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children antj lova ,heads. Elegant clothes,
age-old ritijal'alid A spirit of nostalgia are
the rute.
But does Swing -back mean that all In-
novation la out of style? Does the ride of
today really have a wedding that is in-
distinnishatlle from the one her mother or
graritraather had?
"Yon need to look more closely to see
what's, happened," says Barbara Tober,
Editor -in -Chief of BRIDE'S Magazine.
"Today's weddings do seek out the best
and most beautiful traditions of the past --
in contrast to a few years ago when anything
old was automatically suspect. But, at the
same time, they're very, very modern in
that they express new ideals."
Fewer "rules" of etiquette plus a climate
that favors personal expression have led
couples to add their own creative touch.
"But tOilay's individuality is very different
from the 'do your own thing' brand of the
last decade," says Mrs. Tober.
Couples don't throw out the whole
ceremony and start from scratch; they
must change or add little things. For exam-
ple, they have their own special music
played, have a little girl instead of a boy as a
ring bearer, or pass out printed ceremony
"programs."
Modern weddings also break with the past
over the ideal of equality. Today's bride
may be dressed in a demure turn -of -the -
century style, but that isn't necessarily in-
dicative of her approach to marriage. For
example, because couple after couple decid-
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. honor,
,and obey" and `44140 and wife" Just Mier '1
fit anymore, these Phrases. have largely'
disaPPearexl,
"giving away" (a pan of some
ceremonies in which the celebrant asigs;
"Who gives this woman in marriage") has
also ebanged with the times. TaflaY,. aVOW
pie Might rewrite the question to, read,
"Who blesses this marriage," witb both the
bride's and groom's parents answering "We
do."
The same kind of thinking has likewise
revised the idea of who pays for a wedding.
Traditionally, the bride... parents
shouldered the whole bilk
"But for the first time," say&Afirs. Tober,
"there's a definite trend toward the sharing
of expenses by the groom's family." This is
partly economic — inflation for some
families means everyone has to chip in for.
there to be a wedding atall.
Rid it's also a sign of the times. A bride's
parents are no longer considered to be
"marrying off" their daughter. Rather, the
wedding is seen as a joining of two people
and two families.
Finally, equality means a new role in the
wedding for today's groom. In the past, a
groom often felt like a spectator at his
bride's "big day." Modern couples simply
take for granted that it's his wedding to&
Grooms have new responsiblities: They
help pick the wedding site, choose china pat-
terns, address invitations and write thank -
you notes. And they bask in a larger share of
the limelight: Some men wear engagement
rings, appearwith the fiancees in
newspaper announcements, and even have
showers thrown in their honor.
Her polyester organza gown is reminiscent of lady Diana's vAin the full sleeve touched with lace.
A matching wide brimmed hat with net and .veiling add romance. His silver grey tuxedo has satin
notched lapels and wing, collared shirt with matching satin tie.
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