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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1952-1-9, Page 6t4s to it is to prefer the superb quality and flavour of K NE PST -a y "Mother, have been placed on such a high pedestal that many a daughter with mother trouble keeps 't to herself for fear of treading on holy ground." Sowritesa distracted g i r 1 whose love for her mother has been distorted— because that mo- ther for years has kept the whole family in a turmoil of mu- tual distrust and humiliation. "Our fangily grew up," she re- lates, "in a highly religious but tense air of hatred, and ridicule of friends, relatives, and my father. On his death I was left the finan- cial support of my mother... , FUTILE SACRIFICES ''She has kept us all in a constant uproar by belittling each one to the other and deliberately creating trouble . "Finally, my health broke. I left —and had to keep up two house- holds. I still loved her, and had a deep sense of obligation. "But through the year, she has grown worse. All of us have done what we could, in time, energy and money, to make her happy—to no avail. No one will ever know how LOOK, MOTHER! Isn't this adorable for your little Snowman or girl? Make hat and mittens in 2 bright colors of knitting worsted. Bands are popcorn stitch: crown, earmuffs, hand are single crochet. Pattern 782: crochet directions hat, mittens; size 2-4: 6-8: 10-12, Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS itt coins (stamps cannot he ac- cepterll for inns pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. much heartache and anxiety she has caused me alone, "I have tried every solution. But after each outburst I am in a night- mare, miserably sick with a feeling of frustration and=guilt. I've gone through the cycles of initial love, obligation, indifference and, at times, complete distaste. I don't want to have a crop of complexes, feel self-pity for my futile sacri- fices. "I want to live a Christian life, and marry a wonderful man—which is the second phase of my problem. To marry him, I would have to go overseas—or wait 18 months until he returns. And I don't want him to find me a neurotic. "My mother feels my duty is to her. She says she won't live much longer, though she is in good health now. Shall I stay here, 'be- yond the reach of her temper yet near enough to be of aid if she needs me?— Or go to him, where I can find happiness and tranquil- lity I'm afraid I've reached the saturation point unless I find a solution. "There is nothing more pitiful than an aged widow living alone who thinks the whole world hates her. But who can be any unhap- pier than one who has never had love, and is marking off the days before she can start living?" * Every reader of the column to- * day will appreciate how hard it * is for this girl to make her de- * cision. Whichever way she turns, * she is bound to question the wis-. * dom of it. * Her desire to find tranquillity * at last, is understandable.— Not " only because of the attendant * happiness it will provide, but * because she has almost reached * the end of her rope, and no doubt * wonders whether her remaining * here would really benefit her 111 mother. * Many a daughter would feel -' she has done everything possible * for her mother, and can safely * leave the responsibility to her * relatives, * Yet this girl still feels within * her a sense of that responsibility. * If she can stick it out, would * staying home better satisfy her * conscience? * TO "A DAUGHTER": No * one but another girl who has had * to put up with such a parent can * appreciate all you have endured * since your father died. Having * observed soomany parallel situa- * tions, however, I understand the * cost, year in and year out, that * you have paid for your loyalty * and your tolerance. * Suppose you go abroad and * marry your soldier? Would your happiness remain untouched. by • the feeling that you had "de- * serted" your mother? Or would you feel entirely justified? * Von must, of course, snake up * your own an i n d. Whichever * course you choose, you have my * understanding and goy admire- * tion. '^ * * How much does a loyal daughter owe to her monger? Anne Hirst feels it depends on the circum- stances. If such a harrowing prob- lem confronts you, ask her aid. She sees both sides. Address Anne Hirst at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Sub Y'o The Rescue -• f'harlotlo Knight, r,tagazi„c edi,or vieifing Korea, is pulled up the side of the submarine Voladce offer sailors from the sub rescued her from the sea. Miss Knight and two Navy filers were clumped into the sea when their helicopter, transferring her from a ship to the sub, crashed, Four "riles s dived overboard and made the resct:e, Modern Etiquette By Roberta Lee Q. Now would a bride-to-be word a formalnote of acknowl- edgement and thanks for a wedding gift? ' • A. "Dear Mrs. Blown: It was more than sweet of you and Mr. Brown to send us such, a lovely (whatever it was), Thank you very much. Looking forward to seeing you on tine, tenth, Very sincerely, Mary. Jones.” * * When a girl has been dining in , a public place with a man, and they are preparing' to' leave the table, should she immediately begin to put on her wraps? A. No; she should always wait for her escort or the: waiter to assist her. +, * * Q. When eating a biscuit and jelly at the table, should the jelly be applied to the biscuit with the fork? A. No; use the knife. * * * Q. When one is eating meat, should only one piece be cut at a time? A. Yes. When ,eating either :neat or poultry, cut a small piece and convey it to your mouth. Nev- er cut up the entire portion of meat into numerous pieces. This is con- sidered crude, * 5 * Q. How long should a woman remain when making a social call on a new neighbor? A, From 15 to 25 minutes is quite long enough. * * Q. Is it all right to announce a wedding engagement at a tea or card. party? A. Certainly; this isoften done, * Q. When drinking any kind of refreshment at a social affair, should a little of the drink be left in the glass2 A, One may certainly drink all of it. But one should avoid throw- ing back the head, or turning the glass upside down to drain it. * * * Q. How should gifts and flowers received during an illness be ac- knowledged? A. If the patient is too ill to acknowledge the gifts promptly, notes of thanks shoudl be written as sons after recovery as possible. * * * Q. Who should pay for the bouquet- of the maid of honor at a wedding? A. The bride's family pays for this. * * * Q. I know of one person who makes a habit of placing ,Is hand on a person's arm while talking with him. What do you think of this? A. This may be a friendly ges- ture, but it is very annoying to some people, and it is better to avoid the reputation of being a "paver." A1.'50— 'r` - i \ l4 1 32•-4202., dy- ,,,e.,,44 4 1FAM this l'euntifat pair or the best -looking classic you ever had! Brants ucw details—weirs, sleeves. pockets. Yet each is so simple, melt gond taste it will team nicely aitliotht'r separates tour. You need this (woman'. 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But the new colours are rich and bright, meant to be at home with the blue of sky and water. Shock- ing pink, mauve, maize, emerald and Cotillion blue all favour a tan, too: Beach roaming suit (left) by Brilliant; is emerald -and -white pat- terned pique with wing -cuffed bra. Pockets and little boy shorts are cuffed. Because of a' built-in bra, this lined suit may be worn strap- ped or strapless. Clear white waffle pique (right) makes sun -and -water suit with calla lily neckline tapered into straps that tie halter -style. Little boy shorts are cuffed, cut with deep pockets. This suit, too, has complete' lining. HRONICLE$ 1NGERFARM Cnronflnline D Clnrkg And after Christmas comes the New Year—with a. lull inbetween when we have a chance to sit back and really appreciate all the good wishes that cane our way; the fancily presents and friendly gifts; the greeting cards with their lovely, artistic designs and appropriate words; the surcease from the con- stant hurrying that we knew before the festive season. Yes, this lull. that sometimes follows a storm —in this case it was a storm that began gathering for a. least two weeks before Christmas—a storm of activity which for many farm people included picking poultry, making Christmas oak s and pud- dings; taking in school concerts. trimming tate Christmas tree, filling stockings, finding out who would be home and when, fighting the weather and .axing our memories in an endeavour to make sure no one was forgotten and np:!ting left on the missing list. It was a hectic time but in the lull that follows we have reason to marvel at the love and kindly thoughts that were showered upon us. And in this respect your hum- ble columnist is no exception. I certainly did appreciate the friend- ly wishes that came my way dur- ing the C'liristmas season—so many from kindly readers, many 01 whom write year after year, and by their encouragement and inter- est help . ine to start yet another year, telling you as best d can, of the homely happenings at Ginger Farm, that probably tie in wi.h the happenings on hundreds of other farms. In response to several in- quiries perhaps I had better admit I did write "The Brown Coat" story which appeared iu the Fancily Herald last September. Thank you, everybody, for liking it—and for telling the so. l.'ernaps, if you watch fur it, you ivay see another story before too long—at least an- other our bas been accepted, When it will be published is anyone's guess --a 110)11111, six Meeks, three uxnults---1 never know. Nor does it really matter—getting a story acccp.ed is the main thing, 1 am always glad when my fan mail fans tell ole something about their own families , Mrs. 11. L. of Fort \\ illiain fur instance—her John is in Collegiate now—but the first time she wrote all three child- ren were little more than toddlers. Sonte,imes 1 forget that for other folk time, passes just as quickly as it does for us --children grow up, leave school and get married. Queer, when 1 think of it, some young people who are dote married and in homes of their awn, were uo1 even born when 1 started writ- ing this cesium! Perhaps Ginger Farm would have better named "The .Brook Farm"—and maybe it should' leave been dammed actet- •ioually to stint i.s steady flow, Conte to think' of it, it may hast been rlanuued 11 goad many tine's-- jnst change one letter and you will get the idea, however, I have a long way to go yet to catch up with ,Ise record set by the late Dorothy I)is. We Were a party" of six on Christinas Day — our own family • and two young friends—just right. for the small turkey that was easily disposed of. Holiday time off was a little complicated, Daughter worked Monday and had Boxing Day off, Bob had Monday off and went back to work on Wednesday. Which reminds me, I don't think I have mentioned that Bob is now boarding at home but working, in Oakville. That means leaving home at 6:30 a.m., taking lunch with hila, and back home again for 6:30 din- ner at night. It Is nice to have someone coming in and out again— and during the stormy weather Bob's heavy car helped to keep the lane open. 1 don't know whether it is the car or the driver but Bob certainly seems to come through anything. As for my poor little s Junebug, it has gone iu.o hiber- nation—at least until' the weather clears. And I have almost gone into hibernation with it one . test) t1) town in eight days! And now, dear friciuls, t t+nt-111 . close this column without wishing you a very Happy New Year. As we look back over the twelve months past we remember many difficulties, many heartaches and fears, but for most of us the sun- shine was still greater than the cloud. And so it will be in 1952. An unsettled year ahead of us— that much is certain, But if hap- piness is in our hearts we shall have courage to face and overcome our problems as they arise. Don't let us cause a shadow by standing in ottr ow -n sunshine. Couldn't Sing So Wouldn't Work Fifty girls at a Belfast factory went on strike recently because their employer refused to allow them to sing while working. When he compromised by allowing them to hum, they went hack to work quite happily. The value of music is rated highly by efficiency experts, who say it acts as a stimulant to tired workers. As a result, many fac- tories allow radio or gramophone music to be played all day long to busy employees. Even better are the resu its when employees are encouraged to sing among themselves. They work longer and show less strain, des- pite the effort wasted on singing. Many works sponsor their own doral societies, with the belief that they give workers a feeling of pride which manes for loyalty to- wards their employers. In the 1.1.5., where business .effi- ricncy is almost a mania, it has long been the custom for certain teains of heavy workers to have their own singer, who is not rots petted to work so long as he 1ead3 his gang in loud, hearty choruses, Forerunner of these paid singers was the nineteenth c est t,ury 'shanty -man," an essential reams her of any sailing ship's crew. Be- fore the age of mechanization ail the work involved in sailing a ship had to be done by hand. When sails were hoisted or anchors rale- ed, the whole crew worked in toll. son to the aloes of a hundred lusty sea•ohanties sang' by the shanty - 111511... ISSUE 2 -- 1952 Wdo Started It?. Where did they all come from— the' familiar names and 'faces which populate the world's itursenies alld schoolrooms: tile Little Jack Iiorn- erit, the Georgie Porgies, the old women who ,lived in: shoes? A few weeks ago Briteill's'grown-ups were getting the scholarly lowdown from an authoritative reference book; the Oxford University Press's new Oxford Dictionary of Nursery Rhymes. Editors' lona and Peter Opie spent seven years looking through' haystacks of diaries, 'letters, books . and plays to find • their needling rhymes & riddles, They dug into the histories of kings and queens, Wits and wage, drunks and druids, consulted everyone from George Bernard Shaw to their Own child. ren, aged six and four. Sonne, of the famous ,rhymee. they found, are at least as old as the city, of Rome; Horace described little children playing Rex erile qui recte faciet-•-tire first version of "I'm the king of the castle;" Pet- ronius heard a small boy say Bucca, bucca, gum sunt hic?, which later became "Buck she, buck she, buck/ How many fingers do I hold up?" At least one rhyme in nine, say the Opies, was known in the time of Charles 1; a good half are at least 200 years old, The early counting of Yarmouth shepherds (inn, mina, tethera, met, hera) became "Eena, meena, mina, mo"; and Westmorland's hevera, devera, dick (eight, nine and ten) is the most likely, origin of "Hickory. dickory, dock," In the 18th Century, "Hot Cross Buns r One a penny / Two a penny" was a street ven- dor's' cry. "Baa, baa, black sheep / Have you any wool?" propably dates back' to the export tax im- posed on wool in 1275. The "Four and twenty blackbirds, baked in a pie" goes. back to the Renaissance, when live birds really were, put in plea, ready to Ely out when the pie, was cut, to cause a "diverting Hurley -Burley amongst the Guests" Out of the Barracks. Most rhymes, the Opies learned, were never intended for children. Mat-• thew, Mark, Luke and John" was a 17th Century Popish prayer; "Go to bed, Tom" was once a barracks ditty. "Mary, Mary, quite contrary" possibly had a "'religious back- gromtd ... 'a word -picture of Our Lady's Convent' , , , the,bells being the Sanctus bells, the cockleshells the badges of the pilgrims, and the pretty maids the nuns , , ." - Only a few rhymes have known authors (e,g., Dr. Johnson, who one day suddenly socketed: "If a man who turnips cries / Cry not when his father dies / Itis proof that he would rather / Have a turnip than his father"1. Many were satire, Some rhyme scholars believe that the downfall of Sir Robert Wal - pole's ministry—popularly 'known as the "Robin`ocracy"—gave rise to "Who killed Cock Robin?", and that Georgie Porgie was really King George 1. —From "Time" Remember Germany In a Toronto restaurant tite other day a diner remarked that he could remember, only a few years back, when the chicken pie, now 80 cents, was priced at 35. That, he thought, was a good illus- tration of inflation, But it was a far different kind of inflation from the one that literally destroyed the German economy 30 years ago. "In the summer of 1923," says a writer in the Washington Star, "a New York businessman ordered a beefsteak in the Adlon lintel, Ber- lin, at the quoted price of one million narks. By the time it was served it was worth 1.1 million narks and a half hour, sated when the check was presented the price was up to 1.2 million narks." In the middle of this economic catastrophe, the average German, though literally starving, appeared to many visitors as being better dressed, better housed and possess- ing more personal property than ever before, The answer was simple, Seeing the continued devaluation of the currency, the elation went on a gigantic buying spree and amassed real goods, many of which they did not need or want, while scorn- ing savings accounts, We haven't even approached that stage on this continent and most of tis will pray that we never Will, But in this time of a steadily•de- teriorating dollar, it is well to re- member where we could end. — Fro1n The Financial Post. How Con I? By Anne Ashley Q. How can a silk umbrella be driest?, A, 1)o not open the silk umbrella todry it, as this causes the silk to stretch and become• stiff,; The- properntelhioil is t close the mai- bertha and turn it upside down. The water will gradually drain off without injuring the fiber of the silk. * * Q. 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