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The Seaforth News, 1957-08-01, Page 6"Dear Anne Hirst: Nursing my ill mother brought on a breakdown six years ago, and when I recovereed I moved to my married brother's home, where I improved. I would have stayed but his wife made it intolerable -- to get rid of me, she confessed later. I wanted her to like me, so the worse she became the kinder I was. I worked part-time, paid my board, helped With the house- work and the chldren, and did ;Lny own cooking and laundry, but I was so miserable my mother made me consult a psy- ehiatrist, which made me more despondent. "Now I am back just where I started, physically, emotionally and spiritually ill. My faith in everybody is failing; *I see others, selfish and cruel, who are healthy and contented. I've done my best to be good and kind, and all I've got is poor health and misery and an ab- normal life. "I know you cannot have any solution but I've got to tell somebody, and I'll certainly ap- preciate any comment you may print. DESPONDENT' FAITH HELPS * It is hard to believe that * you, an intelligent young wo- * man pursued by trouble and * confusion, will let yourself be * defeated by circumstances you * cannot change. Where is your *" self-respect? Everything de- * pends on your will to over- * come these supersensitive * tendencies that plague you. * First, in my opinion, you need * a guiding hand to point the * first few steps ahead, and it * is likely that is all you re- * quire just now, * I urge you to talk this over. * frankly with your minister. * He will show you how to re- * gain self-confidence, and give * you positive assurance that * we are not goven burdens we * are too weak to carry. Regu- * lar church attendance and a * firm belief in the power of prayer have brought peace to * many a troubled soul and re- * newed their faith in them- * selves and all mankind. With * your minister's help, it. should * do the same for you. * He can suggest activities * within the church that will * lift you out of your sea of * troubles and open your eyes • to .the importance of being a * friend. You will meet some 1' people worse off than you; in * helping them you will forget your own difficulties and taste * the joy' of service and the o satisfaction of feeling needed. Cool for Summer PRINTED PATTERN /1 e/.. 4: zo e 3a 63 ,f ebv e3 f131'.411 83 A 63 4500 SIZES �/j,0��— 20 With PRINTED directions on each pattern part — this sewing just couldn't be easier! Make a cool, smart sundress with scoop neck, wide -flaring skirt. Use the pattern again next season—for a jumper with companion blousel Printed pattern 4500: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 18, 18, 20. Size 16 takes 4/ yards 35 -inch fabric: Printed directions on each pat- tern part, Easier, faster accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps Cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, BOx 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tordnto, Ont. * As to your sister-in-law, she is as she is. Certain tempera- "' ments can never assimilate * with opposites, and it is the * victim who makes allowances * and suffers without bitterness: * You have made encouraging, progress toward that goal and * if you build an armor about yourself her slurs will lose * their sting.. * Perhaps your mother (or * your minister) knows some * nearby family who will. wel- * come you as a paying guest; * there you could know a nor- * mal, perhaps affectionate, * family life and should make * long strides toward a happier !I * - outlook on the world you live * in. The idea may repel you * at the moment, but it is worth i' considering. * Meantime, seek help through * faith. Cultivate an interest in * other people. If you will your- * self to, you can dig yourself * out of this self-pitying slough * into a useful and richer life: * My earnest good wishes. * * * WISE MOTHER "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 16, and going with a boy my age. Rumors haye been going around high school just before. it closed that he and some others have been visiting the house of a girl' who everybody talks about. "I asked him about it and he denied it. He has never told me anything but the truth. His fam- ily are nice people and he has always behaved himself with me. "Mother wants me to break tip immediately and I can't bring myself to do it because I like him too much. What do you say? CONFUSED" * Unless the rumors have * been proved false, you should * stop seeing the boy promptly. * Where smoke is seen there's * usually a fire nearby, and no * nice girl can continue to as- * sociate with a lad implicated * with a girl of no repitition. * with a girl of no reputation. * if she does, her own good * name suffers. * If your friend is innocent he * should find a way to reassure * your mother. Until he does, * I agree with her. * I understand why you be- * lieve in him, but you are too * inexperienced in the ways of * the world to realize that the * lad may be the perfect gentle- * man with you, yet sow his * wild oats with a cheap girl. * Your mother knows this, and * would protect you from gos- • sip . * It is always shocking to * learn that someone we like * erred but if the boy is not * guilty, why was his name in- cluded? s * * When life and love have let you down, turn for comfort to t h a t understanding unseen friend, Anne Hirst. Her sym- pathy and wisdom will throw their, light on your darkened path and help guide you toward peace. Address her at Boa 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto. One Year Of Life Spent On 'Phone When you make a 'phone call you're REALLY moving around 186,000 miles per second in fact, at least, that's the speed your voice is travelling. And furthermore, you're probably go- ing to spend a whole year out of your life on that telephone . about 8,760 hours. Staggering? Not when you think how many hours it saves you. You can be an armchair shopper ... call the folks miles away ... chat with friends the other side of town ., reach the doctor, police, fire department . , . all through the magic of your telephone. Dental bills in Canada run over 70 million dollars a year. There is only one dentist to every 3,000 Canadians. Fluorida- tion of communal water supplies has reduced tooth decay by as much as 69 per cent in some areas. Fluoridation has been re- commended by leading authori- ties, but has been blocked by misinformed people. SALLY'S SALLIES Li *Which of us will .propose first, darling?" HE WON'T SURRENDER - Bill "Patchy" Cook, 73, comes to the door of an abandoned Army pillbox at Thetford, England, to receive a gift of milk from neighbors. The old ge itleman keeps the home fires burning in his unique diggings rather than give up independence for security of an old' folks' home. HRONICLES 1NGERPARM Cw¢ndotin,e P. Clarke Locally, the big news this week is centred around centennials— Centennials at Milton and at Oakville—in both of which we are slightly involved. We didn't get to the official opening of either but on Saturday we went to Milton and saw the big par- ade. The rest of our family was there including our three grand- sons. It was really a wonderful parade with floats and antique vehicles, bands, Indians from the Brantford Reserve, war veter- ans, guides, scouts, fire brigade, town council, 4-H Clubs, and of course, the inevitable Beauty Queen. Usually one parade is much like another but there seemed to be something a little different about this one — it showed more imagination and ingenuity than most. For in- stance, there was an old demo: crat drawn by a team of mules. Where they got them frons I don't know for mules these days are few and far between—that is, the four -footed variety; the two - legged type are not quite so scarce. Probably the young people had never seen a demo- crat but in the old days it was the favorite conveyance for taking the family to church. There was a genuine old stage coach that had already been touring various towns, cities and villages advertising the Milton Centennial. Its passengers were dressed in 19th century costumes and really looked the part. There was also a covered wag- on, complete with pioneer sett- lers and their children just as they must have appeared a hun- dred years ago. Possibly a Lew details were not quite perfect but the effect was the same. There were genuine old -type fire reels followed by others compar- able to the changing years. It took about an hour for the .entire parade to pass the spot where we were standing so that is surely an indication of its size and length. There were, of course, a number of clowns and I am beginning wonder if clowns are such a good idea. Some of our former neighbors were with us, among them a five-year-old girl. Mary is absolutely terri- fied of clowns. At one Santa Claus parade a clown cattle up and took her hand and she was almost petrified. This time di- rectly she saw clowns on the road she started to scream and ran off and hid behind a car. There she stayed throughout the parade. She just wouldn't come near the road again, David wasn't too happy about the clowns eith- er but he stood his ground. Plenty of other children I no- ticed were more or less scared too so I am wondering if some- thing couldn't be done to change the situation. Couldn't they be required to stay in the middle of. the road where their antics would probably amuse but not frighten the children. It is the. close approach Of the clowns that scares the little ones. I felt co sorry for Mary, missing all the fun because of her fear 02 the clowns. Before we watched the parade we went up to Ginger Farm and found the house occupied by a young couple with four small children. They had moved in only the day before so of course they were only half unpacked. But, oh dear, the things that happen when a place is left un- oceitpied. Plants and shrubs had been lifted and taken away. 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ISSUE 30 - 1957 French High ,Fashiof Creator Really Puts On Le Chien PARIS-(NEA)—Twenty years ago a 40 -year-old . Spaniard, Cristobal Balenciaga, put up his shingle in , the swanky Avenue George V and went into the High, Fashion business. Today Bal- onciaga . is considered by most people in the business as the greatest creator of women's fashions in history. He has also been called the "designers' designer" for the very good reason that most of the silhouettes and trends he has launched have influenced the world of fashion. This he has accomplished with practically no publicity: He hap- pens not to believe in its power. Last year he decided that fashion writers would not be allowed to see his collection until four weeks after he had shown to the buyers. People held their breath and wondered whether the man was big enough to be so inde- pendent: Balenciaga is still in business as. Paris prepares for another opening. He was born in a fishing vil- lage called Guetaria, near San Sebastian. His father was a sea captain, his mother a dress- maker. She worked for some of the ladies of the Spanish court wlio spent the summer in the then fashinable resort. At 10 he created his first model — a coat for his dog, complete with set-in sleeves. He learned his first lesson in the "archi- tecture" of dress when the pup ran off and the garment burst at all the seams. But both papa and mama agreed their son was a born dressmaker and at 14 they sent him to Barcelona as apprentice to a fashionable tailor. Two years later he had man- aged to save the third-class fare to Paris. He decided then that one day he would have a fashion house of his own in Paris. He achieved his dream '4 years latera - From the day of its opening the Paris house flourished, even through the war years. Today he employs some 350 :workgirls, 20, saleswomen and 6 mannequins The world's best -dressed women and the most important Ameri- can and European buyers have r passed through his salons where the decorations have scarcely changed in 20 years. It has been said that a woman does not go to the house of Balenciaga just to buy clothes. She is likened to a priestess who takes part in a sacred rite. And those who come to see his col- lection out of curiosity are soon discouraged by the indifferent, to say distant attitude of his staff. Balenciaga creates primarily for the carriage trade, ignores' current trends. Every year sil- houettes are launched which lik- en women to insects, plants, flowers or letters of the alpha - tricks so popular with Christian to emphasize their personality. Dior. His aim is to clothe women bet. Balenciaga disdains these This is probably one of the rea- sons why he chooses mannequins who, when not frankly ugly, are definitely impersonal. They stalk through the long, narrow salons almost "at the double" and make one think of Amazons who must have parked their javelins just behind the silk curtain through which they appear. This season like every season. it is anybody's guess what he will do with waistlines and hem - set the former where it normally lines for fall and winter. As a matter of record, he has never should be—but always a feW inches above or below. As for hemlines, he plays with them like a cat with a mouse. Last season he startled observers by showing several skirts which just barely covered the knees. "Fashion should never be static," declares Balenciaga. "T4 create you must be something of an architect—for proportions --R painter—for color, range -with a little of the poet and the musician to visualize a woman when she walks, moves Or dances." Who are the women who buy Balenciaga? Not necessarily only millionaires' wives. Many fash- ion -conscious women consider it a sound investment to buy one suit or one evening dress, know- ing that it will be in fashion for at least two. if not three years. Besides the timeless quailty there is also the assurance o2 perfect execution. The apostle of simplicity—al- though he says that a simple dress can look positively vulgar ona woman if it is not her style —lets his imagination run riot in some of his evening gowns. It is here that the Spanish back- ground emerges in dramatic "infanta" gowns or dresses that might have stepped down from u Goya painting. Balenciaga is the one man who can impart'a sort of glow to a dead -black dress. Only Balenciaga can afford to show the extravagant, often ri- diculous and defintely unbecom- ing hats which accompany his models and which he seems to have created with his tongue in his chek. But here again, the probability is that the towering flower pots lampshades, space helmets or "circus" headpieces with waving, feathers or abstract bits of nonsense will be found the following season to have in- fluenced the thinking of Parisian modistes. be away all day, leaving the place unlocked and nothing was ever touched or stolen. We were glad to find someone in the house because they have already adopted Joe. Poor Black Joe was a problem. He was such a nervous cat we knew he would never settle down in new sur- roundings so we left him to his old haunts but went up once a week to take him food, which, incidentally, he never seemed to want. He was fat and in good condition but we thought . it would finally be necessary to have him mercifully put to sleep before the cold weather came around again. Now we don't need to worry. The family has a cat and Joe has a family. On Sunday we went to Oak- ville for the day and Bob and family took us to see the unveil- ing of an addition to the Cenos ' taph and the ceremonial parade Of seven bands, headed by the Lorne Scots with their kilts and bagpipes, with the usual follow- ing of veterans and others. That is something we really enjoy, al- though it makes one's heart ache to see the brave showing the "vets" put on, particularly the "old sweats" of World War I, some of them limping and shuff- ling and doing their best to hide it, trying to keep step with the military music — still defenders of the Commonwealth at heart, brave testimony to the fact that "old soldiers never die." Today I take my part as grand- mother on a float representing our Scotch Block Women's Insti- tute. I feel quite qualified to take that part! TYPICAL BALENCIAGA MAGIC Is a $30,000 necklace to hold the drape of this flesh -pink flecked organza bodice of a short evening dress. His best trick, however, is showing styles to buyers fourweeksbefore thepress gets. a look.