The Goderich Signal-Star, 1985-10-23, Page 19Shopping . is.. a universal pastime. If, you
decided to take a survey of the Peopjte in a
room on whether they enjoyed shopping or
not, the. outcome would probably be a
unanimous yes.
This past weekend over 3,500 value wise
shoppers travelled from as far away as
Owen Sound to the Colborne Township
Christmas Country Fair at Saltford. Valley
Hall to get some good buys on quality
merchandise. Forty-five vendors were on
hand selling their handcrafted wares.
"Coming to the fair puts me in the
Christmas spirit. I get good ideas on what to
buy people for Christmas," said Mary
Fuller, of Goderich.
"I also enjoy taking a look at the different
exhibits. It's really remarkable to see what
people can do with their hands and a little
creativity," she said.
A craft maker, Suzanne Hickson, of
Goderich said she comes to the fair for
ideas.
"I also enjoy finding out what the different
vendors charge. Handcrafted goods are
cheap, compared to the number of hours
that have to be put in making them," she
said.
A fun afternoon is what attracts Ettabelle
Bradley, also of Goderich.
"I come to see the different crafts, do my
Christmas shopping and meet my friends,
she said."
Every year May Hallam, of Auburn
comes to the fair. "I enjoy coming to see the
different exhibits. All of the the exhibits are
good and pleasant to look at," she said.
"People like to buy something well made
for a reasonable price. When they deal with
the craftsperson, they eliminate the middle
man and that saves them money," said
Maria Presseau.
"Each piece they buy has a story behind
it. The most enjoyable thing about a gift is
the energy that a person puts into choosing
it. Whenever I go to a show, I always buy a
couple of items for myself," she said.
Vendor, Mike Brown said the fair at
Saltford Valley Hall is his favorite.
"People enjoy coming to crafts shows
because they know the items available are
going to be of excellent quality. They know
' that the show is being held for a good
cause," he said.
"The people at this show are out of this
world. I go to 157 shows and deal with
hundreds of people and I enjoy coming to
this craft fair most of all. I even picked up a
few items for my family."
The three day fair attracted close to 3,500
eager shoppers and was very successful
according to Donna Crawford, the fair
organizer.
"The num bej of people that attended the
fair was down from last year. But the
vendors were happy and they had good
sales. Many of them are making plans
already to return next year," Crawford
said.
Here Vasco Brancovic displays rock art. He was one of the 45 vendors on hand for the three day Colborne
Township Christmas Country Fair sponsored by the Order of the Eastern Star.
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Attendance for this year's fair was down according to Donna Crawford, organizer of the three day event. Here
Mary Lee Presseau, a vendor at the fair. shows six -month-old Gregory Bechtel how affectionate her i.ollipop
dolls can be.
I'm becoming
a member of a
blended family
As a child, I loved to pour over my
parents' wedding album pointing out my
aunts, uncles and grandparents and
marvelling at their youthful ap-
pearances. But, I was always baffled by
one thing—why wasn't I in the pictures?
Of course, I've since figured out the
answer. And, this Friday, I'll be actually
taking part in my Dad's second marriage
(and I might even get in some of the
tures).
Though it will be a quiet, family affair,
my Dad's marriage will celebrate the
joining of two families into' a larger
whole. For me, it will mean a mixture of
emotions with an overriding feeling of
well-being.
When my Mom died three years ago,
my sisters and I made it clear that my 45 -
year -old Dad would have our support if
he ever decided to remarry. One of his
gond friends assured me that my Dad
was the type of man who was "good at
being married" so my sisters and I
shouldn't be •surprised if a second mar-
riage was soon in coming.
And, he was right. My Dad was soon
bored and unhappy with accompanying
his male friends to the local bars. And,
my sisters and I were worried and
unhappy when we were continually leav-
ing him at home alone with he televi-
sion.
When he began to "date", it sePured we
were placed in the parental position of
judging his choices, monitoring t he time
he got home at night and worrying about
his whereabouts. But, it didn't take long
until we were forced to realize Ire was
capable of making sound, adult decisions
and could look after himself. In short , we
started to mind our own business.
Along with playing the concerned
parent, my sisters and I also went
through a stage of playing the deserted
• child. -especially .=right after . my Mom
died.
I, in particular, was hurt and jealous
when he began dating a woman with a
daughter named Suzie. While logic told
nye that nothing could threaten my Dad's
love for me, I was amazed at the force (1f
my emotional neediness and selfishness
when her name was mentioned. The
adult in me said, "Grow up," but the
child in nie said, "You're being replac-
ed."
I'm not sure if I ever told my Dad about
these feelings cbut he'll find out (ince he
reads this). After a bit of childish wino-
ing to a supportive audience, the adult in
me prevailed.
With time cane the dulling of my paiii
over my Mom's death and the realization
that it was okay for my family to be hal)-
py again. When my Dad met Marlene
and they became increasingly serious
about each other, i was i and still arn
happy and content.
While my sisters and I and Marlow's
three kids (who are close to our ages
eyed each other a little warily al first,
we've come to enjoy each other's com-
pany and I'm glad we'll be joining each
other's family.
I'm hesitant to call Marlene my step-
mother since she's nowhere near the hor-
ror stories accompanying that ominous
title. She's become a loved and trusted
friend and ally of nay sisters and me. I've
often admired her patience and generosi-
ty when dealing with our sometimes (lift
ficult family.
i've also admired her courage at prov-
ing into my Dad's house where the
presence of my mother is still strongly
felt with the gardens, pictures nn the
walls and our family stories. Though i've
experienced some irrational yet uncom-
fortable feelings about it, I think it's right
that she's been adding her own touches t n
the house which is now her Home even
more than its mine though i lived there
more than 20 years.
I sometimes wonder if I would have a
different, more selfish attitude towards
the marriage if i was still 16 and living at
. home. Could six kids ranging in ages only
five years apart possibly mesh into one
contented family without considerable
fireworks'. The Brady Bunch, afterall
was a television show, not real life.
The question, of course, is academe
since we'll never know. But, according to
an article in Ms. magazine, a large
number of stepfamilies is trying to make
them work. Out of the one in two mar-
riages that end in divorce in the United
States, half of them involve children and
80 per cent of the divorced adults
remarry. Therefore, it's estimated that
1,300 new stepfamilies are being formed
each day in the U.S.
Though, I don't have the statistics for
Canada, 1 think it's safe to say our situa-
tion is far from rare. You could even say
we're becoming part of a trend by
becoming a "blended family."
But, on a much deeper level, I feel good
about Friday's wedding. I'm confident
we'll all develop close and caring rela-
tionships.
Welcome Marlene, Mike, Doris and
Andy; I'm happy we're family.