
not take place
At an August wedding before
the war the London bridegroom
forgot the ring because he had
been celebrating with pals until
2 amt., had got up late and had
to dash , off to the church in a
hurry. Luckily his . best man
was equal to the occasion and
stepped forward and handed the
clergyman a door key with the
handle of which the bridal cou-
ple were then formally "joined
together."
Sometimes it's the bride who
causes . a hitch tin the wedding
ceremony. In Australia, a • tem-
peramental brunette waited un-
til her g'room was actuallyslip-
ping the ring on her finger be-
fore she decided that it„was all.
a mistake and she did not want
to marry him,
She had left it too late, how-
ever. It was decided by the Su-
preme Court in Melbourne that
she had willingly taken pant in
the major part of the ceremony
and was therefore legally mar-
ried.
The wedding presents were on
view. Displayed in a prominent
position was a cheque for $5,000,
the gift of the bride's father.
"I say, who is that chap laugh-
ing at your father's cheque?"
exclaimed the bridegroom, feel-
ing annoyed.
"Oh, that's his bank manager!"
said the bride. ,
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ISSUE 47 — 1957
"RED RIVIERA" ON BLACK SEA -The beach at the resort of Golden Sands is part of the dream
of a "Red Riviera" on the Black Sea coast neo r Varna, Bulgaria. Vast sums are being spent
by Communist Bulgaria' to build the area into a prime tourist attraction. Some 130 hotels are
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