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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Seaforth News, 1957-01-03, Page 6Ity‘N 11.4.1 P ST "Dear Anne Hirst: Practically every column you write must stir memories in other readers of a similar experience. The one about the grandmother who got m wrong with her son's wife (and now misses her grandchildren) matches my, own. Don't you agree that her uninvited 'helpfulness' so enraged the girl that it was the real cause for bad feeling between herself and her hus- band? "Is it any wonder the young wife forbade her children to visit their grandmother, or that her husband stopped going there often? They blamed her for all the arguments they had. "I had the same bad time. My husband's mother lived too close to us for comfort. Not a day pass- ed that she didn't drop and criti- cize something I did: cooking, cleaning, the way I dressed, the friends I had. After too many years of such abuse, I just told her off - respectfully but she got the idea — and I had the sur- prise of my life. She was decent enough to see my point, and more, she said so I She even brought my husband and me close again, and advised a trip for us while she took over the children. I shall never forget it. "Such a little while ago, I hated her. Today I love her as Sew - Easy!. DOLL WARDROBF' EACH ONE MAIN PATTERN PART FOR DOLL . t4"-22" 4795 TALL , PRINTED PATTERN This Printed Pattern has everything! 14 different gar- ments for dolly — each just ONE main pattern part — cinch to sew! Jacket, beret, skirt, dress, sash, blouse, jumper, slacks,' --shorts, play -top, cap, pinafore, petticoat, panties! Printed Pattern 4795: For dolls 14, 16 16, 20, 22 inches tall. See pattern for yardage require- ments. Directions printed on each tissue pateern part. Easy-to-use, accurate, assures perfect fit. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send oredr to Anne Adams, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toron- to though she belonged to me , . It couldn't have: happened if I' had put up with her rneddling or if she hadn't been the' great- hearted person she is. HAPPY. NOW" UNSUNG MOTHERS * Millions of mothers are won- * derful in-laws. They , accept * their son's wife as a new * daughter; they love her for her * devotion to him and for her * private virtues, and respect her * as an intelligent human being * whose life is being dedicated. to her husband's comfort and * content. The selfless role of * such mothers-in-law remains * unsung; it never reaches the * newspapers. The only ones we hear about are those who in- * terfere with the lives of their * children. * One reason they interfere is * a determination to see that * their beloved son is properly * looked after and what chit • of a girl, they argue, knows ,F how? So in they barge with * an armful of suggestions that * reduce the bride to tears, if * not rage, and light a spark of * resentment that can flame for * years. Even this reason, though, * does not give the older woman a the right to criticize the girl's * appearance, her friends, her * habits; such personal intrusions * should not be permitted — * though sometimes it takes * months of a girl's tactful pro- * tests to make the woman * realize she is making a nui- * sance of herself. * You were brave, and wise, * to speak up for your rights, and * I can guess you did not until * the situation became so crucial * that it disturbed your husband, * too. It is your good luck your * mother-in-law recognized how * wrong she had been, and had * the grace to say so. * It was good of you to des- * tribe your experience. I cer- * tainly hope it will guide other * brides and mothers in this * vital marriage problem. BE FRANK "Dear Anne Hirst; I am 19, and for a year I've gone with a young man whom I have come to love deeply. We have an `understand- ing' which may mean everything —or nothing—Last week I heard he'd been seen with a girl know, and I simply cannot believe it. Ile hasn't taken anyone else out since we met ... "I know he is not wealthy, and since once he said he'd like to marry me 'some day,' I have been saving a good deal of my salary so I can help him out .. . But I hate to doubt him! What do you think? WORRIED SICK" * Why not ask him point- * blank? Say you doubt the ru- * mous is true, but if it is, you * will say good-bye and wish him * all happiness. Add that you * know a couple can grow tired * al seeing each other often and * regularly, so you want him to * feel free to date anyone he * chooses. * Some folks cannot bear to * see a couple happy, and they * will go to almost any .extreme * to destroy the friendship. Per- * hapsone of your girl friends * is jealous? * * * Wily should the words "in-law" be an anathema to a bride? Why can't she start out being grate- ful that the older woman brought up her husband to be such a grand person? If this situation faces you, tell Anne Hirst about it and find how she can guide both women to a better under- standing. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. WAR ECHOES -iN ', NOLAND — Perhaps a hint of more drastic things 4o come os seen in this photo of a London garageman explaining to a would-be gasoline buyer that he has only enough gas to, take care of his regular customers. HE'LL CLIP 'EM — Barber Nicholas Corsino hangs a sign in •front of his Rockland shop, announcing a "10 -dollar price to anyone wanting an Elvis Presley -style haircut. Barbers' code says a customers must be given any sort of haircut he wants. So Corsino jacked up the price from the regular $1.50. So far he's had no takers. He thinks the Presley haircut is the craziest one yet. I a � 3wcz,t.dol. ,t\e P. Cla,D1ke A Happy Christmas to allthe readers of this column. Yes, Christmas again — and if it were not for the calendar it would be hard to realize that a year has slipped away since I passed along that same greeting before. Each Christmas is a milestone along the road of life. During the winter we measure time by speaking events as happening "before or after Christmas". And we have a way of comparing one Christmas with another . "remember — that Was our first Christmas away from the old home" and another "we celebrated Christmas in our new home that year, with the grand- parents and our first -baby" .. . or again — "remember how hap- py we were three years ago be- cause our little girl who had been so ill had been spared to us?" And there are sad mem- ories too ... there is the inev- itable feeling of loss because some that we had dearly loved are no longer with us. That is the pattern of life and we have to accept it. But, by and large, Christmas is what we make it. We can add to the 'regrettable commercialism of the season by being too lavish in our spending, forgetting that the ten -dollar gift, hastily chosen, cannot give as much pleasure as a less ex- pensive present upon which lov- ing thought and care has been given to the choosing. Christmas is a time of happi- ness and goodwill. But can we be happy and good-tempered if we become involved in a- mad rush of Christmas shopping? Can we blame the children for being irritating and boisterous if we. ourselves cannot take time to talk with them quietly; to enter into their little secret plans for Christmas giving. How many children are given a dollar or two at the last minute and told to choose something for the grandparents? "What shall you get? Oh, I don't know - look around the stores — you'll likely find, something!" Can we blame the children if they grow up taking little thought in either giving or receiving? Don'twe sometimes lose sight of the rea- son for exchanging gifts? The Three Wise Men brought, gifts to the Christ -child because they wanted to honour him and to show their great joy at the Sa- viour's birth. By that same token it was originally the cus- tom to give gifts to those we love and in that way show our affection, making each one feel how glad we were to have him with us. If we would hold to that - principle we could then never go very far wrong ` with our giving. "It isn't the gift that counts, but the thought be - completely alone. Yes, even on. Christmas Day. During that quiet time Iittle grievances — if we have any - will disappear; tiredness will vanish; a new ap- preciation of the good people around us may come as quite a a. surprise alter all. We shall find ourselves refreshed, ready to work •again — or talk or play — possessed of a strange inner peace, as if for awhile we had walked with God, and perhaps in some inadequate way thanked. him for, the miracle of the Sa- viour's birth. Yes, there will be many things to be thankful for at Christmas time but perhaps the greatest of all will be that gift to ourselves — that short period in which to he absolutely alone. It sounds easy but busy wives and harassed mothers know it is not. But do try to give yourselves this gift now, and every day until Christ- mas. By the New Year it may have become quite a helpful habit. Perhaps you will say "Well, that isn't much of a Christmas column." No doubt you are right, especially as I still can't thinly of a better greeting than to say — "A Very Happy Christ- mas to you all. hind it." That is a trite saying, I know, but it is also very true, The same attempt at simplicity might well apply to our Yule- tide fare. Of course it wouldn't be Christmas without the tradi- tional dinner. But need we be quite so lavish with our rich food? There will be plenty of strangers around us this year — perhaps some in our own com- munity. Shouldn't the spirit of Christmas, along with practical expressions of peace and gdkvd- will, extend to those who have sought refuge in our own coun- try? Christmas is such a wonderful time. Twinkling coloured lights relieve the drabness' of the streets. Gaily trimmed Christ- mas trees are a joy to young and old. Greeting cards bringing with them messages from near and far. Do you read those greetings? Do you stop to think that the verse inside didn't come to you by accident? More than likely your friend Or relative sent the card with that particu- lar verse just especially for you. A little sentimental perhaps — but then, Christmas is a time for sentiment. So won't you take time to read your Christmas cards and enjoy the nice little verses? Christmas — although a lovely season — still has its drawbacks. At home and abroad;, in the streets and in the stores, there is noise and excitement. We can- not escape it entirely, nor would we want to. But toe much is too much. We owe it to our- selves to plan a little time for rest and quietness. A half-hour, perhaps only ten minutes, to be Modern 'tiq ette . . GOING ... GOING The auctioneer was a last- minute substitute and obviously new to the business. Sales hadn't been going well, and the crowd was losing interest. Clutching the next item that came to hand the young man an- nounced; "What am I offered for this beautiful bust of Robert Burns?" "That isn't Burns," called e voice from the audience, "that's Shakespeare." "Well, the joke's on me," the auctioneer laughed nervously. "That just shows what I know about the Bible." The Panama Canal is 50.4 miles long, less than half the length of the Suez Canal, Q. Is it really proper to chew gum in public places? A. This' depends entirely upon just what kind of a chewer you are. If you are the nervous kind of chewer, then it is better if you refrain from public gum- chewing. If, however, you can keep gum in your mouth with- out its being obvious to others, there is nothing wrong with it. Q. If a man is entertaining a group• of friends in a restaurant or hotel dining room, in what order do they go to the table? A. If the headwaiter leads the way to the table, the host goes first to seat his guests. The women of the party follow, and the men last. Q. When eating olives, is. It proper to put the entire olive into the mouth, and after the meat has been eaten, remove the stone from the mouth? A. No. The olive shoulfe held in the fingers and nibbled off the stone. Q. H.eW" is the formal mar- riage announcement worded? A. Usually this way: "Mr. and Mrs. Henry G. Harrison have the honour to announce the mar- riage of their. daughter, Judith Ann, to Mr. Richard Hoyt Hayes on Saturday, the sixteenth of June one thousand nine hundred and fifty-six in the City of Montreal." Q. When selecting mono- grammed handkerchiefs for a man or woman, which initial should be selected, that of the first or the last name? A. For a man it is always the last. For a woman, the last is customary, but the first is per- missible. ISSUE, 51 — 1956 • Less Than a Yard 62:3 (rtq J.Gaaha�hG��¢e ah Pj$14"lhis" pretty "flower" for your serving apron — fashioned of remnants in shades of vivid color! Sew-simpl6 to make for a smart economical gift, bazaar best-seller! Pattern 623: Embroidery apron; takes only ;i yard of fabric. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. larint plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. 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