The Goderich Signal-Star, 1982-12-15, Page 4PAGE 4—GODERICH SIGNAL -STAR, WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 15, 1982
DAVE
SYKES
Q 7-;
It is difficult to speculate on whether son
Bradley's recent surgery left more scars on
the parents than the little guy.
To be honest, the ordeal was distressing
for both parties but the three of us are well
into the recuperative stage now. Despite
unwarranted pleas to the contrary, medical
authorities have assured us that the Sykes
family will survive.
Bradley was scheduled foe eye surgery
Monday, December 13 and in ' the weeks
leading up to the operation, Mrs. Sykes and I
were actively engaged in giving out
preparatory and explanatory talks on the
process. Of course, at 20 months of age, the
little guy undoubtedly failed to grasp much
of the second-hand knowledge we passed
along.
At that age, kids are not only trusting of
their parents, they tend to believe the bulk of
information they are fed. Bradley was no
exception and he appeared somewhat bored
as we regaled his mind with stories of
doctors, nurses, hospitals and operations.
His attitude was rather nonchalant as if
to tell us that he had an understanding of the
entire situation that belied his young age.
Despite our meticulous
understood that he didn't understand.
preparation, we
After admission to the hospital, the little
guy took great delight in examining every
room and corner of the hospital as if he was
head of an' inspection team. Occassionally
he would escape our custody and poke other
kids through the bars of the cribs as they lay
motionless, trying to get some deserved
rest. His enthusiastic intrusipns did not
always meet with enthusiastic responses.
Like all other parents at the hospital, we
played the game of trying to get the child to
sleep before slipping away unobtrusively. It
tends to gtiminate tearfift goodbyes as the
child stands in the crib screaming.
5o all the parents wait and wait and wait
and of course -children never go to sleep in
hospitals. It's a rule of nature.
5b the scenario eventually develops to the
point where parents have to leave the
building and as they walk down the hall can
hear their child screaming violently while
issuing sobbing pleas for mom and dad. It
tends to rip your heart out.
Despite assurances from nurses'that your
child would indeed settle down within
minutes of your departure, parents know the
score. Nurses are paid to lie and talk in
comforting tones.
With surgery scheduled for for the first
thing in the morning, Mrs. Sykes wanted to
be at the hospital before the little guy was
wheeled away. On our arrival it was obvious
he had been crying wg and mother was 1 t
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convinced to remove her son from this
seemingly uncaring"place.
Both mother and Bradley were ultimately
convinced of the irrationality of their
behaviour but it led Mrs. Sykes to remark
that no-one could replace a mother's love.
But the worst was yet to come.
At 8.30 a.m. Bradley was called to meet
his masked surgeon. They plopped his tiny
frame onto an expansive bed and wheeled
him down to surgery as he wailed and
flopped about. All through the floor you
could hear this frantic little voice yelling,
"mom, dad" between screams.
Mrs. Sykes was visibly shaken by the
whole ordeal and suggested he would never
forgive his parents for putting him through
such a frightening ordeaL
While his eye is still puffy and black and
blue, the little guy seems willing to keep us
o,l foe a while. Fol the time being anyway.
BLUE
RIBBON
AWARD
1979
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Who's been had?
The Minister of Community and Social Services, Frank
Drea, has accused Huron -Middlesex Liberal MPP, Jack
Riddell of "being had" by his constituents.
The comment came from Drea in the Legislature after
Riddell had presented him with a petition on behalf of
thousands of area residents protesting the closure of the
Bluewater Centre for the Developmentally Handicapped.
Along with the petition, Riddell -presented about 700hand-
written letters, most of which were addressed to Drea and
Premier William Davis.
While at least 235 of the letters were addressed to Drea,
he suggested in the Legislature that more than half of
them were written by the same person and that the
member "had been had."
Certainly the members of the union who conducted the
letter -writing blitz Saturday, November 27 will rightfully
admit that they wrote many of the letters. They were
general letters written in protest of the ministry's decision
to close the Bluewater Centre.
However, while the letters may have been written by a
few, they were all signed by concernced citizens, without
provocation. The union only spared the people the time it
takes to compose a letter of protest. Every letter
presented to Drea was signed by a concerned and con-
senting adult. The fact that many of the letters may have
been authored by the same person is irrelevant.
Drep's comment was not becoming of a minister but
serves to reflect on the manner in which he announced the
closure of six centres across the province. The only people
"being had" ere the people affected by the closures in the
catchment area.
Heading in right direction
There is probably a great deal of moaning and groaning
among secondary school students following the an-
nouncement by Ontario Education Minister Bette
Stephenson that there will be more rigid criteria for high
school graduates.
The days when the student was permitted to select only
those courses he or she preferred are over. Under the new
plan 30 courses will be required for graduation and of
these, 16 will be compulsory, up from the nine currently
required.
The compulsory courses will include five English, two
math and science, plus geography; history, social
sciences, physical and health education, arts, business or
technological studies.
Those who believe that our educational system has been
inadequate in recent years, will agree with the choices of
compulsory subjects. Under the recommendations of the
Hall -Dennis report students were left to develop ac-
cording to their own choices. The idea was to bring out the
best and most original in the student -to permit the free
human spirit to soar. Net result has been a mixture of
brilliant and imaginative young adults and spottily
educated misfits.
The new program, with its high percentage of com-
pulsory courses, will impose . quite a bit of unwelcome
discipline -but a certain amount of drudgery and self-
discipline are facts of life, as so many high school
graduates have learned these past few years.
The problem now will be to retrain teachers who,
themselves, are products of those years of free choice.
Many younger teachers may find it difficult to impose
standards to which they have not been accustomed.
One particular subject appears to be missing from the
list of compulsory courses -and that is typing. That skill
may be a part of the business course, but in this day and
age it should be compulsory from day one -perhaps as
early as elementary school.
In years gone by typing was a necessary skill only to
those who wanted a career in a business office, but that
day is gone forever. The typewriter keyboard has become
the basic means of access to computers of all kinds, as
well as to many machines used in the fields of journalism
and science, among many others.
• Accurate and swift typing has become just as necessary
as handwriting. Indeed, the latter subject has been so
poorly taught that typing skills are necessary for many
students to communicate intelligibly.
It seems apparent that the past 20 years should have
taught us that the concept of encouragement for the free
and open mind should be retained, but the disciplines and
basic working tools of knowledge cannot be cast by the
wayside. i Wingham Advance Times)
Renewal system will work. well
Somewhere it must be written that when the govern-
ment does 'something, it has to be confusing. Because of
this belief, many people are finding the new plate -to -
owner vehicle registration more difficult than it really is.
In reality, the new system is quite simple and, believe it
or not, logical. On December 1, when the 1983 licence
renewal stickers goon sale, Ontario is introducing a new
until your next birthday.
If you are the current owner of a vehicle, you will retain
your present plates and not be issued a new plate. If you
sell your vehicle, remove the plates and keep therm for
your next vehicle.
An invitation to renew will be sent to you approximately
45 days before your renewal date. There will be space to
r y-ste w4 ereby-th neee-plates•* of
your vehicle will be registered to you, not to the vehicle.
, Contrary to popular misconceptions, you will still have
the two months grate that you -have always had, -giving
_you until February 28 Unpick uenyour_1983xenewal sticker
Unlike previous years, however, individual owners wiill
not be paying for the period of January 1, 1983 until
December, 3i 983;- wilt -pay =€or -tie montlis bet -ween
January 1 and the next birthday after June 1, 1983.
For example; if your birthday is in October you will pay
$40 for10 months. If your birthday is in April, you will pay
$64 for 16 months. A
You will not have to pay again for a licence renewal
sticker until a year from your next birthday. At that trine
you will pay the annual fee of $48 for passenger cars.
At the time of renewal, your licence sticker will be valid
a ate -elianges; whicls-rnuse-betal-enrto-a-idceacc
issuing office.
Beginning June 1983, you will be denied renewal if you
have an unpaid parking ticket or if you have given the
ministry a cheque that has not been given bank clearance
Via` O f.lnsu1 cTi lent funds. Your nivif to renew will
also serve as a reminder -if -you -1 -ve-any-outstand1ngfines
for which youmay be denied -renewal. Those fines must be
paid at renewal time.
There are many benefits to the new system. It should
eliminate the long lineups at the local issuing office. The
office will also be able to replace lost or stolen permits.
Not only will the new system facilitate the collection of
parking fines and other unpaid fees, it will eliminate
parking tickets or summonses going to former owners.
It will also provide a more accurate and up to date
record of vehicle registration in the province. '
Happiness is...
By Dave Sykes
DEAR READERS
SHIRLEY KELLER
A new old friend brought me a motto for my
wall last week. It says: "If the Lord had wanted
a permissive society, He would have given us the
10 suggestions."
I couldn't help think about that motto as I
reviewed the story about the • housewives in
Rhode Island who were on strike. Their com-
plaint? Not enough appreciation from their
husbands.
Maybe these girls had a legitimate beef. I don't
know. It is true for some women that a steady
diet of housework and babysitting can get pretty
devastating. And all too often husbands tend to
take these services for granted, thinking perhaps
it is afterall the role of the female and she must
be happy in it.
But let's face it. When the first family was
established in the Garden of Eden, the wife was
destined to be a helper for her husband. It ap-
peared from the very beginning the husband was
to be master of the house with the wife sub-
servient. (Sorry about that ladies. Not my rules
but God's. )
And I've noticed that when people stray too far
away from the intended plan, it causes all sorts
of unnecessary heartache for everybody.
The modern woman is a wonder woman when
you get right down to it. She often maintains a
whirlwind pace, sometimes juggling a fulltime
and demanding career along with , complete
charge of a bustling household.
Is it any surprise then, there's a tendancy on
the part of today's woman to take control of
things which really are beyond her given
authority?
Because she needs to be highly efficient and
well organized to handle her daily schedule, she
sometimes attempts to make all the decisions for
the family, leading husband and children around
by the noses and meting out discipline to all who
fail to comply with her regime.
A far cry from Adam and Eve's domicile we
talked about earlier eh? -
There's another side to the coin too. As women
become more assertive, men seem to supress
their right to be master of the family.
It could be it is simply easier to let the wife and
mother take charge. Who needs the hassle of
punishing the kids when the little woman gets
such a kick out of it? And why rock the boat by
vetoing her plans? Peace at any price. That's the
safest course of action.
But gradually problems crop up that rankle.
One day maybe, wife realizes her husband has
completely opted out of the responsibility she
feels he has around the house. He doesn't seem to
care what the kids do and he rarely helps her out
in the evening.
Or maybe husband suddenly looks at the
situation and finds he's relinquished all his
authority around the houise. He's miserable
because his kids treat him like the nextdoor
neighbor and his wife nags at him because he
isn't more romantic.
When you analyze it more closely though, you
begin to see wife and husband have reversed
their God-given roles - and this unnatural state of
living cripples them from performing as they
must to be happy.
Few women admire a man who doesn't guide
the family - the whole' family - in the meaningful
decision making for that home. Few men want a
wife who rules with, businesslike efficiency in
every situation and fails to yield to his authority
at least some of the time.
Chances are if the Rhode Island sweeties
began to encourage their men to behave like the
heads of the household - and that would, of
course, mean following their lead and maybe
even obeying their decisions - the husbands
would naturally be more attentine, more helpful,
more involved and maybe, just maybe, more
appreciative.
I know some women are afraid that if they -lei
hubby gettlie upper hand, he'll be a tyrant'. Most
of us have known of such marriages where the
wife lived in terror of her unreasonable husband
who made ridiculous demands on her and the
children.
That kind of a life was not what was intended
for Eve when she was fashioned from Adam's
rib. Far from it.
One writer has explained it this way: Woman
was not taken from man's foot to be trampled by
him or from his head to be ruled by him ... but
from his side to be near him, from under his arm,
to be protected by him and from close to his
heart to be loved by him.
That's the way it's supposed to be folks ... and
it could be that way for most couples if they got a
few simple rules straight.
But when we get things out of whack - when we
make our own regulations because we think the
old ones are outdated - we're headed for trouble.
As my motto indicates: If the Lord had thought
we could order our own lives and be just as
happy, He would have given us the 10
suggestions.
Drea's remarks should not go unchallenged
Dear Editor,
I am enclosing an open let-
ter to Mr. Frank Brea,
M.L.A.,I hope you will be
able to publish this as it is in
response to some remarks
he is reported to have made
and had published last week
in-ttire+0ndon i"'re Ftelpednweite tl'nuvn —`'`real° lei i ,� i1t await
I do not feel his remarks what people wanted to say to your personal hand written
should be allowed to go un- you, Bill Davis and the reply, or are secretaries
challenged. UabhieT; and we luid-trope alright- for- you - and not -for
keeping up with the demand. us?
Mese
TTcRS
Dear Mr. Drea :
A volunteer lady one day
Wrote down what folks
wanted to say
There was so much to do
She enlisted a crew
That's not playing fair says
Frank Drea.
Yes, Mt. Drea, at least 20
Frank Drea told reporters "I
feel
only 66 letters are real."
I wonder if he
will personally
Write each a reply, sign and
seal.
As a writer of one cif the 66
Mr. Drea studies letters with
care
And did one with another
compare
But the message they bore
He chose to ignore
And to meet face to face he
won't dare.
We are still waiting for "shame"
your visit Mr. Drea. For every last name
----Ha
vote. ►
vote.
"All union petitions," Drea
gloats
Are unworthy of our taking
notes
B his colleagues cry
- 1 1 ,,•
r
The Huron
County Hick,
(Potothly Potter. ..
Goderich.
Thanks for parade
Dear Editor, A
I would like to take this op-
portunity to express my
sincere thanks to all those
people who helped to make
the Santa Claus Parade and
Santa's Court a great suc-
cess!
A special thanks to all
those people who worked so
hard in preparing floats.
This year We had over 50 en-
tries which is the largest
number to date. Thanks- to
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