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Home My WebLink AboutThe Goderich Signal-Star, 1976-12-16, Page 9.(,ret,.:: The 0,0.x:4 -giving Give; Give! scream the ads in the newspaper. Give! Give!, the strident voice ow the TV urgeea` < Yes, this . is the season of the' . obligatory 'gift. A season when Giving becomes ,Big Business,.:M barter and bribe, payment for past favors, insurance for future ones. A time of mandatory giving,when one feels obliged or expected to give to people one hardly, knows, or even, perhaps, hardly•even likes. Commercialism has, invaded private giving, depersonalizing what should be purely personal. Bel Kaufman, in an excellent article in the Catholic Digest points out that many sins are committed in. the nameof giving; though the styles of giving vary. She says the tit-for-tat giver balances his bounty : on some. invisible but rigid Inner scale, a niggardly scale that measures all the input and the output: The:martyr-giver sees only his own generosity reflected like a • glossy retouched photograph of. himself. The, overwhelming giver ovrgive out of inadequacy or guilt or the need to impress.: The trumpeting giver loudly proclaims • his generosity. The •non -giver pretends to give everything but gives nothing.• Fortunately, however; on the other end of the scale, there area, the beautiful givers who Natfe empathy, imagination, gusto, humor,.. deftness, affection, in- finite tact, and a capacity for pleasure. Somehow, these are the ones. who know.. how to make the recipient feel that it is he who is the giver: They are the festive people who may exclaim, "Hurray ! I guessed right! You do like'. it!" Or they 'are unafraid to show unabashed pleasure that their gift is being appreciated by beaming "Thank you for wearing . that scarf, I knew it would match the/color of your eyes!" • These are the gifted, guileless givers. Unfortunately, they are rather scarce. Others find it difficult to even give the time of day. They are, slow to divulge the information after looking at. their watch. reluctantly. Parting with money is a trauma for thein': They need to be repeatedly reminded, asked, even begged far it, and thanked over and over again. For an ounce of giving they must extract their pound of flesh. A'.gift can be eloquent or very silent. It can say, "To me you are special," or "You see, I ' remember," or it can say loudly. and clearly, "I can't . -be bothered," or "You're not im- portant to me." • Giving is always a giving up of something: money, objects,•time, privacy, energy or emotion. How, and how much and what is something we all weigh on that inner calibrated scale of give, and take. Love is the ultimate giving, an expression of one's best self. As Ms.- Kaufman says, "Without love, the art of giving is a mere etiquette." A homemade boxofbrownies,a child's pot holder made in Arts and Crafts, a friend sitting through the night at the bedside of a sick friend, a father carefully repairing a much loved toy, all these are gifts given in praise and sympathy and laughter and. love. Whengiving comes directly from the heart, because one wants to give and not because one has to, it can never disappoint or embarrass. The art of giving lies in its very artlessness. It is a talent, a gift. Those who haveit are touched with `grace..And those who, have received from them will remain. forever rich: . 111 THESE , FAlIEEll WALTER HAWTHORNE Walter Hawthorne, Goderich, died at his home Wednesday,. December 8. He was 89. ' He Was born February 17, 1887 in Egmondville and was. a miller at. Purity Flour Mills _until his retirement in 1952. He was a member of Knox Presbyterian' Church., Surviving are his wife, the former Ruby Stothers; qne daughter, Doris of Goderich; five sons, Robert and Charles of Hamilton; Franklin of Lucknow,:• Donald of Toronto; and John of Beaverton; and ten grandchildren. Funeral service was Saturday, December 11 at McCallum Funeral Home with the Rev. G. L. Royal officiating. —Interment was in Maitland Cemetery. Pallbearers were Mr. Hawthorne's five sons and his grandson, Cameron Hawthorne. . MRS. E.A. OVERHOLT,e Mrs. Elma Alice Overholt, 239 Huron Rd., Goderich, died December 7 in Alexandra General and Marine Hospital :ollowing a' lengthy illness. She was9. She was born November 26, 1907 in Port Arthur to Albert and Maria Irene (Hennessey) Hill. She was nfarried February 11, 1929 in Windsor • to Emerson John Overholt who 'died September 20,1972. She carne to Goderich in 1933 and was ,a member of St. ,George's Anglican Cha ch, She is • survived . by one daughter, Mary Ann Overholt,' Goderich; one sister, . Mrs.: Jack (11a) Fellows, Goderich; and one brother:, George Hill. She was predeceased by one -brother, Paul Hill. The funeral service was Yea. though 1 wolh thiough the valley. of the shadow of death. t shall fear no evil. for Thou art with me. —23rd Psalm Friday, December -10 at Stiles Funeral Horne with the Rev. Robert J. Crocker offii Eating., It terment was in, Maitland Cemetery. Pallbearers were Jack Simons, Waterdown;. Charles Baker, Orangeville; George Sager, John Overholt, • Jack Fellows•and Jim• Fellows, all of Goderich. MRS. E.A. HUNTER Mrs.' Elizabeth '.Agnes 'Hunter, 49 Market St., Goderich, died at Goderich Nursing Home December 10 following a lengthy illness. -She was 85. • 'She was born December 15, 1890 in Goderich. Township to.. John Wilson and Agnes. (Jack) S.alkeld. She lived in Goderich Township until moving to Goderich in 1942• She was a graduate of Goderich Collegiate and MacDonald .Institute at Guelph where she studied home ecdnomics. She was a member of St. George's Anglican Church. She was married November 10, 1945• in St. George's Anglican 'Church to John Irving Hunter who survives. Also surviving are her stepchildren, Mrs. Jean Barclay, London; Mrs. Pearl Barry, Thorald; and Miss • Grace Hunter, Goderich; five grandchildren ' and one great grandchild. She was predeceased by one stepson, F1: Sgt. John Thompson Hunter, lost over Holland during the Second World War; also one 'brother; Gra•hain. -Salkeld in 1957 at Isham, Saskatchewan. There are four nieces and one nephew -surviving in Saskatchewan. ' Funeral service was Sunday, December 12 at Stiles Funeral Home with the SUNDAY, DECEMBER 19th I AT HURON MEN'S CHAPEL AUBURN "CHRISTMAS • PLAY" 1., 'o he married The Reverend and Mrs. Kennison Lawton of Goderich are happy to announce the forthcoming marriage of their son Asa William Lawton to Ramona AnitaeMidkiff of Tornado, West Virginia. Asa Lawton is attending Bible Missionary Institute in Rock Island, Illinois, where he is preparing for the ministry. Ramona Anita Midkiff attended Bible Missionary .Institute for four year's and graduated with a degree in Christian Education. She is the daughter of Mrs. Dalton L. Midkiff of RockIslan-d, Illinois, and•the late Dalton L. Midkiff of Tornado, West Virginia. The .wedding will take' place in Moline, .Illinois, on Friday, December 17, 1976, at 7:00 p.m., with the father of the groom officiating. The Rev. Kennison Lawton is the pastor of the Bethel Holiness Chapel Bible Missionary Church in Goderich'. •'•Dr•. ' Toll, . of • Seaforth, arranged and introduced a musical program on ,Sunday afternoon. • The Seaforth Citizens Band which includes artists from • the Seaforth, Dashwood and Mitchell area played several marches and - Christmas carols. There were 'dance numbers by Sylvia Wilson, Lora and Lisa Strong; vocal duets by Paul Stewart' and Ann Allen; Cathy and Vicki Ororke; Jack : Geiser and: Stanley'Haist. • ' . Peter Malcolm played two selections on the_ bagpipes and ' Douglas Stewart led a carol sing accompanied by Miss • Papple. Pearl Gidley thanked the entertainers on behalf of the residents. The annual Christmas Fair' was held on Monday which • gives the residents an 'op- portunity to do some shop- ping. • The • gifts were displayed on tables in the auditorium. The event is sponsored by the Huronview •Auxiliary with gift's and donations from several groups in the County. Tea and Bookies were Served 'in the craft room in the afternoon by the Auxiliary. Twenty, members of the .. Clinton Old Tyme Club en- tertained . on Family Night with a program of music and dancing. The evening brought back many happy memories to the residents who had not seen some of the •old . time dances for 40 years such as Rev. Robert J. Crocker of- ficiating. Interment was in Maitland Cemetery. Pallbearers were Andy and John Barry, John Thompson, Elmer Hunter, Len Boyce and Horton Talmay. the •waltz country, French • • GODER ICH SIGNAL -STAR, THURSD:AYi, DECEM BE.H 16,19711—•PAGE M Local Baha'i mark Human Rights On December 8, the Baha'is •of Goderich and District joined with millions of people in communities around. the world to co,;snttemorate Hsi-R.iglllts Dee - r.� :