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Countless decisions face a bride and
groom in the months before the wedding:
How large a wedding should we have?
How will we pay for it? Where should we
live? According to a recent article in
Bride's magazine, how a couple handles
these decisions can predict how their
marriage will work later.
All things that happen during this
time are microcosms of what's going to
happen in marriage," says Dr. David
Stoop, author of Refreshing your Mar-
riage with Self -Talk. So it's a perfect
time to head off potential problems.
If you'd like to forecast your married
future, examine your wedding planning
style in each of the following:
•Spending money: Is bargain hunting
your idea of a goodttime, while your
partner buys the first thing he sees, just
to "get it over with?" Each approach
has its place: While it might not make
sense to shop for hours to save 10 dollars
on a dining room set, it's probably worth
the extra effort.to find an apartment that
exactly suits your needs.
®Wielding power: Does one of you
always make the decisions? If this suits
you both, it could work out fine. But, be
warned: This kind of imbalance tends to
grow greater over the years and, even-
tually, the leader can grow tired of the
responsiblity and the follower can.
become resentful. It's important to break
the pattern.
Do you both shy from Making deci-
sions at all? The "whatever you want
syndrome is common early in relation-
ships. How to break it? Ask each other,
"What do you really want to see hap-
pen?" Often you'll find you do have the
same goal, for example, to pick
household items you'll. both enjoy.
°Relating to others: Planning a wed-
ding involves, hiringdozens of wedding
specialists. Are you outgoing and asser-
tive? Is your partner very shy? You can
each make a contribution in keeping with..
your strength. For example, your part=
•
ner may research reception locations,
while you negotiate the details with the
manager.
®Compromising: When you're on op-
posite sides, can you each concede a lit-
tle and agree on a third choice?
One form of compromise is "accep-
tance," or "agreeing to disagree." If you
want to attend a traditional church after
you marry, but your fiance prefers less
religious structure, you could join .
separate churches. You might agree to
trade off — attend his church together
one week, yours the next.
Do you have trouble reaching a com-
promise?' Is. one or both of, you too stub-
born? If so, ask, "What'ain T afraid will
happen?" Perhaps you fear yotu• partner
is trying to change you. Discussing each
controversy as you go along will help
you establish good communication habits
throughout your marriage. -
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etting married is one thing,
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