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Traditions guide modern weddings
When today's modern
-maple decides to unite in
holy matrimony, the
happy he and she have
years and years of
traditional customs and
etiquette to guide them,
step by step, through the
wedding festivities.
Nearly everything from
the bride's white gown to
who sits, where has roots
in a bygone era. Folk
magic and ancient
superstition have
bequeathed to us most of
the outward symbols
associated with weddings,
'while etiquette is still
dictated by the more
-triational viW of proper
behaviour.
The first image that
usually Mmes to mind
when one thinks of
weddings is a, bride at
tired in a lovely white
gown. Contrary to the
popular -belief, the color
white is not meant to
indicate purity but rather
it symbolizes joy. The
early Romans wore white
when attending feasts,
births and other joyous •
celebrations: And to the
ancient Greeks, a, single
white rose was con-
sidered the supreme
symb'otof• joy. „
Credit for inventing the
wedding ring belongs to
the early Egyptians who
looked upon the circle
shape as a symbol of
eternity, a sign that life,
happiness and love have
no beginning or end.
Placement of the ring on
the third finger of the left
hand stems from the
ancients who believed the
vein in that particular
finger ran directly to the
heart — the most direct
route for love to iravei.
Another familiar
practice, tossing ricet
the newlyweds, hails
from the days when
nearly everyone lived off
the :land and mere
existence depended upon
a good harvest and
having plenty of children
to help with the work.
These more primitive
people believed the bride
and grqom spread good
luck on their wedding day
and anyone or anything
that touched them would
absorb some of that luck.
Because of this, the
guests showered the
couple with ripe grain or
nuts, wishing an abun-
dant harvest for them-
selves and a large family
for the newlyweds.
Although Marie
Antoinette's "Let them
eat cake" was not said to
an inquiring caterer
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Keep calendar
of events
for quick checking
Every bride needs a "calendar of events" to
help her keep the organization of planning well
attended to. -
To keep every bride frown free and carefree
right up to the alter, here is a calendar for quick
checking.
THREE MONTHS BEFORE
+Decide upon the type. of wedding, whether
forinal or .informal.
+Consult with your clergyman to arrange
necessary details.
+Make up your guest list, consult with the
bridegrooms.' family.
+Make arrangements for reception, catering
and music.
+Contact a professional photographer and book
in your date and time.
--±thoose your bridal party; order your gown and
plan what the bridesmaids will wear.
+Select your silver pattern as well as your china
and crystal, and register your choices with the
store or stores of your choice.
+Decide on decor and furnishings for your home
or apartment.
TWO MONTHS BEFORE
+Order your invitations, announcements and
personal stationery.
+Buy now what you will need and use for your
trousseau.
+Set a date forwedding rehearsal and -arrange
the rehearsal party.
ONE MONTH TO GO
+Address and mail invitations.
+Buy gifts for attendants and bridegroom, and
make plans for luncheon for your attendants:
+Try to have your friends give showers now and,
then finish your shopping for lingerie, linens and
household furnishings.
+Check up on outfits for bridal party and have
fittings for your wedding gown.
+Arrange for a photographer to be present at
the final fitting or arrange for a formal studio
portrait.
+Buy your bridegroom's wedding ring and he
should get yours. Go with him to apply for a
marriage licence and have premarital physical
examinations.
+Remind the bridgegroom to order bouton-
nieres and flowers for wedding party and for the
two mothers.
+Consult your caterer about reception menu
and cake. Take up the matter of decoration with
the florist.
+Arrange accomodation for out of town guests.
ONE WEEK LEFT
+Send wedding announcement to local paper.
+Check on the arrival of gowns, trousseau
items.
+Make 'beauty shop appointment for wedding
hairdo.
+Have bridesmaids' luncheon.
THE DAY BEFORE
+Tell somone your honeymoon itinerary and
arrange for someone to check your new home
while you are gone.
+Go to hairdresser's early, and then to wedding
rehearsal and dinner.
+Check your luggage and go to bed early --to
sleep.
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trying to plan her wed-
ding reception, it would
nevertheless have been
an appropriate remark in
her time just as it would
be today since wedding
cakes have beep around
nearly as long as wed-
dings themselves. Guests
in Elizabethan England
piled up little cakes over
which the bride and
groom had to kiss without
causing the stack to faII.
When it did, the guests
would then bombard the
couple with crumbs and
eat the pieces. It was, at
the time, a way of passing
luck _and . fertility back -
and forth between guests
and newlyweds. When a
creative French, baker
decided to ice all the little
cakes together in one
stack the intidern tiered'
wedding cake came into
existence.
One of the most im-
portant participants in
nearly every wedding
ceremony is the best man
although his modern
duties are a little less
"physical" than they
used to be. Long ago,
when a young man fell in
love, he didn't take kindly
to social formalities. He
merely forced his way
into the. girl's home and
kidnapped her. To insure
their quick and safe get-
away, he brought along a
friend to deal with pur-
suers. If the girl hap-
pened to have more than
one brother, he brought
along-, several -friends.
Today, the groom's ac-
complices are his best
man and ushers.
Although not as
shrouded 'In 'ancient folk
lore and superstition as
the more noticeable
outward practices,
proper wedding etiquette
More than one way
to change your name
If Lew Alcindor can
become Kareem Abdu
Jabbar, it shouldn't seem
mit of line for David
Camesi to change han-
dles and emerge as David
Champion.
There is, of course, a
twist. When Camesi was
married on Christmas
Day, he dropped his last
name and took his bride's
brin.ging- not --just --a- -few
jokes downon their
heads.
"What was your
husband's maiden
name?" is- the one his
wife, Janice Champion,
an air traffic controller,
hears most often.
Over at California State
University where the
former David Camesi is
an associate professor of
music-, the reaction was
more liberal.
"I think it made'a lot of
people realize that many
of us are stuck with
names' we never have
• liked. Now that I've done
it, I think others. see they
can be more free with
thcir
desire."
"I liked her name. In
fact, I loved it," says the
bearded musician.
Janice on the other
hand, was slightly taken
aback by the proposal.
"We had joked about it,
then he became serious
and did it, officially
becoming a Champion,
the week before we
became married.
- When the idea
originally took root,
David decided to go to the
•library to see what had
been written on the
subject before consulting
an attorney.
"It couldn't have been
more to the point. I found
a book entitled "How to
Change Your Name".
Written by David Loeb,
author of an often used
quickie divorce manual,
it outlined step-by-step,
the procedures and forms
needed to legally change
your name.
It was not unlike a how
to repair your own
Volkswagen book, says
Champion, echoing the
sentiments of the author
who s ays, "It doesn't take
a lawyer to do a perfectly
acceptable name
change."
He could have, he says,
just begun using the new
name, thus "officially"
changing it' by what is
known as the "usage
method,"
1 chose was more direct,
and certainly more im-
pressive in that it
provides a legal -looking
document to substantiate
the change.
Called the , Court
Petition Method, he
merely copied the book's
, forms onto legal paper,
rcgis-tered them with the
clerk of the Supreme
Court, ran a notice of
intent in the newspaper,
and had his minute or two
in court. And that, as they
say, was that.
As long as yoxere not
taking a famous name, or
changing' your name to
get out of bad dehts, it's
the court's duty to allow
1, it. In all, the entire two-
month • procedure cost
him under $100.
The method he finally
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has been around for
many years also. Most of
the social rules governing
wedding amenities have
been passed down from
experts although no one is
quite sure who the ex-
perts are.
For ' instance, it is
always considered best to
be formal when ad-
dressing invitations. On
the outside envelope
write Mr. and Mrs. John
Jones and on the inside
envelope it is Mr. and
Mrs. Jones. The address
should be written on the
outside envelope only. If
chi -Id -rep are -tote Invited, -
always write out their full
names, never just write
"and family".
Ushers. too, should be
well - versed in praper
seating etiquette. As each
woman guest enters, an
usher should inquire as to
which side she belongs
and then escort her to the
best seat available. If two
women arrive together,
each should be escorted
by an usher. It is con-
sidered polite to seat the
eldest first.
Small gifts for the
attendants in the wedding
party are a nice way for
the bride and groom to,
show their appreciation.
The bride chooses and
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