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Home My WebLink AboutThe Goderich Signal-Star, 1987-02-25, Page 32TACE 61F EE Di F , R': �V E Page 32 5koa icisse '47 • The Freeman Difference meant king your best when it matters most% , W,e are com itted to providing fine forualwear on tinge- tailored to fit like y star own. That's the Freeman Difference, and that's a difference y u9U appreciate o Come in and pick up a catalogue and put together your version of the FREEMAN LOOK! 59 MAIN ST. SEAFORTH, ONT. s H:auTir. BFGINNING5.,. Start with Robert 's Our Video Library will help you choose the destination... and our staff. will make your arrangements with care!!! Anne and Colin Don, Lanna and Debbie at Robert 0 wish Anne & Colin a happy future!!! OFFICE HOURS Mon. -Fri. 8:30 - 5:30 Sat. 9 - 1 44 Ontario St,. Clinton X824771 014 of Two Coll let. {Iont let yi a r y KY.S 3'ryy. ,0G' oXNP1 4 e u r vv u on_thelob Today's brides — a little' older and more educated — are better decision makers, says Bride's magazine. They're resourcefu)_wedding planners too, due in part to management skills and efficiency habits learned on the job. Engaged and working — that's the trend. Now 87.1 per cent of Bride's reading (according to Bride's Research Report) hold full or part-time jobs, and most are also •preparing for a wedding. As a working bride, you'll take charge of events yourself (mom may have.a career too!). That means you'll confer with your fiance on goals, organize your time to- best advantage, then delegate some tasks to friends and professionals so everything gets done on schedule and reflects your personal style. But, despite all this job-related exper- tise, you can't afford to let your wedding — exciting as it is — absorb you on the job. Even if your thoughts drift to tulle and lace, conduct yourself properly. Here, therefore, are wedding etiquette tips for the office: •Learn to separate work and wedding. Octassionally it's - necessary to confirm an appointment or tun a, wedding errand during work hours. Usually, though,; it's best if you gave these for time that's legitimately, yours — lunch hour or cof- fee break. And, using a pay telephone is - better than tying up company phone lines. . •Keep wedding talk to a minimum. Co- workers are genuinely exciting when • they first see .your engagement ring. However, supervisors may be cpncerned that office work is not being done if wed- cfing.. details monopolize all conversations. •Maintain your professional poise. Clips of wedding dresses or samples of dress fabrics tacked to a bulletin board do pique your excitement, but will con- fuse a client who sits down to discuss an investment plan. Stash wedding notes in a folder, separate briefcase or desk drawer for easy reference. ••Be realistic about invitations. Don't feel you have to invite your entire department —• wedding invitations are personal. But, if you want to invite everyone, post a blanket invitation to the ceremony (or, reception too) and make it clear how someone planning to come should rtspond. •Don't ask your staff to become wed- ding assistants. Think about hiring an of- fice worker to help address invitations or monitor responses, at home, one weekends or in the evenings. •Avoid identity.crises. A customer may be confused to receive a letter from Kathy Schneider" one week after dealing with Kathy Jones the week before. Send colleagues a printed announcement of your marriage, stating whether you will keep your name or assume your hus band's name. •Stay even -keeled at work. As deadlines approach, nerves get frayed. Find acceptable ways to relieve stress and keep up your energy so frustrations do not erupt inappropriately at work, wilding a strong marriage and career is possible Is it possible to build a strong. marriage while building a career, too? With "juggl= ing," "stress" and "burnout" the cat- . chwords for the '80s, many married • .couplesask this.question today.' "The Career -Marriage Crunch," an article in. .a recent issue of Bride's magazine, offers two -career couples this advice for keep • - ing,love alive: • Making time for each other. Never take your marriage for granted and assume that it will just take care of itself. Instead, make it'a,habit-to guard and structure your private time . carefully. You might make a loose agreement: "Three evenings a week are for work, weekends are just for us." Or, you; could set' up an actual appointment calendar, , setting aside time to discuss household ' business, to enjoy a social life, to let romance happen. - A rule to remember: Once you make these appointments, keep them. Respect them every bit as much as you respect your business appointments. • Leave job stress behind. Time spent with your spouse doesn't count if your body is there but your mind isn't, or if all your conversation revolves around work. Of course, sharing the details of your workday with your spouse is important, and now and then there will. be pressures and deadlines that simply Can't be put side. But, in general, you should make a dear transition between work and home. How do you do this? You might work out tension at a health club before com- • ing home. Or, you could set aside "win- ding down" time right at the office — a period in which you return phone calls, organize your desk, that with co-workers. Share household chores. The last .thing you want to do is waste what precious time you have together squabbl- ing over'whose turn it is to do the dishes. To avoid this, you need the determination to have a fair, equal marriage, and a plan for carrying it through. ,A "His 'n' Hers" list of chores works for some couples: "I do the' shopping, you do .the cooking, we do the laundry together." Others find that short-cuts like hiring outside help, .work 'wonders for their marriage. • A -spirit of compromise goes a long way toward easing tensions:. you may have to accept the fact that your house won't' • always be as neat as you'd like, that pn • some nights your "proper dinner" will be take-out food instead. • •Plan the right leisure activities. For true relaxation, choose pastimes that contrast with the job you do all week. For, • example, if you operate computers at work, you may really need a weekend that involves socializing with friends. If, on the other hand, you're a lawyer Who talks to clients daily, you might crave the solitude of a Saturday night movie. What happens if your needs conflict with those of your spouse? It might be important to agree to socialize separately sometimes, saving the time you spend • together for activities you both enjoy. Ribbons, bells, s day many cakes and the traditio Origins he in a It happens in every and groom exchange cake. The bride throw do you know how thes THE BRIDE: A' Cel Abrams, Inc.), a new Tober, Editor -in -Chief magazine; reveals the prising origins. The bride throws he married friend can "c romance, goes the mo But the custom actua form of self-defense. In times past, belief value of a bride's ado friends and strangers • a .piece of her outfit. Eventually, some cl that by flinging her fl herself, the crowd wo to fight over — and s intact! The wedding party the serious purpose o bride and groom fro wishers. They dresse like those of the brid identity of the happy secret on the way to they were safely m The first piece of and eaten by the bri carry-over from the ing of food or wine o marriage. 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