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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Wingham Advance-Times, 1984-04-25, Page 18( Pagea,crossroads—AprilgS, 1084 vice. on advice for the brideApd jroom. How to handle a aoypp; ending stream Of actee from family and friendkiaa challenge all utang couples face, according to article in a recent issue of Bride's magazine. "It's not good for a marriage if a wife makes More money than her hus- band," the bride's mother might say. "You, really should buy a condominium instead of renting," the groom's uncle will insist. Everyone is eager to help a bride and groom adjust to their new roles. The only trouble with all this help is that it can be so over -whelm- ing that the couple end up feeling confused and press- ured. Which advice should they take? How can, they turn down a piece of advice without hurting a loved one's feelings? In order to deal with this situation, the couple must know what they want, says. Bride's. They should sit down together before the wedding and ask: "Where do we want to live?" "How im- portant will our careers be?" "How do we hope to spend OW free time?" premarital counseling — available, through churches, universi- ties, and psychological associations — can help by providing a framework for these talks. The answers the couple arrive at shouldbe as specific as possible — for in- stance, "We'll try to start a or "We'll plan o spend 1 family within thAee years," weekend a month alone, just the two ,of us." When the couple disagree, they should push to find a compromise rather than one or the other simply giving in, since "easy" solutions often lead to anger and resentment. Once a couple feel secure in their decisions, says Bride's, they'll be able to react calmly to the advice coming their way. First, they should deter- mine if there's an underlying • . , • -^%7Poi. • N.S'Ak\ )' ‘IE .„ if LOOK YOUR BEST ON THAT SPECIAL DAY Let us ensure that you and your bridal party look their very best. We care at Carol's because the bride is a very special person. CAROL'S UNISEX HAIRSTYLING Mon. -Wed. 9-6 Thurs. Fri. "9-8 Sat. 9-2 975 Wallace N. (Zehrs Plaza) Listowel 291-2222 • . ^ • • • .",• reason why a person is so eager to offer advice. If a bride finds her mother -in- law -to -be taking a little too much interest in the wed- ding, she should stop and examine what's going on: maybe the woman always wonted a daughter of her oWn. The bride can then respond on this level instead of with anger and perhaps think of ways to get her fiance's mother more in- volved. Second, the couple should realize that all the advice they get won't be useless — especially when an adviee- giver has experience in the area. A harried bride and groom may feel that yet another opinion on where they should go for their honeymoon is the last thing they need, but if it's corning from a cousin who has traveled all over the world it could prove invaluable. Finally, the bride and groom must know how to stop listening and turn down unneeded advice. Since most advice -givers mean well, it's only kind for the couple to let them know that they do value their opinions even if they can't use all of them. But, at the sometime, they should make it clear that they are rejecting the ad- vice: "We've thought about what you said, but it's just not right for us," or "Thank you, but we've already decided on another plan." In the end, a couple must be able to say, "We did it our way." The joysof marriage are the heaven on earth, Life's paradise, great prin- cess the soul's quiet, Sinews of concord, earthly immortality, Eternity of pleasures; no restoratives Like to a constant woman. —John Ford COO1UNG IS EASY and low in calories for newlyweds with cookware coated with "SilverStone," the premium non- stick surface. A taste of the orient is moments away — crispy vegetables stir -fried in an electric wok. How-to's of trousseau giftgiving: Consider colour, fabric and style The most favored gift of any trousseau is intimate apparel. Whether you're the groom looking for this in- timate gift, or mother .of the bride, here are some simple shopping tips on how to •select your trousseau gift. Color is always a key factor when selecting an intimate gift. Keep a sharp eye on what the bride-to-be is wearing these days and which colors. she favors. Most likely what colors she wears outside reflect what she'd love to wear under- neath. Pale pa'stels and romantic prints look fresh this season. Shades such as nude and champagne, lavender, silver, rose, light blue and mint are among the newest. Soft colors also offer •greater wardrobe mileage because they can be worn under blouses and dresses of all shades when darker tones may be morelimiting. Seek out a salesperson to and loungewear are often sized similarly to dresswear and sportswear, either in 'numbered sizes or categoric- ally, Petite, Small, Medium or Large. Fitted innerwear styles, such as camisoles and full slips, are more often labeled by bust size. Unusual Buying wedding gifts used to be a piece of cake. All new brides needed the basica, from linens to food staples. Typidaily, a bride went dir- ectly from her parents' home to live with her hushand. She had no occasion to stock up on household goods in be- tween. But today's bride has often spent time living on her own. Whether she had her own apartment during work or school or shared a place with friends, she's acquired many of the items that once made logical wedding gifts. What she wants now is the icing on the cake — gifts that are classy and out of the or- dinary. Unusual kitchen gifts are among the easiest and often the most welcome ways to indulge a bride or groom. It's hard to buy a good set of towels if you don't know the color of a couple's bathroom or silk sheets if no one can remember the size of their bed. But everyone knows they have to eat, and most couples choose cooking over take-out, fast foods or frozen dinners. 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Wedding and shower gifts. • St..„ Wingbatti...15710..:0 102..NtainSt. W 1 istoN41.• 29-1-1661' 1\4ain ML SIellnittt0.,..9252340. • • • help you in the department; tell her the bride's color pre- ferences, then ask her advice about choosing styles and shades. Intimate apparel is sensu- ous by design but one im portant consideration in buying .is selecting the right fabrics. Not many brides today want to 'iron slips or send nightgowns to the dry cleaners, so look for easy - care, stain -resistant fabrics, One of the most luxurious fabrics offering the feel and look of silk combined with ease of care is "Qiana." "Qiana" fabrics not only drape beautifully with the look of pure elegance, but they are also hand . or machine washable. If the bride prefers a more cotton - like hand, look for blends with "Dacron" polyester for truly easy -care. • Selecting a style can be trying with so many beauti, ful designs this.season. In daywear, items such as a camisole with tap pants, a teddy, lacy full slips and chemises, are all 'great trousseau ideas. ' Most popular are long or short sleepwear gowns with matching coats, cozy pajamas, or ' short -length camisoles and chemise sets. Lace and embroidered trims , add final fashion touches. Loungewear styles in jumpsuits, pajamas and caftans are dual purpose and can. be worn for home enter- taining as well as for loung- ing. ' A quilted robe in "Qiana" satin makes a lovely gift, especially if your honeymoon is planned for. a cold weather spot. If the intimate details of siie is a question,' find out what sweater or dress size the bride wears. Sleepwear ized wedding ceremonies has influenced modern-day wed- ding cakes. In addition to writing their own vows and invitations, niany,i pouples, now design tlik.!own ; 'Wed- ding cakes.. Whether baked cookware is a dais y gift for, example, cleans quickly an easily, without scrub- bing. And because oil and butter is not necessary to keep food from sticking to the cookware's surface, Caloric intake is also re- duced. Here are some gift ideas that can spice up a couple's basic cookware collection. If the newlyweds enjoy ex- perimenting with new ways of cooking, treat them to an electric wok. With "Silver - Stone", they'll be able to cook meat, seafood or veget- ables in minutes, the lo -cal, Chinese way. If they both work and need to cook several days of meals at once — or if they fre- quently entertain large groups of people — consider an 11 -inch fryer that ean cook big batches of chicken. What about a dutch oven that roasts, braises and fries for up to 12 people or a jumbo fryer that can handle pork chops l'orange for eight? Don't forget the nonstick lasagna pans that also serve as a dessert pan. When a big Sunday brunch is your favorite couple's idea of wedded bliss, an electric griddle is a good choice for hot cakes and sausages that sizzle. Waffle makers with nonstick surface can also produce sandwiches and even giant Italian cookies called pizielles. For those who consider rainy weekends an excuse for baking binges, gift wrap cookie sheets, regular or by the bride herself or by .a friend or family member, a homemade cake offers a special touch to this most important day. A wedding cake you bake and decorate yourself pro- vides many opportunities for personal expression. You may choose a traditional white cake, or a family favorite, chocolate, marble, --reveir-a--ear-rote-ake. There is even more room for expression when it comes to decorating your cake. You can make roses, sweet peas, violets, daisies, lilies — any, flower to nhatch your bridal bouquet. Get the most from your wardrobe Women have long been concerned with the trous- seau — clothing bought to mark their entrance into married life. Today, more than likely, Choosing a honeymoon spot: the do's and don'ts What advice does Bride's magazine have for the couple planning a honey- moon? Be honest with each other. How do you both really want to spend your honeymoon? Hiking? Shopping? Or just lazing away on a beach? Make your plans early. You'll have a better chance of getting exactly the space at the time you want instead of being disappointed or hav- ing to pay more because the rooms in your price range are all taken. Take advantage of timing — with night -flight savings, weekday, excursion, and special fares on land and in the air. And be sure to in- vestigate off-season travel too. Write to airline tour de- partments, hotel chain head- quarters, and individual re- sorts for brochures, rate sheets, and honeymoon package details. the trousseau is simply a honeymoon wardrobe — a selection of slacks; skirts, shirts, . dresses and swim- suits to carry the bride ele- gantly through the post- marital whirl. Whether yOu're heading for a local resort or an exotic foreign locale, make sure to put together a wardrobe that is versatile, comfortable and good looking .. . and which is capable of withstanding the traumas of being crammed and crushed'inside a suitcase with a minimum of wrinkling. If you're setting out to up- date your wardrobe in time for your honeymoon, it's wise to choose new clothing. that blends with those pieces you already own and enjoy wearing. You'll make mote use of them after the honeymoon is over and, during the honey- moon, you'll be able to make more out of less. If you coordinate your honeymoon wardrobe around the color blue, for in- stance, with touches of red, yellow and white, you'll find that three or four basic Out- fits will become many more as you combine and re -com- bine pieces to your heart's content. 111 11, Getting Married? Order your flowers from Lewis Flowers in Wingham. Book your wedding this month and receive a discount. We are the most experienced Florists in Western Ontario. For silk or fresh flowers you cannot do better than ordering your flowers from us. Lewis Flowers 135 Frarices St. Wingham 357-3880 1 Y2 blocks south of the Wingham Public School. With us wedding flowers are a part'of our businesS - not a hobby, miniature calm pans, nib*: muffin pans, tart pans and tube cake pane. Do tie bride and groom. like -to go camping? Pets with eollawible bandies are made for packing with camp gear. True gourmets will ap- preciate heavy gauge alumi- num cookware. And anyone will realize the 0141000 being mitt s�ehg Itnivenwith nonstick blades. Easy cleanup applies just as well to cut -ting' edges as it does to cookware, Give .the newlyweds the "ingredients" for lir meat with easy clean P, and they'll cook happily ever after. Walk away -with a wedding! Rent everything god need from us. 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