HomeMy WebLinkAboutClinton News-Record, 1987-12-02, Page 9Kathy tells part II
of her story ...
the birth of her son
By Kathy Bromley
BLYTH - I was now a wife and a new type
of living had begun. Back home, Pete was
also experiencing a new lifestyle, as he was
now confined to a wheelchair.
Bev and I were experiencing the respon-
sibilities that all brides and grooms face.
For me, though, it did not take long to adjust
to being a wife. Being the oldest girl of nine
children, it had its advantages, although I
did not realize it at the time. My father
(Frank Doherty) had to continuously work
to put the food on our table. As for mom
(Isabelle), she had her hands full with small
children. So, I learned -early in life how to
cook and bake...a necessity in our family to
make things simpler for morn.
With this experience behind me, marriage
was not a big step for me, although it took'
awhile for me to adjust to serving just Bev
and I instead of 11 people as usual, at home.
With Pete having Muscular Dystrophy
(MD), I had second thoughts of carrying
children. Muscular Dystrophy is said to be
inherited. After long consideration, I decid-
ed I would not risk putting a child through
the turmoil Pete was experiencing. Bev was
100 per cent behind me.
My mother, three sisters and myself
underwent tests to determine if anyone was
a carrier of the disease. The tests later
revealed, though, that no one was a carrier
of MD, including my mother. Unfortunately,
for Pete, it was something that just
happened.
This eased our minds and plans were then
made to begin our own family.
An Epileptic Mother
Being a woman who carried a child for
nine months, resulted in nine months of 2,400
mg. daily medication going through not only
my system, but, also the system of the child
I was carrying.
Bev was a concerned father -to -be, who
made an excellent suggestion to our doctor,
one that never crossed any mind. He felt I
should nurse the child, then, slowly wean
him, allowing the medication to slowly ease
from his system. If I didn't, there was a
possibility of the baby going into shock. This
proved to be an excellent suggestion that
neither I or my doctor considered.
So, in 1978, our oldest son, Chris, entered
the world. He was a very healthy boy, who
had no side effects from my medication.
Two years later, his brother came into this
world.
Scott's birth had different circumstances
though - all due to my own stupidity. As we
were facing a tough year, I decided, by
myself, to go off my medication and save $56
a month that could go towards something
that was needed more - or so I thought. I
later learned my medication was a necessi-
ty for me.
Besides financial reasons, I assured
myself that it was the best thing to do, even
if Chris did not have any side effects from
the medication. I kept reminding myself
that, maybe, this time, we might not be as
lucky.
But, by going off complete medication, I
made a dreadful mistake. It took a couple of
weeks for my system to clear of medication,
but, when it did, I paid for it.
My next seizure was very severe and Scott
later arrived two weeks earlier than
scheduled. Fortunately, he too was healthy
and showed no sign of side effects.
As much as I have been playing with the
idea of writing a book, one domineering
point keeps arising. After going off my
medication, suddenly, as opposed to
gradually, as I should have, I can no longer
remember our honeymoon or bringing Chris
and Scott into this world. In fact, I cannot
recall our last Christmas, yet, I still
remember the old out -house mom and dad
had at home before a bathroom %,ae
installed.
Part of my memory had been erased and I
am both the culprit and the victim. (This is
why I went for surgery afterall, if part of my
memory was to be removed, I could not be
any worse than I now was). After going off
medication, unfortunately, my seizures
were more severe than ever before. I was
still experiencing phychomotor seizures,
PETE DOHERTY
but it took me much longer to recover from
it.
Pete Leaves This World
Back home, Pete continued to go downhill,
as his muscle tissues were slowly
deteriorating. Finally, he was down to only
skin and bones, as all muscle tissue was
destroyed. At the young age of 21, Pete left
this world, and a new world was waiting for
him, with both arms wide open.
As much as I mourned over his death, I
how knew he was at peace. Looking back, I
now realize, to every topic, there is always a
good point. This is where my memory loss
proved to be no exception. For now, I
remember Pete as my younger brother,
while he was still fairly healthy and strong,
as I would wish, not as the man who suffered
before his death.
Pete's death brought reality to me. For
years, I was weak from Epilepsy, both
physically and mentally. This was not only
due to strong medication but also, attitudes
people had.
I continuously met the "hurdle" that
dominated my life, and tried to avoid it.
Pete's departure changed all of that,
though. I finally opened my eyes. I no longer
questioned: "Why did this have to happen to
me?" Instead, I finally accepted my condi-
tion and considered myself to be so lucky in
comparison to Pete. My attitude quickly
became: "Now that I am an Epileptic, what
must I do to live my life and adjust to it?"
I no longer went "around" the hurdle, but
rather, I now had the confidence and
strength to meet the hurdle head on. Thus, I
was then able to go "over" it. Since then, I
have never looked back.
Seizures Continue
1 continued experiencing phychomotor
seizures, I had always considered one
seizure to be like the next, afterall, each
Aura was the same. I became terrified, as
though someone was walking up from
behind, ready to scare me. One particular
day, though, I realized what my family had
been referring to, and why they were
concerned.
I had another seizure, but, this time, I
walked around in a daze for hours after-
wards. When I finally came out of it, I notic-
ed a cake and cupcakes on the cupboard.
The baking aroma could be smelt in the kit-
chen. But, where did the cake come from for
baking? I knew we were out of eggs and
cake mixes, as they were on my list for
groceries to be purchased. Later we learned
I had walked uptown, purchased the mix
and eggs, came home where I prepared and
baked it. Surprisingly, it was good.
Unfortunately, I did not realize I was do-
ing any of this. This made chills go through
my blood, and I finally admitted to myself
that Bev and the boys did have good reason
to be concerned all the time. For now, I was
worried too.
Later that year, I learned that I was on the
waiting list for University Hospital, as
medication was not controlling my seizures.
I waited impatiently to be admitted to the
Epilepsy Ward and prayed that something
could be done about my illness.
Brucefield euchre winners
BRUCEFIELD - Euchre results at the
Brucefield IOOF card party were: ladies'
high, Erma Crich; low, Mrs. Jack Hender-
son; lone hands, Gladys Alexander.
In the men's division, Jean Henderson had
the high hands while Ernie Broom had the
low hands and Scotty Wilson had the most
lone hands.
Draw prizes were won by Helen Burdge
and Bea Bowman.
Former ,signal -Star
Publisher releases book
Former Signal -Star Publishing Presi-
dent R. G. ( Bob) Shrier may not be
publishing newspapers anymore, but he's
a long way froi -being out of the publishing
business altogether.
Shrier's second book, another collection
of his motivational series of syndicated
radio broadcasts and newspaper columns,
entitled '`Let's Think for a Minute,
IDEAS" has been on the bookstore shelves
for a couple of weeks. His first book, titled
after his "Let's Think for a Minute," radio
programs, has sold over 4,000 copies since
its release last November.
The first book, a collection of 175 col-
umns, was "very well received," said
Shrier, noting it went over particularly
well with adolescents, to the point where
some elementary school teachers have
been using it as a reference during discus-
sion periods.
Shrier feels the book has been popular
with a wide range of readers because the
segments are, "thoughts on everyday
living".
"Every thought is an idea and that's all
they are, just ideas, my ideas. This is not
the last word on a subject – I just want to
promote thought," he said.
S Tier said he decided to put out the se-
cond book, containing 215 segments,
because, with more than 1,000 of his broad-
casts "on the shelf," readers of his first
book began asking when he would release
another.
Shrier, who recently sold his interest in
Signal -Star Publishing Ltd., (publishers of
seven weekly newspapers and one regional
newsmagazine) to St. Catharines Standard
Ltd. has been doing 25 radio programs per
month for several years. He now devotes
his working hours to his radio work and
conducting motivational seminars.
For Shrier, the books are simply another
way to extend the spreading of the positive
attitude message that is the thrust of his
seminars and radio broadcasts. The good
news for followers of the "Let's Think for a
Minute," series, is that Shrier plans to
publish a new book each year, in order to
keep up with demand for a permanent
form for his radio segments, which can be
heard on London's CIQM radio.
"Let's Think for as,Minute, IDEAS," is
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