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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1957-08-22, Page 6r "Flow many other daughters must give up their lives to take are of their mothers, Anne itcost, while the boys in the amity sail off into matrimony and leave the girls holding the )bag? They Only think it is her 'duty." So • exclaims one young woman who is growing weary carrying the load alone. "My mother is perfectly healthy and could live alone safely and pleasantly, if she would. My - brothers insist I assume re- ponsibility for her just because have not married—and how dould 1 when my mother has iscouraged every man I've met and proclaimed far and wide that we could never separate because 'Mary needs me sol' " Mary needs Ater like she needs a hole in: the head, "My mother, instead of being grateful for all the sacrifices I have made, still tells me what to wear, where I can go, what I should say to my boss—and then smugly folds her hands and says, 'I don't know what Mary would do without me!' "If these brothers of mine would visit Mother now and then, or even write or telephone, I could forgive a lot. But they are too wrappedeup in their jobs and their families; they are lavish with their advice, but they never think of the lonely existence I must lead, "I know you can't change these inequalities, but perhaps you can make one mother (mine) realize what I am relinquishing for her. - If I and other burdened women could feel that what we do for parents is not in vain, it would help; but all we get is a pout- ing Old woman who wears her feelings on her sleeve and takes umbrage every time the girl goes out for a walk We old -maid daughters don't want to grow cynical, or sound that way, but aren't we entitled to a single crumb of appreciation?" * TO MARY: Your plaint de- * serves the space I am giving. * it. It expresses the dilemma * of hundreds of thousands of 'P "old -maid daughters" who are * being cheated of love and mar- '• riage because their . selfish * mothers absorb all their ener- * gies, and apparently regard it * as a criminal offense if the " girl makes one move toward * a life of her own. And be- * cause her sons go their way, a heedless of the circumscribed * routine their sister mustfoilow, Slim and Smart PRINTED PATTERN 4682 141/4-24'/2 44.5 This PRINTED Pattern is a wonderfully becoming style for half-size figures! Simple dress to wear for sunning; cover with the Iittle bolero. A silhouette that's neat, smart, slimming! Printed. Pattern 4682: Half Sizes 141/2, 16%, 181/2, 201/x, 221/2, 241/2, Size 161/2 dress requires 31/4 yards 35 -inch fabric; bolero 11/4 yards. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, faster, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (50¢) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE. NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., :New Toronto, Ont. *.the burden is heavier. Even * in her own home she has no • freedom; her mother directs +' 'her comings and goings as * though she were twelve, 'exer- o cising her austere authority,, • antagonizing the girl's friends • and always any possible suitors. * If you expect ever to escape a from this treadmill, you will * have to assert yourself. Call " a council of your brothers and * tell them you intend to leave • soon on the vaaction you de- * scribe, and that in your ab- * sence you expect them either * to invite their mother to their * homes- or keep in daily. touch * with her. Also that .on your * return,other arrangements * must be made to share her re- * sponsibility. If you are firm, * they will have to change their * selfish ways—for what would * they do if you left home for * good and moved in with a ® girl friend.? • I do salute you and all other * young women in such an ex- ▪ asperating situation, not with * a "crumb" of appreciation but * with the whole loaf. * * a DON'T MARRY HIM "Dear Anne Hirst: I am really in a spot. I don't go regularly with any boy, and now a man in his late 30's is in love with me. I don't respond at all, but my mother and father keep tell- sing me I'll be foolish to turn him down. "I don't even feel at home with him, Anne Hirst, Ile is kind, however, and takes me anywhere I want to go ... should I take the chance?" AFRAID. t * Your parents, like all others, * want a secure future for their children. They are hoping'you * will fall in love with the man, • but if you don't I am sure they * will not want you to marry • him. Don't say Yes to any man • you don't love, 00 matter what * material advantages he can a offer. * The fact that you are not * at home with this one is proof enough to me that you could • never find any satisfaction in • marriage. Man and wife * should first be real compan- * ions; the fact that he is o * much older and interested in • things . that do not appeal 'to * you makes you feel like a ° stranger to him. That, you • won't get aver. * Go about with boys and girls * your own age, and `through • them you will meet other * young people. This association, * more than any argument, will * soon prove how foolish you * would be even to consider * marrying this older man. a • • If you have carried parental responsibilities beyond reason- able limits, make a break for a better arrangement before you are too old to care. Anne Hirst is sympathetic, so write her frankly. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 32 -- 1957 MODERN ETIQUETTE . Q. What is considered the most proper way to eat a banana at the table? A. Peel the banana into a plate, then eat it with a fork. One of the major attractions at the Quebec Winter Carnival is the unique ice canoe race across two miles of ice flocs. 'PERFECT WIFE"—Marjorie Lord revives the "perfect wife" type aS Danny Thomas' spouse in his television series. Marjorie says she was "too nice" for Hollywood parts of a few years ago, She's riding high now with a five-year contract as Dan- ny's TV mate.. FAITH OR FIGHT? This cake -cutting scene is misleading. Just before Kathryn Ann Kelly and George P. McCarthy cut the cake t their wedding reception, they pledged their faith in each other by placing their ring hands over the wedding flowers. But what's that at left? A closer look reveals a fighting fist on Kathryn's other hand. Perhaps it was just a reflex action.., Only George will know. 1 ------- (,=-r1Z.—°—f;,—„,',7 ,,,„„, NICLE INGMAR?" ewe .d.olin.e P. Ct&Dls e Summer storms have made the news in so many localities dur- ing the last week. In this part of Ontario we had high winds, heavy rain, heat and humidity -- nothing too serious, except for the farmers. Lucky are the farmers who were able• to get any dry hay stacked away in the barn. There are plenty who didn't. Drive along the country roads and you see 'field after field with bales piled in threes and fours, or in singles lust where the machine had dropped ' them. Wheat is beginning to turn so now farmers will be pray- ing that damaging storms will not flatten the crops and make future operations still more dif- ficult. How can anyone expect farmers to be other than wea- ther -conscious? Always they have to hope for the best — but prepare for the worst. One good thing happened last week — eggs advanced in price by six cents a dozen. The poultryman will make his for- tune yet! But not if he depends on us. We use less than a dozen eggs a week — that is, when we are alone. I suppose we have been surfeited with eggs in the past and would rather have other food for awhile. For years cur standby has been eggs — devill- ed, poached, boiled, scrambled and sometimes fried. But no mat- ter how they were cooked they •were still eggs — and of course excellent food at that. "What is there that the vintners buy one half so precious as the wares they sell?" That is a good ques- tion and apples to all kinds of farm produce. Perhaps in the past we did not make enough use of the stuff we grew or raised. And now we can't this year we haven't even got a vegetable garden. We were so busy getting settled there wasn't time to get the ground into con- dition to make garden. Next year we hope to do better. Last Monday we went to Mil- ton to take part in. the final Centennial Parade. We hope everyone enjoyed it as much as we did. The weather was : per- fect and most people seemed 'to be in a gala mood. Our Institute float was in the form of old- time activities on the farm. A quilting party was in progress with bour members dressed in bodice -tight full, length dresses, very' busily quilting. At the four corners of the float one house- wife was making bread, another- churning, notherchurning, a gay young thing was occupied with an old-fashioned gramaphone and I, as a black - bonneted grandmother, Sat in', a rocking .chair with my knitting and rocking a baby in an old wooden cradle. As we passed along the streets I could see Dee. pointing me out to David, Of course he didn't recognize "Gran" in her get-up. When I waved and I saw bewilderment: followed by recognition, and finally his face broke into a smile. Yesterday Joy and I toured the historic houses open to the public during Oakville's. Cen- tennial. Partner came along too but he took on a baby-sitting job with Ross while Joy and i went gadding. Roes very oblig- ingly slept most of the afternoon. The houses were most interest- ing but what struck me was the fact that there are many similar old houses throughout Ontario and nobody notices them. It takes owners with imagination to furn- ish and preserve them in such a way to make them comfortable to live in and attractive to the public. The first post office at Oakville is now a small but most fascinating museum. • not cram- med with antiques, the three rooms being furnished only with the essentials for= pioneer living such as the early settlers would have deemed necessary. A huge stone fireplace complete with a crane and cauldron. (We had the same thing at Ginger Farm but our fireplace was boarded pp.) A hand-hewn table, four-poster bed, washstand and iron -stone toilet set and of course a num- ber of small furnishings of vari- ous kinds. In one privately owned house that we visited, the owner point- ed out the peculiar glass in the windows. At Ginger Farm we had that same type of glass and how I used to bless it! It was full of streaks, bubbles and other imperfections. You couldn't see through it properly and after it was cleaned it never looked clean. i didn't 'realize it should Bird Watch On The Shores Of The Dee In one of his most famous similes Homer compares the movements of the armies before • Troy to the flight of wildfowl, 'geese 'and 'cranes' and long - necked swans' in the storied marsh which has given its name to" a continent. 'Hither and thither they fly, rejoicing, in their wings,' so he describes them; and so the watcher will echo his words when the Knots come streaMing to the sandbanks or the Starlings weave ;patterns over their roosting -places in the dusk. -' Beautiful beyond description are the swiftly changing spirals when the light now catches a gleam .of wings and now sets the whole array, in silhouette. Mar- vellous beyond its beauty is the dense formation of the squa- drons, their perfect precision and spacing, and the spontane- ous rhythm of their unity; no bird leads; no signal bids them turn; and yet, as if a single will", animated them all, a thousand wings beat together. Such displays are most fami- liar of an evening, and at a sleeping -place. One of my earli- est memories is of a big starling - roost in a tiny copse behind the cottage upon the Dee in which we spent our Augusts. Night by night when the sun was, setting in splendour behind Hilbre, my father and I would stroll along the old sea-wall, and turning away from the glory of the heavens, gaze at the birds as they rose from the branches in honour of the passing day. The ritual never varied. Long before sundown the flocks would • begin to assemble; small bunches of birds from near at hand; then battalions from further afield then parties of stragglers: at last the boughs were crowded with a clamorous company. Then came the flight a com- plicated manoeuvring over and around the copse, winding in and out in a maze of fluid circles, culminating in a 'grand chain' when the air was dark with a storm of Iiving flakes. Then as darkness closed in, a sudden settlement, a final even - have been treasured and dis- played as an antique! Well, I guess centennial cele- brations are over once and for all for districts a hundred years old. What will happen before each of the celebrating districts . reaches its two -hundredth birth- day? Wonder is all we can do — certainly we won't be around to see it. We can only be glad we were able to celebrate the first century birthday. Now I must see if our visitors have been able to entertain themselves while I have been writing. Sister Kathleen and nephew Klemi are visiting us for a week or two before moving on to make a new home for themselves in Peterborough where Klemi has been appoint- ed music instructor at the Col- legiate. Another reason for stop- ping — a man is pounding at the back of the house installing screen doors. Fresh air without flies . , . that will be wonder- ful! song, soundingmore like mob oratory than psalm, and at last silence and sleep. ---From "Mus- ings and Memories," by Charlea E. Raven. AIR -BORNE SPORT One of the most fascinating sports for those who have the courage to tackle it, says the Book of Knowledge, is riding on a glider, or sail -plane, this high ' altitude pressure wavee. that sometimes form over moun- tains. Sail -plane ,flights hat)* been made up to 30,000 feet. At these altitudes the pilot must have exygen equipment and par- ticularly warm clothes, and the cockpit of his plane must be in- sulated. Devotees of this sport claim that it is a uniquely weird and thrilling experience to fly silently five miles,, up on the crest ofa huge, invisible wave of air. His Favorite c41/46 V Y Iatexwy Here's just the chair -set to ap- peal to a masculine heart—for his study or his favorite chair) Filet crochet in a Jtandsome de- sign. Many uses for this crochet: as scarf ends too. Pattern 536 has charts, directions for chair -set 121/2 x 18 inches in No. 60 cot- ton. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; Use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER„ Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift to our readers—printed right in our NEW Laura Wheeler Nee lecraft Book for 1957! Dozens of other new designs you'll want to order—easy, fascinating hand- work for yourself, your •home. Be scre to send 25 cents for your copy of this book, now — don't miss it! 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