The Wingham Advance Times, 1995-09-20, Page 8TILE WNW QOVANCETIMES
WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 20,1995
Battle against drinking and drivin increases in flnronBrnce
It's7iot art
accident when
alcohol is
involved
0 ne of the most difficult moments I have ex -
perienced of late came last Tuesday during
the installation of the new Huron -Bruce
chapter of Mothers Against Drunk Driving.
Sitting there among a crowd of fifty -plus con-
cerned citizens, I listened as MADD Canada execu-
tive director Jim Wideman read a poem that sums up
the consegvences of drinking and driving. 4t was an
emotional poem about the death of an innocent teen-
age girl - one that was published in this newspaper a
few weeks ago and is published here again today. •
I watched • the faces of Lynne and David Magee
who lost their son in July 1994; Barb Rintoul, who's
son died in the,same crash; others whose names Ido
not •know that
have experi-
enced the same
tragedy. It was a
difficult' oment
to wit ess as
they co ince to
grieve for their
loss. It made me
feel like I was Cameron J. Wood
violating a very personal moment.
Yet, I believe that those who gathered wanted to
share that moment. How else can you get the deadly
serious• message acrosswithout sharing a small part
of the emotions attached to the loss?
And it made me angry to see the tears in their eyes.
It made me angry to see how much they hurt over a
senseless tragedy...a tragedy that could have been
prevented.
• I also gained new respect for them. •
They are survivors.
Surviving a tragic loss is perhaps one of the great-
est feats of human kind. To be able to pull through
the emotional turmoil takes a certain kind of courage
- a unique passion,to take the loss and turn it around
to gain inner strength.
Ly11ne Magee has certainly shown this. Deter-
mined to prevent this loss from happening again, she
has battled those who told her others didn't care.
Come hell or high water were her own words for the
determination to get MADD up and running in Hu-
ron -Bruce. She has been the angry bull she uses to
describe herself as and charged at the red flags wav-
ing in our society.
To take on such a feat has also meant putting some
of her personal pain in the spotlight. Detractors have
said she has become obsessed with the mission; sup-
porters watch in awe. To become the focus of atten-
tion in these conditions means to take on the world
and often feeling alone in the battle. It means to chal-
lenge others to see the sense in the mission and to
never give up, despite the obstacles.
Such emotional trauma as the loss of a loved one is
something few can truly grasp. To use this as a moti-
vator-as•a reason to push towards a common goal of
prevention, takes guts: raw courage to stand up and
say this will not happen in our neighborhood again.
Often it means taking on the police departments, or
the politicians. Even the press, who so often lose in-
terest after the initial story has passed. Regardless of
reaction in the community at large, these three agen-
cies can often put an end to ambitious projects with a
disconcerning attitude.
So determined were all to get the chapter up and
running that they became the third most prosperous
money raisers in Canada with the red ribbon cam-
paign: this just months after burying two teenage
boys. This June they raised more money than any
other chapter with a local golf tournament.
Lynne, David and Barb have become our commu-
nity leaders. While others simply concern themselves
with how the roads get built or paved, they have tak-
en on the challenge of concerning themselves with
what happens after the roads are in place. They are
looking at why our highways have become battle
zones and why young people continue to perish on
them.
They are looking at the human elethent.
Death
on our
streets
By CAMERON J. WOOD
The Advance -Times
The'media image of his son's death
still haunts Jim Wideman. The televi-
sion newsclip of the car that plowed
into a hay wagon full of young teens,
the wrecked hobd covered with blood,
mostly his son's blood...the windshield
shattered when Wideman's child went
through it.
That Guelph -area crash was 11 years
ago. In Southwestern Ontario it be-
came one of the most talked about inci-
dents of drinking and driving in mod-
ern history: four teens killed when a
car driven by a drunk driver .played
`chicken' with the hay wagon, eventu-
ally slamming into it and killing, four.
innocent youths.
After a 'lengthy legal battle, Wide-
man the survivor has stepped into a po-
sition to help others cope with the trag-
ic loss of a loved one at the hands of
impaired drivers. The executive direc-
tor of Mothers Against Drunk Driving
Canada, he is determined to wipe this .
violent crime from society.
Wideman was in Wingham on Sep-
tember 12 to install the executive and
directors of the newly formed Huron -
Bruce MADD chapter. In doing so, he,
said the Canadian campaign has
moved from only a handful of chapters
in January of this year to 17.nation-
wide, with nine community action
teams building. towards full-fledged
recognition as chapters. In•fact, as this
newspaper goes to press, Wideman is
'in the Maritimes installing two more
chapters in the MADD campaign.
"We have a very focused mission,"
he said. "Our mission is to stop drunk
driving and to assist victims of this vi-
olent crime. We believe 'the 'oar is a
weapon - the same as a gun - when
operated by a drunk driver."
Wideman said the organization,
which does not rely on government
funding to maintain operations, will re-
lease a 50 -page document later this
year that will become "the engine that
drives MADD. The document details
the mission statement of the agency
and the strategic plan for educating
people on the evils. of drinking and
driving.
"MADD is not an abstinence
group...it is not a women's group. We
are here to stop the killing and the
carnage." They believe that drinking
and driving is a fully conscious act and
therefore incidents involving drunk
drivers cannot be classed as accidents.
Rather. Wideman says they are crashes
- with often tragic results - that could
have been prevented.
He said, in defining the scope of the
problem that in 1993, some 550 deaths
occurred in Ontario due to drinking
and driving: a rate of 1.5 deaths per
day. In 1992, 23 people died across
Canada in drunk driving crashes: over
three times the national homicide rate.
"And yet, when you look at the
amount of resources that police depart-
ments across this country have allocat-
ed to homicide...one of the things we
are pushing for is to have a RIDE divi-
sion at each police station,", he said,of
their mandate:
Their mission is four -fold. Primari-
ly, they focus on victim.support, not by
professionals but rather by people who
have experienced the same emotional
trauma. When necessary, MADD acts
. as a resource'agency, putting survivors
in touch with :the, professional help
they may need.
Wideman spoke of a recent situation
when he had' theparents of a teenage
girl in his office.. They had just loss
their daughter in a crash involving
drinking and driving. The impaired
driver of the other vehicle was some-
one they knew well. Wideman said the
father was homicidal as he spoke in his
office that day.
"The father made it clear to Me that
day he was going to kill this young
man. He had every intention of killing
him and I could see that he had every
intention."
Wideman and his associates were
.able to move quickly ,and get the par-
ent:'s.'the professional help they needed
to avoid a potentially dangerous situa-
tion..
MADD• also targets the court system
and monitors the progress of victim
families, helping them cope with the
trial process - including difficult mo-
ments dealing with lawyers who have
little concern for victim rights.
Focusing on education and public
awareness, MADD is, able to reach me
into the community at large to spread"
the message. An extensive school pro-
gram entitled Close to Home informs
teens about the consequences' of drink-
ing and driving. Along with a video
presentation. the students also get to
New executive...after extensive efforts by some deter-
mined local people, the Huron -Bruce MADD chapter was installed on
September 12. The first executive is, left to right, David Magee, vice-
president, Sylvia Cameron, secretary, Lynne Magee president, Barb
Rintoul, treasurer and MADD Canada executive director Jim Wideman.
hear first hand about the tragedies
through personal testimonies. One
such program took place on September
19 at F.E. Madill in Wingham. Others
have already been in Huron County
schools.
Wideman figures that over 700,000
students in five Canadian provinces
have sat, through a Close to Home ses-
sion.
"We believe if we can stop one stu-
dent from drinking and driving it's
worth it all," he said.
The Red Ribbon Campaign is per-
haps MADD's biggest public aware-
ness program annually. The program
asks people to tie a red ribbon on their
car, signifying that they will not drink
and drive. Wideman estimates that
some three million ribbons will be
passed out in 1995. •
And perhaps their biggest challenge
rounds out MADD's mandate: legisla-
tive change. Wideman said the support
of the federal and provincial govern-
ments is integral in this aspect being
successful. Graduated licensing was a
major issue addressed by the organiza-
tion; which was introduced in 1994.
Wideman said they are also hoping
to see the creation of administrative li-
" cense suspension, similar to that im-
posed in hunting and angling. Hunters
and anglers who poach can have not
The Death
1 went to a party mom,
I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink mom,
So I drank soda instead.
I felt really proud inside mom,
Just like you said I would,
I didn't drink and drive mom,
Even though others said I should
I know I did the right thing mom,
I know you're always right.
Now the party is finally ending,
As everyone drives out of sight.
As I got into my car mom,
I know I'd get home in one piece,
Because of the way you raised me,
So responsible and sweet
I started to drive away mom,
But as I pulled out into the road,
The other car didn't see me,
And hit me like a load.
As I lie here on the pavement mom,
I hear the policeman say,
The other guy was drunk mom,
And now I'm the one who'll pay
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I'm lying here dying mom,
I wish you'd get here soon.
How come this happened to me mom,
My life burst like a balloon.
There is blood all around me mom,
Most of it is mine,
I hear the paramedic say,
I'll die in a very short time.
I just want to tell you mom,
I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others mom,
The others didn't think.
He didn't know where he was going
morn,
He was probably at the same party as I,
the only different is
He drank and I will die.
The guy who hit me is walking mom,
I don't think that's fair.
I'm lying here dying,
While all he can do is stare.
Someone should have told him mom,
Not to drink and drive.
1f only they'd have taken time,
1 would still be alive.
Why do people drink mom?
It can ruin your whole life.
I'm feeling sharp pains now,
Pains just like a knife.
My breath is getting shorter mom,
I'm becoming very scared.
Please don't cry for me mom,
When I needed you, you were always
there.
Tell my brother not to cry,
Tell daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven mom,
Write 'Daddy's Girl' on my grave.
I have one last question mom,
Before I say goodbye,
I didn't ever drink,
So why am I the only to die?
This is the end mom,
1 wish 1 could took you in the eye,
To say these final words mom,
I love you and goodbye)
only their license suspended, but also
have the gun and automobile seized
immediately.
"We want the police to have the
same kind of ability to make an admin;
istrative license suspension for an im-,
paired person for 90 days. That means
you would have to get into court.with-
in 90 days to prove your innocence or
guilt on the charges.
"We are not taking a person's right
to justice away. We are simply saying
that if you are charged with impaired
driving your license is gone until you
have gone to court."
They are also pushing for vehicle
suspension for those convicted of im-
paired driving' As, dramatic as this may
sound, six of the current provincial
cabinet ministers support this action.
Which to some may not be a bad
thing considering that on a weekend
evening, one in every eight drivers you
pass on the highway has been drinking
before getting behind the wheel.
• Approximately one hundred' thou-
sand Canadians are seriously in-
jured or permanently maimed by im-
paired drivers every year •
• Impaired driving is our most perva-
sive form of taw breaking and Our
most frequently conitrnitted plaint
crime
• About 2,500 Canadians are .killed
by impaired drivers every year.. It IS
estimated that over 50% of allifatal
crashes are alcohol related
• In Ontario, roadside surveys show
that one of every eight cars ori the
road on a weekend evening is driven
by a drunk driver
• There are about 30,000 alcohol re-
lated crashes in Ontario every year,
or one every 1 inutes. National.
ly there is one evety five minutes
• The cost of aledffuf related ctashi s.
exceeds one billion dollars annually
-- a staggering cost which we pay fi r
in increased insurance premiums
• Automobile crashes kill more of our
young people, under the age Of 211;
than all other'caiutet of death cone
biped:
ttrapaired driving by them is • the
single largest killer of that age
group, followed by suicide.
Oyer 40% of alt those killed amour
highwato are under the age of . .