Clinton News-Record, 1984-02-08, Page 18•
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A quilting workshop was held for 4-H leaders in .Wesley Willis Church last Tuesday
with Jane Muegge, home economist, in assistance. These ladies were involved in a
portion of the program that required quilters to discuss the problems they encountered
when making samplers. ( Wendy Somerville photo)
Beta Sigma. Phi talk about
name changes and winning
CLINTON - Are you happy with your A donation was made to the International
name was the roll call question for the Jan. Exemplar Fund which supports the World
24 meeting of the Exemplar Chapter of Beta Education literary program. of adults in
Sigma Phi. The members all agreed that underdeveloped nations. World education
after this length of time, your name. "kind of estimates that 285 million children and 800
grows -on -you:'-' mill-ioreadults have been passed by formal
The cultural program was a trip into fan- education systems.
tasy, land with everyone talking, about what Marguerite Falconer, service chairman,
they and, their families wohlld have bone reminded everyone that sale of Daffodils for
with all that money if they'd won the big 649 'the Cancer Society would be on again in the
lottery. It was decided that a prize that Spring.
large was too much for one person to win.
President Ann Adams led the business Plans were finalized for the fondue party,
portion of the meeting. A letter Was read at Marj. Dobson's and the Valentine Social
from International explaining the special with the Ritual Chapter at Ann Adam's.
funds which Beta Sigma Phis the world over Members, and husbands,, are reminded of
support to provide them with a way to make the . Singing Valentine available from the
--- -a joint--serviee-ef>rrirt: These -f ndshelp-•the—Ritual-chapterDepending odprice-.ibe re&
needy, supports medical research, provides . pent 'would receive a -cake, rose,bottle of
scholarships for , members and their wine and of course a song.
children and arrange emergency loans for Hostess Nancy Anstett served lunch to
members and their families. conclude the evening
Don't forget potluck
CLINTON - On Feb. 1 the Golden Radar
Club met with president Muriel-TOWS-open-
ing
uriel TO S -open-
ing the meeting, attended by 40 members.
The minutes of the last meeting were read
and•the treasurer's report was given by the
treasurer Ceacelia Edgar. Mary Trick gave
the flower and card report. A carnation and
card were sent to Ruth Shaddick. A thank
you note Was received from Ida Godkin for
the remembrance while she was in hospital.
It was also reported that Elva Sanders is
feeling better.
The Ackerts of the Trent -Severn Water-
way will be at the March 7 meeting to show
slides of their boats and trips. Don't forget
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Feb. 15 is the club s potiucx supper at b p.m.
The Social committee is Eleanor Fisher,
Evelyn Hudie and Muriel Jones.
Mayor Archibald was scheduled to meet
with the club at the town hall. '
Members enjoyed music from. Bob Welsh
on the violin and Albert Craig on the guitar
and his singing of the good old song.
Mayor Chester Archibald showed- plans
for the upstairs of the town hall with the
layout of the kitchen. He took suggestions to
take to other groups who are interested In
the Hall. Members played euchre and prizes
went to: high, Ernie Brown; low, Ida
Wright; high, Mary Trick; low, Agnes Hart-
man.
jomeni Today study changes
Woinengather to tally about divorce
By Susan Hundertsnark
CLINTON - No matter how bad a mar-
riage is, when it ends, the divorce is like a
death and everyone involved will feel a
whole gamut of emotions before they eanac-
cept it and begin to grow again. About 40
Huron County women Met in Clinton last
week to hear Nancy McLeod, a counsellor at
the Huron Centre for Children and Youth
and share their feelings about divorce. Feel-
ings like helplessness, a sense of failure,
denial, anger and depression are normal
after any loss such as divorce, said Ms.
McLeod.
"You'll probably sense you're alone in a
way you've never been before," she said.
"It's an emotionally expensive time but you
can come through it at peace and excited
about writin a new chapter of your life."
Reasonk for divolrce are many. They in-
chide
include 'factors such as changes' -in society's
values, anlability to-eommunicate,- mobili-
ty .and the isolation from an extended family
that results and generational patterns.
"Some women have terrible struggles in
marriage such as alcoholism and battering.
We go into a relationship hoping we're going
to. be happy butsometimes ..it, .doesn't work.
out that way'."
Howmany people go into marriage can.. be
a cause of future problems, said Ms.
McLeod.
"We have to teach people what to expect
in marriage. We spend far too much time on
white dresses, photographers and parties,"
said one woman.
"I think we're really conditioned to gear
ourselves to marriage. We're told to expect
a man in shining armor and to do anything
to please and satisfy him. So when we're
courting, we don't show our real selves so he
won't get angry and we'll be able to keep
him. When we're married, we suddenly
realize we don't know each other," said Ms.
McLeod.
In adulthood, people start to ask
themselves questions such as who am I?
How much time do I have left? How alive
and vital -fir stagnant iia-I-fee12 .Ar-e•my-goals
and values •being. invigor-ated or violated by
my present living arrangements?
Answering these questions can lead to a
meed to change and grow.
As both partners grow at different rates,
conflicts arise which can further strengthen
the relationship if the couple works at soly-
h g thenior can destroy1t. -" --
WI pay a toll for water
CLINTON - The local branch of the
Women's Institute met on Jan. 26.
President Lois Elliott Was in charge with
Dora Heard as secretary. The Roll Call was
answered with "a recent news event."
F.W.I.O. Officer's Conference will be held
at Waterloo University on May 1, 2, and 3. It
was decided to adopt an idea from a Saskat-
chewan Branch, and pay a toll on Feb. 14
each time a member uses water and to
donate the funds realized to the ACWW pro-
ject, "Water For All". A decision was also
made to submit a history of the Clinton
Women's Institute for the re -print of the
:Huron County Atlas .ii1L198L
A change was announced. in the -4-H Club
program. Club members should be aware
that the Districts of Hnrnn South, East, and
Joanne Young to talk about time
West Women's Institutes award a scholar-
ship each year to a deserving 4-H Club
member.
Lorna Radford played Scottish tunes on
the piano in recognition of Robbie Burn's
day on Jan. 25.
Doris Batkin, convener of public rela-
tions, gave a talk on Alexander Graham Bell
and his invention of the telephone. Many
persons have visited the Bell home at Brant-
ford, and have viewed the different phases
of his invention,, Dr. Bell was quoted as say-
ing, "the idea of the invention. of the
telephone was conceived in_Hrantford in
1874, and bornan Boston -in 1876. -
Mrs. Alice . Lawson and Anne Kroesen
served lunch.
in jail and show controversial film
Women Today has a series of workshops
and films planned for this month.
On Tuesday, February, l4 Joanne Young
of Exeter will speak on her involvement in;
the peace movement and the commitment`
which led to her arrests and jail terms' in
Canada and the U.S. The controversial filind,
"If • You. Love. This Planet" will also be
shown. This workshop will be. held at 8 p.m.
in Ontario Street United Church, Clinton. • -
"It's Just Your Nerves" will be topic of
the workshop presented on Tuesday,
February 21 at 8 p.m. in the Women Today
Office, 52 Huron Street, Clinton. This will be:
a look at the way womenuse alcoholand
tranquilizers to cope with stress. The film, -
"An Easy Pill to Swallow" willbe followed
by a disucssion on the use of these drugs and,
more appropriate ways of relieving stress.
"Community . Sponsored•' Health Clinics"
will be the topic at a workshop on Thursday,
February 23 at 10 a.m. in the Vanastra
Recreation Centre. Guest speaker will be
Dr. Donald Cole from the York Community
Services Centre. Co-sponsored by the Huron
Community Services Council, this workshop. •
will explain the concept and investigate the
worth of a community sponosred Com-
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"I'm in no way suggesting that marriage
is a bad institution. I think there's tremen-
dous hope for if but we're changing so quick-
ly and so radically that we have to look at
it," she said.
Once the decision is made to divorce,
those involved go through a mourning pro-
cess similar to that after a death. There are
the stages of denial, anger, bargaining,
depression and acceptance which can take
several years. Going through the process
alone or with counselling helps people to
heal faster, says Ms. McLeod.
Reactions from friends who are also try-
ing to deal With the divorce are sometimes
hard to understand.
"Once you're divorced, you're suddenly
seen as the scarlet woman and get all these
advances -from friends' husbands or friends
will act very superior or be exceedingly in-
terested-
nterested- in all thh gorey details IzfFIe.
divorce. But, you have to remember that
your friends' reactions are out of their own
hurt and pain, not because they are bad peo-
ple," said Ms. McLeod.
The refugees of a split family are the
children who need all the love they can get
to get through the divorce. Ms. McLeod ex-
plained, "No matter how bad the relation-
ship is, the kids will elect to keep the mar-
riage together but there are lots of benefits
for them when a bad marriage ends and it's
important to let them know that."
Even worse than a high conflict marriage
is a high conflict divorce for children so it's
best to refrain from fighting in front of the
children. If children are old enough to talk
and understand "I love you", adults should
try to prepare them for a split.
Mistakes parents make during a divorce
are denying access of the other parent to the
children, putting the children in the middle,
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speaking badly of the other parent. '
"You are an adult and the brealt-uPillaY
have been no one's fault but least of all your
child's fault," she said.
Because they feel abandoned at a time of
divorce, children need nurturing front bOtli
parents. Ms. McLeod said that parents
should obey the three must nots durmg:a
divorce - they must not the let the chtl !
think the divorce is their fault, they m .rte
let the children think their parents ,. oA'A
love them and they must not rundown: the
other parent.
One situation that could happen if a parent
runs down the other is if at a later time the
parent says, "You're just like your father -
mother," the child will associate all the
previous comments with himself and feel
unloved.
Children who already feel comfortable
t,a kh g; is their parentswill,have an "ligtime of divorce since they can communicate ,
their feelings and fears in the life crisis, she
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Couples with children who are going
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