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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1957-03-14, Page 6[iyktv.E.: 141IRSTi "I don't hate my `rinother-m- law, Anne Hirst, thpugh I could find reasons .to. I just want to understand why she i is, and if you can explain her, I shall always .bless you." So begins an intelligent letter from 'a mixed-up wife whose private life is being invaded by her husband's mother, who came to the couple's home over a year ago for Christmas and is situ with them. "When she hears his •key in the front door," the letter con- tinues, "she rushes out and they retire to her room till I call them for dinner. Then she mono- polizes him till bedtime, while I sit with a book or go to our room. When we do go out to- gether, I don't mind saying where, but she always sits up and it makes me feel like a teen-ager. She snoops about the house and reports any lapse of mine, and then my husband nags me about it. "She is cold to our friends, and her opinion of them is only sar- castic belittling. She won't go to church, so we seldom do any more — and that I miss. (Thank heaven she doesn't try to help around the house 1) I feel I have lost the wonderful man I mar- ried, we have so little time to- gether, and 1 can't help won- dering whether I'll ever get him back. I ask again, why is she like this?" e a d * It is discouraging to predict * that this wife will not fully * comprehend the reasons why * her mother-in-law behaves " as she does until she has chil • dren of her own. Her husband- * is, to his mother, still a little boy who needs her and will * continue to as long as he lives. * He is her responsibility, one * she will not shirk. His wife, * his friends, his church are not * important except in their con- * tributions to his Well-being. * It is hopeless for a wife to * expect any change in the * older woman's attitude; Mom * will continue to be part of * her son's life as long as she * stays in his h o u s e, so her • daughter-in-law may' as well * face it. A few practical • changes in her routine will * help, however. - " TO `LONELY WIFE": Liv- * in this strained atmosphere, * you need your friends more * than ever. Encourage other * wives to drop in, whether your * mother-in-law is gracious or Quicker To Do er 620 Ini Calt/CG VY K ekt, * not; you and your husband * should spend occasional eve- * wings with them, too, • in their * homes or yours, if only to find q changes of scene and minds. * I hope you will go back to church. Ask a few older mem-. * bers to call on his mother; * their visits may dissipate her * concentrated interest in your * private lives and give you * more freedom. These contacts * will revive your spirits and * also relax the tension. * As you accept, within your * understanding, your mother- * in-law's projection into her * son's way of living, you will * find it easier to be more tol- * erant and charitable. 1 corn- * mend your approach to the * problem. 4 • • STRANGER'S PROBLEM "Dear Anne Hirst: A few months ago, I married the friend of a relative whom I had visited: My family are in Europe, and I brought along my little girl from a previous marriage. I had known about the man before I arrived, and thought I was for- tunate that we fell in love. But things are so different from what I expected ! "My new husband professed to love my little girl, but after we moved to his new place of. business, he changed completely. Now he actually shuns her, and treats me almost with scorn. I do not understand this, and I am very unhappy I know no- body hero, and this makes me hesitate to try to make friends. "Unless my husband is wor- ried about business, I cannot ac- count for this grave change. T am really frightened have— hhis r I find I am going to baby, and I` don't know how he will take the news. My relative lives in another state, and I do not wish to confide such a thing to anyone anyhow. Can you ad- vise me? REGINA" * I hope you . will tell your " husband about the baby im- mediately. Knowing he is to • be a father himself should * make him kinder to you and * your little girl. Canadian men * often spoil their wives, feel- * ing (mistakenly) that they * should be shielded from wor- ry; this I do not agree with, * but if anything is bothering * your husband, that is prob- * ably why he has not discussed " it. At any rate, remind' him " that what ever affects him is * your problem, too, and ask • him to have confidence in * you. * If you have not joined a * branch of your church here, * I hope you will do so at * once; your husband will see * that you meet the minister * and other members. Cultivate " your neighbors; I think you'll * find them warmly welcoming * and anxious to be of use. They * cannot know how you need * friends, though, unless you * make the gesture. • • • Often it is more helpful to get an objective opinion on a difficult situation frons newhois com- petent, sympathetic cal. Anne Birst is glad to be of what service she can. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. PROVIDENCE PIOUS NAME Providence, Rhode Island, got its name in 1636 from its foun- der, Roger Williams, because he believed that divine guidance had led him to the spot. Pro- vidence was a major port dur- ing the clipper ship period and is now a manufacturing centre. BEGINNER'S LUCK? - Well, it might not be a very big fish, as two-year-old Steven Tatro will admit. But it isn't bad for a first try at ice fishing. Steven made his successful debut on Lake Worth. . Filet crochet and regular crop ehet — combined to 'make this elegant centerpiece. The swirling tulip design is beautifully set off by simple picot mesh. - Pattern 620: Crochet directions for centerpiece 20 -inches in No. 30 cotton, larger in string. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS istamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME ' and ADDRESS. • Our gift to•you—two wonder- ful patterns for yourself, your home - printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book . . phis dozens of other new designs to order crochet, knitting, em- broidery, iron - ons, novelties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW with gift pat- terns printed in it! ISSUE 10 1957 • 0 H Ri N ICLES 1NGERFARM, We often hear of plane crashes and we think "How dreadful" and then I am afraid we forget about them. But when some of the dead and injured are known to us then the tragedy really strikes home. In the re- cent crash of the American Miami -bound plane there were several Canadians aboard. One of the critically injured and one of the dead were well known in this district — Mr. and Mrs. Hartley Anderson. In fact Hart- ley and our son Bob went through school together and competed in the same class in PRINCESS — Beaming with fatherly pride, King Hussein of Jordan, guides the halting steps of the. Royal Princess Alia, one year old. This photograph, one of the first made of the little: girl, was taken in the Barman Royal Palace at Amman. �nrs�s NEW' PRINTED PATTERN EASIER -FASTER MORE ACCURATE 4523 14'/2-24Y2 PRINTED PATTERN A PRINTED Patternl Half - Sizers — look so smart itr this bright and breezy style. "Sew - easy - no side opening! Just un- button shoulders, slip it on 1-2-3 quick. Cut to fit the shorter, fuller figure perfectly --no alter- ations! Printed Pattern 4523: Half Sizes 141/z, 161/2,,18/, 201/2, 22%,. 24/. Sizes 19 /2 takes 41/2 yards 35 -inch. Directions ' printed on each tissue pattern • part. Easy-to-use, accurate, assures perfect fit. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps -cannot bb accepted, use postal note for safety) forthis pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, ,STYLE• NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont: most of the County music fes- tivals. His wife Joy was a very lovely and accomplished girl and came from a farm just a few miles from here. Naturally everyone around here is stun- ned -by the tragedy knowing that five little children have been 'left motherless. We sin- cerely hope that Hartley will make a speedy recovery from his injuries and be spared to his children. Just to think that so much suffering grief and heart- ache can be caused in such a few minutes. But it could hap- pen just as easily in a car, that is something we need to remem- ber. In fact I would guess the percentage of fatalities in the sir is considerably less than those on the road. not enough to keep ' them going. And the we come to the farm- ing population ... cattle prices •dropping; eggs at almost a give- away price and the cost of pro- duction higher than a year ago. Pigs seem to be the only pay- ing, proposition. All along the lirie Credit is getting tighter. But still it isn't as tight as it was in the '30'4. Anything bought by in- stallment then carried seven per cent interest—on, promissory notes payable to the bank. To get a loan front the bank itself farmers had to give a complete list of their stock and imple- ,ments as collateral, and then almost had to go down on their knees to get it. Times changed. For a few years loans were easy to get while interest on savings accounts went down to as low as one' and a half per cent. So,, if you had any money you were almost encouraged 10 spend it. Now the situation isr reversed. We are encouraged to save. That is fine — for those who are able to save, but won- der what the future holds in store for the farmer, in either a big or a small way. Some agri- cultural -'economists say the hundred -acre farmer is on the way put but one speaker at a repent convention prophesied there would be more hundred- acre farmers in the future" but that they would be better far- mers, with a greater production from a lesser acreage. We hear too that theamount of good farm land being taken overfor road construction, industrial de- velopment and housing is little short of a tragedy. On the other hand we hear of vast areas of undeveloped land that could be farmed quite profitably. All these contradictory reports are very confusing`- but at least it will be interesting to watch developments. Developments are always in- What a puzzling world this is. For the life of me I can't under-. stand what is. really happening. The rising cost of living is usu- ally laid at the door of organ- ized labour — high wages, short working hours. And yet I have spoken to many working people who just can't make ends meet —behind in' their payments on this, that and the other; hus- bands sometimes laid off for a;. few weeks; unemployment pay teresting — b u t 'sometimes a little complicated for those caught in the middle. For in: stance for years I used to react a state of near -panic every tirnn. we got, a -few inches of snow in our lane. We have been stuck so often trying to get out. Some- times we would get halfway and then have to be dug out or towed -in or out as the case may be. Or I would .sometimes go to town all right and then find the ruts would be filled in 'again. That • meant more digging for Partner — 'especially when we had the little Morris. This win- ter we equipped ,our .Canadian - built car with snowtires. "No need to get stuck now," said Partner. Ile is right but now it is my confidence that is at fault. I guess I need some kind 'nf morale tires. The .trouble is I see a few inches of the Huffer" - stuff ahead of me and I just think I'm'. going to get 'stuck. Actually I haven't hadany trouble at all, the car seems to go through anything. But I still find it hard to believe and put it down to: luck morc than the snowtires. • Speaking of snow, yesterday I thought I had heard the very latest. A` young people's r g zation thought it would be great fun to have a sleigh -riding party but the sleigh was to las pulled by a tractor ! Shades whatf our grand -parents .• . would they have said • could they have looked into the future and seen the young folk of 1957 go- ing for a sleigh ride behind a tractor? No sturdy, sure-footed farm team — no sleigh bells, no plunging through heavy drifts worse still, no romance. Ah well, I suppose what -the young folk don't have they don't miss. Only we who are older know of the thrills and spills that used to belong to the winter wonderland. REMEMBER! Order your tickets NOW for the • v .0 L6EeW4meRtWt AT THE CANADIAN NATIONAL SPORTSMEN'S SNOW MARCH 15 to MARCH 23, 1957 Performances twice Doily (Except Sunday) 2.15 p.m.; 3.15 p.m. Evenings '& Sat. Afternoons—All Seals Reserved Res. Seats $1.25 Box Seats $1.75 Plus Exhibition Admission Adults 50o Children 253 (on Advance Soles) Adult Admission purchased separately 753 Order your seats NOW—Save 25t per sear Write (Enclosing chequs or money order) la THE CANADIAN NATIONAL SPORTSMEN'S SHOW The Coliseum Toronto, Canada "Corn Starch Makes Tasty Entrees!" SCALLOPED FISH 3 tablespoons MAZOLA Salad Oil 2 tablespoons finely chopped onion 2 tablespoons BENSON'S or CANADA Corn Starch 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon sugar 2 cups fomoto'luica. 1 bay leaf 2 medium onions, sliced 2 -pounds fillets (cod, halibut or haddock) PLACE MAZOLA Sa1od Oil and chopped onion in about 3 minutes: or until tender but email saucepan. COOK slowly CANADA not browned. heat; stir in BENSON'S or' REMDYE from' sugar blending well. well. Solt and g Chep bay leaf; mix w Corn Starch, oke gradually, boiling; ADD tomato 1 til thickened and COOK over medium heat until keep sauce hot. stir constantly.'remove from heat; Groin BOIL1 minute then water; COOK sliced onions in 111/11 amount casserole. and place on bottom of 11/4 -quart tiil g damp cloth; cut into servings• of onions; pour 'tomato sauce over WIPE fillets with PLACE on top mixture• oP oven for 10 minutes or until cooked` BAKE iahot (500 ) YIELD' 6, servings. 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