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Home My WebLink AboutThe Goderich Signal-Star, 1987-06-03, Page 3169 BEECHIST CLINTON PFt4 ATB 30_ P.M. FIRST SHOW AT DUSK`, THIS WEEKEND: FRI, SAT. -SUN., JUNE THE CONFRONTAT1ON IMARTIAL ARTS THEATRES BRANCH?ONT. — PLUS — i'1 arents learn about childh BY LOU -ANN HOPE, Understanding childhood and adolescent sexual expression •is often difficult for parents but it is something that must be dealt with as approximately 250 people learned Last Wednesday night at Victoria Public School when Drs. Beryl arid Noam Chernick provided an entertaining and educational evening entitled "Growing Up Sexual". "The idea that children might be sexual makes you uncomfortable. But it does ex- ist and it won't go away," Dr. Beryl Cher - nick told the audience. Both she and her husband, Noam, are practising physicians in London i Noarn is an obstetrician - gynaecologist specializing in sex-related problems and together they form a co - therapy team for people with marriage and sexual problems In discussing ----Sexual feelings with children, the Chernicks said "people aren't hatched at age 16 or 17, "Sexuality is a total expression of a per- son whether male or female. It begins . before 'birth and is carried on throughout childhood and adolescence.'` They suggested parents talk about sex- ual expressions and feelings with children when. questions arose. "There is an ongoing need for positive, useful information so the kids don't get the wrong information," Dr. Beryl Chernick said. For example, if a child asks a parent about a certain term, the Chernicks told the audience to ask the child what he thought it meant ,before launching on a long and complicated discussion. "Parents are our prime sex educators of our kids. They teach sex. by modelling on how they treat their.partners and children. They teach sex through the openness of in- formation. The more information the child is given, the broader his base is when it comes time to make a decision about sex- ual activity," Dr. Noam Chernick said: In discussing sexual expressions in early childhood, Dr. 'Noam Chernick explained'. that "at four or five' months, children 'discover tlieir fingers and toes" • while shortly afterwards they discover their •genitals. . "Genitals are an important part of iden- tifying oneself as•a person," he said, ad- ding 'people whp feel good about their body, feel good about themselves." • Young children are curious about each other's bodies and will play "Doctor" to learn the differences. Dr. Noam Chernick • said while parents are often, upset when • r they see this happening, there is really no harm since "children don't associate this .with sexy feelings like adults do." SAME SEX ATTRACTION In discussing "same sex attraction", Dr,' Noam Chernick noted that this often oc- curs in young children. "Little boys; are always curious about nthen little boys penises. If you know some who aren't, then let me know and I'll write a book. This 'same Sex attraction' may never become a problem," he said. In trying to understand why a person .is "-gay" or "straight",•Dr. Beryl Chernick told the audience, science has not yet . found a'reason. od sexuality GODERICH SIGNAL -STAR, WEDNESDAY, JUNE 3, 1987 --PAGE 3 ric. W '.. Set G.If CI and Driving Range COME ON OUT AND PLAY! Book your weekend lee time now Ry;duc ed rate~ after 2 11 Vt,y 21 1 miles mirth of (;oderic h 524-8047 QUALITY! VALUE! SERVICE! SE.LECTIO FRITO-LAY POTATO CHIPS o DARE 200 g. MARSHMALLOW BISCUITS Drs Beryl andNoarn Chernick, of ,_. London, spoke to 'about 250 people last Wednesday night at an evening sponsored by Family -and Children's Services of Huron County. The Cher - nicks' presentation was entitled "Growing Up Sexual" and was about understanding childhood and adolescent sexuality. (photo by Lou -Ann Hope) . Through studies, ' she explained, the . understand when and if they were ready medical world has learned that attraction for intercourse. ' • ' isn't "either-or". There is a spectrum of "You have to look at attitudes and feel - attraction which ranges from "opposite • ings to see if sex is the right decision. By_ sex only"' on one end to '.'only ever at- -• doing this, you can predict before you start tracted to the same sex" on the other. ' how it's going to end up," he said. "Only a few people are at either end of "There is no age to be ready. When you the spectrum. Most of as are inbetween," are trusted, •cared for, comfortable and she said: ° have discussed and planned for contracep- For example, 40 per cent of adult males. tion, then perhaps you are ready." have ,had at least one experience with He • noted celibacy and, licentiousness another man ac an adult to orgasm and on- were the sexual extrernes and that rna- ly '10 per cent of this number say that they ' jority of people lived within .these boun-• fit in the same sex only category. People • daries. • E:ew people, he said, would who fit into the• same sex category often . categorize themselves as bcing.celibate or recognize this from a very early ag-e, Dr. licentious • ISSUE OF CONTROLBeryl.Chernick noted. :TEENAGERS AND„SEX . Controlling sexual emotions may often "There are teenaged sexual problems be hard to do but, as Dr. Noam Chernick and there are teenager's who are sexual," • said, emotions have 'to be controlled , to Dr. Noam Chernick stated in beginning the "protect the •underdog.." discussion on sex and teenagers. "Any situation where sex comes up and "It is more important 1 for, the teenager i you are asked -to make a decision, think of to know a little about sex than telling them control." todo something. One never tells a person For examples he cited teacher -student they can or they,can't. ,They decide," he • relationships as well as those of physician- -, patient. "You can enjoy the e emo tuna • feelingsfor • If teenagers are sexually active, Dr. Noam Chernick noted unwanted pregan- cies could be prevented in one of two ways: "You either have to prevent coitus, which would be very difficult, or you tell them to use'a proven form of birth control." 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