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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1952-7-9, Page 2"Dear on Hirst: My husband' left Me two years ago, I can get it divorce tybenevcr I can afford it ; Pre 1re4tt la love with a gond man forover a'. year, and he wants to marry are as soots as T'm free. "The trouble lies with my father; my three young sons and I have lived' with hitt sine* my husband left, AU my life my father has dominated me, . Now he forbids this man to come to the hattee , I stood h for a long while, but lately I slip out to see him. (Iam 30), "He is crazy about the boys, and they love hint dearly, He is anx- iousto marry me and take care of its all, "Would I be doing right to take some rooms for the boys and my- self? Then at least I could see hint! MARIE" SOCIIETY IS STERN , . .. .. * You find yourself in that anon- * atous position which distresses * so many women today: Married, * but without a husband. In love * with another man, but risking * your reputation if you receive him. • Your father lives by the so - 'Round -the -Clock/ SIZES 84606 34--5O 5 Frost it with eyelet—and you'1:! have the -coolest, 'smartest outfit to go everywhere on a summer day, Simple, easy lines make you look so much slimmer, hark zipper assures smooth lit. Perfect for country, town trips! Vattern 84600• Women's ,Sizes 34, 36, 38, 40,. 42, 44, 44, 48, 50. Size 36 sundress, bolero 4% yards 31 -inch; 2% yards 2.3S -inch eyelet, 7'ilis pattern easy to use simple To sew. is tested for tit. Has rom- thete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (35c) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print plaittly.:SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, TYLE NUMBER. Send "r,rde'r to box i, 1.23 Eigh- teenth St., New Torgp{o, Oot. * cial rules of his generation. So * its you are in his Monte, he ex- * pacts you to observe theta, * Your only trelease lies in a dl- * voree. * Can't you reconcile# yourself * to waiting a Tittle longer? Hay, * ing the protection of your father's * presence? Saving the money you * would spend on renting a place? * Besides, how could your young- * sters be contented, cooped uta in * a couple of rooms when they've * had the run of their grandfather's * house? You must think of them, * you know, * These questions deserve your * most thoughfui consideration. * You know how harsh are the * social rules of civilized living. * As a mother, you would not * choose to expose yourself to the * gossip that would follow your * moving. However innocent your * friendship with this man, who * would believe it? . You do not tell me whether * you have a position or not, If * you (and the man) save every * dollar you can, you will bring * the day of your freedom so * much nearer. And having played * the game of waiting so bravely, * how much sweeter will that day * he! * * * READER REBUKES "Dear Anne Hirst .You have a very great imagination! Have all these things you write about hap- pened to you? Or how do you know them? ':About that wife's letter con- cerning her domineering husband --why don't you get HIS view- point? He may have a good rea- son for the things he does. Some wives iinagine a lot when they want their own way. But thanks for your article about her husband. "von talk like a woman that gets off work at 10 or 11 at night and goes to a floor show till three or four in the morning . . , I feel I have the right to tell you this. LONG-TIME READER" * Every letter that appears in * column comes through' the mail * from readers who ask for my * advice. * In many cases I could be twice -* as helpful if both people con- * cerned wrote me their individual * viewpoints. Occasionally they * do, but not nearly as often as 1 * should like. * I have no doubt that some of * the complaints are exaggerated. * t have to accept the situation it- * self as a true one, however, and * described with honest intent, at * least. * * * When you are tempted to break any social law, remember the cost is high and you'll pay it for a long, long time . Anne (first's sympathy, and wisdom, are yours for the asking. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. Ne -v Toronto, Ont, DOWN SOUTH During the train's ten minutes stopover at a small southern town a woman and man walked over to a snack bar. Inside they saw steam- ing, pots of creamed chicken, spoon bread, pork chops, creole. and other tempting cliches. "May we have two creamed chickens in a hurry?" the man ar•ked the motherly old lady behind the counter. "Are you front the train?" 'Elle num nodded. "No creamed chicken." I1ow :about pork ,chots." "Not when you're on the train.'t Wften• asked' what they ' could have she replied seriously, "cheese sandw' •hes. People with only ten :minutes ain't settin' here to gobble down food .1 spent all the after- noon preparin'. I tike folks to daw- dle over my food' and appreciate Grandfather, What A Big Car You His d'—Appropriately shy, De- borah Collier, left, 31/2, and Grace Lyons, 4, pose beside the overturned car which gave them a wild downhill ride when they accidentally loosened the hand brake, The car, owned by be. borah's grandfather, went over a curb, sideswiped a free, knocked down a fence and came to a final halt with its rear end high and its front wheels hanging over a 15 -foot drop. 'Calamity Sal' Mas Trouble Her Career Sally Richards, 4, has spent most of her chart life flirting With disaster. Police rescue squads never know when, they'll be stalled to the Richard's home, and Sally's mother exists in a perpetual "state of anxiety. Re- cently, Scilly caught her head between the porch steps: Six months ago, she imbibed,, rub- bing alcohol; 'a year 99o, sur, pentine was the beverage. Be- fore that, disinfectant was the drink 'of the clay,' To vary the program, she has even tried to manicure her nails'with a meat cleaver: Everyone id • afraid to think of what maycome next. st flirtation with disaster occur`rect'wFi'eri sh'e"'caug}tt Sally's late r her Abad between risers of the porch stair's: r • Solly seems properly penjtent, at left, as • mother lectures her on the dangers of meat cleavers. At right, the would-be manicurist is patched .up for the umpteenth time. j�..a I-IRONICLES -7 Gaserts.ol.irsa D Clarke The great need of the moment is for rain—rain and stilt more rain. Rain for the berries and 'gardens; rain for the wheat and spring crops; ram for the pastures—yes, rain for everything is needed— except the hay. And that is where we Jose out. Our first field of hay was rut and most of it raked, ready for the coming of the baler next day. During the night it rained— not enough to do good to the thirsty fields and gardens but enough to toughen the hay so that it could not be baled, That was un the 21st. of June—and the wind was in the east Old-timers tell us that trite weather on the official opening day of summer determines the weather for the next three months. East winds and rain mean unsettled weather for that length of time. That is not a very en- couraging forecast for the haying and harvest season, On the other hand who wants it to be 1.•ot and dry? However, I suppose it is foolish to waste time worrying about it—wet or dry, we have to take what comes and snake the best of it. Right now, drought ns more to be feared than excess moisture.. In Australia drought has already kilted more cattle than we, in Canada, lust by foot and mouth disease. One hates to think of the poor animals literally flying from thirst—and the ranchers powerless to cope with the situation. Well, we are losing more neigh - hours •-• comparatively new ones this time. The titan went back to a government job some months ago, now his wife is joining him in Ottawa. The farm Land has been rented to one man and the house to another. And again I have fallen heir lo an oversize house plant— this time an asparagus fern. And books 1 Enough books to keep me busy all summer if 1 wanted to spend half of every day reading-- whirlt 1 am not likely to do. We can firm room for the fern; we are only tonhappy to look after the books; we don't mind adopting "Alicat" but we are thankful we were nut asked to take over the seven dogs—registered Irish setters at that, with cups and ribbons galore to their credit. Fortunately the dogs are also moving to Ottawa to the enttage their owners have rented, if the accornodation Is not sufficient for then — that is, for humans and dogs—then the dogs will be sent to a boarding kennel. Truly a canine family can become a problem—and' an expensive one at that. Actually the same 'applies to books, 'Marty of these books are hook -o -the -Month selections for the past live years, However, they are more easily, taken care of than dogs ---some have already gone to convalescents—the hooks, I mean —others are destined for the public library, so there will only remain a few that I ani keeping for myself— all of which are non-fiction. One that I have already started reading is "Saints and Strangers" by George T. Wilson—a history of the Pilgrim Fathers and their families. Another, good book is— "A Thousand Things, to Know" a collection of odd and interesting items, Fon instance, this will be news to most of us—next year is the Sparrow Centennial—my own description. That is to say it was in 1853 that the first successful libera- tion of emigrant sparrows took place. (Successful, is right I) It was Nicholas; Pike, a director of the Brooklyn Institute, who had spar- rows—about one hundredto start with—imported from England for the purpose of destroying leaf - eating caterpillars. Altogether there were fifteen importations of spar - Transfer Designs in' 3 colors 1312 (flf ce6W1.4 W1411244 T111R'I;Y-TWO NI°TIES in color1 Red,yellow, green — fruits' and vegetables all ready to iron on your kitchen towels, curtains, aprons, potholdcrs. Quick! Easyl Washable! No embroidery — just iron ons That's still Color in a jiffy! Three- rotor transfer designs. Pattern 612; thirty-two motifs 1xt% to 3x4% inches. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted) scepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER and SIZE; your NAME and ADDRESS, Such a colorful roundup of handi- work ideas(' Send twenty-five cents now for our Laura: Wheeler Needle- craft Catalog. Choose your patterns from our gaily illustrated toys, dolls, household and personal ac- cessories. A pattern for a handbag is printed right in the took rows between 1852 and 1881. Of course it wasn't long before people realized that the sparrows' insect - destroying qualities had been over- rated and that the sparrow was. fast becoming a public nuisance— multiplying and spreading to other districts, including Canada, in great .numbers, But the item ends on a hopeful note, It says nature has taken the problem of the spar- row population in hand and that their number is said to be on the decrease in both urban and rural areas. Can't say that I' have notic- ed it, have you? Admittedly there are too many sparrows, and they can be an awful nuisance, but yet our farms and buildings would seem kind of lone- some without them, don't you - think? After alt, "sparrow in a tree -top" can be a cheerful ittle biddy. And now, to celebrate the begin- ning of summer, I am going down to put a few sticks of wood in the furnace 1 Big Betting on Fighting Fish The craze for keeping tropical fish seems to be growing rapidly. Many new enthusiasts have re- cently installed aquaria and they soon discover that watching the gambols of their finny inhabitants is a fascinating way of passing the time. Merry Widows, Black Widows, , Sail -fin Mollies, Flag Fish, Angels, Head and Tail Lights, Rosy Barbs, .Harlequins, Neon Tetras, Three -spot Gouramis, and a host of oilier exotic fish are displayed with pride. The Australian Rain- bow Fish, reflecting a myriad dif- ferent tints as its streamlined body flashes through the water, and the small; pretty Pearl Danio's coloring is surely as near to Mother of Pearl as can possibly be achieved by living tissue, The Chinese have, fur orally years, bred the Siamese Fighter solely for its pugnacious qualities, states D. C. Gahm, in his interest- ing and delightful book, "Tropical h`ish in the Home." This game little fish will tackle any. other male member of his race on, sight. Large wagers are placed on favor- ite scrapers at local "fish fights," the two fish fighting until one is killed, or decides to beat a hasty but strategic withdrawal, And yet this same battler proves the most patient and devoted of fathers. When the eggs are spawn-. ed, it is the male wisp collects and encases them in a bubble made by coating a -mouthful of air with a thin film of saliva, The bubble is then carefully placed in the nest.: Should the eggs, or later micro- scopic fry, fall out of the nest, they are immediately encased in mother bubble and returned by an ever , vigilant father, Mr, Gohnt's book, dealing coin- prehensively with aquaria plants and lay -out, aquarimn manage.. anent, tlisea5e, shot a wide variety of fish, will prove valuable asset to the enthusiast and makes de .lightfnl reading. Willie's Epitaph The British Columbia coast has more stories per mile et salt cheek (Chinook jargon 101 "salt water") than any other place 1 have ever knotptn�. Take the tale about Wil- lie Wilson, for instance. Willie,. who retired a few years ago after 40'years of light -keeping on to =coast••, died recently near Vanctiavcr, But after a stormy ltfe there;. wee still no "peace to Ids ashes:' Those' ashes were placed in an: urn to be delivered to Isis sister on a coastal isl,•iud• . They were sent by parcel post to a friend of Willie's but arrived too late for him to put thetas on the coastal steamer: A fisherman volunteered to take them across, but was blown off his course by a sudden storm and had to run for shelter, into an even more distant harbor. Other boats snarled out with Wil- lie, but were forced back by the gale. 3'lte, government: radio station, contacted over 'the radio -phone of a tug as. to Willie's whereabouts, be- gan to issue such bulletins act "We're not jest -sure where Willie is now, but if this storm lets up ' a bit we may be able to get him to his sister by private plane." At last Willie reached ' the cot- tage where minister and mourn- ers were gathered for the delayed funeral service. There was a sol, eon hush as the; Reverend Clarke placed the urn in the centre of the living -room table. Suddenly a wd- man's voice broke the silence. "Oh, Mr. Clarke," exclaimed Wil- lie's sister, "isn't it wonderful to think that we got Willie here for only thirty-five dental" — Gilean Douglas in "Prairie Farm." Modern Etiquette Q. Does a divorcee continue to use her husband's name? A. This depends; Sometimes she has her maiden name restored. However, it is ,customary how for a divorced woman to use her maiden and her married name. If her name was Elizabeth Preston and her married name is Carlson, she becomes Mrs. Elizabeth Pres- ton Carlson. Q. Is it good manhers to use a toothpick at the table. Lately I have seen this done by people of apparent refinement? A, The rules remain unchanged,, Toothpicks should never be seen in use, .at the table or anywhere else... Q. When a youngunmarried woman introduces herself to some- one, does she speak of herself as Miss Jones or as Mary Jones? A. Socially, she says, "I'm Mary Jones." In business, she says, "I'm Miss Jones." Q. Isn't it all right for a man to take the arm of a woman coo panion when walking along the street? A. No. However; he should as- sist an elderly woman by -taking her arm, and he may guide any woman companion i n crossing streets or assist her in ascending or descending stairways, by laying his hand lightly on her arm. Q. Isn't all right for a bride to telephone her thanks for wedding gifts received? A. Never, under any circum- stances, should she thank friends for wedding gifts by telephone or in person. A personal note should be sent promptly upon receipt of each gift. Q. Is it proper to tip the soup plate, in order to scoop ant the last bit of soup? A. There's nothing a6 all wrong with this. You don't have to leave soup that's intended to be eaten. Q. Ig it improper to display arti- ficial Rowers itt the home? A, If the flowers are made of porcelain or plastic they an: proper. However, if made of paper, or of muslin intended as hat or dress trimming, then they really arc not suitable. Recovery From Within Excerpt from a BBC 'Palk blv The Very Reverend IVf. • P. G. Leonard, Provost of St, Mary's Ca- thedral, Glasgo*,',Seotland: Some years ago a dertain board ing sehoot;had fallen. on evil days, The tone 'Of the school was low, and outdid opinion within its walls was aliailtctie. At this school g certain. atoll boy arrived from a decent ChristianitotpeHe was shocked at the things boys talked about and at the jokes they laugh ed at, and he determined in his heart that he would have nothing to do with it. As a small boy he cut no ice, and of course Ile was ragged and laughed at, but some- how other small; boys found life less sordid in his company, As' he grew older surd worked Itis way up ie the school he began to have more influence, and an in- creasis g3tuntber,of boys :sheltered gratfully behind hiaaturdy char- acter. lie wasn't a great athlete, but everybody respected and ad- mired him, In due course Ise be- catne Heatlboy$ and when he left the miracle had happened—the school was reformed.. Its tone watt clean and fine and wholesome. - This wasn't due to any action taken by the Headmaster, or to any new rules and regulations imposed from above; it wassolely due to one small healthy-tninded boy bold - steadfastly to his ideals, so that his .influence was like heaven that ulthnately leavened the whole school. It was a case of reformation from within, 'and that is the way in which the bounds of God's King- dom are increased. That is our Lord's own recipe. The Kingdom of Heaven is like leaven, He said; and if you want to know the joy of a heart uplifted, try to be a bit of leaven in the commmsity la which you live—and all the raising power of God will be behind' you, Foot Comfort If your 'meta have suffered front chapping or scaling, try to cure them before you wear those peek- a-boo lattice shoes and sandals. After a bath, rub feet thorough-, ly with a thick towel to remove alt rough and flaky scales. If ne- cessary, rub a bit of told cream or hand lotion into the skin after washing, Comforting foot baths in warm soapy water will help soft- en the stiff hardened skin spots from snagging your nylons. For real beauty, try massaging your feet in the bathtub while they're still lathered with soap- suds. Spotty Future — if your`' wife breaks out in spots this sum- mer don't call a doctor. Chances are she's just experimenting with a new shampoo that light- ens the hair without ammonia and can•be' used for spot -dying: The model, above, demonstrates the polka-dot•.. version. Other variations, includesemi-circular stripes and light chignons with dark hair. )im. 5e+tlefaries' Best Friend—Secretaries visiting the annual inventors Fair in Pdris have shown so much interest in this gadget that if is to be put into production. A fin can, an auto hub cap, a note pad and an alarm clock were used to fashion the original model. A nimble secretary can Tight her desk, take notes, and time appointments with the minimum of effort, by using the device.