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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1957-01-17, Page 6ANN a ST *tat. Famay (10114403 at:4o • 'Dear Anne Hirst: Never be- , , . fore have I consulted a strang- er, but your column has often impressed me as wise and hon- est. . . .We have been married nine years, and I cannot ap- prove of the way my wife is handling our two youngsters, I was brought up to respect my parents and to believe in their kindness and justice, and to- day in my own home I see these virtues confused. "My wife and I have different ideas about child -training. She overlooks offenses which I feel are fundamental, and then pun- ishes the youngsters for what call minor pranks. She is dic- tatorial by nature, and our many conferences usually end in her having hex, way and my swift retirement from the scene. "How can I reconcilSe her de- cisions and make her see how unreasonable theyoften are? I know I am not always right, but this continuing contention is getting me -down; I know it is not fair ,to the ohildren, I love them all deeply, and if you have any sunestions that would bring more 14equent agreement, I would. appreciate them, PUZZLED DAD." * * LEARN TO CONCEDE * A mother's instincts and * methods usually are sound. * Your wife is with the ehil- * dren most of the time, and * she knows them better than * you, with all your concern, * possibly can. Most mothers * sense the need to approve * here, to discipline there, be- * cause they understand the * children's individual persona- * lities and differing reactions, * Except for week ends and va- * cations, what opportunities * have you to study them ex- * cept for a few hours each * night? *When you and your wife * disagree, don't take it for * granted that she is always * wrong. Ask her to explain her * decisions, and discuss them * openly and in good humor. * The siutation is too vital to * the children's proper devel- * opment for her decisions to * be repeated issues between * you. * Both of you want to pre- * pare the children to get the * most out of life. They must * he taught the right of others, * the elements of fair play and * co-operation, the need for * obedience. It is vital to their * emotional security that their * parents agree on the pattern * decided upon, so they will * respect their elders' judg- * ment, accept it as final, and * not run from mother to fa- * ther to gain their ends. Chil- * dren are quick to recognize * justice, you know, and divid- * ed opinions undermine the * confidence they should have * in their parents' wisdom and * kindness, * If more fathers were as * concerned as you are for their * children's character and de- * velopment, there would be * fewer delinquents in our * country. A closer co -opera - SALLY'S SAWS •"Just think, dear, this may be our last kiss , in 1956." tion, and. mutually recognized * reasonableness between you * and their mother, should es- * tablish a friendlier solution * to your problems. • * * HUSBAND BORES HER "Dear Anne Hirst: We mar- ried nine years ago, and have a daughter of eight. After the first two years I fell out of love and I don't know why; I've never thought of another man, but my husband and I don't see life as we used to, and have many differences. He is 10 years older, and just wants 'be sit home all the time, while I want to enjoy life; I love people and gaiety, and I feel I am just wasting myself now. Maybe I married to6 young? "I don't want a divorce, be- cause of our little girl; she adores him and they are great freinds; and I think she'll need him even more as she matures. . . Shall I try to stick things out, or leave now? MARIE." * * I hope you will compare * your marriage with less satis- * factory ones, and cease re- * gretting it, How much worse * it could have been! Your hus- * band is faithful and kind, he * supports you well and seems * to have no vices. It both * would try to be more con- * genial, your life together could * be wonderful. * You are restless, I believe, * because he doesn't take y * out :regularly. Ile may pre- * ler his own fireside, but a * man his age shouldn't be too * exhausted to take you dam- * ing, visiting friends, or enjoy * other recreations with you. If * only for your little girl's sake, * you both should be building * an active life for her to step * into in another few years. If * you suggest such a program * with her future in mind, it is * very likely your husband will * co-operate fully, and find * himself enjoying outside acti- * vities which can refresh you * both. Forget divorce now, and * start playing together for a * richer if e for you all. * * * Agreement on the children's upbringing is a MUST for all parents. It establishes harmony and trust among the family, and prevents discord all around. Anne Hirst's understanding can be valuable in this situation. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Healthy Village Any man or woman who seri- ously wants to live to be a cen- tenarian should go to live in the little village of Cologne Marina, on the Adriatic coast of Italy. Scientists who have been trying to find out why the villagers live to such ripe old ages confess that they're baffled. Is it something in the sea air that produces so many centen- arians? The scientists would like to know, since they just can't find any reasonable explanation for the villagers' longevity and extraordinary vitality. When the village's oldest In- habitant died two years ago he was 106. A number of the 500 people he left behind are centen- arians or in their nineties. DI- ness is practically unknown there. Some of the centenarians are so spry that they get up at 5 a.m. to attend church on Sim - days. One of the villagers, Giovanni Boni, a mere "youngster" of ninety-four, reflects the youth- ful outlook of the community when he says: "It's always been my ambition to fly in an aircraft. I'm saving up for this treat, and I reckon that by the time I reach my 100th birthday I'll just about have enough to pay for a long flight." • e- we, 131 INTO HONORABLE RETIREMENT — The veteran battleship, New Jersey, Is off to join the mothball fleet for the second time. When launched Dec. 7, 1942, the 45,000 -ton, three -blocks -long New Jersey and her sister ship, Iowa, were the largest war- ships afloat. In 18 months of World War 11 combat in the Pacific, she took part in nine major operations. She was first mothballed In 1948, but recalled to service in 1950 at the out- set of the Korean War, in which she was damaged in combat. PAIR OF QUEENS—Radiant charm of two British queens sparkles cis Queen Elizabeth II, right, and the Queen Mother arrive at the Royal Academy in London to attend a reception. Ermine for wraps and jeweled tiaras complement the regal setting of royal limousine. All last week the telephone repair men were busy stringing extra wires from pole to pole alongside the cable. Now wasn't it nice of the Bell Telephone Company to adopt our sugges- tions so quickly! Of course we don't know exactly what is be- ing done—or why. We can only hope it is another step towards keeping the line in good work- ing order. Years ago the tele- phone was more or less of a luxury; now it is a necessity— one reason, we depend on this one necessity to keep our lux- uries in order. Or do we have luxuries any mere? Have all our luxuries become necessities? I wonder. Hydro, for instance. In the populated areas of Ontario the percentage of homes with- out electriciy must now be very small. Even with Hydro there have been many changes, At first farm folk were satisfied if all they had was electric light in the home. But eventually, with power easily available came an increase' in conveniences both at the house and the barn. Now Useful --Decorative tni faun,. W6214. This graceful swan is a pocket for facecloth—matching edging, a pretty decoration. Easy' to cro- chet in favorite pineapple design. Pattern 705: Crochet directions in mercerized string, for "swan" pocket 71/2 inches. For pocket on smaller towels, use No. 30 cot- ton. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LATJRA WHEELER, 123 Eighteenth St., New To. ronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. 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Perhaps the milking machine refuses to function; the televi- sion blacks out; the controls on the electric stove stop control- ling or maybe a bad storm hits a transformer, Whatever the trouble we run to the telephone. If the line is out of order-. we feel completely lost. Or there. may be other emergencies . . . we need a doctor in a hurry, or a vet, or the fire reel. Actually it could be a matter of life or death. So isn't it only reasonable to want — and expect — that our rural lines be maintained with maximum efficiency? Every ef- fort is usually made to keep them that way. We know that. There is also a tremendous ex- pansion program in progress. I am referring to the importance of the telephone only as a rea- son for emphasizing that effi- cient service is an absolute must. Well, there hasn't been any drastic change in the weather around here for over a week. Driving conditions on the high- ways have been good but on the sideroads very bad. Some- times I wonder whether it is really an advantage to live close to a main highway. It makes .you forget that all roads are not equally good. And that's how city visitors driving to the country often get caught nap- ping. Last week I had to make a call abeut twenty Tries away. To cut down on the 'mileage I drove across country. It was a grim experience. Where it wasn't slippery it was slushy. At one point I met a truck going so fast that it completely splatter- ed my windows and -windshield with slush. I couldn't see a yard ahead of me. How I kept out ,of the ditch I'll never know as I couldn't apply the brakes. Just one more instance of how easily an accident could have happened through the careless- ness of a thoughtless driver. Be- lieve me, I didn't take any more chances on narrow cross-country reads that day. I came back by the highway. The ceuntri, as I write, is look- ing dreary and bleak without a vestige of snow and so on some farms young 'cattle and horses are reaming the fields. They don't seem to mind it at all. I suppose they are conditioned to all kinds of weather. With the milking cows it is a different story. They are the farmers' babies. For them winter time is a lazy time — and they make the most of it. They have no worries whats0ever. All they • can eat an d drink is placed • right in 'front of them. They take their fill and then content- edly chew their cud or go • to sleep. They are disturbed only at milking time and when the stables are cleaned. Under these conditions cows in normal good health respond by being the most contented creatures on this earth, Poultry, too, must surely pre- fer winter weather. Most birds ean stand cold better than heat anyway. But, alas, hens carri.be killed with kindness. Left to their own devices they become fat and lazy. So young birds are encouraged to be active — to get up early and go to bed late. Older birds — if they are held over — are allowed a little more leeway to get Over the moult. But if they don't rejoin the pro- duction lines in reasonable time it's the stewpot for them. Re- cently from one such hen I got a pound and a half of rendered fat. The fat makes excellent cakes and cookies, which, inci- dentally disappear in a hurry when we have all the family here. And that happened yester- day — so the cookie jar is em- pty again. Even Edward shares in the spoil — possibly to exer- cise his brand new teeth ! Reluctant Hero Riverside promenader saw an elderly man struggling in the swirling waters and heard his shouts for help. They crowded round as a young man suddenly dived fully dressed into the sea and brought off a gallant rescue, amid cheers. Everybody showered the res- cuer with congratulations. A, proposal that the hero should be honoured was received with ac- clamation. 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Send order to ANNE ADAMS, 123 Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont. or AS THE PINCH BEGINS TO HURT—In England, the lineup of settee at•gas stations grows larger each day, as the British govern* ment makes additional slashes In gasoline for private motor* ists. London garages are now serving only "regular customers,» 61; - CHRISTMAS CAME TO THE PON, TOO Obscuring the barred windoWs behind them, these Nativity Geenba stolid uf0p the Ohlo State Penitonficiry's administration building. They wore recently completed by three inmotes, who worked six weeks on the 40 -foot display. It features nt life-sized figures oa lighted star ah the prison wall in background. This is the first year the prison has had such Yule decorattons. • • •