HomeMy WebLinkAboutClinton News-Record, 1984-02-22, Page 47BRIDES EDITION 'B! PAGE 27
Rigid rules are being bent by second time brides
As second (and third) marriages become Second -wedding ceremonies are usually Although second -wedding eermonies are
increasingly common, the protocol for such small and informal with only family and usually small and intimate, such restrie- Birthstone
weddings continues to ease up. close friends attending. If there sptions don'tga l to receptions they can be optional choice
g any apply
The rules are still there, of course, but decorations or music, they should be simple as extrava ant as a couple can afford.
depending any
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celebration of each near marriage.
Traditionally, second -wedding rules apply
only when it's the bride who's been married
before. If this is her first marriage, she's en-
titled to a traditional wedding with all the
trimmings, no matter how many times her
husband -to -be has been a husband -who -was.
According to the rules, seconddtimebrides
should never wear white at their weddings.
Off-white, prints or other solid colors should
be worn instead. And anything resembling a
veil should be avoided. If. necessary, the
bride can wear a hat, flowers or ribbons in
her hair.
attendants are often omit teid unless the cou- they arntre.
ple has children they'd like to include in the Although the rituals of the "first dance," January: garnet or hyacinth (a variety of
wedding. Instead of marching down the ai- cutting the cake and offering toasts may zircon)
sle, the bride and her attendant enter the still be followed, other customs such as toss- February: amethyst.
church through the vestry door and meet the ing the bride's bouquet and garter, throwing March: bloodstone, aquamarine or jasper
groom and best man at the altar. And in- rice and having a white wedding cake top- April- diamond
stead of a recessional, the newly married .ped with a tiny bride and groom are usually May: emerald
couple simply turns to greet the guests. omitted. June: pearl, moonstone or agate
If the bride prefers a small processional, Who pays for the second wedding? Usual- July: ruby or onyx
she may be escorted down the aisle by her the couple themselves. A second -time August; sardonyx, peridot or carnelian
father, her son, another relative or a friend. ba de shouldn't expect her father to f9ot the September: sapphire
A woman who has been divorced isn't usual- bill again but some parents may want to October: opal or tourmaline
ly given away by her father a second time, help out. The family of 'a first-time groom November: topaz
but a young widow may be. may want to chip in as well.. December: turquoise or lapis lazuli.
What to
g ive older couple who have complete set of household goods
When Brooke and Tom were married,she
was 38 and he was 39. It was the first mar-
riage for both, but each had worked almost
20 years and had a complete set of household
goods,.
Among the wedding gifts they received
were a china raccoon with sparkling eyes
and a set of knitted egg and tea cosies and
pot holders..
"The raccoon was from people who nor-
mally have the best of taste," Brooke says.
Bride's family
foots the bill
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—_—_,perhaps with financial assistance from their ..
families.,
With food and liquor prices constantly ris-
ing, the groom and his family may wish to •
Share in the costs of the reception, perhaps
providing the wine to be Sky& with dinner
or champagne for the toasts.
Although the wedding invitations and an-
nouncements are ordered by the bride and .
her family, the guest' list is customarily
compiled' in consultation with both families.
Obviously the total number to be invited is
determined by the hosts for the wedding din-
ner or reception.
Arranging accommodation for out-of-
town members of the wedding party is nor-
mally a shared responsibility of bride and
groom.
Artificial cake
"We sold it the next year at a lawn sale. Ac-
tually, it went quite quickly."
The problem faced by guests at Brooke
and Tom's wedding is one faced by a grow -
ing
rowing number of people: What to give to those
who have virtually everything they need?
This includes couples who waited until
they were older to marry, those who have
already lived together and those remarry-
ing.
Brooke said the gifts most appreciated
is an option
As the superstition goes, you'll dream of
your future husband or wife if you slip a
piece of wedding cake under your pillow
• Traditions die hard, but the fruit cake as a
wedding cake is slowly leaving_.the bridal
table.
In its place is what bakers call a "dum-
my" cake, decorated beautifully and 'stan-
• ding proud, but only rented for the weekend.
Sometimes the artificial cake is used on
the wedding table and homemade fruitcake
that has been previously cut and wrapped is
presented to the guests by the couple.
More frequently these day, white cakes
with butter cream icing adorn the bridal
table.
Layers can be stacked and tiered to
resemble a fruitcake and the butter cream
icing is much easier to work with, experts
say.
Fresh and silk flowers are being used to •
decorate wedding cakes and complement
the color scheme chosen by the bride for the
reception.
Cost_ is . the biggest deterrent in having
fruit cake on the wedding menu. Stores of-
fering bulk buying of raisins, candied fruit
and nuts could make it possible for you to
show your appreciation to guests by sharing
delicious slices of fruitcake.
To the sentimental among us, fruitcake
symbolizes the blending together of our
lives, at times spicey and sweet, tangy and
mellow — all bound together and topped
with a solid icing that lasts and lasts.
were "anything you could eat or drink."
Some friends made up baskets which includ-
ed such treats as pate and wine.
She added they were lucky fora couple of
reasons. Tom is a woodworker and many of
his friends 'are craftsmen who made
something special for them.
As well, they were able to use her sister to
spread the word to relatives in Ireland "to
save the postage and just send money-."
Although giving money instead of gifts is a
tradition many Canadians of European des-
cent have carried on, those from different
cultural backgrounds are also starting to
pass the hat.
Carole Stevens, bridal consultant for the
Wedding Council of Ontario, says she has
received an increasing number of inquiries
about whether it's acceptable to put
. "presentation wedding" on the invitation.
The. coanC_is _a nora-paofit _organization,
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