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Don't let your wedding
absorb you on the job
Start with
Today's brides — a little older and
more educated — are better decision
makers, says Bride's magazine. They're
resourceful wedding planners too, due in
part to management skills and efficiency
habits learned on the job.
Engaged and working — that's the
trend. Now 87.1 per cent of Bride's
reading (according to Bride's Research
Report) hold full or part-time jobs, and
most are also preparing for a wedding.
As a working bride, you'll take charge
of events yourself (mom may have a
career too!). That means you'll confer
with your fiance on goals, organize your
time to best advantage, then delegate
some tasks to friends and professionals
so everything gets done on schedule and
reflects your personal style.
But, despite all this job-related exper-
tise, you can't afford to let your wedding
— exciting as it is — absorb you on the
job. Even if your thoughts drift to tulle
and lace, conduct yourself properly.
Here, therefore, are wedding etiquette
tips for the office:
°Learn to separate work and wedding.
Occassionally it's necessary to confirm
an appointment or run a wedding errand
during work hours. Usually, though„ it's
best if you save these for time that's
legitimately yours — lunch hour or cof-
fee break. And, using a pay telephone is
better than tying up company phone
lines.
°Keep wedding talk to a minimum. Co-
workers are genuinely exciting when
they first see your engagement ring.
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However, supervisors may be concerned
that office work is not being done if wed-
ding details monopolize all
conversations.
•Maintain your professional poise.
Clips of wedding dresses or samples of
dress fabrics tacked to a bulletin board
do pique your excitement, but will con-
fuse a client who sits down to discuss an
investment plan. Stash wedding notes in
a folder, separate briefcase or desk
drawer for easy reference.
• Be realistic about invitations. Don't
feel you have to invite your entire
department — wedding invitations are
personal. But, if you want to invite
everyone, post a blanket invitation to the
ceremony (or, reception too) and make
it clear how someone planning to come
should respond.
• Don't ask your staff to become wed-
ding assistants. Think about hiring an of-
fice worker to help address invitations or
monitor responses, at home, on
weekends or in the evenings.
'Avoid identity crises. A customer
may be confused to receive a letter from
Kathy Schneider one week after dealing
with Kathy Jones the week before. Send
colleagues a printed announcement of
your marriage, stating whether you will
keep your name or assume your hus-
and's name.
eStay even -keeled at work. As
deadlines approach, nerves get frayed.
Find acceptable ways to relieve stress
and keep up -your energy so frustrations
do not erupt inappropriately at work.
Building a strong marriage
and career is
Is it possible to build a strong marriage
while building a career, too? With "juggl-
ing," "stress" and "burnout" the cat-
chwords for the '80s, many married
couples ask this question today. "The
Career -Marriage Crunch," an article in
a recent issue of Bride's magazine, offers
two -career couples this advice for keep-
ing love alive:
• Making time for each other. Never
take your marriage for granted and
assume that it will just take care of
itself. Instead, make it a habit to guard
and structure your private time
carefully.
You might make a loose agreement:
"Three evenings a week are for work,
weekends are just for us." Or, you could
set up an actual appointment calendar,
setting aside time to discuss household
business, to enjoy a social life, to let
romance happen.
A rule to remember: Once you make
these appointments, keep them. Respect
them every bit as much as you respect
your business appointments.
• Leave job stress behind. Time spent
with your spouse doesn't count if your
body is there but your mind isn't, or if all
your conversation revolves around work.
Of course, sharing the details of your
workday with your spouse is important,
and now and then there will be pressures
and deadlines that simply can't be put
aside. But, in general, you should make a
clear transition between work and home.
How do you do this' You might work
out tension at a health club before corn -
possible
ing home. Or, you could set aside "win-
ding down" time right at the office — a
period in which you return phone calls,
organize your desk, chat with co-workers.
• Share household chores. The last
thing you want to do is waste what
precious time you have together squabbl-
ing over whose turn it is to do the dishes.
To avoid this, you need the determination
to have a fair, equal marriage, and a
plan for carrying it through.
A "His 'n' Hers" list of chores works
for some couples: "I do the shopping you
do the cooking. we do the laundry
together." Others find that short-cuts like
hiring outside help, work wonders for
their marriage.
A spirit of compromise goes a long way
toward easing tensions: you may have to
accept the fact that your house won't
always be as neat as you'd like, that on
some nights your "proper dinner" will be
take-out food instead.
• Plan the right leisure activities. For
true relaxation, choose pastimes that
contrast with the job you do all week. For
example, if you operate computers at
work, you may really need a weekend
that involves socializing with friends. If.
on the other hand, you're a lawyer who
talks to clients daily, you might crave the
solitude of a Saturday night movie.
What happens if your needs conflict
with those of your spouse? It might be
important to agree to socialize separately -
sometimes, ,saving the time you spend
together for activities you both enjoy.