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"If you feel, Anne Hirst, that
my story will help some love-
sick soul to avoid the mistake
I made, you may print this ,
Fol 17 years I have lived with
a jealous:, husband, and each
year has taken its toll. I won-
der how I have survived. If any
girl who reads this today. is so
in love with a jealous man that
she thinks she can'tlive with -
Out him, I swear that the day
will come when she will wish
she had, Young people too of
.ten thirtt jealousy measures ,the
man's devotion; I thought that.
But jealousy is born of the
devil, my dears, and it can lead.
to such, evil as no decent women
:an foresee.
"My husband was even jeal-
ous of our children and my
women friends! It made me a
nervous wreck at first, but I
had to learn to ignore it; for any
protests only made him worse.
I never consciously did wrong,
but that did not stop his wicked
thoughts.
"My mother lived r with my
father's jealousy for nearly 40
years, He showed it before they
married I understand and my
grandfather tried to warn her.
After marriage my father was
so tortured that today his mind
is a crooked thing, Two years
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ISSUE 41 — 1957
ago my mother died, literally
heartbroken.
`If only those who contem-
plate marrying a jealous person
could have a quick view of what
my family has suffered!- A jeal-
ous man is a hideous egoist who
slanders the one he loves`.
As for me, for, years I felt like
a prisoner caged in his small
cell, pacing back and forth with
no prospect of escape.
"One. thing helped: Twice
since' I married I have written
out my troubles in detail as
though I., were talking to a
friend, and it has eased t h e
strain. My husband grew worse,
but the only important differ-
ence
was in myself; I could not
bear the , horrible realities, so I
developed a fortitude, a hidden
strength that armored me
against them. I do not believe in,
divorce, and God reached down
and helped.
"To me your column has been
a real study in psychology. Ma-
ture women and men acting like
children, hoping you will ap-
prove of their revolting ways. If
only they would study the. Bible
to find out right from wrong
Yes, I would have written you
myself, but I knew what your
opinion would be and I saw no
need to clutter up your column.
"But I do wish thatgirlsat-
tracted to jealous men could
foresee the hell they will live
in!"
* TO "A FRIEND"; I hope
4' tlrat your experience of two
* generations will leave its
* mark on those who see jeal-
ousy as a proof a1 love. It is
* inhuman and unchristian, and
* marriage (as your mother
* found) only gives it . greater
* power to indulge the terrible
* force.
* Many readers say, "Even if
* you cant help me, I feel bet-
* ter for writing." Confession
* relieves the soul, and often it
* clears one's view so they, like
* yourself, see their situation
* more objectively . I appre-
* eiate your confidence, and
* thank you for it.
WOULD BUY HER OFF
"Dear Anne Hirst; Just a year
ago I married a widower with
three children. I have done all
anybody could do for them, but
it has been a hard job because
they were so spoiled. Now I am
expecting my own baby, and
my husband is so furious that
he tells me to leave—because
I won't have time for his kids.'
"He says I have complained
r. bout them, and I admit it; but
he has not helped me with them
at all. He promises me a sum
of money if I will go. Honestly,
I do believe he has found some
other woman who will take over.
"I would rather not leave my
home, but what do you think
is the right thing to do?
MARCIA"
* 1 hope your husband will
* come to his senses and with-
* draw his demands; they are
* cruel. I1 he insists, I hope
* you will not go until you have
* legal assurance of proper sup-
* port for you and your baby,
* No matter how much money
* he offers, it does not last for-
* ever. You will be wise to con-
* sult the proper authorities and
* let them handle him; without
* some protection, you might
* find yourselfin need.
* Of course, you do not want
* to leave home; but your hus-
* band may make it so unplea-
* sant that you may decide it
* is better to go.
*
If you are burdened, just writ-
ing Anne Hirst about it will be
a comfort. Her sympathy and
her wisdom await you, and you
can trust her judgment and her
kindness. Address her at Box 1,
123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto.
HOLDOVER—A glorious veteran of motor racing, this 55 -year-
old De Dion auto, winner of the 1903 Paris -Madrid race, gels
ready for another go on the famous Monza track at Monza,
Italy. With Frenchman Francis Rene Ville at the wheel, the
ancient racer covered more than 30 laps of the 21/2 -mile course
at an average speed of 51 m.p.h. Even being designated No.
13 didn't seem to daunt the old-timer which came out of the
two-hour ordeal at Monza in perfect condition.
GETTING AN EARLY START—Krister Gidlund, 14, seems to be
quite pleased with the unusual position he enjoys at the Black-
berg Secondary School.' in Stockholm, Sweden. He's the only
boy in his class. Krister, who plans to become a diplomat when
he grows up, will probably have an opportunity to utilize his
"diplomtic" talents when dealing with 30 girl classmates,
ONICLES
w-t.doti,\.e P. C1 i,ke
We had one awful storm last
night. For several hours there
was continuous thunder, light-
ning and rain, but fortunately
very little wind. At one time
there was a terrific crack as if
something had been hit — a
transformer, maybe — but the
lights did not even flicker so I
imagine the damage was far-
ther away than we thought. This
morning, to look at the roads
and gardens, you would hardly
know it had rained. Perhaps it
will be the last storm of the year
— hope so, anyway. '
Well, last week was quite a
Women's Institute week for me.
On Wednesday I was invited to
attend a branch meeting in the
village in which we are now liv-
ing and of course I was quite
anxious to go. While all branches
have the same motto, same hand.
book, same set of rules and regu-
lations, same standing commit-
tees, yet there is enough elas-
ticity in the basic set-up so that
no two branches run their meet-
ings exactly alike, or have pre-
cisely the same activities. Some
branches aim at making a lot of
money, so they may have more
to spend on worthwhile projects.
Others think that financial re-
turns are less important than the
socia] and educational projects.
Personally I am in favour of the
latter type. Money -making pro-
jects cannot be undertaken with-
out a lot of hard work and in
many branches the older mem-
bers have reached the stage
when catering to banquets and
such like is beyond their
strength. And yet they are still
quite able to be a great help in
sewing, knitting, quilting wel-
fare and social work. I think
when a branch plans its future
activities consideration should be
given to the number and age of
its members. -Enthusiastic young-
er members may suggest cater-
ing to banquets, or having.a
booth at the local fair. Their
willingness and energy are to
be commended — what would
any branch do without its young-
er members? But are there
enough of them to carry the ball?
Will the money -making projects
they are willing to sponsor be a
hardship to the older members?
Members, who in the years gone
by, have probably had their
share of hard work and active
leadership, For them the time
hasnow come to take things a
little easier. And yet, can they?
A really interested W,I. worker
mates to sit back while others
work so sheprobably keeps
Doing and does more than she
should. For this reason I have
been wondering lately if' all
branches could not divide their
activities into two basic groups
- members being free to make
their choice as to which group
they wish to belong.
Group 1, Thisgroup should be
responsible for the actual work
and planning of all money -mak-
ing activities. They would, of
course, call on all members for
contributions in the way of bak-
ing and so forth, but not for help
that would keep senior member:
on their feet for hours at a time.
Group 2. This group might be
classified as a social and welfare ,
group. They would look after
bales for Children's Aid Society;
making quilts for sale or to be
raffled; baby-sitting for younger
members assisting at banquets;
small card parties and social eve-
nings; and contributions to an
annual bazaar if it is, custo-
mary for the branch to have an
annual bazaar or sale of work.
In short, older members should
be given work to do that, for
the main part, could be done at
home or in small gatherings at
a neighbour's home =- thus giv
ing them a social outlet.
Well, that is just an idea —
take it. or leave it as you wish.
It came to me because I know of
a number of older members who
have dropped out of W.I. work.
because they couldn't keep up
the pace set by the younger
ones. That seems too bad be-
cause their experience and
guidance can be of great assist-
ance to the W.I. as a whole.
Now 1 must tell you of an-
other meeting 1 went to last
week and of an interesting visi-
tor who came, along with me.
Mrs. B . . on holiday in Can-
ada, wrote to Head Office in
Toronto and asked 11 it would
be peesible for her to visit an
Orta ep branch. Miss • Ethel
Chaff fan happened to give her
my eseune as she thought 1 would
look ,after her which 1 did. I
took her to the Scotch Block,
W.I. — of which 1 am proud to
be a charter member. It was at
Oakville — one of those meet-
ings where there was a lot of
business' with plenty of co-op-
eration from the members. My
guest was made very welcome
and willingly got to her feet
and told us how W.I. meetings
were conducted in England, and
of their work and activities. She
seemed so pleased to have vis-
ited one of our branches and we
gave her various printed pro-
grammes to take back with her.
I hope the occasion will serve
as a pleasant contact between
mother and daughter branches
of the W.I.'in both countries.
I have some other ideas along
these lines but they must wait
for another week.
Modern
Etiquette .. .
by Roberta Lee
Q. Is it true that women are
shaking hands more than they
formerly did?
A. Although society still does
not require it, women are shak-
ing hands more than they used
to, And. I'm all in favor of it.
Nothing can take the place of
a sincere handclasp when meet-
ing a friend or acknowledging
an introduction.
Q. Should birth announce•
ments be mailed to everyone,
including those whom you have
already told over the telephone?
A No; only to friends and
relatives whom you have not
told.
Q. Should toothpicks be placed
on the dinner table?
A. Certainly not! Since it is
not good form to be seen using
a toothpick in public, they do
not have any place on the table.
Q. What are some suggestions
for appetizers at a cocktail
party?
A. Simplest, of course, are
peanuts, olives, pretzels, and
cheese crackers. If you want to
be more elaborate, you can serve
small sandwiches of various
kinds — and the modern cook-
books are full of suggestions on
this.
Q. Would it be all right for
my husband to wear a brown
business suit to a late afternoon
wedding, since he is not a mem-
ber of the wedding party?
A. This would be quite proper.
Q. What is the difference be-
tween a formal and informal
tea?
A. The decorations of the in-
formal tea are not so elaborate
and the refreshments are more
simple. The hostess at an in-
formal tea mingles with her
guests and does not remain at
the door to greet each new-
comer.
NO CONTEST
The devil was always chal-
lenging St. Peter to a game of
baseball, bet St. Peter nevelt
took him up. Finally, the Dodg-
ers, the Giants and the Yanks
all Went. to heaven, So natural-
ly St. Peter called up the devil.
"Now I'll play you that game
of baseball," he said.
"You'll lose," said the devil, -
"you'll lose."
"Oh, yeah," replied St. Peter,
"Right now I'vegot the greatest
collection of baseball players
you ever saw,"
"You'll lose," said the devil.
"You'll lose!"
"What makes you so sure
we'll lose?"
'Because," laughed the devil,
"we got all the umpires down
here.'^
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