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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Wingham Advance-Times, 1984-05-02, Page 29P,1ige 12-- i ossroads-May 2, pm 1 Recently, the sales man- ager ' of a medical supply firm came to me for help because, as he said, he was Worried sick about himself. Harold was stoop - shouldered, wringing his hands and when he finally blurted out his problem, he said it was that he had be- come a thief. His job is one where he has to fly to many market- ing areas, and Harold was accusing himself of steal- ing money from his compa- ny by falsifying his ex- pense accounts. When I asked for details, he said that there had been no complaints from his firm. With Harold's permis- sion I talked with the com- pany comptroller, and it seemed that Harold had been cheating himself in attempts to avoid dishones- ty. When I told this to Har- old, there was no sense of relief. The idea that he had been dishonest and was in- volved in stealing could only be marked as a horri- ble, tormenting obsession. The clue to this puzzle which did not seem to have an answer came out after many long and seemingly fruitless interviews. It seems that 12 years previ- ously he had been unfaith- ful to his wife. The woman was his secretary, and he was a long way from home, and no one would ever know. He forgot about it and went on about his busi- ness, or so he thought. His present unreal feel- ings of guilt had their roots in that forgotten incident, even though it had hap- pened a decade before. Harold's unconscious mind couldn't face his unfaithful- ness, and so he chose to see himself dishonest about money rather than being unfaithful to his wife. He had transferred his linger- ing sense of guilt about his extramarital relations to the trust that had been given to him in his expense account. Release came for Harold when he faced his old infi- delity. As the guilt was honestly faced, it was al- most miraculous to see his anxiety about his, expense account disappear. Our minds are, delicate, deep and intricate. The mind can, also play many deceptive, if not baffling tricks; but none can cause more anguish than a sense of guilt which expresses it- self in a masked or dis- guised form, such as Har- old's. It is our lot as human be-. ings to pass judgment on ourselves. A sense of right and wrong, good and evil, is basiq, to our natures as are the forces of love and hate. We have been made to have an inner necessity to abide by some code of ethics, whatever it may be. But as mortal beings we are also prone to mortal. lapses. It is impossible to believe that we can conquer every temptation that comes our way, or be exempt from self -condem- nation when we fail. No one can violate his ethical principles and the precepts of his religious faith for very long, and not suffer guilt feelings, consciously or unconsciously. To help troubled people get at the hidden roots of unresolved guilt feelings is one of religidn's chief con- tributions to the cure of emotional and physical ills. Whatever your faith may be, or lifestyle might en- compass, it is an absolute rule for happy living that you must be able to feel forgiven, even though you have done wrong. This is one of religion's major roles in a person's life. To live life with the mth --dear pri11 t, ft ar there must be forgiveness, and then time must: be per- mitted to close over the past and life must be con- centrated on the present. Harold, and a vast number of other Harolds, have learned .to live in peace with themselves. At wit's end by Erma Bombeck HAPPY CLOWNS—It's a rare day that we don't see something that would be nice to record on film. Having a no -fuss camera with you is the best way to make cer- tain those special moments don't get lost. These two happyclowns were photo- graphed in a shopping mall. (Photo by Holt Confer) You probably thought you had heard the last of the Cabbage Patch dolls, but a nation doesn't go through a 2.5 million baby boom with- out some fallout. Since Christmas, there are 2.5 million single parents under the age of 12 out there floundering under a sea of diapers and feeding sched- ules who are asking them- selves, "Is that all there is?" They are too young to drink and too young to chuck it all and run away from home. To the rescue comes Ed- ward J. Zumach, a com- munications consultant from.... Phoenix, Ariz., who realizes the importance of a good old Mom's Network. He calls his support group the Interna- tional Association of Doll - baby Parents. Every month there will be a Newsletter, "The Dollbaby News," to."entertain and in- form the millions of newly - blessed parents." There will be a special feature called "Dollbaby Firsts," featuring news about unusual activities like taking a hot-air balloon ride or riding in a sailboat or helicopter. In addition to contests and personal mothers' stories, little mothers will have a horoscope prepared for their dollbabies by a leading astrologer. imagine the thrill of know- ing that if your child is a Libra, she "seeks beauty, peace and harmony but can W 13J3i® 0 OW1d 1131 QQ a WOW 40 SMi MVO be extremely ambitious and can burn the midnight oil, then collapse into complete laziness." The Association is open not only to Cabbage Patch mothers, but those who are raising Strawberry Short- cake, Blueberry Muffin and Barbie and Ken children. (Tell me there will be an article on what age Ken can drive a cardboard car.) We've come a long way since we slung a Christmas doll under the bed in Febru- ary where it remained naked, unkempt, uncombed and rejected until our mothers stuffed it into a trunk to save for our children to throw under the bed. Frankly, I think it's a great idea. I foresee doll pediatricians, psychiatrists, day nurseries when the miniature 'mothers go' to work, baby sitters and beauty pageants. .Not only will they open up a new range for the ecbnomy, they will instill responsibility in a child at an early age. But more important, it will be the greatest boon to birth control since garlic! SNACKING IS BAD This is the most common snacking misconciption of all. Between tneal snacks have been viewed as appetite destroyers for generations. With a little extra planning, however, you will find that snacks provide needed food energy to sustain activity, thereby enhancing the appe- tite. Also, several small meals are more easily used by the body than a few large ones — which helps keep weight down. PILGRIMS LAND The Pilgrim Fathers land- ed Dec. 26, 1620, at Plym- outh, Mass., to found Plym- outh Colony. Fujica Auto -7 It's time to shatter a myth — a photographer buying an automatic cam- era won't automatically get perfect pictures. Time and again I have amateur photographers ex- plain to me that they're going to cast aside their old, manually adjustable cameras in order to get themselves one of the new automatics. "Then," they tell me emphatically, "You'll really see a differ- ence in my pictures." If it were really that easy, there wouldn't be any automatic cameras avail- able for the amateur mar- ket — the pros would buy all of them. Actually, there is a defi- nite market for automatic cameras, and that's what got me interested in, trying the Fujica Auto -7. The Auto -7 is just about auto - everything. 7LICA THE ORIGINAL WORD MAZE PUZZLE TORO CY pTERMEUE ALL WORDS TO BE CONSTRUCTED PERTAIN TO 'THE ABOVE TOPIC. TO YOUR ADVANTAGE ONE WORD HAS ALREADY BEEN TRACED: YOU MUST TRACE THE THREE REMAINING WORDS, USING ONLY THE LETTERS DESIGNATED BY THE DARKENED CIRCLES. WORDS MAY" BEGIN AND END FROM EITHER COLUMN BUT EACH LETTER CAN ONLY BE USED ONCE. ** I 1. There's automatic focusing with a beam sen- sor that will give you sharply focused pictures even in the dark. (Provid- ed, I need to add, that you aim the beam at the part of the subject you, want to have in focus.) 2. Automatic first frame positioning is another fea- ture — the camera auto- matically (there's that word again) advances the first frame into position for picture taking. 3. Automatic film rewind. When the last shot on the roll has been made, the film is automatically wound back into the car- tridge. 5. Automatic film speed setting. If the photographer is using Fuji film rated at ASA 100 or ASA 400. The 35mm. Fuji cartridges (ei- ther print film or transpar- ency film) have'little metal strips that "tell" the cam- era what ASA rating is being used. Automatic exposure control. The camera has an automatic exposure con- trol that provides the cor- rect exposure#all, the. way from dim ,light to bright sunlight. There's a built-in electronic flash that is con- nected to the camera's other electronic controls so you get well -exposed" flash pictures. 7. And finally, there's au- tomatic flash exposure. There's a built-in electron- ic flash that is connected to the camera's other elec- tronic controls so you get well -exposed flash pic- tures. Sounds like all you have to do is to get one of these units and the picture tak- ing gods will smile on your creative efforts forever and ever. If you read the instructions carefully, I've no doubt that the percent- age of good pictures com- ing back to you from the processor will increase. However, it's still possible to make some boo-boos — for example: A. If your subject is off - center (as it often is,) you will need to point the cam- era at your subject, depress the shutter button halfway (to lock in the focus), then reframe your picture. If you just aim and • shoot, the focusing mecha- nism will "look past" your subject and focus on some- thing off in the distance. The result will be a sharp- ness at infinity and an unsharp subject. B. When backlighted sub- jects are photograhed out of doors, you need to use the built-in flash for fill light. If you don't, the light sensors on the camera will "read" the ambient light coming toward the cam- era, set the exposure ac- cordingly, and your subject will be underexposed. C. Pay attention to the flash limitations — you can easily get too close to your subject (less than one meter — about 3 feet); and too far away (more than 4 meters with ASA 100 film, or more than 6 meters with ASA 400 film. If you'd like to know some of the technical infor- mation about this camera — it has a Juninon 38mm, f2.8, 4 element lens. The electronic shutter provides speeds from 1/8 to 1/500 second. With a little thought on the user's part, Fuji's Auto - 7 will certainly take a lot of the worry out of picture taking. EACH PUZZLE .HAS A DIFFICULTY RATING (ABOVE). FOUR STARS SIGNIFY THE HIGHEST DEGREE OF DIFFICULTY. GIVEN BELOW ARE THE POINT VALUES FOR EACH WORD. YOUR WORDS MUST CORRECTLY MATCH THESE POINT VALUES. PLEDGE ANSWER ON PAGE rd, 1983 Ryan Game Company Candlewicking ip color. IF youSlibr get tired of white -on -white candlewicking, why not work with lustrous, colon - ful ribbons? Nowadays, with ribbons as skinny as one -sixteenth of an inch, it's easy to stitch them into candlewicking knots. Candlewicking, if you haven't heard the term yet, is an old Colonial craft that has become popular again today. In classic candlewicking, the crafter stitches knots onto plain, unbleached muslin and then washes the muslin in very hot water. When the knots and muslin shrink, the design takes on a soft, delicate look. In ribbon candlewicking, however, you sew knots onto pre-shrunk muslin. As a result, when the last knot is in place, you can turn your muslin immediately into pillows, place mats, bedspreads, table runners, or other projects. Here are directions for ribbon candlewicking: MATERIALS: Pre- shrunk cotton muslin, em- broidery hoop, large -eye embroidery needle, chalk pencil, pencil and paper, scissors, sewing supplies. Ribbons: Purchase 1/16 - inch width ribbons from a fabric or craft shop. Sug- gested are Offray brand, double-faced satin ribbons. One yard of ribbons makes about 40 knots. PREPARATION: 1. If it is not already pre-shrunk, wash muslin, let dry and press. 2. Draw or trace a simple design on paper. 3. Lay muslin over paper. Using your chalk pencil, - trace design on muslin, drawing dots instead of lines. Space dots about, 1/4 inch apart. STITCHING: 1. Position muslin in embroidery hoop. 2. Cover each dot with a. french knot as follows: (a) 17( • p: r r._ _ c•�i.. _ . r HOSPITAL. The Hidden Lives of a Medical Center Staff. By Michael Medved. Pocket Books, New York. (In Canada: PaperJacks Ltd., Markham, Ont. $4.95.) 352 pp. Paper. Reviewed by PERCY MADDUX What are the doctors, nur- ses, and other persons who work in a big medical centre personally like? Michael Medved tells us in his book "Hospital". He claims it is all true, but the names given in the stories are fictitious. He selects a person on the staff, then gives the impress- ions individually of other staffers, followed by the per- son's own account of himself. In these reports is revealed the character of each staffer, the strong points and the weak points. The book is fascinatingly interesting, but it becomes risque and there are some horrible scenes. f• ^.i • close, to same hole, pulling ribbon gently to keep it wrapped snugly around tl1e...edle:..1 To OM knot, hold ribbon until it is al- most through fabric. 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